Going the Distance (For Love)

Have you ever been or are you currently in a long-distance relationship? How’s that working for you? Probably not great.

Long-distance relationships are fact of life for many of the estimated 4 million married couples that are living apart from each other, often because one of them has a job far from home.

This weekend we went to see the new Drew Barrymore film, GOING THE DISTANCE. It’s a laugh-out-loud romantic comedy about a couple struggling to make a relationship work when he lives in NYC and she lives in San Francisco.

Garrett (played by Justin Long), is a low-level record-company executive. He meets Drew Barrymore’s character, Erin, while she is interning for a summer at a top New York newspaper. A late bloomer in her early 30s, Erin had once given up everything for romance and was now committed to putting her career first.

They meet at a bar and Erin readily tells Garrett she is not looking to get “involved” and yet chemistry ignites and they enjoy a six-week whirlwind romance before she returns to school at Stanford. While the lovers decide to try to make their cross-country romance work with the help of Skype and cell phones, as with most long-distance relationships, trust begins to break down.

They soon discover that seeing each other once every three months just isn’t enough, and phone sex just doesn’t do it for either of them. I won’t spoil the ending for you but here’s what I can tell you: Skype is great and a virtual hug is never as satisfying as the real thing.

When you are creating your soulmate wish list it’s REALLY IMPORTANT to include on your list WHERE you want to live if you already LOVE where you live. (If you are a free spirit and willing to move anywhere, this doesn’t apply to you.)

As many of you already know, I believe the top two items on everyone’s soulmate wish list need to be the same:

#1 ­ My soulmate is open, willing and available for a long-term, committed, monogamous (add straight or gay) marriage (or partnership if you don’t desire to be married.)

#2. ­ My soulmate lives within ___ miles of me or is willing to move to be with me.

Then add in the traits and qualities of your desired soulmate and descriptions of your life together that will make your heart sing. And, you just might want to add in: My soulmate loves to take me to see romantic comedy films.  Wink. Wink.

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Living As If: A Reminder

The period of time when you are waiting for your soulmate to make his or her presence known to you gives you an important opportunity for self-reflection.

Consider this: If your soulmate had the ability to see your life right now, would you (and they) be happy with what they were observing?

Begin to live your life today as if they are already here. This is the secret to activating the Law of Attraction!

Chances are, if you really knew your soulmate was on his or her way to you, you would hold yourself to a higher standard than you do now ­ so why wait for them to arrive to put these things in place?

Think not only about what you do on a given day but also the way that you represent yourself to others. Remember, you will attract someone who energetically “matches” the degree of esteem that you hold towards yourself.

If there are behaviors you’re engaged in that you wouldn’t want your future lover to see, stop them. This might mean giving up obsessing over your ex-lover or having casual sex with your neighbor.

“Living As If” can be fun, easy and simple. Before I met Brian I was buying him birthday cards, and anniversary cards and “just because I love you” cards. (I really like the cards at www.soulebrate.com) I also bought some tickets to concerts and plays that I wanted to attend.

Get creative! One woman I know just finished a “boudoir photo session” and is making an album of sensual photos to hand over to her soulmate when he walks through the door.

Remember, the process of attracting your soulmate is one of magnetism. When you make the choice to live as if your soulmate is already a part of your life, you send out an irresistible signal to the Universe that you are ready now. Not a signal that you’ll be ready someday ­ when you work less and your house is clean and you’ve lost five pounds!

Remember the famous line in the 1989 movie, Field of Dreams starring Kevin Costner? “If you build it, they will come.” Living as if is like flipping on a light switch inside your heart. This is the light your beloved will use to navigate his or her way to your door.

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Soulmate Success! Meet Robin Rice Who Dared to Dream of Love!

Here’s a letter I just had to share with you from my friend, the amazing Robin Rice, who shares how she manifested her soulmate five years ago.


Dear Arielle,

As you know, I just love your book, The Soulmate Secret, and the story of how you found your beloved Brian. Since I have a Brian of my own, I wanted to share how I manifested him, using the very techniques you speak of… imagining, feeling, knowing, and living as if it is already done.

Let me first say that after seven years of being single, I was more than a little discouraged and frustrated. I knew I was clear on what I wanted, and I felt he was out there—somewhere. But it was getting hard to have faith. So I got really, really serious. I took action.

First, I decided that luxury and sensuality were big parts of what I wanted in my relationship. So I went out and got 600-count sheets for my bed, a few extra fluffy new pillows, and a dozen votive candles to surround my bed with. I also got fresh flowers to put with the candles.

Every three days—yes, without fail for seven months—I put out fresh flowers, and took the wilted flowers and put them out in a nearby river, asking Mother Nature to carry my wish to the great Mother Ocean.

Every night, crawling into bed, and every morning waking up, I felt the luxury and sensuality I imagined my beloved would bring to me. I smiled to myself, feeling what it would feel like even before he arrived. I sent prayers for him, knowing he was already somewhere in the world, and maybe even wishing for me.

The seven months more than paid off. My Brian is the easiest, most sensual, most luxurious relationship I’ve ever had times ten! I could not have imagined the ease with which we partner in our lives. It’s five years now, and we’ve had a private wedding in every country we have traveled to!

As you say… dream it, feel it, know it and then see it.

Much appreciation for all you offer us!

Robin Rice

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

The Love You Seek is Already Yours…

Manifesting becomes effortless when you have a clear intention that resonates in every cell of your body. This week allow yourself to remember why it is that you desire a soulmate.

Consider how you, and your life, will be more enriched when you are sharing your daily life with your beloved.

What is that you have to offer your soulmate?

What is it that you most want to share with them?

What is it that you most seek from the relationship?

As you ponder these questions allow yourself to have an experience of present moment awareness and really imagine yourself with these questions answered.  Use this moment to feel what it feels like to be sharing your life, right now, with your soulmate.

Make this a daily practice. I can’t emphasize how important it is to make your soulmate attraction plan a DAILY PRACTICE.  As you continue to focus your intention and attention on your heart’s desire, knowing that what you’ve asked for is ALREADY yours, you magnetize it to you.

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Finding Love When & Where You Least Expect It

People often ask me if Brian was working on manifesting his soulmate when he met me and the simple answer is no. Meeting someone new was the last thing on his mind, in fact, when we met he was in the midst of ending a relationship.

As I have said many, many times, Intention, Attention and Divine Timing all go hand-in-hand when it comes to manifesting your soulmate. Here’s a perfect case in point:

Krista, a divorcee, bought The Soulmate Secret in January 2009, just days after it was published. Soon after she contacted me via Facebook when she told me she actually met someone while standing in line at the bookstore to pay for the book.

It turned out that the man she met was not her future soulmate but I remember thinking at the time that this is a woman who is absolutely going to manifest her soulmate. I told her to be sure to stay in touch and keep me posted.

The other day Krista reconnected to tell me that eight months after doing all the exercises, working through the forgiveness processes, journaling about her ideal soulmate, she has found the ONE and they are now planning a life together.

I asked her if I could speak to her soulmate, Don, to find out what, if anything he had done to manifest Krista. Here’s what he had to say:

“The day Krista and I met, I had just ended a 21 year marriage. After a long drawn out process to save the marriage, it was finally clear we couldn’t make it work. I was out looking for a new place to live when I stopped into a local Anthropologie store (www.anthropologie.com).

Walking around dazed, as if underwater, and feeling fairly numb, my heart was in a deep freeze. I remember I was admiring a table in the store. As a writer I knew that I would need to create a workspace for my new place, and this particular table appealed to me.

As I stood there with a notebook under my arm, this woman asked me if I was a designer. I turned around and saw this pretty woman and we began what became an animated conversation. I shared with her that I was looking for a new place to live and she readily offered me some local real estate information.

It quickly became clear that we had a lot in common but neither of us was thinking that it would turn into anything more than a friendship. I will say that I felt an instant bond with her.

I followed up and sent her a thank you email and one thing led to another and soon we were spending a lot of time getting to know each other. The more time we spent together the more apparent it became that we had something special… we really relate to each other on a deep level. I soon realized I had never met anyone that touches me the way she does.

I feel as if I have met my soulmate. As a journalist there is a part of me that is skeptical, questioning can this really happen like this? But I know this is the love match I’ve been dreaming about my whole life. When she walked into my life something big changed.”

As for Krista, she couldn’t be happier. During that random visit to the Anthropologie store she found more than a few new books, she found her soulmate. “Don is everything on my soulmate wish list. We just clicked!”

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love