LOVE – Monkey See, Monkey Do!

You’ve probably heard the saying “what you put your attention on grows” and this is especially true when it comes to love.  If you desire MORE love in your life, you can it today!

In recent years, science has discovered that our brains are filled with something now known as mirror neurons.  These are a type of brain cell that responds equally when we perform an action and when we witness someone else perform the same action. 

For instance, let’s say you are watching a couple holding hands, snuggling or kissing – whether it’s in person, or on a TV or movie screen, your mirror neurons fire off the same synapses as they would if you yourself were doing the snuggling or kissing!

By paying attention and witnessing this act, you are training your brain to feel – empathize – with these emotions and your body, mind, and heart “learn” this behavior.

Whether you have someone to snuggle with or not, start seeking out ways to be in the presence of that you want to experience to have more of that!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

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 Want to know MORE about mirror neurons? Here’s a less than 3-minute video that explains the science of it:

The Purpose of Marriage

According to my late sister Debbie’s favorite holy man, Rabbi Ezagui of Chabad La Jolla, marriage is the highest calling of mankind. He says:

“True love is loving the person for what they love, who they are, for what they stand for. If you go into a marriage loving what you love, not what they love, that is not love. Real love is not finding someone to hold your hand and find common ground with; the institution of marriage is to push you out of your comfort zone, to lift you up above what you need, so that you can provide what you’re needed for,” says Rabbi Ezagui.

Marriage is about finding out what you truly need. It also fulfills our need to be needed. Rabbi Ezagui quotes Rebbe Lubavitch, who said: “When you learn to love someone else as you love yourself, when you get to that level and you can truly authentically say that other person is me (at a soul level), that is the purpose of life.”

Rabbi Ezagui’s mentor Rabbi Mendl Futerfas claims that as long as the man treats his wife like a queen, he will be a king, an attitude that should be ingrained long before the wedding and carried on long after reality of life kicks in. People with strong marriages consider this idea as non-negotiable.

“Ultimately the purpose of marriage is to find in my soul what I am needed for,” explains the wise Rabbi.

Wow, now that is really deep. I think about it often….

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle


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The Pink Lemonade Solution

Sh*$ happens.

It comes in many forms: illness, money issues, breakups, loved ones pass on (even worse, sometimes it all happens at once)!

Since we can’t control the ups and downs of life, we can discover empowering ways how to respond and react.

I’ve always loved that old saying, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade!”

When I am confronted and challenged with these darker times, I like to make “pink lemonade” – it’s about finding the blessings in the problem and also adding a huge dose of love to it.

Here’s my recipe:

1.  I acknowledge the breath and width of the issue. I don’t try to deny or suppress it, I let myself think about it, feel it and come up with coping strategies. But, I don’t wallow in it.

2.  I find support from a family member or friend. Someone I can “vent” to but who will also help me look for the “gold in the dark.”

3.  Creating a daily gratitude list keeps my attention on all the good in my life in spite of the current circumstances.

4.  I practice “living as if” where my actions reflect my belief that Universe always has my back. (I also call this being psychotically optimistic – a phrase from the beautiful Bela Gandhi.)

5.  SMILE. Science has shown that the mere act of smiling can lift your mood, lower stress, boost your immune system and possibly even prolong your life. My favorite technique is to stand in front of a mirror, smile and blow myself a kiss!

6.  Journal. I like to write and remind myself that I am a survivor and recount the past issues that troubled me, remember that I overcame (or survived) them and, in most cases, something really great came out of the experience.

SO, on your bad days, take those sour lemons, add in honey or stevia, and a big dose of love and let the “pink lemonade” soothe your soul.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Love and Death

The other day we were at the home of Maria Menunous where I was taping her Sirius radio show (it will air next month and then be available on her podcast).

We were standing in her garden while two beautiful yellow and black butterflies flew in tandem, circling us for several minutes in a beautiful dance.

I really felt as if those butterflies were friends from the other side saying hello, reminding me they were nearby…. I believe they send us signs and find ways to remind us that they truly are always with us….

Why is it that we always speak about the dead in the past tense… as if they are
no longer around? I truly believe that not only are they still around, but they are also looking for ways to connect with us.

After John Lennon died, someone asked Yoko Ono what that was like for her. She said, “Before John died, we were together 90% of the time. Now he is with me 100% of the time.

One thing I do know for sure is that love never dies….

For those of you that want assistance in your life, you can ask your loved ones on the other side for help (I explain how in my free book at www.loveontheotherside.com).

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Spiritual and Highly Sensitive People Have the Hardest Time in Love

Although this seems very counter-intuitive, I have found the highly sensitive and spiritual people (for now I will call you HSP’s) have the hardest time finding love and keeping love, especially women.

One of the biggest issues around this I have observed is that HSP’s are deeply feeling, not only their own feelings but the feelings of those around them. And sometimes they can’t discern between basic intuition and their own fears or projections. This can lead to making assumptions about someone else’s behavior or possibly do the opposite and they overlook their actions because they feel good around them.

My dear friend and love expert Carol Allen, is hosting a free webinar tomorrow, Wednesday, called “The Soulfully Sensitive Woman in Love” for women of any relationship status…

This is for you if:

  • You have a hard time “letting things go” or “shaking things off” when things don’t go well or as planned.
  • You’re extremely hurt by perceived rejection or when men “disappear” or “pull away” for a while and end up internalizing what happened and unfairly blaming yourself.
  • You take breakups extra hard and can take years to recover or let yourself like someone again – fearing that the risk is just too great to bear.
  • You take it all too hard – normal disappointments or problems seem insurmountable or “not worth it” so they get stuck and stay invisible.

Carol is a genius at helping women with these issues so don’t miss this opportunity to attend her FREE webinar.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

The Drug You Must Give Up to Manifest Your Dreams

My wise and brilliant friend, John Assaraf, recently wrote:

“The older I get (and hopefully wiser), I realize that some people are just happiest (or most comfortable) when they are miserable.

I know it’s an oxymoron but it’s true. As I travel the world sharing the lessons and specific strategies for achieving success, I come across so many people who prefer to be right vs. change and have what they say they want.

The drug of choice today is “Hopium” where people hope for things to get better and do nothing to help themselves and the inflammation disease that many suffer from is “Excuse-itis,” an inflammation of the excuse gland.

Success is about learning how to do the right things, in the right order at the right time… and then…. Just do it!”

I agree with John. I often see the same thing.

Sometimes, without consciously realizing it, we are addicted to suffering, trapped in our misery. Stuck in our story….the story that we think we just can’t have, or don’t deserve, what we most desire. Or, we are doing the same things over and over again, wishing for a different result, not realizing that it’s time for a radical change in approach.

If you been living on “Hopium,” or you need more inspiration and direction to manifest your heart’s biggest desire, NOW is the time to give up the Hopium pipe, to go cold turkey, and commit to making your dream(s) come true. (And I know some of you are tired, angry, and frustrated that it hasn’t happened yet…. Still not a good reason to give up.)

The steps are simple (but not necessarily easy):

  • Get absolute clarity on what you desire and how you will FEEL when it’s attained.
  • Commit time every day to be in the feelings of “dreams fulfilled.”
  • Take right action, even if it’s just daily baby steps.
  • Get an accountability partner.
  • Invest your time, energy, money, intention and attention to your dream.

Go for it. You deserve it.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. BE IN LOVE by the Holidays! Meet me for the last LIVE Soulmate Secret workshop of the year which includes a magical, powerful “fire ceremony” to release the past and propel you into your romantic future. Join me October 19-21st at the stunning Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY. DETAILS HERE.

How To Be The LeBron of Your Life!

This morning Brian and I were talking about NBA superstar, LeBron James, and what it took for him to achieve greatness…all the dedicated hours of practice, energy, focus, and most importantly, desire.

I realized that many of the same things apply to manifesting your hearts desire without as much sweat!

Are you ready to get into the GAME and finally win?

Let’s begin with DESIRE.

Ask yourself this question:

Why do I desire a soulmate (or a new career or that awesome Mercedes)?

Really get in touch with how you most want to feel with him or her or it.

Loved? Cherished? Adored? Successful? Fulfilled? Satisfied? Abundant?

Take a little time each day to really feel what it feels like to experience this level of love or whatever. (and use your imagination!)

For those of you who are really BUSY, it’s important to accept that manifesting your desires requires you to invest some time.

This includes times to do the manifestation steps, the feelingizations, etc.

Nature abhors a vacuum.

Create the time in your calendar today to be filled up by your action steps.

Manifesting also has a monetary cost involved, an investment.

If you are serious about fulfilling your heart’s desire, now is the time to make the investment of time, money and energy! Go for it…. be like LeBron!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

How? The one word that stifles manifestation

Someone asked me today what my “secret” to manifesting is, and quite simply the answer is “I remember that at the quantum level what I’ve asked for IS already mine.”

In the “field” we are ALREADY connected to that which we desire.

When you spend your time in a state of deep gratitude, for whatever it is that you seek, you are affirming and living as if in such a way that it manifests more quickly into the 3-D world.

On the other hand, if your monkey mind is asking “but HOW will this happen,” that question has the underlying thinking that if you knew HOW, then you could be ASSURED of its arrival. By asking how, you are affirming that IT doesn’t exist or isn’t possible for you.

You do NOT need to know how, or when, or where your dream will come true.

Hint: It’s coming from wherever it is right now.

You do need to trust the Universe, have faith in the process, and manage your monkey mind when it wants to discourage you.

One way to do this is to give your Monkey Mind a name.

It could be Negative and Nasty Nancy, or Mr. No Possibility, or Mrs. Full of Doubt and Discouragement.

Then create a special journal to give this negative voice a place to vent, thank it for sharing, and then be sure to counter his/her argument with your TRUTH.

And remember, that there is Divine Timing at work, so just because you can’t “see it” yet, doesn’t mean it’s not already there.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

The Love Potion Enhanced by Art & Music

Prolific artist/musician Sharron Katz has an inspiring soulmate manifestation story that I just had to share with you.

Now, at age 61, she is happily with her beloved, Mike, 66, and together they are sharing a juicy, creative, open, honest, musical and artistic life together.

But it almost didn’t happen.

After a 15-year marriage and a super bad divorce, Sharron had big doubts if she would ever find real love.

Thank God she trusted her intuition, and she was willing to do the deep work on herself and of course, followed The Soulmate Secret manifestation steps.

Intuition #1: She moved to a smaller town once her daughter left for college.

Intuition #2: In addition to creating a soulmate wish list, she had a vision to create a painting of her and her man (you are looking at it now!) to assist magnetizing him in.

Intuition #3: Once moved into her new town, she boldly and bravely found a Facebook group of local musicians and invited these like-minded strangers to her home for a party. Mr. Right was among the guests that night and sparks flew.

One of Sharron’s big commitments to herself was to work on love from the inside out and to be fully open and honest about what she most wanted and needed in a relationship. And, she wasn’t going to “settle” for anything less than that level of honesty and transparency.

The relationship was on.

Then it was off (several times).

Then it was on again and eventually, it became clear that Sharron and Mike were meant to be.

Sharron says, “He thinks I have a beautiful body, even though I’m the most voluptuous I’ve ever been. He loves my art…but more than this…he loves my heart as he treats it so tenderly.

Mike says, “I feel like I just want to wrap myself around you and protect you from all the outside world and keep you safe.”

Oh….SIGH…. isn’t love grand?

Sharron and Mike are just more proof that finding Big Love is possible for everyone, regardless of age, weight, or failed relationships from the past. And….when you have clarity about what your soul is most calling for, YOU get your wants and your needs met with the right partner.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Pleasure Puppies – Only 6 weeks left of SUMMER

Are you having ENOUGH pleasure in your life?

Are you willing to have MORE PLEASURE NOW?

Summer is the perfect season to UP your pleasure puppy game, build your oxytocin levels, reduce your stress, and have more fun.

Here’s what I am committing to doing to fill my oxytocin tanks:

  • Swim in the ocean
  • See Mission Impossible with Tom Cruise
  • Eat delicious summer fruit every day and let the juice run down my face
  • Take extra long walks and REALLY smell the roses
  • Continue binge watching THIS IS US (I’m up to episode 19!)
  • Eat as many meals outdoors as possible
  • Go to an outdoor concert (or two!)
  • Figure out how to make Prosecco ice-pops (and eat them as we watch the sunset)
  • Only wear brightly colored clothes
  • Perfect my “do less accomplish more” magical manifesting!!

What will you do to have more pleasure and fun?

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle