Beach Closed: No Lifeguard on Duty

Several years ago we were vacationing on the insanely beautiful island of Capri in Italy.

One afternoon we went for a walk, searching for a beach, to take a swim in the refreshing, sparkling Mediterranean sea.

We eventually found one and hiked down to a sweet little cove with a sandy beach jammed packed with men, women and children, in all shape and sizes.

As we waded into the water, I noticed a small canoe-like boat that was painted red and on the side were the words, in big block letters, Salvatore.

My first thought was,

“I wonder who Salvatore is and why does he need his name so boldly on the boat?”

And, even though I don’t speak Italian, I soon figured out that it Salvatore wasn’t some man’s name but rather it means “Savior,” and that this was a boat used by lifeguards.

As all of us navigate through these scary and difficult times of the COVID-19 virus, it’s becoming clear that there aren’t enough lifeguards right now, and it’s really up to us to figure out how to rescue ourselves and our loved ones.

We must use the full force of our emotional maturity to manage our fear, anxiety, and negative thoughts, so that we can stay strong and courageous in this time of massive uncertainty. It is uncertainty which triggers our darkest thoughts. We are living through a time when we are constantly bombarded with disastrous news of the global pandemic and economic crash as our minds run wild asking ourselves “what if” questions.

So, how does one balance the “reality” of what is happening with the ability to stay grounded, centered and at peace with what is?

One way is to begin to create a spiritual tool kit filled with simple and easy remedies for the times your monkey mind spins out of control. The first step is to be aware of what is going on in your head and to consciously choose to shift your thinking. Be willing to say out loud what is going on with you. For instance, it might be, “I am crazy scared that someone I love is going to die from the virus.” Just naming the problem often helps alleviate some of the energy of it.

Now create an affirmation for yourself, perhaps close your eyes and say “I am sending love, healing and blessings to myself, my family and my friends knowing and trusting that all is well.”

We can’t eliminate all negative thoughts, but we can begin to manage how we respond to them.

Begin to find ways to feel and experience love, gratitude and appreciate in your life.

In one HeartMath® research study published in the Journal of Advancement in Medicine it was observed that just five minutes of genuinely feeling a positive emotion such as appreciation can provide a beneficial boost to the immune system! Creating your own spiritual toolkit will allow you to be proactive and will also help boost your immune system.

Here are a few of the items in my Spiritual Toolkit.

**I repeat my favorite line from A Course In Miracles: “In this moment I have everything that I need.” For me, this is always true as well as comforting. When I say this to myself I know that in this NOW moment, I have a safe place to sit, clean water to drink, fresh air to breath, food to eat, family and friends who love me.

**I have faith. I remember that even though I don’t know what the future holds, I can choose to ‘be with not knowing’ and choose to know and trust that I am ok and I will be ok. As I recall my faith, I place my hands upon my heart and give thanks for all the goodness in my life.

**I Take Five. I stop whatever I am doing, I stop listening to my scary thoughts and I find a fun way to get through the next five minutes. I may turn on my favorite Earth Wind and Fire tune (loud) and dance around the house, or I’ll do a quick search of the Internet for stupid, funny jokes (here’s one for you right now: Did you hear about the zoo that only had one dog? It was a shitzu!) Take 5 minutes and distract yourself.

**I do EFT Tapping. This is a very useful and easy to learn process to help relieve stress, anxiety and suffering. Just google it and you will find a ton of free videos to tap along with.

**I do a “feelingization.” This is a word I coined to describe a closed eye process to take you from your head to your heart and experience love, gratitude, serenity and peace. Here is a link to one entitled Blessing Yourself, Blessing The World that will calm you and fill you with love, guiding you to extend that love to the world.

In just 15 minutes you can transform your state of being!

>> Listen to my Feelingization audio here <<

Decide today to be your own “Salvatore” and create a safe and nurturing and blessed world for yourself.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Love In The Time of Coronavirus

Rebecca Winn is an artist with words and her new book, new book One Hundred Daffodils; Finding Beauty, Grace, and Meaning When Things Fall Apart, proves the underestimated power of beauty to heal our deepest wounds.

Using her garden, nature, and a delightful smattering of wild creatures, she weaves her midlife catastrophe into a beautifully written story of raw vulnerability, courage, and transformation.

I was totally captivated and entranced.

Today she is guest blogging to share her thoughts on love during this time of crisis:

“We are all connected.” A phrase so common, it has become a meaningless spiritual cliche. Or has it?

Four months ago we could watch the news unfolding in China with a detachment that distance and depersonalization afforded us. Today, we are sheltering in place, surrounded by fear so palpable even the skeptics are panic buying, and the most committed introverts confess that they only want to be alone when it’s their choice.

And yet, only a few days into self-quarantine, something magical has also happened. Musicians are sharing their music for free during social media Live events. Authors whose book tours have been cancelled (including my own) are reading from their books online. People are reaching out to help one another in ways heretofore unimagined. Some property owners are telling restaurants to pay their employees instead of their rent.

Complete strangers in the book world have contacted me offering to help me promote my book with Live events, podcasts and blogs. Movie studios are making new releases accessible online. Neighbors with fruit bearing trees in California are putting boxes of produce on the curb for anyone who needs it. Social media is filled with posts about the beauty of the earth and how grateful people are for those they love. News feeds that were saturated with angry political posts just days before are filled with words and images designed to comfort, uplift and reassure. Photographs of spring unfolding abound, and every tiny, green point of hope that pushes through the earth and blossoms despite this chaos, serves to remind us that the cycles of the earth are continuous, and this too shall pass. In times of crisis, when danger is present and fear abounds, nature persists, humanity’s love rises up, and we are reminded that people are mostly good — even if we disagree with them about some things.

We have been made acutely aware of how closely we share our “personal space”, and how much we touch each other. We now know how inescapably connected we are. The coronavirus known as COVID-19 has single-handedly made mindfulness mainstream. There is a lesson to be learned when “social distancing” is the thing that brings us together. Not only are we connected, we realize how much we need that connection. Every breath we take… the very air we breathe is shared with every other person on this planet. Everything we touch carries our contact for far longer than we ever imagined. We cannot escape that, nor should we want to. The spaces where we move, live and breathe connect us, and that is a good thing when we understand it, respect it and use it honorably.

Love manifests in many ways, sometimes in ways which are unexpected and not readily understood, but we have been given a chance to slow down. This sheltering time is an opportunity to reconnect with ourselves, and be truly present with our loved ones without the pressing demands of our next appointment. We have been given time to turn within. To contemplate. To connect. To remember what really matters. To get out of the rat race and back into the human race. To remember how to be love.”

Rebecca’s book One Hundred Daffodils; Finding Beauty, Grace, and Meaning When Things Fall Apart, is releasing worldwide today, March 24, 2020 through Grand Central Publishing/Hachette.

In lieu of a book tour, she is offering Moments of Peace and Beauty from her garden as spring unfolds, and will be reading essays from her book on her inspirational Facebook page, www.facebook.com/WhimsicalGardens and on Instagram @rebeccawinn.writer

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

How To Spiritually Surf These Crazy Times

I hope you are safe and staying healthy as we all deal with this life changing time we are in. Brian and I are isolating ourselves at home, we’ve stocked up on lots of Amy’s canned organic soup (which I hope tastes good as I’ve never eaten it before), and we are checking in with friends and family by phone, Facebook and Skype.

For the past few days I have been blessed to have the time to listen and read a variety of meditations and blogs that have been comforting and calming.

I have found that my best strategy right now is to stay in the present moment as much as possible and to not let my monkey mind get caught up in “what if” scenarios. Below are links to three free resources that I have found helpful:

Dr. Barbara DeAngelis has a free, special audio with a healing meditation that will help you learn how to “stock up” on love and wisdom.

She offers practical steps you can take to understand and shift your relationship to fear, and navigate more gracefully and steadily in the uncertain weeks and months ahead.

> Listen here <<

Esther Hicks/Abraham has a recording on YouTube that I found to be a very good reminder on Law of Attraction as it relates to healing and wellness. FYI, the title of it is misleading as it says it is regarding Corona virus (which it never mentions) however, that doesn’t invalidate the usefulness of the message.

If you find you are experiencing fear-based thoughts, this will help you shift your thinking and raise your vibration.

> Listen here <<

Bill Bennett has posted a great blog on Facing Fear that explains that here are two types of fear – real fear and imagined fear. He says real fear is survival based fear, and it inhabits the body. Imagined fear is illusory based fear, and it inhabits the mind.

Our bodies can’t distinguish between real fear and imagined fear. One of the reasons there’s so much sickness and ill health in our society is because we live too much in imagined fear and the chemical secretions that result damage our biological systems.

He encourages us to handling this time with calm, with dignity, with compassion and generosity of spirit, with a love and deep respect for every human being on this planet – and with grace.

>> Read it here <<

If you come across any resources that are helpful, please pass them along to me at arielleford@nullgmail.com

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,
Arielle

p.s. My mantra right now is: This too shall pass.

Manifesting In A Time of Madness

I woke up this morning to news about world markets crashing, Corona virus numbers doubling, speaking engagements being canceled, and so much more.

And yet, I am feeling very optimistic as I wash my hands in hot soapy water and make a list of more food to store up on “just in case.”

Why am I feeling good?

Because my faith is strong that despite what is happening in the outer world (where I have little control) my inner world knows that whatever happens, ultimately I am OK and I am going to be OK.

This is a conscious choice to not dive into the worry and despair and anxiety that is prevalent right now.

If I had a magic wand, yes, I would wave it and make the virus disappear, and sick people would get better, and war would cease, and love and peace would prevail.

My magic wand is my heart and my heart says:
I am blessed and I give thanks that in this moment I have many in my life who love me.
I am blessed and I give thanks that in this moment I have everything that I need.
I am blessed and I give thanks that no matter what happens, I am whole, healthy and complete and will continue to survive and thrive.
And so it is.

Remember, we get to choose our thoughts and actions so choose wisely.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

A Theory of Love

A few years ago I came upon the letter below that was supposedly authored by Albert Einstein written to his daughter Liesel about love. I have since discovered that Einstein did not write this and the original author is still unknown. That said, when I re-read it again, I was still moved by the wisdom, poetry, and truth it contains and thought you might enjoy it as well.

“When I proposed the theory of relativity, very few understood me, and what I will reveal now to transmit to mankind will also collide with the misunderstanding and prejudice in the world.

I ask you to guard the letters as long as necessary, years, decades, until society is advanced enough to accept what I will explain below.

There is an extremely powerful force that, so far, science has not found a formal explanation to. It is a force that includes and governs all others and is even behind any phenomenon operating in the universe and has not yet been identified by us.

This universal force is LOVE.

When scientists looked for a unified theory of the Universe they forgot the most powerful unseen force.

Love is light that enlightens those who give and receive it.

Love is gravity, because it makes some people feel attracted to others.

Love is power, because it multiplies the best we have, and allows humanity not to be extinguished in their blind selfishness.

Love unfolds and reveals.

For love we live and die.

Love is God and God is Love.

This force explains everything and gives meaning to life.

This is the variable that we have ignored for too long, maybe because we are afraid of love because it is the only energy in the universe that man has not learned to drive at will. To give visibility to love, I made a simple substitution in my most famous equation. If instead of E = mc2, we accept that the energy to heal the world can be obtained through love multiplied by the speed of light squared, we arrive at the conclusion that love is the most powerful force there is, because it has no limits.

After the failure of humanity in the use and control of the other forces of the universe that have turned against us, it is urgent that we nourish ourselves with another kind of energy…If we want our species to survive, if we are to find meaning in life, if we want to save the world and every sentient being that inhabits it, love is the one and only answer.

Perhaps we are not yet ready to make a bomb of love, a device powerful enough to entirely destroy the hate, selfishness and greed that devastate the planet. However, each individual carries within them a small but powerful generator of love whose energy is waiting to be released.

When we learn to give and receive this universal energy, dear Liesel, we will have affirmed that love conquers all, is able to transcend everything and anything, because love is the quintessence of life.

I deeply regret not having been able to express what is in my heart, which has quietly beaten for you all my life. Maybe it’s too late to apologize, but as time is relative, I need to tell you that I love you and thanks to you I have reached the ultimate answer!”

Your father,

Albert Einstein

While we may never know who penned this, or if Einstein would agree with its content, I believe the core message is one we can all use in these crazy times.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

The Unexpected Pleasures of Aging

One of the greatest joys of my life is that I get to meet some of the most brilliant and evolved humans on the planet and this includes my friend, Chip Conley.

Chip has written several New York Times bestsellers, including Wisdom at Work, and now is the innovator of “becoming a Modern Elder.”

I spent a week co-leading a workshop with Chip a few months ago at his fabulous Modern Elder Academy in Baja.

Today I am thrilled to share with you one of his recent blogs on “The Unexpected Pleasures of Aging:”

Just when I got comfortable in my skin, it started to sag. But that’s okay. I take life less seriously today than I did ten years ago. The Latin root of the word “serious” means weighty and grave. But even though my weight is 15 pounds heavier than it was in 2010, and I’m closer to my grave, I don’t feel more serious.

Buddha said the root of all suffering is attachment, but underneath that attachment is comparison. Part of the reason it can be painful to go to your college reunion is it reminds you of all the comparing you used to do. By the time you hit midlife, hopefully, you see what a silly game that all was… and is.

Of course, that’s not the only benefit of getting older.

Here is my list of five unexpected pleasures of aging (I reserve the right to change my list next week):

I’ve become a superb editor. While I’m still curious and open to trying new things and meeting new people, I know enough to spare myself from the people, places, and situations that will lead to agony.

Pat Rec is my new shorthand for wisdom. Wisdom is human-centered pattern recognition. Over a few decades of becoming increasingly aware of my intuition, I have an invisible character calculator in my gut that reads humans almost like a supermarket barcode scanner. Pat Rec has helped me become a “first-class noticer.”

Better peripheral vision for life. No, my eyesight is not 20/20 in 2020. However, my ability to weigh the collateral benefits and costs of critical decisions I make is so much better today compared to earlier in my life (when I was so damn focused on the core of the decision). Being able to imagine the less obvious upside and downside means I make better decisions today than I did 25 years ago.

More Attuning, Less Attaining. I grew up an admiration addict who grew my self-esteem by attaining, often having to atone later because I was so focused on my own striving. Today, I’m in the attunement mode more often in harmony with what surrounds me. So, “atone” has become “at one,” which is what it feels like when I attune.

A better operating system—driven from my soul, not my ego. I wish they handed out operating instructions when we hit midlife (aha, maybe that’s what this blog is all about!). The egoic operating system divides everything into subject and object, and it perceives through differentiation. What a relief it has been to feel my soul gently move into the driver’s seat, with a new pair of glasses that allows me to focus less on the superhighway of rushing cars and more on the glorious vistas that are right in front of me.

Click here to sign up for Chip’s daily blog!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Who Needs Your Love NOW?

One of my favorite lines in A Course In Miracles is this:

The only thing lacking in any situation is that which you are not giving.

If you are out of sorts, stressed out, anxious, in need of a hug and some love, please know that you are not alone.

Most of us are pretty upside down these days about one thing or another.

And, an instant solution is to share some of your love with someone else.

Whether it’s a friend, elderly relative, stranger on the street, co-worker, neighbor, or the next person you come across, give them a big smile and a kind word, delivered with a blast of love and you can make someone’s day.

A phone call can work wonders and if that isn’t possible, send a simple text or email and be sure to encode it with your love.

I promise you will feel better and you’ll be making the world a better place for all of us.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Research shows THIS is the #1 key to happiness and longevity

Have you heard about The Marriage Effect?

It’s scientific research that proves that one of the best ways to have a long, happy, healthy life, and to experience less pain when you do fall ill, is to be in a good marriage.

If you’re a single woman, or have a friend that is, I have a special Valentine’s Day gift to lead you (or your friends) to a high-quality partner and create a deeply loving soulmate relationship.

My dear friend, Dr. Claire Zammit, founder of Feminine Power & I have discovered and developed a break-through approach that especially works for conscious, smart women to attract an extraordinarypartner and create happy, fulfilling and lasting love.

It’s available now as a 12-week online Course known as The Love Codes and women who have participated rave about the results they’ve been able to get applying our breakthrough approach:

“Thanks to Claire and Arielle not only have I found ‘a man,’ I found The Man. I’m head-over-heels, flat-on-my-face, jaw-on-the-floor drooling in love with the most intelligent, handsome, psychologically stimulating, intellectually challenging, sexiest man I could ever dream of…”
—Diely

“As a result of what I learned from Arielle and Claire, I just got engaged last night to the wonderful man I attracted into my life! Your insights and wisdom made a huge difference. It worked! I am grateful!”
—Barbara

And the experts say:

“Arielle Ford weds ancient wisdom and modern concerns to create the formula for a sustainable, loving relationship for years to come.”
—Deepak Chopra

“Claire is a woman whose work I deeply admire and a friend who I myself turn to for wisdom and counsel.”
—Marianne Williamson

“For single, conscious women seeking a lifetime of love and happiness, my friends Arielle Ford and Claire Zammit are the “go-to” experts in the field. ”
—John Gray, Bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus and Conscious Men

Imagine finally being with someone who can “meet you”—and feeling deeply seen, supported, cherished and adored…

Imagine finally having a place to land at the end of a hard day… someone to share your wins with, and who is there for you when life gets rough…

Someone who can be your full partner in all areas of life, whom you can respect and count on for advice and emotional support, and whose happiness is as important to you as your own.

And if you’re on a path of personal growth and spiritual development, there’s no greater catalyst for healing and transformation than sharing your life with a life-partner.

The Love Codes 12 week on demand, online eCourse is priced at $597 (plus you received thousands of dollars of free bonuses). For the first time ever, we are offering a $100 Valentine’s Day discount to my Soulmate Secret newsletter list.

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It’s time to FINALLY have the loving relationship you deserve.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Stop waiting for “Someday”

Kobe Bryant’s untimely death on Sunday (he was only 41!) came as a shock to his fans around the world.
Kobe Bryant

It’s so hard for me to wrap my head around how one moment you are living and seconds later it’s game over.

Real life is unpredictable and this tragedy is a reminder for me to use my limited time on Earth to experience the people, places, and things that most appeal to me and to use my creativity and skills to add a little magic and healing to the planet.

What is on your bucket list and do you have a plan to make it happen?

Please don’t wait till it’s too late to find love, or love the one you’re with, or write that book, do that dance, take that trip, take that leap of faith.

If you need inspiration and motivation, read my brilliant friend, Sam Horn’s, book “Someday Is Not A Day In The Week.”

Click here to get your copy.

Yikes! I need Extra Strength Rose Colored Glasses

I don’t know about you, but I am finding my usual sunny, optimistic outlook on life
feels more like a big, dark cloud of doom at the moment.

With all the political unrest, the fires in Australia, daily gun shootings, general, escalating chaos in the world, and a crazy amount of family and friends with challenging illnesses to deal with, I am finding myself needing stronger than usual rose-colored glasses.

Thankfully I do have my toolkit of spiritual and emotional techniques to keep me sane (especially EFT tapping), but when I think about all that is occurring, the future looks bleak to me.
I realize that the majority of the things getting me down are not “personal” to me, except to say that since we are all connected in the field I am experiencing what Deepak calls “jittery platelets.”

My commitment for right now is just to allow myself to experience life as it is (in small doses) and then use my toolkit to transform in order to stay resilient and transform negative into positive while I pray for rain, healing, and new possibilities!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle