3 Beliefs That Men Find Irresistible In a Woman

In this day and age of digital dating and limitless options to meet people, it can feel impossible to stand out from the crowd.

YOU are a unique, amazing individual and when you own this fact and learn how to radiate your best qualities, you are sure to separate yourself from the rest.

Many women don’t realize that it’s not the surface-level things that make a man incredibly attracted to you, but rather the beliefs you possess about life, your attitude about yourself, and the fun, authentic self-confidence that comes from a place of true self-love.

There are three beliefs in particular that men find irresistible and are sure to not only set you apart from other women but will aid you in attracting a genuine, connected relationship.

#1 Belief of an Irresistible Woman – “I am worthy of great love”

A woman who owns her worth and believes she deserves respect and authentic love is incredibly attractive to a man.

When a woman does not believe herself to be “enough” (pretty enough, thin enough, smart enough, etc.) she sends out a subconscious signal that lowers a man’s perception of her and deflates his attraction.

Rather, the woman who believes she IS worthy of a great love radiates a vibrancy of high value and self-respect, and this makes a man want to rise to the challenge of being good-enough to win her heart.

Now I know owning your true worth might feel difficult at times, and to help you tune in to and tune-up your self-love, my amazing friend and dating expert, Mat Boggs, has created a Self-Love Activation Kit as a gift from me to you.

Download your free kit here to kick that inner self-critic to the curb and feel a deeper self-love than ever before.

#2 Belief of an Irresistible Woman – “Love can be easy”

This is important! It can hard to remain optimistic when date after date has been a dead-end.

But when you focus your mind on the belief that love can be easy, it puts you in a relaxed, fun, best-self state-of-being — a state where you’re not trying too hard or sabotaging yourself, but rather enjoying moments of connection and letting the love flow into your life with ease.

#3 Belief of an Irresistible Woman – “The best is yet to come”

Finally, the third belief of an irresistible woman is not about where they’ve been or there struggles of the past.

Instead, it’s about where they are going, the knowing that there is more adventure and love out there, and their willingness to seize each moment and day with a zeal for life.

When you believe that there’s more fun to be had, you’re infectious and fun to be around, and a man will find that incredibly attractive.

Now, **WARNING** these three beliefs will not only aid you in living a life filled with love, adventure, and connection…

But might bring your man into your life sooner than you thought!

Because there’s nothing that stands out more than a woman who embraces her unique qualities and limitless potential…

And has a BLAST doing it.

Don’t forget to grab your free copy of the Self-Love Activation Kit so you can align with the vibration of love even more and start living the life you’ve always dreamed of.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

What Oprah and I Have in Common

I just got my December issue of O magazine featuring Oprah’s favorite things….that got me thinking about MY favorite things…the things I use nearly every day.
While many of Oprah’s are quite pricey, mine are mostly in the $20-$30 range and they are what I consider “small luxuries.”
These items bring me joy, beauty, comfort, and ease.
Get some for yourself (and they make great stocking stuffers!)

Sol De Janeiro Brazilian Bum Bum Cream

I LOVE this delicious smelling and creamy moisturizer that always puts a smile on my face. And, it’s a good solution to dry, winter skin!

The Wand Removes Histamines & Sulfite Preservatives, No More Wine Headaches
I can finally drink red wine thanks to this amazing product that truly works! The Wand alleviates ALL of the most common side effects from drinking wine: Headaches, Congestion, Skin Flush, Upset Stomach, and Hangovers. REMOVES HISTAMINES AND SULFITES that trigger the most common wine sensitivities. The Wand filters all types of wines, including red, white, rosé and sparkling wines. And, it works WITHOUT changing the natural taste, aromas or color of wine.

Zing Vital Energy Nutrition Bar
I always have one of these tasty, healthy bars close by for when hunger strikes!
I love the Peanut Butter Chocolate Chip…it’s High Protein, High Fiber, Low Sugar, Chunky Peanut Butter, Real Dark Chocolate that is gluten-free, non-GMO, with 10 grams of plant-based vegan protein, mixed with real, optimum natural ingredients to give you wholesome energy and nutrition with real flavor in each bite.

The Original, Eco-friendly, Portable Travel Drinking Straw
We’ve all heard that plastic straws are destroying the planet….now there is a cool solution, bring your own stainless steel straw in its own very attractive bamboo case. I never leave home without them!

Ancient Minerals Magnesium Bath Flakes
Magnesium Salt Flakes offer a highly effective, yet muscle-calming, means of absorbing magnesium nutrients. Pour into a warm bath and soak – it not only infuses you with necessary magnesium, it dissolves negative energy cords!

Fresh Sugar Lip Treatment SPF 15 (this not your ordinary Chapstick—it’s luxurious!)
Hydrating treatment that nourishes, protects and plumps the lips. Has a bright, citrus scent and is FREE of petroleum, mineral oil, and lanoline and NO Parabens – Sulfates – Synthetic Dyes – Petrochemicals – Phthalates – GMOs – Triclosan.

Small luxuries are a must-have for me…a daily reminder of how good and abundant life is!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Why You Need A Personal Bouncer

We all know the importance of clearing clutter from our home, office, closets, garage, etc. to create more ease, flow, and success in our lives… but what you probably don’t know is that it’s critical to clear another kind of clutter: People.

 

We need to clear out the emotionally draining, toxic, judgmental, crazy-making, and/or even boring, uninspiring people from our lives.

 

Who’s In Your Room is a new book from my dear friends, both powerhouse personal growth leaders, Stewart Emery and Ivan Misner.

 

Several years ago, at a Transformational Leadership Council gathering, I heard Stewart speak on this topic and it completely changed my life. He said that we should look at our life as if it is a room with only one door, no exits. Once someone walks into our life, they really never leave (even if we think we have deleted them the thoughts, feelings, and experiences we have had with them live on in our brain). Therefore, we have to begin to carefully curate ‘who” we allow into our “room,” and we may even use a bodyguard or two stationed outside our room to make sure that we only allow in those that share our values.

 

After I heard Stewart speak I began to think about all the people in my “room” that were energy sucking emotional vampires or chaotic drama queens, etc. And, for the first time, I seriously began to think about the importance of making my room (i.e. my life), a sacred space to share with like-minded family and friends who share my values. It was mind-blowing!

 

I am so thrilled that this is now available as a book (it’s a very short, easy to read book). It is so important to understand that “who” you allow into your “room” will impact the quality of the rest of your life.

 

I consider Who’s In Your Room a must read for everyone focused on living a long, healthy and happy life.

Gratitude, Turkey & Choosing Love

The great spiritual teacher, Ram Dass (“Be Here Now”) once said:

“If you think you’re enlightened go spend a week with your family.”

For those of us who consider ourselves to be loving, conscious people on a spiritual path, we are sometimes flabbergasted by just how easily being with our family can trigger negative emotions and old patterns.

I’ve good news.

This is pretty normal.

You are not the only one.

Some of these DNA-related folks have the playbook and intuitively know how to push our buttons.

If you plan to spend Thanksgiving with relatives, here are a few things to remember:

Begin your day with a few minutes to write a gratitude list of all the people and things you are grateful for.

Set the intention for how you would like the day to go.

Share that intention with at least one other person who will be at the table and ask them to help you “hold the space” for a loving, fun, enjoyable event.

Also, make this person your ally, have a game plan of how to handle certain situations that always seem to come up.

For instance, if cousin Billy and cousin Bob always get into a disagreement, be sure to seat them at opposite ends of the table.

Consider this: No one is showing up to the gathering with the intention to deliberately try to piss you (or anyone else) off.

As much as possible, use humor to deflect conflict.

Do a Google search for stupid, silly Thanksgiving jokes and write them down and have them handy.  Here’s one:

“What did the Turkey say to the computer?”

“Google, Google, Google!”

Finally, remember that it’s always a good idea to avoid controversial topics at the dinner table.  If you, or someone else, brings up a topic that is sure to get folks riled up, be the adult in the room who speaks up and suggest that in the spirit of fun and harmony, it’s time to change the subject, and then guide them into another subject.

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

 

Arielle

Start Each Morning With A Big Dose of LOVE

Several years ago on a trip to Bali, we were privileged to meet a very old, wizened Shaman who taught us a beautiful morning love process to bless, heal, and nourish my body, mind, and soul.  

This transformative process is a fantastic way to begin each day and I highly recommend it for everyone who desires to have more love in their life!

Here’s how to do it:

When you wake up, before getting out of bed, before checking your phone, or anything else…  lie in bed, with your eyes closed. and put a smile on your face.

As you are smiling, imagine that you are swallowing this smile.

Then see this smile as it gently passes through each part of your body. Place your hands on the part of the body as it is passing through as you feel the gratitude you have for this body part, and say “thank you” for the good health and strength it provides you.

When you have done this completely, from head to toe, place your attention (and your hands) on your heart and tell yourself how much you love and appreciate YOU.

Then imagine the Universe is beaming a giant stream of golden, sparkling love into your heart and filling you up on every level.

Next call up images of the people in your life that you most love, and feel yourself sending them a silent wave of “thanks” for their love and support, and wishing them a beautiful, loving day.

Now you will be ready to begin your new day filled with love for yourself and your loved ones! 

To make things easy for you, I have a free feelingization of this on my website to take you through the entire process….click below and then access

The Morning Love Raising feelingization.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

The Importance of Beauty

More than 30 years ago, a new friend invited me to her apartment for a visit.  As we sat in her cozy living room, she served me tea in a delicate china cup that was placed on a beautiful mahogany tray that held a tiny silver teaspoon, a small plate of petit fours, a shiny silver vase holding one perfectly shaped pink rose, and a white lace trimmed cloth napkin. I felt like I was having high tea with royalty!

I told her she shouldn’t have gone to all the trouble as I would have been just as happy with a mug of tea and a paper napkin. She smiled sweetly and said to me, “Darling, this is how I serve myself tea every day.” This elegant woman then explained to me that life is short and that we must insist on having as much beauty as possible in our lives, in every way possible.  

When I left her home I immediately went to Bed, Bath and Beyond and bought myself two trays, six linen napkins, two small matching vases to begin living beautifully myself. (Fortunately, I already had some inherited china teacups.) Since that day, when at home, I rarely use paper napkins.

A few years later I became friends with another woman, who worked mostly from home.  Whenever I would visit her, she was always meticulously turned out: hair, makeup, clothing, and jewelry to match. I asked her why she went to so much trouble since most days she never saw anyone else. She explained to me that she considered herself a work of art and each day she reveled in putting herself together as colorfully and stylishly as possible.

As someone who works from home, most days I am in my yoga pants, hair in a ponytail and makeup-free unless I have a Skype or Zoom interview, but at least a few days a week I make an effort to consider myself a work of art and invest a little more time into my appearance.

In Italy, one of my favorite place on earth, they actually have a lifestyle describing this, it’s called ‘bella figura’ and it basically means making every area of your life as beautiful as it can be.

I would love to know how you add more beauty to your life!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

How To Be A Powerful Manifestor

I just returned from a wonderful weekend teaching the Soulmate Secret Workshop at the beautiful Omega Institute.  It was so “Fall” like!  Crisp, chilly, weather with turning leaves in a variety of fiery colors, and a beautiful group of souls ready to manifest love.

One of the questions I was asked was “how did you become a master manifestor?”   It is an important and powerful question and applies to ALL forms of manifesting.  Here is what I know for sure:

Successful manifesting requires something akin to driving with your foot on the gas and the brake at the same time. On the one hand, we need to be clear about our intentions, and be able to feel in very cell of our body that what we have asked for IS already ours, and be willing to take action towards our goals. Simultaneously, we must stay detached from the outcome and live in a state of surrender. 

Now you might be thinking, “Whoa, that doesn’t make any sense!”

But it does.

Think of it this way: When the seeds of a flower have been planted, and the first leaves begin to sprout, the gardener doesn’t tug on the leaves every day to make the plant grow faster. They trust that Mother Nature knows how to grow all on her own, thank you very much.

There are many ways we approach manifesting our desire, whether it’s more money, a soulmate, a new career, or the perfect little black dress.

Some of us take the “if it’s meant to be it will just happen” approach. Others take charge and go into “make it happen” mode. I believe that it’s a combination of the two that is the winning ticket.

I believe that manifesting your heart’s desire has a certain amount of “meant-to-be-ness” to it… AND it requires a big dose of “make-it-happen-ness.”

Practicing intention, surrender, focus, and detachment coupled with trust, belief, knowingness, and patience is the recipe for success.

And I realize that this is a paradox….

How does one be both intentional and surrendered?

When I am being intentional, I have a clear feeling and picture of what my desire is AND I also am detached from the outcome.

I know and trust that life will continue to be great whether or not my desire is fulfilled.

I surrender to divine timing and to destiny (knowing this or something better is on the way) and my happiness and well-being isn’t dependent on having my wishes granted.

This is a daily “conscious” practice that requires emotional maturity and awareness. It’s worth the effort to master this practice, as it will give you freedom to be “with what is” while manifesting your deepest desires!

Those who successfully manifest have learned and surrendered to the fact that it’s not our job to know where, when, or how our desire will appear. We don’t have to micromanage every encounter or anticipate every detail. Our job is to simply prepare ourselves in body, mind, and soul and then relax into the knowledge that what we’ve asked for – wherever it may be at this moment – is on the way.

When you notice that you are in fear or doubt or disbelief that your desired outcome is on the way, allow yourself to spend three minutes or less fully feeling the worst of these negative emotions. Set a time and then dive in and exaggerate your fears and doubts. Make it really ugly. No positive thinking allowed! IF you do this you will soon begin to laugh because your rational mind will kick in, reminding you that these thoughts are just not true. Then, having released the pressure of the negativity, fill yourself back up with kind, loving affirmations that your desired outcome IS already yours and remember to be both intentional and surrendered!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

LOVE – Monkey See, Monkey Do!

You’ve probably heard the saying “what you put your attention on grows” and this is especially true when it comes to love.  If you desire MORE love in your life, you can it today!

In recent years, science has discovered that our brains are filled with something now known as mirror neurons.  These are a type of brain cell that responds equally when we perform an action and when we witness someone else perform the same action. 

For instance, let’s say you are watching a couple holding hands, snuggling or kissing – whether it’s in person, or on a TV or movie screen, your mirror neurons fire off the same synapses as they would if you yourself were doing the snuggling or kissing!

By paying attention and witnessing this act, you are training your brain to feel – empathize – with these emotions and your body, mind, and heart “learn” this behavior.

Whether you have someone to snuggle with or not, start seeking out ways to be in the presence of that you want to experience to have more of that!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Want to know MORE about mirror neurons? Here’s a less than 3-minute video that explains the science of it:

The Purpose of Marriage

According to my late sister Debbie’s favorite holy man, Rabbi Ezagui of Chabad La Jolla, marriage is the highest calling of mankind. He says:

“True love is loving the person for what they love, who they are, for what they stand for. If you go into a marriage loving what you love, not what they love, that is not love. Real love is not finding someone to hold your hand and find common ground with; the institution of marriage is to push you out of your comfort zone, to lift you up above what you need, so that you can provide what you’re needed for,” says Rabbi Ezagui.

Marriage is about finding out what you truly need. It also fulfills our need to be needed. Rabbi Ezagui quotes Rebbe Lubavitch, who said: “When you learn to love someone else as you love yourself, when you get to that level and you can truly authentically say that other person is me (at a soul level), that is the purpose of life.”

Rabbi Ezagui’s mentor Rabbi Mendl Futerfas claims that as long as the man treats his wife like a queen, he will be a king, an attitude that should be ingrained long before the wedding and carried on long after reality of life kicks in. People with strong marriages consider this idea as non-negotiable.

“Ultimately the purpose of marriage is to find in my soul what I am needed for,” explains the wise Rabbi.

Wow, now that is really deep. I think about it often….

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle


Want To See What LOVE Looks & Feels Like?
Watch this super short video:

The Pink Lemonade Solution

Sh*$ happens.

It comes in many forms: illness, money issues, breakups, loved ones pass on (even worse, sometimes it all happens at once)!

Since we can’t control the ups and downs of life, we can discover empowering ways how to respond and react.

I’ve always loved that old saying, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade!”

When I am confronted and challenged with these darker times, I like to make “pink lemonade” – it’s about finding the blessings in the problem and also adding a huge dose of love to it.

Here’s my recipe:

1.  I acknowledge the breath and width of the issue. I don’t try to deny or suppress it, I let myself think about it, feel it and come up with coping strategies. But, I don’t wallow in it.

2.  I find support from a family member or friend. Someone I can “vent” to but who will also help me look for the “gold in the dark.”

3.  Creating a daily gratitude list keeps my attention on all the good in my life in spite of the current circumstances.

4.  I practice “living as if” where my actions reflect my belief that Universe always has my back. (I also call this being psychotically optimistic – a phrase from the beautiful Bela Gandhi.)

5.  SMILE. Science has shown that the mere act of smiling can lift your mood, lower stress, boost your immune system and possibly even prolong your life. My favorite technique is to stand in front of a mirror, smile and blow myself a kiss!

6.  Journal. I like to write and remind myself that I am a survivor and recount the past issues that troubled me, remember that I overcame (or survived) them and, in most cases, something really great came out of the experience.

SO, on your bad days, take those sour lemons, add in honey or stevia, and a big dose of love and let the “pink lemonade” soothe your soul.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle