The Ripple Effect of LOVE

Seeking more love in your life?

A fast, easy way to make it happen is to put your attention on all the love that is already around you (family, friends, pets, etc.) and then actively engage in making love happen and spread by creating a “ripple effect.”

Everything we do and think affects the people in our lives and the choices we make have far-reaching consequences. Like an incredibly interwoven and complicated tapestry, the Ripple Effect, creates connections that we are all a part of. Thoughts and actions are like stones dropped in a pond and they create ripples that travel outward.

Each of us carries within us the capacity to change the world in small ways for better or worse. One inspiring example of the ripple effect was appeared in The New England Journal of Medicine: it recently published a study that showed how a single altruistic kidney donation set off a domino effect, resulting in 10 successive transplants!

10 Ways to share the LOVE:

  • When it’s hot outside, offer lemonade or iced tea to your mail carrier, garbage collectors, police officers and others.
  • Rescue a wallflower! Strike up a conversation with someone who’s standing alone at a party.
  • Send the amazing people in your life an e-card telling them why they’re awesome and how much they mean to you.
  • I once read about a family out to dinner with a special needs child. The child was acting up and the waitress brought over a note that said “God only gives special children to special people” from a mystery guest who paid for the family’s meal.
  • If you are artistic, paint small rocks with words like “Believe” or “Have Faith” or Love Will Find You” and leave in random places.
  • Pay for someone else’s coffee, or their meal when you are in the drive through lane or pay the toll for the car behind you or put coins in the street meters for someone else’s car.
  • Buy gift cards to Subway or McDonalds and hand out to homeless people or pack up meals, socks, and goody bags to hand out to those living on the street.
  • Help someone get recognition for their new business, book or fundraising project by spreading the word for them via your social networks or help an elderly neighbor with chores like yard work raking leaves.

According to a study by Dacher Keltner, PhD, co-director of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkley, “being generous is a health booster and has shown to reduce the negative effects of stress and it also slows the heart rate, boosts immune function, and decreases the inflammatory response.”

Finally, another great reason for sharing your love, generosity and kindness is that it’s an oxytocin booster: this is the brain hormone known as the “super glue of love” which is a critical component to experiencing pleasure!

This summer please consider consciously choosing to add more love to the world. And start your own ripple!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


Desiring Love: It’s in Your DNA

Have you ever wondered why we humans seek a soulmate?

What is it about us that craves this deep connection to another?

Where does our yearning come from?

Are we genetically designed to be mated?

One fascinating and possible answer comes from Aristophanes, the acclaimed playwright and philosopher of ancient Athens.

He offers a wild tale that he shared at Plato’s Symposium about how the deep desire for Oneness came about.

Long, long ago in primal times people had doubled bodies: four arms, four legs, two heads and they were big and round….

These roly-poly creatures wheeled around earth like clowns doing cartwheels & were very powerful.

There were three sexes: the all-male, the all-female, and those who were half male, half female.

The males were said to have descended from the sun, the females from the earth and the androgynous couples from the moon.

The creatures tried to scale the heights of heaven and planned to set upon the gods.

Zeus thought about blasting them to death with thunderbolts but did not want to deprive himself of their devotions and offerings, so he decided to cripple them instead by chopping them in half with his sword, thus, in effect separating the two bodies. The severed halves were then scattered in opposite directions.

Aristophanes claimed that when two people who were torn apart from each other find each other, they never again want to be separated again from their soulmate, their other half.

When a half finally does meet its other half, they become deliriously happy and overjoyed with the promise of new love and delight. They believe, at least for a while, that they are complete now that they are back together and have now obtained “wholeness.”

So, whether you are single and seeking your “other half” or happily coupled up, now that just like we need food air and water to survive, we also desire love.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


p.s. If you desire to manifest your soulmate/life-partner and would like to start ASAP, check out my online course, The Love Codes.

Manifesting Your Best Summer Ever

After the more than a year of lockdown and the global nightmare we’ve all experienced, it’s time we dive into a summer of fun and celebration.

You deserve it.

Your family deserves it.

And, like all successful manifesting, we must begin with a clear vision of what our heart’s desire is.

Begin by thinking about all the things that represent summer to you: Activities, Food, Special events, things to see and do.

Since we don’t have any major vacations to Tuscany or Bali planned,

I desire my Summer 2021 to be a daily celebration of love, life, and lots of fun and I’m declaring that my Summer begins TODAY.

In no particular order, here’s what is on my list:

  • Wearing bright colors every day.
  • Anticipating the arrival of Rainier cherries (they are beyond delish)
  • Having lunch or dinner (or both) outdoors on the patio enjoying the warm breezes.
  • Planning to be with friends we haven’t seen in a year or more.
  • A walk on the beach at least once a week.
  • Perfecting my watermelon-lime tequila sorbet.
  • Attending at least three outdoor concerts including seeing Earth, Wind & Fire and Santana on June 17th.
  • A long weekend trip up the Coast to see friends in Los Angeles, Ojai and Santa Barbara.
  • Signing up for aqua aerobics class.
  • Practicing being a pleasure puppy EVERY DAY.

I want to encourage you to take time RIGHT NOW and make your Summer Fun wish list.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


Can You Be Fierce and Feminine?

Traditionally the word feminine has been defined as having qualities traditionally ascribed to women, such as sensitivity, gentleness, being demure, modest, or delicate.

This seems so limited and last mid-Century to me.

In my coaching I often come across women who don’t believe they have the right to ask for what they most want, need, and desire, feeling that if they do ask, they will either be rejected or seen as too aggressive.

This happens in both their business life and romantic relationships.


I believe that part of the problem comes from being raised on a diet of books and movies with the theme “let’s all become princesses” as we hope that someday Prince Charming will magically arrive and kiss us out of our comas.


Ladies, don’t you think it’s time to embrace your “Inner Queen” and step into your power and fierceness?

You can be feminine and be strong, proud, and ready to roar.

You have within you the innate ability to stand face to face with adversity and refuse to accept that showing emotion is a weakness. You can and do ask for what you need.

You can follow your intuition without overthinking everything and know what it takes to make your own happiness.

Today I want to encourage all the women reading this to declare yourself a Queen.

Queens know that they are generous with their love while maintaining great boundaries.

Queens are: Thoughtful, Sensual, Evolved, Gracious, Supportive, Confident and Accountable.

Queens are a safe space for her family, friends, and community.

Queens demonstrate exemplary and heroic qualities.

Most importantly they are heart-wired to the Divine and they have the audacity to do things that others only wish they could do.

Now straighten your crown and get out there and be the fiercely feminine Queen I know you can be.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


There’s No Shortage of Soup (or love or blessings)

How do you envision God, Goddess, the Universe or whatever “divine” being you pray to?

Sometimes when I’m in a goofy mood, and I hear someone tell me what’s not possible for them to manifest, I imagine that “being” is like the “Soup Nazi” on Seinfeld.

Remember him?

He was a cantankerous owner of a soup bar in New York City and when you placed your ordered, if you asked for anything extra or special, he would angrily yell, “No soup for you!”

God/Goddess/Universe is not checking a clipboard deciding what you can and cannot have but when you decide, in advance, what is or isn’t possible for you, it’s YOU that blocks the possibility.

I think one of the hardest things about manifesting is managing our judgmental, critical, untrusting monkey mind.

We have a desire for something and then we come up with a bunch of reasons why it can’t or won’t happen or that we don’t deserve it, or we can’t figure out “how” it will happen, and we end up taking a big stinky dump on our heart’s desire.

After studying and practicing the Law of Attraction for 36 years, I still have days when this becomes an issue for me too.

Here’s my process for busting through my limitations:

  1. I ask myself “why” I want what I want and if having my desire manifest will really provide me with my desired outcome.
  2. If the answer is yes, I find a way to feel as if what I have asked for is already mine and I practice experiencing on the internal plane the happiness, joy, satisfaction, etc that achieving this desire is giving me, even in this now moment, even prior to having it manifest in the 3D world.
  3. I share my goal/desire with my accountability partner along with taking appropriate action steps, to partner with the Universe in making it all happen, giving thanks and gratitude along the way.

This is not a one time, two-minute process but rather a daily practice (sometimes many times a day!).

Finally, it’s important to understand that there is a paradox to the Law of Attraction: While we need to have clarity and intention and action on the one hand, we must also remain surrendered and detached from the outcome, knowing that THIS or something better is on the way to us.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


Spend the Weekend with Me to Manifest Big Love

What I am about to say is going to shock or surprise you and yet I know for sure it’s true:

It has never been easier than it is today to manifest your soulmate.

There is no shortage of love in the world.

There is no shortage of people looking for life partners.

Big Love is possible for you and it requires knowing how to prepare your mind, body, soul and spirit for love, and MOST IMPORTANTLY, becoming a willing and active participant in your love life.

While many singles have had the experience that it’s “hard” or even “impossible” to find the ONE, I have a proven track record with my Soulmate Secret technique that truly works to manifest the love of your life.

We all have different learning styles. I learn fastest when I am in person with someone who is teaching me something new.

Watching videos doesn’t seem to work for me and while I can listen to audios, I tend to start drifting after 20 minutes (or less).

If meeting your soulmate/lifepartner is your #1 priority, and you are willing to invest one weekend of your life (in an actual paradise) to learn how to make it happen, then plan on joining me at stunning and serene Art of Living Center in Boone, NC September 24 – 26 and lets fast track your road to love!

This workshop goes way beyond the book and includes my newest and latest research on how to date and mate.

You already know that what you put your attention on grows.

When you spend an entire weekend focused on love, in a fun, inspiring, and uplifting space, you will shift your belief system and discover the techniques to magnetize the love of your dreams.

If your soul is calling for Big Love, come spend a magical weekend with me to make it happen!


Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


p.s. During this weekend we will cover:

  • Releasing Limiting Beliefs
  • Becoming a powerful Love Manifestor
  • Understanding & bringing out the best in Conscious Men
  • Dating strategies for success
  • Powerful rituals and a firepit ceremony
  • Mastering the Skills of Lasting Love
  • (and so much more!)

Let me guide you out of limiting beliefs, into possibility, and finally into the arms of your beloved.

Let Go of Relationship Clutter

Clutter. It blocks the flow of energy and gets in the way of manifesting our deepest desires.

We know how to unclutter the physical items in our lives and now, thanks to my friend Peggy Fitzsimmons, she is sharing with us today her views on letting go of relationship clutter. Enjoy!

“Our souls are inherently free and our true nature is love. And we also have ego minds that orient us towards self-preservation, lack, and scarcity. When the ego is in the driver’s seat, we relate from fear and separation. If conflict, competing, or power struggles are the norm in your relationships, your ego likely has a tight grip on the wheel. When you fail to treat yourself or someone else as a human being, your ego is present in that moment of relationship. In contrast, when the soul is in the driver’s seat, we relate from safety and connection. If your relationships are characterized by harmony, collaboration, and compassion, your soul is at the wheel. When you treat yourself or someone else with kindness, acceptance, and neutrality, your soul is present for that relationship moment.

The ego drives us to accumulate relationship clutter. Here are some examples:

  • I often feel less than, unworthy, or not good enough.
  • I think I know what’s best for other people.
  • I say yes to things that are not good or right for me.

Know Who You Are

Knowing our soul makes us less susceptible to the “fake news” of the ego, which relentlessly tries to convince us that we are not enough, others are not enough, and there is not enough. When we relate to ourselves as souls in human bodies, we recognize that just by being here on this planet, we are necessary and inherently worthy. We know we belong, and our unique light is needed to illuminate the world. We remember we are all spiritual beings, all connected and, at our core, the same.

Try this simple practice. When you wake up in the morning, look in the mirror and greet yourself as the wise, eternal, connected, loving being you really are. Imagine yourself expanding beyond your fear, your shame, your striving, your petty conflicts, and the feeling that something is missing. Stand tall and affirm “I am here for one purpose– to share my love with the world in my unique ways.” Watch how life changes when you regularly re-mind yourself about the truth of who you are, and the truth of who everyone else is too.

Build Your Self-Love Muscles

If you observe closely, you might notice that many of your everyday thoughts, feelings and actions don’t reflect a heart that loves itself. For example, do you criticize yourself harshly or disregard your own needs? Do you look for others to give you what you want, and end up disappointed when they don’t? Self-love is not a big, lofty thing. It happens in a moment.

To love yourself better, focus on what you can give to yourself. Take a rest when you feel tired. Eat some carrots instead of carrot cake. Say what you want to say instead of what you think someone else wants to hear. Put your dirty clothes in the hamper rather than on the floor. Do something for yourself before you tend to someone else. These radical acts of self-love build your self-love muscles, getting you in shape to love others more freely.

Hold the Space

Do you judge how others live their lives? Do you try to solve problems that aren’t yours to solve? When we interfere in someone else’s life, our ego is at the wheel, masquerading as our soul self. Interfering sends a message to the other person that we don’t trust them, or life itself.

Get curious about how you presume to know what’s best for someone else. Pay attention to where you give unsolicited advice or offer help that may not actually be helpful. Commit to be with others with your presence, not your solutions. Speak to them in your soul voice, rather than one that mirrors their ego mind; chastising, criticizing, fearing, doubting. Trust them to make their own decisions. And trust life enough to know that any choice they make will ultimately contribute to their soul’s growth.

Look for Love in All the Right Places

Are you chronically looking for love in all the wrong places? Do you put the burden on others to make you feel loved? Do you compromise yourself to get love? Do you mistakenly believe you can lose love? Do you fail to realize that when you’re lonely you are actually missing your (soul) self, not another person?

Love is your natural state. It originates in you, belongs to you, and exists wholly within you. It’s an inside job. Your responsibility is to come into presence and the truth of your soul, where your love can always be found. When were sourced from the inside in this way, rather than wanting or needing from others, we’re in position to share our love rather than our clutter in our relationships.

Remember, the ego is part of our human experience, but not all of who we are. When we are willing to stand in our soul nature, we are on the road to freedom.”

Peggy Fitzsimmons is a Ph.D. who has helped many people get their houses in order through intensive decluttering. She was a consulting producer on Oprah Winfrey’s Super Soul Sunday.

In her new book Release: Create a Clutter Free and Soul Driven Life, she shares spiritual and practical insights with readers who want to free themselves from clutter and live in alignment with their true soul nature.

Visit and pick up her powerful, transformative book today!

Get your copy here!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


Hitting the Wall and Not Giving Up

For the past two and a half years I have been working hard on writing my first novel. Along the way I have discovered how much I didn’t know that I didn’t know about writing fiction.
After publishing 11 non-fiction books, I considered myself a relatively talented writer.
Big mistake.
Imagine if you were a house painter who took up painting portraits and expected your first work to hang in a museum. That’s how big a difference this was for me. Oy.
I am so happy that I didn’t know how steep the learning curve was going to be or I would have never made the attempt.
A few days ago, I “hit the wall.” 
Marathoners will know exactly what I am talking about as most have experienced “hitting the dreaded wall” at Mile 20.
This is when your legs feel like heavy bricks, you’re exhausted, running on fumes, physically and emotionally miserable and quitting is a persistent thought.
In this ragged state, as I neared completing my book, all I could think about was giving up.
I allowed myself a few minutes to indulge the “giving up,” fantasy and then asked myself
a really, big question:
“Why did you begin writing this book in the first place?”
A torrent of answers rushed through me:
“I had no choice. The book was inside of me kicking and screaming to get out.”
“It is my destiny to tell this story and whether it’s read by 100 people or a million, this story provides a message of hope and healing.”
“In spite of this momentary pain and frustration, this book has been the greatest creative experience of my life.”
In the process of manifesting our heart’s desire, whether it’s finding Big Love, writing a book, finishing a marathon, climbing Kilimanjaro, starting a new business or something else, it’s super helpful to have a plan in place for the times when you “hit the wall.”
Here are a few tips you might be useful:
  • Set a reasonable pace for yourself. Whatever your goal is, create a timeline for yourself.
  • Runners know that if you run too fast at the start of the race, you burn out sooner.
  • Create a Mission Statement that outlines the reason you want to achieve a certain outcome and then look at it daily. If it’s love you are seeking perhaps it could read: “I am happy, satisfied and content sharing my life with my soulmate/life-partner.”
  • Have an accountability partner to track your progress. Research proves that when we are held accountable, we are 80% more likely to attain our goal.
  • Stay well hydrated with food, water, inspiration, selfcare and rewards. (fyi, I keep a bag of peanut M & M’s in my desk drawer. I eat five as a small reward on the days I reach my writing goal for the day.)
Finally, plan a big reward for reaching your goal. Each time a final manuscript of mine is “accepted” by my publisher, I buy myself a push present. Usually, it’s a beautiful piece of jewelry and when I wear it, I’m reminded of my big accomplishment.
Be kind to yourself and remember that “hitting the wall” is normal no matter what the goal, so have a plan for the days when you just want to give up and trust that you have the power and persistence to get to the finish line.
Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Are You Pushing Miracles Away?

Creating miracles in your life, manifesting your desires, and co-creating your dream life with the Universe is available to all of us once you learn the simple, but not always easy, steps, to success.

Sometimes we get in our own way.

There once was a woman who saw on the television that her neighborhood was about to be flooded and officials warned everyone should evacuate.

She believed that God would save her, thus she ignored the warning.

Then a city emergency worker knocked on her door and told her to leave for higher ground and she said no, “God will save me.”

Then the floods came, and she had to run up to the second floor to stay dry.

A boat soon came to her second story window to rescue her and she said no, “God will save me.”

Then the second floor flooded, and she ended up on the roof of her home.

A helicopter came and she said no, “God will save me.”

Then she was swept away by the rising water and drowned.

When she got to heaven she yelled at God and said, “why didn’t you save me?”

God said, I sent you a warning on TV, a warning to your front door, a rescue boat and a helicopter, why didn’t you listen?

I share this story with you today because I often see people, in their manifesting process, focused on a very specific outcome, not knowing whether or not that outcome will save them or really make them happy. This woman was solely focused on God reaching down from heaven to scoop her up and save her, when in fact, God was doing everything possible to keep her safe.

We must stay open to signs, symbols, and helpful people that cross our path.

It’s important to remember that our ultimate goal is happiness and satisfaction and allow room for surprises and even miracles to occur.

The road to manifestation is not always a straight line, and in the end, we may manifest something unexpected but much more fulfilling. This is why, when I am manifesting my heart’s desire, I also say a prayer ending with “thank you for fulfilling my desire or that which is in my highest and best good.”

Make room for surprises, and miracles always wrapped in gratitude.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


The Power of Love

Love is one of those words that gets used a lot but has so many different meanings. Love is a feeling, a sentiment, a behavior, an action, a way of being, and often the thing that has the capacity to heal almost every situation.
I don’t believe there is a shortage of love in the world, in fact I believe that just as there is more than enough air and water for all of us, there is an abundance of love. When we choose to consciously tap into the vast pool of love and share it with our world and the world around us, life is a better, safer, happier place for us all.
Here are wise words from a sermon by Rev. Michael Curry:
“The late Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. once said, “We must discover the power of love, the redemptive power of love. And when we discover that, we will be able to make of this old world a new world. Love is the only way.
There’s power, power in love. If you don’t believe me, think about a time when you first fell in love. The whole world seemed to center around you and your beloved. There’s power, power in love, not just in its romantic forms, but any form, any shape of love. There’s a certain sense in which when you are loved and you know it, when someone cares for you and you know it, when you love and you show it. It actually feels right. There’s something right about it. There’s a reason for it. It has to do with the source.
We were made by a power of love. Our lives are meant to be lived in that love. That’s why we are here.
Ultimately the source of love is God himself. The source of all of our lives.
There’s power in love to help and heal when nothing else can. There’s power in love to lift up and liberate when nothing else will. There’s power in love to show us the way to live…
Someone once said that Jesus began the most revolutionary movement in human history: a movement ground on the unconditional love of God for the world and a movement mandating people to live and love.
And in so doing, to change not only their lives but the very life of the world itself!
Think and imagine a world where love is the way. When love is the way, poverty would become history. When love is the way, the earth will be a sanctuary. When love is the way, we will lay our swords and shields down by the riverside to study war no more. When love is the way, there’s plenty of room for all of God’s children. When love is the way, we actually treat each other, well, like we are actually family. When love is the way, we know that God is the source of us all, and we are brothers and sisters and children of God. Brothers and sisters — that’s a new heaven, a new earth, a new world, a new human family.
Dr. King was right. We must discover love, the redemptive power of love. And when we do that, we will be able to make of this old world a new world.”
Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,