Start Each Morning With A Big Dose of LOVE

Several years ago on a trip to Bali, we were privileged to meet a very old, wizened Shaman who taught us a beautiful morning love process to bless, heal, and nourish my body, mind, and soul.  

This transformative process is a fantastic way to begin each day and I highly recommend it for everyone who desires to have more love in their life!

Here’s how to do it:

When you wake up, before getting out of bed, before checking your phone, or anything else…  lie in bed, with your eyes closed. and put a smile on your face.

As you are smiling, imagine that you are swallowing this smile.

Then see this smile as it gently passes through each part of your body. Place your hands on the part of the body as it is passing through as you feel the gratitude you have for this body part, and say “thank you” for the good health and strength it provides you.

When you have done this completely, from head to toe, place your attention (and your hands) on your heart and tell yourself how much you love and appreciate YOU.

Then imagine the Universe is beaming a giant stream of golden, sparkling love into your heart and filling you up on every level.

Next call up images of the people in your life that you most love, and feel yourself sending them a silent wave of “thanks” for their love and support, and wishing them a beautiful, loving day.

Now you will be ready to begin your new day filled with love for yourself and your loved ones! 

To make things easy for you, I have a free feelingization of this on my website to take you through the entire process….click below and then access

The Morning Love Raising feelingization.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

The Importance of Beauty

More than 30 years ago, a new friend invited me to her apartment for a visit.  As we sat in her cozy living room, she served me tea in a delicate china cup that was placed on a beautiful mahogany tray that held a tiny silver teaspoon, a small plate of petit fours, a shiny silver vase holding one perfectly shaped pink rose, and a white lace trimmed cloth napkin. I felt like I was having high tea with royalty!

I told her she shouldn’t have gone to all the trouble as I would have been just as happy with a mug of tea and a paper napkin. She smiled sweetly and said to me, “Darling, this is how I serve myself tea every day.” This elegant woman then explained to me that life is short and that we must insist on having as much beauty as possible in our lives, in every way possible.  

When I left her home I immediately went to Bed, Bath and Beyond and bought myself two trays, six linen napkins, two small matching vases to begin living beautifully myself. (Fortunately, I already had some inherited china teacups.) Since that day, when at home, I rarely use paper napkins.

A few years later I became friends with another woman, who worked mostly from home.  Whenever I would visit her, she was always meticulously turned out: hair, makeup, clothing, and jewelry to match. I asked her why she went to so much trouble since most days she never saw anyone else. She explained to me that she considered herself a work of art and each day she reveled in putting herself together as colorfully and stylishly as possible.

As someone who works from home, most days I am in my yoga pants, hair in a ponytail and makeup-free unless I have a Skype or Zoom interview, but at least a few days a week I make an effort to consider myself a work of art and invest a little more time into my appearance.

In Italy, one of my favorite place on earth, they actually have a lifestyle describing this, it’s called ‘bella figura’ and it basically means making every area of your life as beautiful as it can be.

I would love to know how you add more beauty to your life!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

How To Be A Powerful Manifestor

I just returned from a wonderful weekend teaching the Soulmate Secret Workshop at the beautiful Omega Institute.  It was so “Fall” like!  Crisp, chilly, weather with turning leaves in a variety of fiery colors, and a beautiful group of souls ready to manifest love.

One of the questions I was asked was “how did you become a master manifestor?”   It is an important and powerful question and applies to ALL forms of manifesting.  Here is what I know for sure:

Successful manifesting requires something akin to driving with your foot on the gas and the brake at the same time. On the one hand, we need to be clear about our intentions, and be able to feel in very cell of our body that what we have asked for IS already ours, and be willing to take action towards our goals. Simultaneously, we must stay detached from the outcome and live in a state of surrender. 

Now you might be thinking, “Whoa, that doesn’t make any sense!”

But it does.

Think of it this way: When the seeds of a flower have been planted, and the first leaves begin to sprout, the gardener doesn’t tug on the leaves every day to make the plant grow faster. They trust that Mother Nature knows how to grow all on her own, thank you very much.

There are many ways we approach manifesting our desire, whether it’s more money, a soulmate, a new career, or the perfect little black dress.

Some of us take the “if it’s meant to be it will just happen” approach. Others take charge and go into “make it happen” mode. I believe that it’s a combination of the two that is the winning ticket.

I believe that manifesting your heart’s desire has a certain amount of “meant-to-be-ness” to it… AND it requires a big dose of “make-it-happen-ness.”

Practicing intention, surrender, focus, and detachment coupled with trust, belief, knowingness, and patience is the recipe for success.

And I realize that this is a paradox….

How does one be both intentional and surrendered?

When I am being intentional, I have a clear feeling and picture of what my desire is AND I also am detached from the outcome.

I know and trust that life will continue to be great whether or not my desire is fulfilled.

I surrender to divine timing and to destiny (knowing this or something better is on the way) and my happiness and well-being isn’t dependent on having my wishes granted.

This is a daily “conscious” practice that requires emotional maturity and awareness. It’s worth the effort to master this practice, as it will give you freedom to be “with what is” while manifesting your deepest desires!

Those who successfully manifest have learned and surrendered to the fact that it’s not our job to know where, when, or how our desire will appear. We don’t have to micromanage every encounter or anticipate every detail. Our job is to simply prepare ourselves in body, mind, and soul and then relax into the knowledge that what we’ve asked for – wherever it may be at this moment – is on the way.

When you notice that you are in fear or doubt or disbelief that your desired outcome is on the way, allow yourself to spend three minutes or less fully feeling the worst of these negative emotions. Set a time and then dive in and exaggerate your fears and doubts. Make it really ugly. No positive thinking allowed! IF you do this you will soon begin to laugh because your rational mind will kick in, reminding you that these thoughts are just not true. Then, having released the pressure of the negativity, fill yourself back up with kind, loving affirmations that your desired outcome IS already yours and remember to be both intentional and surrendered!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

LOVE – Monkey See, Monkey Do!

You’ve probably heard the saying “what you put your attention on grows” and this is especially true when it comes to love.  If you desire MORE love in your life, you can it today!

In recent years, science has discovered that our brains are filled with something now known as mirror neurons.  These are a type of brain cell that responds equally when we perform an action and when we witness someone else perform the same action. 

For instance, let’s say you are watching a couple holding hands, snuggling or kissing – whether it’s in person, or on a TV or movie screen, your mirror neurons fire off the same synapses as they would if you yourself were doing the snuggling or kissing!

By paying attention and witnessing this act, you are training your brain to feel – empathize – with these emotions and your body, mind, and heart “learn” this behavior.

Whether you have someone to snuggle with or not, start seeking out ways to be in the presence of that you want to experience to have more of that!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Want to know MORE about mirror neurons? Here’s a less than 3-minute video that explains the science of it:

The Purpose of Marriage

According to my late sister Debbie’s favorite holy man, Rabbi Ezagui of Chabad La Jolla, marriage is the highest calling of mankind. He says:

“True love is loving the person for what they love, who they are, for what they stand for. If you go into a marriage loving what you love, not what they love, that is not love. Real love is not finding someone to hold your hand and find common ground with; the institution of marriage is to push you out of your comfort zone, to lift you up above what you need, so that you can provide what you’re needed for,” says Rabbi Ezagui.

Marriage is about finding out what you truly need. It also fulfills our need to be needed. Rabbi Ezagui quotes Rebbe Lubavitch, who said: “When you learn to love someone else as you love yourself, when you get to that level and you can truly authentically say that other person is me (at a soul level), that is the purpose of life.”

Rabbi Ezagui’s mentor Rabbi Mendl Futerfas claims that as long as the man treats his wife like a queen, he will be a king, an attitude that should be ingrained long before the wedding and carried on long after reality of life kicks in. People with strong marriages consider this idea as non-negotiable.

“Ultimately the purpose of marriage is to find in my soul what I am needed for,” explains the wise Rabbi.

Wow, now that is really deep. I think about it often….

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle


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Watch this super short video:

The Pink Lemonade Solution

Sh*$ happens.

It comes in many forms: illness, money issues, breakups, loved ones pass on (even worse, sometimes it all happens at once)!

Since we can’t control the ups and downs of life, we can discover empowering ways how to respond and react.

I’ve always loved that old saying, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade!”

When I am confronted and challenged with these darker times, I like to make “pink lemonade” – it’s about finding the blessings in the problem and also adding a huge dose of love to it.

Here’s my recipe:

1.  I acknowledge the breath and width of the issue. I don’t try to deny or suppress it, I let myself think about it, feel it and come up with coping strategies. But, I don’t wallow in it.

2.  I find support from a family member or friend. Someone I can “vent” to but who will also help me look for the “gold in the dark.”

3.  Creating a daily gratitude list keeps my attention on all the good in my life in spite of the current circumstances.

4.  I practice “living as if” where my actions reflect my belief that Universe always has my back. (I also call this being psychotically optimistic – a phrase from the beautiful Bela Gandhi.)

5.  SMILE. Science has shown that the mere act of smiling can lift your mood, lower stress, boost your immune system and possibly even prolong your life. My favorite technique is to stand in front of a mirror, smile and blow myself a kiss!

6.  Journal. I like to write and remind myself that I am a survivor and recount the past issues that troubled me, remember that I overcame (or survived) them and, in most cases, something really great came out of the experience.

SO, on your bad days, take those sour lemons, add in honey or stevia, and a big dose of love and let the “pink lemonade” soothe your soul.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Love and Death

The other day we were at the home of Maria Menunous where I was taping her Sirius radio show (it will air next month and then be available on her podcast).

We were standing in her garden while two beautiful yellow and black butterflies flew in tandem, circling us for several minutes in a beautiful dance.

I really felt as if those butterflies were friends from the other side saying hello, reminding me they were nearby…. I believe they send us signs and find ways to remind us that they truly are always with us….

Why is it that we always speak about the dead in the past tense… as if they are
no longer around? I truly believe that not only are they still around, but they are also looking for ways to connect with us.

After John Lennon died, someone asked Yoko Ono what that was like for her. She said, “Before John died, we were together 90% of the time. Now he is with me 100% of the time.

One thing I do know for sure is that love never dies….

For those of you that want assistance in your life, you can ask your loved ones on the other side for help (I explain how in my free book at www.loveontheotherside.com).

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Spiritual and Highly Sensitive People Have the Hardest Time in Love

Although this seems very counter-intuitive, I have found the highly sensitive and spiritual people (for now I will call you HSP’s) have the hardest time finding love and keeping love, especially women.

One of the biggest issues around this I have observed is that HSP’s are deeply feeling, not only their own feelings but the feelings of those around them. And sometimes they can’t discern between basic intuition and their own fears or projections. This can lead to making assumptions about someone else’s behavior or possibly do the opposite and they overlook their actions because they feel good around them.

My dear friend and love expert Carol Allen, is hosting a free webinar tomorrow, Wednesday, called “The Soulfully Sensitive Woman in Love” for women of any relationship status…

This is for you if:

  • You have a hard time “letting things go” or “shaking things off” when things don’t go well or as planned.
  • You’re extremely hurt by perceived rejection or when men “disappear” or “pull away” for a while and end up internalizing what happened and unfairly blaming yourself.
  • You take breakups extra hard and can take years to recover or let yourself like someone again – fearing that the risk is just too great to bear.
  • You take it all too hard – normal disappointments or problems seem insurmountable or “not worth it” so they get stuck and stay invisible.

Carol is a genius at helping women with these issues so don’t miss this opportunity to attend her FREE webinar.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

The Drug You Must Give Up to Manifest Your Dreams

My wise and brilliant friend, John Assaraf, recently wrote:

“The older I get (and hopefully wiser), I realize that some people are just happiest (or most comfortable) when they are miserable.

I know it’s an oxymoron but it’s true. As I travel the world sharing the lessons and specific strategies for achieving success, I come across so many people who prefer to be right vs. change and have what they say they want.

The drug of choice today is “Hopium” where people hope for things to get better and do nothing to help themselves and the inflammation disease that many suffer from is “Excuse-itis,” an inflammation of the excuse gland.

Success is about learning how to do the right things, in the right order at the right time… and then…. Just do it!”

I agree with John. I often see the same thing.

Sometimes, without consciously realizing it, we are addicted to suffering, trapped in our misery. Stuck in our story….the story that we think we just can’t have, or don’t deserve, what we most desire. Or, we are doing the same things over and over again, wishing for a different result, not realizing that it’s time for a radical change in approach.

If you been living on “Hopium,” or you need more inspiration and direction to manifest your heart’s biggest desire, NOW is the time to give up the Hopium pipe, to go cold turkey, and commit to making your dream(s) come true. (And I know some of you are tired, angry, and frustrated that it hasn’t happened yet…. Still not a good reason to give up.)

The steps are simple (but not necessarily easy):

  • Get absolute clarity on what you desire and how you will FEEL when it’s attained.
  • Commit time every day to be in the feelings of “dreams fulfilled.”
  • Take right action, even if it’s just daily baby steps.
  • Get an accountability partner.
  • Invest your time, energy, money, intention and attention to your dream.

Go for it. You deserve it.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. BE IN LOVE by the Holidays! Meet me for the last LIVE Soulmate Secret workshop of the year which includes a magical, powerful “fire ceremony” to release the past and propel you into your romantic future. Join me October 19-21st at the stunning Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY. DETAILS HERE.

How To Be The LeBron of Your Life!

This morning Brian and I were talking about NBA superstar, LeBron James, and what it took for him to achieve greatness…all the dedicated hours of practice, energy, focus, and most importantly, desire.

I realized that many of the same things apply to manifesting your hearts desire without as much sweat!

Are you ready to get into the GAME and finally win?

Let’s begin with DESIRE.

Ask yourself this question:

Why do I desire a soulmate (or a new career or that awesome Mercedes)?

Really get in touch with how you most want to feel with him or her or it.

Loved? Cherished? Adored? Successful? Fulfilled? Satisfied? Abundant?

Take a little time each day to really feel what it feels like to experience this level of love or whatever. (and use your imagination!)

For those of you who are really BUSY, it’s important to accept that manifesting your desires requires you to invest some time.

This includes times to do the manifestation steps, the feelingizations, etc.

Nature abhors a vacuum.

Create the time in your calendar today to be filled up by your action steps.

Manifesting also has a monetary cost involved, an investment.

If you are serious about fulfilling your heart’s desire, now is the time to make the investment of time, money and energy! Go for it…. be like LeBron!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle