Knowing When To Shut Up

Lately I’ve been craving silence. Silence in my surroundings and silence in my own internal world. The craziness of the world between politics and Covid and everything else, has generated so much noise, especially the noise of my opinions and everyone else’s. The other day I saw these words on Instagram (@buddha.says) that blew me […]

The Alchemy of Tragedy

I wasn’t born an optimist. In fact… quite the opposite. I was a moody, sullen, often seriously depressed child and young adult. One night, at age 26, I decided that I was going to find the secret of happiness. I was at a party in Coconut Grove, Florida, at the waterfront home of a millionaire, […]

26 pounds, a muffin top, and true happiness…

Thirty-six years ago I was obsessed with the ambition to attain physical perfection. I had this idea that if I could weigh a certain amount, have my measurements be an exact number, have my hair the best length and all ten of fingernails “long” at the same time, I would be perfect and with that […]

Making Room For Surprises & Miracles

There once was a woman who saw on TV that her neighborhood was about to be flooded and the officials said everyone should evacuate. She believed that God would save her, and she ignored the warning. Then a city worker knocked on her door and told her to leave for higher ground and she said […]

Catch A Wave (In Spite of the Wobble)

The first thing I see out my window each morning are the surfers. We live across the street from South Bird Rock, the best “break” in San Diego and only the most expert surfers dare to ride here. Not only do you have to be an advanced surfer, you also have to hike down a […]

Staying Centered and Sane in A Crazy World

Lately many of my conversations with friends have been around just how stressed out everyone is. More than normal. Anxiety. Fear. Depression. Uncertainty. All seem to be rampant. My theory is that we all have our “usual” mishigosh to deal with and now, with all the troubles in the world, we’re also feeling the collective […]

What’s Your Love Language?

After I got married I found out there is something so much more important than being “right.” It’s being “loved.” I discovered that when I was committed to being “right,” it always meant making someone else “wrong.” As you know, feeling wrong does not go well with feeling loved. So many of us like to […]

Don’t Fall for the BS about this!

There is an axiom that’s been circulating in the personal development world for years now that says we are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with (attributed to Jim Rohn and others). And I say its Bull Sh$t. (and some have a $100k a year program to make sure you […]

Love, Attraction, & Gray Hair!

Gray hair getting you down? Here’s some science based good news! Whether you are dating or partnered, according to a joint study between psychologists from the University of St. Andrews and the University of Liverpool, a more mature appearance is exactly what some men find the most attractive. (“Mature” is code for gray hair in […]

Is it time to Scare Yourself?

I am in the midst of a new project, something I’ve never attempted before, and I’ve been keeping a journal of the process. I promise to share all about it at that right time but for today here’s what I want you to know. Over the weekend I read my journal and I had forgotten […]