Why Your Dream Is Already A Reality

The core basis of my belief and understanding about manifestation (whether you are manifesting love, a car, a new career, or a new little black dress) is this:

 

There is no “time.” The past, present, and future all happen simultaneously.

 

When we have a desire for something, it’s because some part of us “already knows that this is possible for us,” on an unseen level.

 

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Your dream is not some random thing out there some where, it is already in existence, calling upon you to dream it into your existence.

 

To do this, we must be willing to own and embrace the dream or desire and then take the necessary, appropriate action steps to bring it into 3-D reality.

 

The secret sauce for this is what I call feelingizations, a process to get out of your head and into your heart to deeply feel that what you have asked for IS already yours.

 

In 1944, Max Planck, the father of quantum theory, explained that there is a Universal field of energy that connects everything and everyone and he called this the Divine Matrix.

 

According to my amazing friend, Gregg Braden, author of The Divine Matrix: Bridging Time, Space, Miracles and Belief:

 

“The Divine Matrix is our world.

It is also everything in our world.

It is us and all that we love, hate, create and experience.

Living in the Divine Matrix, we are as artists expressing our innermost passions, fears, dreams and desires through the essence of a mysterious quantum canvas.

But we are the canvas, as well as the images upon the canvas.

We’re the paints, as well as the brushes.

In the Divine Matrix, we are the container

Within which all things exist, the bridge between

The creations of our inner and outer worlds,

And the mirror that shows us what we have created.

In the Divine Matrix, you are the seed of the miracle as well as the miracle itself.”

 

Remember the key to manifesting is to feel as though your dream or desire is accomplished and your prayers are already answered.

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

 

Arielle

Are You In A Season of Love Or Loneliness? What To Do…

I have always found Vedic Astrology to be a useful tool in understanding how the planets are impacting my life and helpful in making decisions.  More often than not, it provides a good explanation from what I am intuitively feeling about how things are going.  One of my favorite astrologers is my dear friend and love expert, Carol Allen.  She recently sent out a newsletter about the impact that Saturn is currently having on love relationships (whether you are in one or seeking one!)  I invited her to share her wisdom with you today.  Please enjoy:

 

CarolAllenAs an astrologer, two kinds of clients seek my services: singles wanting to know exactly WHEN, WHERE and HOW they’ll meet their soulmate.

 

(And their name and phone number…)

 

And couples frustrated with their relationship, wondering how to make it better (or if they should run…).

 

Usually it’s not their fault – the singles are astrologically “blocked” from finding true love and the couples are feeling especially challenged – for the time being – by the most notorious of all planets, SATURN.

 

When Saturn takes “center stage” in your stars it creates a “lonely, loveless” phase, wrongly causing you to feel defective or even cursed…

 

If you’re thinking, “That’s how I feel! Doomed to suffer in love forever – like the Universe HATES me!”

 

Let me be so brazen as to speak on behalf of the Universe…

 

It doesn’t hate you – in fact, you’ll look back on this time as one of the most important, powerful of your life…

 

When you grow the most, and become the best partner you can, ensuring that when love DOES come, you’ll be truly ready – or take your current relationship to the “next level.”

 

There’s a bigger “plan” you just can’t see yet…

 

These are clues you’re in a “Cycle of Saturn”:

 

  1. You’re running in place financially and socially – or going into debt
  2. You’re unusually burdened by responsibilities and losses
  3. You’re feeling rejected by or separated from those you love most

 

Saturn teaches us we aren’t super-human; we need to ask for help and grow up and “correct” anything not working in our lives.

 

Giving up bad habits, improving our skills, and seeking out expert support are all things that make these cycles some of the most life-changing and helpful ever.

 

Turning to spiritual practices (like those in Arielle’s awesome books!) and self-care can actually make this a very meaningful, positive time.

 

Especially cultivating healthy spiritual detachment (this, too, shall pass!) and gratitude are key – and honoring yourself and what you need.

 

To determine if and when YOU are in a love-blocking “Cycle of Saturn” check out a personalized, 30-year report to tell you all of this and more, including:

  • How to make the most of the many different phases and versions of these cycles so you can prepare and avoid problems.
  • What to do in a particularly bad cycle of Saturn so that you don’t expose yourself to even MORE heartache and disappointment.
  • When Saturn is on your side, helping to foster more love, abundance, and good fortune.

You can find out in mere minutes when you order your custom, guaranteed “Cycle of Saturn” report right now at this link.

 

Don’t sit around wondering if there’s something wrong with you, and when you’ll FINALLY feel better about your life, your romantic prospects, or relationship…

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

 

Arielle

Prayers for Love & Resolution

UnknownEven in the best relationships, there are days when the you-know-what hits the fan and communication breakdowns and hurt feelings seem overwhelming. For times like this I pray for clarity and guidance.  I’ve often wished I had a book full of prayers for every conceivable situation and finally one has appeared!

 

My dear friend, Sonia Choquette, has written the exact book I have been wishing for.  It called: Uplifting Prayers to Light Your Way, 200 Invocations for Difficult Times.  This book is a powerfully soothing companion when facing challenging moments in life. Each beautiful prayer immediately calms inner storms, awakens the light within, and reconnects you with the ever-loving presence of God. It is a gift of light and love to own, to share, and to reach for any time you feel lost or uncertain.

 

Here are just two of the two hundred prayers:

 

Loving Fully

Holy Mother-Father God,
Divine Loving Light and Heart of the Universe,
I humbly ask for the healing power of your grace
to keep my heart fully open, even though I know it
may be broken if I do. Grant me the grace to love with
the entirety of my being, even if my love is not returned.
Grant me the courage to love fully, even when
my beloveds do not receive my love. Please send in
your angels to help me love myself through it all, no
matter what. I thank you in advance, with my whole
heart and soul, for answering my prayer and offering
these blessings.
Amen and with infinite gratitude.

 

Resolving Differences

Holy Mother-Father God,
Divine Loving Light and Heart of the Universe,
I humbly ask for the healing power of your grace
to help me find peace with those people in my life
with whom I can’t seem to get along. I pray that we
can let go of our differences and find understanding
and acceptance in place of the strife and animosity we
now have between us. Please send in your angels to
help pave a bridge of mutual respect so that we may
meet in the middle and come to a place of peaceful
cooperation. I thank you in advance, with my whole
heart and soul, for this healing.
Amen and with infinite gratitude.

 

This book is filled with deeply healing invocations that calm your spirit, re-connect you to God, and lead you to inner peace and strength, no matter what difficulties you may be facing right now. Reach for it at any time you feel uncertain, ungrounded, afraid, or unloved and it will immediately soothe and reassure your soul. You can buy it here!

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

 

Arielle

Be A Pleasure Pig

Our cat Yoda is nicknamed “the pleasure pig.” Yoda demands massive amounts of attention, belly rubs, cheek scratches, and snacks of his favorite baby food, which we called “Yoda’s Crack.” The other day I was watching Brian give Yoda his yoga stretching massage and was silently wishing that I was as good at demanding pleasure as Yoda is!

Yoda Bri

I think it’s safe to say that there is always room in life for more love and more pleasure. And, whether you have a partner or not, there are lots of ways to activate and create more loving and pleasurable feelings.

Here’s how:

When you want to feel more love, you can consciously do it by actively releasing the hormone oxytocin into your brain. Known as the “bonding” chemical, oxytocin is really good for you. According to love master Dr. John Gray, women need to constantly rebuild their “oxytocin” levels. Oxytocin is the bonding hormone essential for women in their ability to give and receive love.

Taking time for mani-pedi’s, getting your hair done, receiving massages, taking long, warm bubble baths, listening to music, dancing, walking in nature, a quiet cup of tea, a perfect piece of chocolate (or your favorite treat)….these are a few ways to add pleasure to your daily life that also rebuild oxytocin.

Oxytocin can be generated lots of ways and the more you have, the better you will feel. Not surprisingly, it plays a big role in producing orgasms.

Stress is one of the main reasons we become depleted in oxytocin, so taking simple steps to rebuild it is necessary to maintain a happy, healthy lifestyle.

It’s well known that a simple hug, gazing into the eyes of someone you care about or petting your dog or cat will also boost your oxytocin level. And, going shopping also does the trick. Even if you don’t buy anything, just looking and touching beautiful items makes a difference.

My personal “pleasure recipe” includes a daily bath with aromatherapy, an early morning walk with my husband, and one-on-one time with my cat. If I have a particularly stressful day, I have a special CD of favorite dance tunes that I crank up in my office and I dance and sing (all by myself) until I feel the endorphins surging through me.

If consciously adding pleasure to your daily life doesn’t come naturally to you, I would suggest a little experiment: For the next 7 days, decide to add at least 15-20 minutes of pleasure…all for you. By taking the time to add pleasure to your life, you will be calmer, happier, and more receptive to enjoying and attracting love at every level.

And, as you create your To-Do list, put YOU on the top of that list, then let me know what happens!

Remember, what you put your attention on grows. Add more pleasure and oxytocin to your brain and your life to add more love on every level and become a pleasure pig like Yoda!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

3 Keys To Being a GREAT Soulmate

We all know that nurturing and growing Big Love requires us to be present with our partner and to consciously provide them with our love, time, affection, appreciation, and heaps of kindness. And in order to do that, it’s necessary to remember that we first need to fill up our own tank.

Big LoveToday is a gentle reminder that self-love and self-care are essential components of Big Love.

Here are 3 golden keys to consider:

1)     Write yourself a lavish love letter. Acknowledge all your goodness and thank your body, mind and spirit for all the ways it supports your life and your soul.

2)     Take plenty of “me” time, then go and do fun, new, playful activities with yourself. Anything that brings you happiness!

3)     Build your oxytocin levels (the bonding hormone) by giving and getting more hugs, getting mani/pedi’s, going shopping (you don’t have to buy, just touching and feeling beautiful things works), getting a massage, having your hair done, or hanging out with friends, all of these work!

When you put yourself and your partner FIRST, nobody comes in second!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

It’s OK to go to bed angry

I’ve just returned from a fabulous five-day visit to Rancho La Puerta in Tecate, Mexico where I attended a meeting of the Transformational Leadership Council with about 100 friends. We spent our days hiking, exercising, having spa treatments, eating healthy organic food and listening to presentations from some amazing experts in the personal growth field.

One of our speakers, Dr. Pepper Schwartz, author of Snap Strategies for Couples: 40 Fast Fixes for Everyday Relationship Pitfalls, shared some really useful relationship tips including her belief about the old myth “couples should never go to bed angry.”

Now this probably sounds counter intuitive, but Pepper says that fighting when we are exhausted and tired can (and often does) lead to what she calls “escalating.” This is when you say extreme things and make decisions that can ultimately destroy your relationship. She says it’s better to go to bed mad, get a good night’s sleep and revisit the issue the next day when you are both rested and thinking more clearly.

Pepper is a well-known and highly respected Professor of Sociology at the University of Washington, where she teaches classes on human sexuality and intimate relationships and she is also the author of 22 books.

One of the other “myths” she busted for couples is the honesty is the best policy one. She believes that “confessions” are for criminals and priests and that complete honesty is both cruel and destructive. If you have done something that you feel must be “confessed” she recommends doing it with a professional.

One of the most important components of a long and happy relationship is kindness. While this may seem obvious, it’s the daily practice of kindness that must be remembered. Before the words leave your mouth, ask yourself, “Is what I am about to say true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?”

Why?

Because once you say something, it can never be “unsaid.”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Love Will Find You

The first time I met Alex Garrett, he was seven years old and chatting me up during my book signing in NY’s east village. He very articulately explained his plans to become a sports broadcaster and I quickly learned what a remarkable human being he is. Today, at age 23, he indeed works in the radio biz on AM 970 and AM 570.

Last year Alex was having a typical day rollerblading through New York City on his one leg, when he was photographed for the website www.HumansofNewYork.com. Jordan Farr, a fan of the site, saw Alex’s photo, read his story, tracked him down via Facebook and sent him a message saying, “I can’t even roller blade on two legs.” Intrigued, Alex wrote her back.

“When she responded the second time with a bubbly message and started telling me about herself, I knew that she was what I was looking for in a woman, someone who can be as open with me as I am with her.”

Alex arranged a meeting and discovered a woman who is ‘quirky and fun’ and says “I instantly fell in love with her.”

After their first date he told his friends, “Guys, this girl is truly amazing.”

Upon meeting Alex, Jordan’s response was, “Oh, he’s so cute and such a bad ass! (in a good way).”

They have now been together for nearly a year.

“She is my soulmate and she has it all, brains, beauty and fun,” says Alex.

You never know when, where, or how, you will meet your soulmate, but I promise you this: it won’t be when you are sitting at home alone on the couch watching reality TV.

Get out there.

Get visible.

Pay attention to the ones that are paying attention to you.

And remember this TRUTH I learned from my grandmother:

“There is a lid for every pot!”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

3 Ways Menopause CAN improve Your Love Life

My good friend, Ellen Dolgen, is on a mission to educate women about menopause, and today she has graciously shared with us an important message. Please enjoy!

 

Hand me a microphone, ladies! I’ve got an announcement – menopause can improve your love life!

Ellen DolgenSure, when I entered peri-menopause, I never thought I’d say that. Like many women, I was irritable, sweaty, sleepless, and felt like a permanent fog had taken over my brain. Not to mention my vagina suddenly fled to the Sahara desert. Yes, it was dry and parched! I had no idea what was happening-let alone how to get the help I needed.

I learned that what I was experiencing wasn’t just normal. It was fixable!

Here are three ways to throw your love life into high gear:

1.    Be Confident

My menopausal journey has given me the most attractive quality around: confidence. I love myself. To be the woman I want to be, both for the people I love and for myself, I have learned to put myself at the top of my To-Do List. I take care of myself with the same commitment with which I care for my family and friends!  Confidence is sexy! It has unleashed joy and a renewed sense of self and freedom.

2.   Shed Your Inhibitions

“Women always try to tame themselves as they get older, but the ones that look best are often a bit wilder. Thinking about age all the time is the biggest prison women can make for themselves,” Miuccia Prada once said. Get wild – be free and uninhibited in and out of the bedroom.Explore new places to make love – every room offers new opportunities.   Try out some new positions and sensual stimulation (candles, toys, massage oils, lingerie just to name a few). The sky is the limit! Let loose!

3.   Have A Happy Vagina

I’m not about to stay hush-hush about my vagina. It’s a beautiful part of me and as such I’ve learned to listen to my vagina.If you find that you’re all lubed up and sex is still “meh,” it’s time to find-and treat-the root cause of any pain.

Communication is the key to any healthy relationship, so don’t be embarrassed to tell your partner what you need in and out of the bedroom! Spice it up!

In fact, research published in the American Journal of Medicine shows that women’s sexual satisfaction actually tends to increase with age, even despite the hormonal throws of menopause.

When you are selfish in the sack, your partner doesn’t have to worry that you’re not enjoying yourself-he can see that you are! Be greedy and both of you will have better sex. Yes, please!

Take responsibility for your own orgasm – you are deserving of pleasure! Explore your own body and then tell your partner what feels good for you. BTW faking orgasms will guarantee that your sex life with your partner will not improve. Remember, you are deserving of pleasure, so be honest (not mean!) and you can increase your chances for a fulfilling sex life for both of you.

Ladies, it’s time to take back our bedrooms! During our menopausal years, our sex lives have so much from which they can benefit: a strong sense of self, deep relationships, and bodies we actually know how to use! “The big O” does not mean “the big Ouch.” Nip your vaginal dryness in the bud and you’ll really have something to celebrate. Recapture the rapture in bed.

 

Be sure to download Ellen’s new FREE eBook, MENOPAUSE MONDAYS: The Girlfriend’s Guide to Surviving and Thriving During Perimenopause and Menopause for more tips!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Getting Clean with Iyanla Van Zant

Iyanla Van Zant glided into the room chanting words of love and truth on a blanket of beautiful music. The crowd of more than a thousand welcomed her with a standing ovation and the fun began at the Chicago Celebrate Your Life event a few weeks ago.

IyanlaThis was my first time hearing her at a live event and she knocked my socks off. She is as funny as Jerry Seinfeld, as deep and soulfully wise as Jean Houston and as mesmerizing as Marianne Williamson.

What a treat to be in her presence!

She talked a lot about the hard work of building trust in order to build the faith necessary to manifest our good. She stressed the importance of learning to trust your self and learning to trust God.

She calls God her “Sugar Daddy!” (I love that)

Iyanla implored us to forgive ourselves for thinking we have ever done anything wrong and, in spite of bad or poor choices and decisions in the past, we must remember that we have survived.

She explained that “trust is a knowing and faith is a demonstration of what you know.”

Iyanla also shared about losing her beautiful daughter to colon cancer more than twelve years ago. In moments of grief, her daughter, who she calls an “angel of light,” sent her messages to release the “physicality” and told her “I am right here.”

She explained how the pain of losing a child never goes away but it does get easier and you can and must allow yourself to be happy.

Iyanla came to understand the meaning and purpose of the early departure of her daughter’s physical body and chose to honor her by continuing her work with essential oils, combining them with herbs that are designed to facilitate healing and restore balance to the body, mind and spirit.

She advocates cleaning and clearing how we think, what we feel, and what we believe, do, and expect by using these amazing products that are made with African black soap.

I’ve been using them and can tell you they are awesome. We all get “slimed” on a daily basis by our own thoughts and beliefs as well as being in the energy of others. With these products you can clear these energies and infuse yourself with the ability to attract goodness into your life. Check them out at www.MasterPeaceBodyWash.com

You can get your own dose of Iyanla later this year when her show, Iyanla, Fix My Life! premieres on Oprah’s OWN network September 19th.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

What’s In The Way of Love?

When it comes to having more LOVE in your life, total clarity on how you desire to feel is the first step.

For those of you who are hyper focused on the “form” your love comes in, I am inviting you to shift into the “feeling space” and for just now, let go of your wish list regarding the physical form (on all levels) you think you need. (The Divine may have something in mind for you that is beyond your ability to conceive of right now.)

Here’s a little exercise to try every morning for the next week that will assist you in having and feeling more love in your life.

When you begin to wake up, before you even open your eyes, imagine that your life is filled with more love than you ever thought possible.

Using your imagination, begin to sense all the loving people in your life from soulmates to friends to family to pets (and don’t forget yourself!)

imagesIn this moment, how are you feeling?

Loved? Happy? Safe? Serene? Excited? Relieved? Filled with gratitude? Content?

Allow yourself to experience the depth of your positive emotions for all the love connections in your life.

In your mind, whisper to each of them words of love, appreciation and gratitude for all the ways they enrich your life.

You do not need to know how or when this reality came to be, just feel the deliciousness of their divine presence and breathe them in.

Thank them for the gift of sharing a life with you.

Tell them that you now know and trust that they are always with you.

Beam your love to each of them.

Put a big smile on your face, swallow the smile and let it land in every organ of your body, and when you are ready, gently open your eyes and begin your day.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. Join me for the Soulmate Secret Weekend Workshop, at Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, July 10-12th. This workshop goes beyond the book, and includes new transformative feelingizations and a fire-ritual to kick start your love life into high gear! This stunning, holistic, rural retreat center is two hours north of NYC.  More info here!