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When Being Right Is SO Wrong!

Posted by Mar 10, 2015 , , Leave a Comment

I am a recovered “need to be right” person.

I grew up in an era and a home where “being right” was highly valued.

From my first days in school, I saw that raising your hand and having the “right” answer meant you were smart.

At home “being right” meant being loved for being smart.

I was brainwashed into believing that when I was “right” I was good enough to be loved.  Quite the ego boost!

Wow, was I wrong.

As I grew up and matured, I found out there is something so much more important than being “right.”

Art by www.sharronkatz.com
Art by www.sharronkatz.com

It’s being “loved.”

I discovered that when I was committed to being “right” it always meant making someone else “wrong.”

So many of us like to assume a rigid stance and “dig in our heels” to fight for our point of view, and prove how “right” we are (often about some pretty stupid stuff).

The cost of needing to be right is hurting, harassing or humiliating the ones we claim to love the most.

Over the years, I have finally learned to manage my mind and my mouth.

I’ve learned that most of the time it’s not necessary to “correct” anyone on what I think is right or wrong unless it’s really pertinent to someone’s well-being.

Now, when I am smart enough to “catch” myself, and I am about to blurt out something in order to be “right,” I slap some imaginary masking tape over my mouth and choose love instead.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

The Magic of A Bucket List

Posted by Mar 3, 2015 , , , , Leave a Comment
The Magic of A Bucket List

About one year ago Brian and I were talking about the best concerts we have ever been to. I realized that I had never seen one of my all time favorite singers perform live….the amazing Stevie Wonder! In that moment, I declared that going to a Stevie Wonder concert was the #1 item on my bucket list. Six months later, I was reading the Los Angeles Times and came across a story for his upcoming concerts. We immediately bought 3rd row center seats.

What a night that was.

Best concert I’ve ever seen.

It exceeded all my dreams of seeing Stevie Wonder live in concert.

Having a bucket list is different from daily or yearly goals. It fulfills a big dream and creates an experience and warm memories that will last a lifetime.

Bri & Ari Bali gardenFor many years, visiting Bali was on my bucket list. I had heard about it, seen photos, and of course read about it in Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Eat, Pray, Love.

Three years we ago we went for the first time. Not only is Bali the most beautiful place I’ve ever been, spending time there provided me with unexpected and magical things I never anticipated.

Bali is a very spiritual island in Indonesia that is made up of Hindu’s who pray every day. These are happy, smiling, friendly people who seem to exist to make others happy. The weather is tropical, the food delicious, and the terrain and sites are like eye-candy.

I had expected the trip to be a fun and relaxing vacation, but I was blown away by how just BEING in Bali transformed me.

Energetically, this is a very special place.

The lack of density, the gentleness, the soothing energy and vibes, healthy food, and inherent mysticism of Bali took me to a deep, profound, healing and relaxing space. Prior to arriving there, I knew that I was stressed out, but what I didn’t know was how emotionally, physical and mentally depleted I was.

Bali wdancersBali changed my life.

Being there allowed me to “remove” all kinds of energies and beliefs that were holding me back and transformed my life for the better. Which led to unexpected amounts of creativity, better health and prosperity.

“Creating a transformative workshop in Bali” went to #1 on my bucket list.

Guess what happened next? I received an invitation from two women who have spent the last 20 years producing sacred journeys and workshops in Bali (asking to meet with us about the possibility of creating a workshop there). After learning about their successful experiences and meeting them, seeing and feeling the love they bring to their events, Brian and I agreed to do this!

We have named it: Manifest Your Biggest Unmet Dream (even if you don’t know what it is) Magical Mystery Tour of Bali.

We’d love for you to join us August 29 – September 6, 2015.

We will also be hosting a teleconference to share more details on March 12th at 5pmPT /8pmET. Sign up here for the call.

Or, if you are ready to just say YES TO BALI, go here: www.heartlabtours.com.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Someone To Grow Old With

Posted by Mar 5, 2013 , , , , , Leave a Comment

In the movie, Shall We Dance, starring Richard Gere, Jennifer Lopez and Susan Sarandon, there is a terrific scene where Sarandon ‘s character is sitting at a bar explaining to a stranger why being married is important.  She says,

“We need a witness to our lives.  There are billions of people on the planet…I mean, what does any one life really mean?  But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything – the good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things – all of it, all the time, every day.

You’re saying, “Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it.  Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness.”

For the 65% of Baby Boomers who are married, this ideal of marriage probably resonates. We DO want someone to share ourselves with and to eventually grow old with.  Even for those Boomers who have divorced, most seek to remarry… to find a new lover, best friends, and partner for life.

But things are changing.

There is a disturbing trend happening today around marriage and commitment. One study shows that 39% of Americans say that marriage is becoming obsolete. It appears that marriage has lost its appeal for the younger generations, especially the Millennials (the 18-29-year-olds).  They are pro-parenthood but anti-marriage.

According to Pew Research Center, right now 61% of births to women 20-24 are out of wedlock while one in three births for women 25-29 are to unwed mothers.

Why?

According to Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse, president of the Ruth Institute for Marriage and Family:

“Women don’t think men are necessary.  Therefore, they are unwilling to go to the effort required to be in a relationship with a man.”

Clearly these are women who have not experienced the beauty and magic of a relationship that works.  A relationship where two people choose to share a life together and to make a commitment to work through all the ups and downs, good days and bad days.

What will it take to convince the younger generation that marriage isn’t obsolete? I think they need to hear from those who are happily married all the reasons why they find marriage valuable.  Role models are needed and necessary, and clearly at this point in time, missing….

We’ve become a disposable society, not just with our trash, but also with the people in our lives.  If a relationship becomes difficult we declare, “this isn’t working for me” and move on.  We treat our cars better than people.  At least with our cars we know and expect that they need regular maintenance – the oil needs changing, the tires rotating and brakes need replacing.  And yet, even with the people closest to us, so many of us seem unwilling to put in a little time, energy and effort into working through our issues.

I believe a big part of this problem is that we aren’t born with the innate knowledge on how to make a relationship work and our partners don’t come with an “owner’s manual.”

Here’s the bottom line….we’re all going to get old someday.

We can do it alone or we can make the effort to manifest a soulmate and then nurture them and have a best friend to share our golden years with.  Even if you haven’t met “the one” yet, it’s never too early to learn the needed skills so that you can experience Big Love.

As that commercial says, this is an experience that is “priceless.”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. The good news is that all the tools and tips we need to create an extraordinary, deep, loving, juicy relationship ALREADY EXISTS!

I spent the last six months researching and interviewing the top love and relationship experts on the planet for my Art of Love Series, which recently concluded.  These powerful love luminaries included John Gray, don Miguel Ruiz, Alison Armstrong, Neale Donald Walsch, Jack Canfield, Marianne Williamson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Helen Fisher, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Gay & Katie Hendricks, Jean Houston and more.

If you didn’t have a chance to tune in for this, don’t despair.  You can own the entire series for a special 50% off price ($97 or four payments of $25) that is in effect until Midnight pacific time on March 7th.  Click here for all the details

Monkey Mind Management 101

Posted by Jan 29, 2013 , , , , , , Leave a Comment

We’ve all been there…..the days when we spiral down convinced that life just isn’t going our way… that we are undeserving of love, or the new job, or the thing we are most wishing for.

Our mind goes into overdrive, some would call it a negative feedback loop, and we keep replaying the negativity over and over again, convinced our mind is telling us the truth.
BUT….just because you have a thought does not mean it’s true!

It’s up to us to begin to manage our thoughts and emotions and there are ways to do this but it requires a little time and attention.

When you find yourself having negative thoughts, try these techniques:

1)    Stop what you are doing and acknowledge to yourself what you are thinking…internally (or out loud) say “cancel-cancel.”

2)    Then take time to do a feelingization (go to www.soulmatesecret.com and scroll down to the Love Magnet video) to move from your monkey mind to your heart and begin to feel love, appreciation and gratitude.  Remember, you attract MORE of what you are grateful for!

3)    Now create a positive affirmation that FEELS GOOD IN YOUR BODY.  Statements such as: I am a kind and loving being or I am grateful for all the love in my life right now.  Whatever statement feels most natural to you.  Write these on post-it notes and place where you can look at them daily.

I want to suggest that those of you who truly, deeply desire a soulmate that you begin to let go of your doubts of what is possible for you…..remember that the word “impossible” is really “I’m possible.”

One of my favorite quotes in Wayne Dyers book, WISHES FULFILLED, is from the great teacher, Neville, who said “Make your future dream a present fact by assuming the feeling of the wish fulfilled.”

I strongly encourage you to write this down and look at it daily. You deserve love and the one you are seeking is ALSO seeking you.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,
Arielle

P.S. Manifesting the soulmate is the first step, learning how to keep and grow the LOVE is step two – get ready now with The Art of Love Relationship Series (no cost to participate). Love luminaries such as John Gray, don Miguel Ruiz, Alison Armstrong, Neale Donald Walsch, Jack Canfield, Marianne Williamson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Helen Fisher, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Gay & Katie Hendricks, Craig Hamilton, Claire Zammit, Debbie Ford, Jean Houston and more show you how.
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The Art of Love

Posted by Jan 22, 2013 , , , , , , Leave a Comment

While I realize that many of you have your attention manifesting a soulmate…..have you thought about “once you are in the relationship” if you have all the necessary skills to navigate the days when things get a little bumpy or dare I say it, even a little boring?

As a first-time bride at age 44, I went into my soulmate relationship with no partnership skills…oy…and I learned how to have a great relationship through trial and error.  But, you don’t have to do it this way!

For the past few months I have been super busy programming a no-cost 10-day, online series called The Art of Love where I have the honor and privilege to guide the world’s top 50 love and relationship experts, who share the latest, cutting edge, transformative love skills through a series of workshops.

It begins on February 12th and features luminaries such as John Gray, don Miguel Ruiz, Alison Armstrong, Neale Donald Walsch, Jack Canfield, Marianne Williamson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Helen Fisher, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Gay & Katie Hendricks, Craig Hamilton, Claire Zammit, Debbie Ford, Jean Houston and more.

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I’ve designed this revolutionary program to help you get READY for love so that you  can heat up your own intimacy skills, learn productive conflict resolution, and much more. (Some days I just have to pinch myself because I can’t believe the amazing things I get to do in my life!)

Here is a sneak peek at what we will be covering:

  • Why incompatibility and conflict are important in a relationship.
  • Sure-fire ways to initiate sex and play.
  • One sentence that fixes almost everything.
  • When honesty isn’t the best policy.
  • The big fat lies that get in the way of love.
  • How reading 50 Shades of Grey gives permission to receive pleasure.
  • The “Wonder Move” to get your self unstuck fast.
  • Two things all men want (hint: it’s not sex).
  • How to invite God into your relationship.
  • The 5 short sentences that heal all wounds.
  • Why hugs, spa days and shopping lead to stronger orgasms in women.
  • And so much more…..

When I programmed and hosted the first version of this series, in the Fall of 2011, afterwards I felt like I had earned a Ph.D in Love.  What I discovered was invaluable to my relationship with Brian! I so wish I had known all of this at the beginning of my marriage instead of learning it the hard way!

The Art of Love Relationship Series! <== Join The Love Fest!

In each workshop I will draw out the most insightful wisdom from each and every transformative love luminary while keeping it easy to digest all of the hot tips. These experts will share their best practices about how to reawaken hot & steamy bedroom activities, navigate through relationship stress, create balance, break destructive patterns, sharpen your relationship-building skills, get what you really want from your beloved, add playfulness to your world, and much more!

Whether you’re dating, or in a new partnership, improving your relationship skills should be high on your TO DO LIST — YOU do have the power to bring change to your love life!

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I encourage you to take advantage of this opportunity right now and register for this no-cost event today.

I look forward to seeing you at The Art of Love Relationship Series!

Arielle

P.S. FYI, just for registering you have access to a Limited Time GIFT BAG filled with audio/video seminars and eBooks from Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt,      Dr. Diana Kirschner, Alison Armstrong, Sheri Meyers, Tammy Nelson, and Susie & Otto Collins. Plus you’ll be entered into a drawing to win your very own Art of Love iPod Nano!

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Wanna Be “Right” or “Loved”?

Posted by Mar 20, 2012 , , Leave a Comment

The Only REAL Choice in True Manifestation

Do you want to be “right” or do you want to find love?

I recently gave a free online seminar on the Three Keys To Manifesting Love and I later heard from a few people who are “insisting” that love isn’t possible for them because:

**They are in their 60’s and it’s a “fact” there are a lot fewer available, appropriate men.

**Their “one and only soulmate” has now reincarnated as their grandchild.

**According to channeled entities they “karmically” are not entitled to a soulmate this lifetime.

These are just a few of the many reasons, beliefs, and excuses I have heard as to why people have convinced themselves that they can’t and won’t find love.

Here’s what I have to say about this: Baloney!  Not true!

But… because they are holding onto these beliefs so tightly, chances are they will be right.

They won’t find love.

They are using the Law of Attraction against themselves.

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Where Is Your Soulmate?

Posted by Dec 13, 2010 , , Leave a Comment

Nearly every day I get two kinds of messages from readers of The Soulmate Secret. The first kind is a big thank you email with news about how they have successfully manifested their soulmate using the steps outline in The Soulmate Secret and my Soulmate Kit.

The second type of message is a polite complaint about how they have been using some of the steps for 3 or 6 or 12 months but have not yet met their soulmate and they want to know if what else they could/should be doing.

For those folks I almost always have the same answer: please remember the role that Divine Timing plays in all of life.

While you may feel that you are absolutely ready for a soulmate right now, the Universe, Karma, God, Goddess, the forces of Good, your angels, devas, and ancestors (or whoever and whatever you believe in) may have picked out the most perfect person for you and it’s just not TIME for you two to get together. (yet).

Can you be patient? Can you love your life right now? (And yourself?) Can you find new ways to savor the waiting? Can you dream up new ways to give more love to the friends, family, and co-workers already surrounding you? Have you truly released and healed any barriers to love within yourself or is there some one you have yet to forgive? (Hint: maybe yourself?)

Here’s one thing I can promise you: when you do finally meet your soulmate you will inevitably discover that it was the perfect time for both of you and you will also know that he or she was worth the wait!

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Secrets to Manifesting Love At Any Age

Posted by Sep 22, 2010 , , , , Leave a Comment

Lynn Fletcher had led a typical baby boomer life. She raised two wonderful children and has two marriages which both ended in divorce. Lynn, ready for new romance, was feeling frustrated and impatient in the domain of love. One thing she knew for sure, she did not want her future soulmate to be Irish.

Both ex-husbands were of Irish descent and she was certain she needed to change this pattern.

During a reading with “an angel lady Jane” she was assured that “Matchmaker angels are at work in your life.”

Several months later, most likely guided by Angels, she read The Soulmate Secret.

“This became my bible. I kept it on my nightstand table and did the processes and rituals in the book including, making my wish list, feng shui’d the bedroom, made space in the closet and dresser, bought him a birthday card, did the feelingizations, and followed everything to a T. There were times when I could really FEEL my soulmate searching for me and I could even feel him spooning behind me on the bed!

Lynn also made a daily practice of “Living As If” as well as working on healing her heart from past relationships.

To help her with this she very smartly she hired relationship coach, Dawn Allen InspiredHeartCoaching.com, who in the very first session showed her that she was afraid of getting hurt again and helped her work through her issues.

Last October, at age 52, Lynn was feeling optimistic that love was on the way to her. An ex-boyfriend invited her to a party, and even though she didn’t want to go, she knew it would be a good opportunity to meet lots of new people. She was right. It was there that she met Mike.

“On our first date I realized he possessed many of the qualities I was looking for and I was totally able to be myself with him. We both wanted the same things in life and we had both experienced two divorces, plus family is super important to him.”

On Lynn’s Soulmate Wish List was “he must be a Harley owner.”

Surprisingly, on their second date Mike took her for an afternoon ride… on his Harley! Just prior to their third date, Lynn realized she didn’t know Mike’s last name and asked him about it while they were on the phone. He responded, “Clougherty.”

“Is that Irish,” Lynn asked?

“Yes, 100%, why is that a problem?”

Lynn then confessed that both her ex-husbands and last relationship were partly Irish.

He explained that the problem was she needed a man that was 100% Irish… which made her laugh.

By the end of the third date, Lynn was certain that Mike was her 100% Irish soulmate.

Today are happily co-habiting and in a committed relationship that may or may not lead to marriage because as they say they have, “been there, done that.”

Curious about your own soulmate search?  Check out The Soulmate Secret for yourself!  Just click right here:  The Soulmate Secret

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Soulmate Success! Meet Robin Rice Who Dared to Dream of Love!

Posted by Sep 22, 2010 , , Leave a Comment

Here’s a letter I just had to share with you from my friend, the amazing Robin Rice, who shares how she manifested her soulmate five years ago.

Dear Arielle,

As you know, I just love your book, The Soulmate Secret, and the story of how you found your beloved Brian. Since I have a Brian of my own, I wanted to share how I manifested him, using the very techniques you speak of… imagining, feeling, knowing, and living as if it is already done.

Let me first say that after seven years of being single, I was more than a little discouraged and frustrated. I knew I was clear on what I wanted, and I felt he was out there—somewhere. But it was getting hard to have faith. So I got really, really serious. I took action.

First, I decided that luxury and sensuality were big parts of what I wanted in my relationship. So I went out and got 600-count sheets for my bed, a few extra fluffy new pillows, and a dozen votive candles to surround my bed with. I also got fresh flowers to put with the candles.

Every three days—yes, without fail for seven months—I put out fresh flowers, and took the wilted flowers and put them out in a nearby river, asking Mother Nature to carry my wish to the great Mother Ocean.

Every night, crawling into bed, and every morning waking up, I felt the luxury and sensuality I imagined my beloved would bring to me. I smiled to myself, feeling what it would feel like even before he arrived. I sent prayers for him, knowing he was already somewhere in the world, and maybe even wishing for me.

The seven months more than paid off. My Brian is the easiest, most sensual, most luxurious relationship I’ve ever had times ten! I could not have imagined the ease with which we partner in our lives. It’s five years now, and we’ve had a private wedding in every country we have traveled to!

As you say… dream it, feel it, know it and then see it.

Much appreciation for all you offer us!

Robin Rice

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love