Shopping For The Perfect Husband (a funny story)

In her book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, Dr. Laura Schlesinger recounts a story one of her listeners found on the Internet entitled “Shopping for the Perfect Husband.” The tale is set in the “Perfect Husband-land” store, a five-story building where women can go to find their perfect match.


On each of the five floors, there are men with various qualities.  The main rule was that once you reached any given floor, you had to select a man from that floor. If you didn’t, you could go to the next floor, not knowing for sure what you would find. The trick was that you couldn’t return to a lower floor unless you planned to leave the store husband-less.


for-sale-business-manMarianne and Joan, lifelong best friends, set off to find Mr. Soulmate in the enormous shopping center.  On the first floor there was a small sign that read:


These guys love children and have good jobs.


Joan thought that was great, but she was also curious to see what was on the second floor. Marianne followed her up the escalator where they found a somewhat larger sign that said:


These guys are super handsome, love children and have great jobs.


Marianne exclaimed with delight: “Wow! Exactly what I need. Let’s take a look around.”


But, Joan said, “No, let’s go up another level and see what’s there.” Marianne followed Joan with slight reluctance. But they were best friends after all. She must be right.


On the third floor, the two women were astonished to find yet another larger sign. This time it read:


These guys are not only super handsome, love children and have great jobs, but they are also happy to help with housework!”


Marianne’s jaw dropped. Her excitement level grew, but she could see that Joan was even more curious to see what was around the corner. She agreed that they would go up yet another floor.


The sign, slightly larger than the rest they had seen, virtually screamed out at them.


Our fourth floor husbands are super handsome, love children, have great jobs, enjoy helping with housework and are great in bed!”


They were on a roll now. Nothing could stop them. Convinced that the fifth floor would offer even better husband options, Marianne and Joan confidently took the escalator to the final floor. There they found a tiny, torn sign that read:


This floor offers proof that women are impossible to please.


You may not see yourself in this light, and perhaps you are satisfied with most things in your mate. But my guess is you may have had a moment or ten in your life in which you wanted way more than your mate could offer. You left the room, feeling empty handed and somehow ripped off.


Life wasn’t supposed to be this way.


Often-times women create unreasonable expectations when it comes to their relationships. Rather than honor and celebrate whom and what they have, they become heat-seeking missiles of criticism and blame. In their imaginary perfect world, they fully anticipated having the perfect husband. Perfect Husband is the story they created. Perfect Husband is not real. Perfect Husband is the idol they created in the likeness of their own imaginations. When people follow this pattern of thinking, the end result is inevitable. Anger, disappointment and resentment arise when the story, in their opinion, is unfulfilled.


This is what we human beings do.  We make up stories about how things should be. But what if we were to change the plot completely? As directors in our own life movie, we have the option.


The question is… do we have the courage to take that leap of faith?


Wishing you love, laughter and Magical kisses,



P.S.  If you’re willing to re-ignite and kick-start the ONE you have, discover the simple ways to Big Love in my new book Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate

Is he the ONE? (Or still the ONE?)

It seems like nearly everyday someone is asking me, “How do I know if he is my soulmate?”

It’s a valid question.

Couple pink sunsetBesides having a sense of “knowing” and feeling like you have known them forever, you must discern if they are a viable “life partner.” Simply having feelings of deep recognition is not enough for a long, happy, relationship.

We all have many, many soulmates (some of them are friends, children, siblings, parents, business partners, even pets!) but, for a lifetime romantic partner, you need much more.

So, before saying “I do” (or “I re-commit to you, my beloved”), see if he or she fits this criteria:

  • You have been in a committed relationship for at least one year, have met his family and friends and he has met yours, and you both love each other.


These are the basics, and here is more:

  • You and your soulmate share chemistry, compatibility, great communication skills (these can be learned, but if possible, learn them BEFORE the wedding) and most importantly, a shared vision for the future (kids, lifestyle, etc.).
  • You don’t have to do everything together (and shouldn’t), but you must decide ahead of time that you each have space and support for the other’s passions.


And then look at their behavior:

  • Can you count on them to keep you physically and emotionally safe?
  • When you are stressed out, hurt, or ill, do they provide concern and assistance?
  • When you share your thoughts, feelings and worries, do they listen and respond with compassion, empathy and care?
  • Do you trust them and can you count on them to keep their word?
  • Do they want to spend time with you and do they make future plans?
  • Do they celebrate your wins in life and hold your hands in the down times?
  • Are they financially responsible?
  • Is their happiness as important to you as your own?


If you can check most or all of the boxes, you’ve got a keeper!


Wishing you love, laughter and Magical kisses,



P.S. If you’re willing to re-ignite and kick-start the ONE you have, discover the simple ways to Big Love in my new book Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate.

Conscious Love – What It Is (and is not!)

I was on Facebook the other night and came upon a beautifully written essay on Conscious Love by Jenn Funk that I just HAD to share with you. Please enjoy!

Love isn’t the hope or belief you have in a man’s ‘potential,’ the same man who insults you, runs away or raises his voice when he can’t understand you. That’s not love, that’s DELUSION.

Love isn’t a ‘feeling’ you have for a man when things are great, but who doesn’t text, call or show up when he says he will. That’s not love, that’s INFATUATION.

Jenn GrahamLove isn’t a commitment to stick it out with someone when all the magic and feelings are gone because you’re ‘Doing it for the kids’ or the hope for a better tomorrow. That’s not love, that’s MARTYRDOM.

Love isn’t even spending time with a best friend who shares experiences, a sense of humor, an interest in the same set of activities and a compatible sex drive. That’s not love, that’s CONVENIENCE.

No, LOVE is the profoundly conscious and deeply intimate connection of body, mind, and soul.

Conscious love is when you can love without walls, hesitation and fear.

Conscious love is when you can laugh your loudest, cry your ugliest cry, and tell your deepest secrets without guilt or shame. It’s a space of safety and trust so deep that it allows you to reveal your demons and stare fear in the face.

Conscious love is wearing your heart on the outside of your body, willing to risk being hurt or rejected.

Conscious love is strong and powerful. It can hold endless space with it’s warmth, stability and firm boundaries.

Conscious love pushes you to be your best, but it wipes your tears and holds you close when you slip up.

Conscious love is pure and authentic, it has no agenda.

Conscious love can be messy and hard but it doesn’t hold back. It pushes past the awkward and uncomfortable. It takes you to the bottom of yourself and allows you to see clearly. All delusion is gone. All that’s left is truth.

Conscious love knows when it’s safe to take the risk because it’s mindful, and patient.

Conscious love is beautiful, it’s magic, it’s intoxicating, it’s the way we were created to love and we know it when we experience it.

When you reach this level of depth and connection, nothing is off limits, no conversation too uncomfortable, and nothing needs to be hidden. In order to attract this level of connection and be able to give this type of love to another you must have done *your work*. You need to be complete, with or without a partner. Only then can you love without attachment and fear. Only then can you make the conscious choice who you will give your love to. Only then can you love from your depths of your soul.

You’re free to call anything you want ‘Love,’ but your soul will never release the ache it feels for a completely conscious connection with another human being in a space free of judgment, yet full of anticipation and expectation that you’ll reach for and achieve your incredible potential.

Every woman was born with the right to a relationship like this.

You’re worthy of love.

This beautiful and profound piece was written by Jenn Funk, a woman who is raising seven children in a blended family with her life partner, Graham White. Both Jennifer and Graham mentor women and men who have the courage to fulfill their potential and the commitment to set high standards and maintain firm boundaries in all their relationships. They also offer a support group for parents of gifted, empathic, and strong willed children.

Wishing you love, laughter and Magical kisses,


Why LOVE is more important than FOOD

Whether you are single or married, chances are that you are someone who is committed to a healthy lifestyle of exercising and eating organic, non-GMO foods and focused on nourishing your body with things that have the highest-level ingredients. I’ll bet you are exercising, possibly meditating and doing yoga.


What you probably don’t know is that there is something that will extend your life for many years, regardless of what you eat, or how you exercise.


Wanna guess what it is?


imagesA happy marriage!


Research has proven that happily married couples receive the benefits of something called The Marriage Effect, which means that they are:


  • More likely to live longer.
  • More likely to be physically and mentally healthier and happier.
  • More likely to recover from illness quicker and with greater success.


And for men, this is really important to know:


A 2007 study found that the rate of death of single men over age 40 was twice as high than that of married men. Marriage for men is a lifesaver.


And for those of you of the generation that would prefer to shack up over getting legally married, you need to know that living together is not the same as being married to each other. It was found that happy couples who are living together in a committed, unmarried relationship don’t receive the benefit of The Marriage Effect.


When I asked Harville Hendrix (love expert extraordinaire, whom Oprah calls The Marriage Whisperer) about it, he explained that it has to do with safety and security. On the unconscious level, those committed but unmarried couples do not experience the same level of safety that married couples do. Safety is one of our most profound human needs.


More good news: Sex can save your life! Just as you commit to eating right and exercising for your well being and health, it’s important to make sure you are having sex…the more the better. According to leading sex expert and researcher, Dr. Pepper Schwartz of the University of Washington, studies shows that for women, sex provides lower anxiety, more vitality, a higher quality of life all while building immunity.


For men, sex one time a month of more will reduce his risk of dying by 60%. The men who had sex twice a week (or more) were least likely to die and sex provides protection for men against cancer and heart disease.


So whether you are already married (and willing to make your marriage even better) or you are single seeking your soulmate, a happy, sexy marriage is one key to a long, satisfying healthy life. For road-tested tips on how to have a great marriage (or prepare for a great marriage) please check out my new book, Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate.


Wishing you love, laughter and Magical kisses,



Turn Your Internal POWER on

I woke up at 4am on New Year’s Day totally excited and energized about this New Year and all the potential and possibility it holds. I had so many thoughts racing through my head that I jumped out of bed to write them down. As I pondered it all, I came to a big realization that the first thing I want to do is to make sure NOT to “should” on myself this year.


You know what I mean “I should do this and I should do that.”


“Shoulding” just causes stress. Ugh!


I decided to thoughtfully choose where I focus my energy if a project provides:

  • Freedom
  • Creativity
  • Fun, Flow & Ease
  • Contribution
  • Prosperity


If a project offers this, then I am a big YES.


I am all in.


HarriettA couple of the ventures I am dreaming up are really BIG, a little scary in size and scope, and I’ve decided that when I need inspiration, I will look to one of my new role models:

Harriette Thompson of Charlotte, N.C.

This 92-year-old recently finished the San Diego Rock ‘n’ Roll Marathon – her 16th race. Not only did Thompson cross the finish line, she is the oldest woman to complete a marathon. Thompson finished the 26.2-mile race in 7 hours, 24 minutes and 36 seconds. (I was amazed at how good she looked at the finish line, lipstick still intact!)


Oh, and by the way, she is a two-time cancer survivor and she lost her soulmate of 64 years less than a year ago.


As you begin this New Year – ask yourself what big dreams you plan to co-create with the Universe and who you can you look to for inspiration to power up.


Wishing you love, laughter and Magical kisses,


New! What to do if the magic has faded



On December 29th, I’m releasing what I think is

my best book ever on love and relationships:

Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate:
A Practical Guide To Happily Ever After

Go to this link to learn how you can order your copy today

and receive some really nice bonus gifts, too!




Has the magic faded from your relationship?

Have you had your feelings hurt so often that you’re beginning to question why you’re even together?

When you met the man of your dreams, you had such aspirations for how your life would be together. Maybe you imagined living in an endless blissful state of romantic dinners, adventure-packed vacations, and daily affirmations of love.

But perhaps reality has not quite lined up with your expectations.

Sure, there’s many good moments, but there’s also bickering, snide comments and even occasional feelings of loneliness and rejection.

What happened?

Wasn’t he supposed to be your soulmate?

Aren’t soulmates supposed to understand each other, support each other and know what the other needs to feel totally and completely loved and accepted??

I thought so, but I was wrong.

Before you begin to think you’ve made a horrible mistake and decide you want to break up, get divorced, move on, or end your search for your soulmate, I want to reveal something important about my own personal love story.

I also want to assure you that finding your soulmate and having good relationship skills are two completely different things. If you’re having challenges in love, there’s no reason to think you’ve ended up with the wrong person. There’s a way to get the magic back and turn your “mate” back into your “soulmate”, and you’ll find out how in a bit.

Buddha USBut first, my own tumultuous love story:

I’ve been married to my soulmate Brian for 17 years this year. It’s a deeply loving and fulfilling partnership today, but it wasn’t always that way! The first few years after we were married, I realized I had zero partnership skills.

After decades working as a successful publicist and entrepreneur, I had great “boss” skills, but that didn’t transfer too well in the marriage department. The end result of this was a lot of unintentional insults, tiresome bickering and frustration between Brian and me.

I would make plans for the both of us…and end up angering Brian because he wanted to be consulted first.

I would get caught up in emails and my own thoughts and made Brian feel unheard and unloved because I couldn’t look him in the eye when he spoke to me.

I thought I was being pro-active, and he thought I was overbearing.

I thought I was being creative and productive, and he thought I was distracted and a workaholic.

These are just a couple small examples of the kind of misunderstandings that were threatening the happiness of our marriage.

Having gotten married at the age of 44, I had become very used to having things my way, all the time. And it never occurred to me that Brian would want anything different from what I wanted.  It never occurred to me that we wouldn’t always see things “eye to eye”.

After all, weren’t we soulmates?

Weren’t we destined to easily and effortlessly live “happily ever after?”

Brian already seemed to naturally know how to make me feel heard, loved and respected.

It became obvious that I was the one who needed to discover new, better ways to listen, to communicate, to be considerate, and most importantly, to become a team player.

Sure, I had figured out how to experience the once-in-a-lifetime joy of finding my soulmate, but now I had to learn how to make my relationship thrive and grow into a joyous and sacred union.

I had to take personal responsibility for the success and longevity of my relationship.

Brian and I attended workshops and seminars, but what made the biggest difference was that I spent more that 130 hours interviewing the world’s top love and relationship experts for Evolving Wisdom’s Art of Love Series that I co-created and hosted for several years – many of them top researchers and social scientists who virtually never do interviews such as these…

Many of these experts became friends, and spent hours answering my endless questions and forever changing my understanding of love and how to make it last.

The result of these years of study (and personally road testing the various techniques and strategies to a happy marriage), are that Brian and I have grown closer and closer and are enjoying the best years of our marriage so far.

I knew that I wasn’t the only one going through these challenges, and I knew I absolutely had to share everything I learned so that others in the same situation could know that there’s HOPE for “happily ever after.”

This is why I decided to write down everything I learned and mastered in the last decade or so. The result is my latest (and in my opinion, most important) book:

Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate:
A Practical Guide To Happily Ever After

This comprehensive book reveals and explores the best advice, techniques and tips on how to handle everything from everyday squabbles and misunderstandings to the bigger problems that can ruin love and affection.

It will show you WHY you may be butting heads or unintentionally hurting each other, and give you practical, easy strategies that will ease tension and bring you and your partner closer than ever.

You’ll learn valuable tools such as:

  • How to ask for what you want and make him feel like a hero while you feel loved, adored and cherished (actual scripts and words that will work their magic every time).
  • What you can say to your man that will make him fall even crazier in love with you, and it’s probably already something you’re already thinking – you just need to express it the right way.
  • What he wants even more than sex (when you read this you may just fall out of your chair. I know I just about did!)
  • How our desire to be “right” is getting in the way of being loved, and what to do about it and feel happy and loved instead.
  • Why your partner maybe isn’t great at gift-giving or expressing his affection or being tender with touch – and why you shouldn’t worry about the depth of his love for you. How to understand and reciprocate his “love language”.
  • How a shift in perception can positively alter the course of your relationship and even the direction of your entire life.
  • The different types of soulmates, and how to know if your partner is the one with the expiration date.
  • How to get the spark back and kick up the fun, starting tonight.
  • And much more!

If you’re starting to feel disappointed and disillusioned about your soulmate relationship, don’t despair! All you need is the tools and strategies you’ll learn in my book, Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate: A Practical Guide To Happily Ever Afterto turn it all around.

Starting today, you can begin to enjoy the kind of easy, blissful union you always knew was possible, and always hoped you’d have with the love of your life.

Get Your Copy Now

Because I consider you, dear reader, one of my friends and I have a special offer for you:


When you order the book through this offer, you will instantly receive a free bonus package that includes special gifts from resources I consider to be among the “best of the best:”

Five part Video series (instant access) featuring:

John Gray

“How Woman Can Get Their Needs and Desires Met by Their Mate”

Dr. Pepper Schwartz

“How Sex Can Save Your Life”

Iyanla Van Zant

“The best way to apologize and how to forgive “

Gay & Katie Hendricks

“You’re Too Fat” (and other hard conversations to have)

Dr. Laura Berman

“How to Affair Proof Your Relationship”

Plus there are two great bonus audios (on sex and intimacy) and The Everything Book, an e-Book for you & your mate to fill out and exchange that shares juicy details of what you both most want!

Now here is the offer for YOU only (I’m not making this offer to anyone who is not on my newsletter list).

If you order the book via one of the online bookstores and you ALSO visit or call your favorite bookstore and order a hardcover of the book (all versions of the book will be available on December 29th), I personally guarantee that if you read the book and do not find it valuable and engaging, I will personally refund the cost of the hardcover book (the one that you bought at your favorite local bookstore) and you can keep the book.

All you would have to do it scan your paper receipt and email to me in the weeks between January 15 – January 29th ( and I will send you the refund via PayPal. That is how certain I am of what this book can do for you.

As a lifelong book lover and lover of bookstores, it’s really important to me that we continue to buy books both online and especially through bookstores. So, if you want to turn YOUR mate into your soulmate, or dramatically improve all of your relationships (because, really, this stuff works with everyone in your life) AND help me have the best birthday ever by getting this baby out to the world, please click here to order one copy of Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate online and get your instant access to the bonuses, and then please, please visit or call your favorite bookstore to order the hardcover.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


P.S. I truly believe the information I’ve been blessed to share in my new book can help make anyone take their relationship go from ho-hum to happy, happy to ecstatic, and ecstatic to EXALTED – for life. And I’m so sure of that, I’m putting my money where my mouse is… haha.

Order online and get the great extra bonuses from some amazing colleagues and friends of mine here!

Manifestation Rituals for Winter Solstice

Today is the Winter Solstice – the first day of winter and the shortest day of the year. Celebrated by cultures across the globe for more than 6,000 years, it signifies the return of light and with it, life.

This is a powerful day to take advantage of the cosmic energies so that you can clear the past and set a strong intention for the future.




Here are four suggestions to make it happen:


1. If 2015 was a particularly difficult year

  • Letting go of the past clears the way and the space for a brighter future. Take some time to reflect on the hardest moments and situations of the past year and then write down everything negative that happened. Light a fire in your fireplace, your barbecue, or someplace outside.
  • Say a prayer of gratitude over this list, thanking the Universe for all of the lessons you received (however difficult) and then say: “Goodbye 2015. I let you go. I set you free and I set myself free.”
  • Burn the paper while visualizing your troubles disappearing in the smoke and setting you free.

2. Create a fabulous 2016

  • On one side of a piece of paper write down your dreams for the New Year. On the other side of the paper, write everything you are committed to doing to making your dream come true. Then commit to doing one item on this list every week until you have manifested the new dream.
  • Enroll a good friend to be your accountability buddy and to make sure you stick to your commitments.

3. Tithe

  • From whom or what did you receive spiritual nourishment this year?  Take a few minutes to sit down and write them a thank you note with a message of gratitude and enclose a generous check.

4. The healing power of water

  • Light some candles and draw yourself a soothing bath. Add your favorite essential oils or bath salts. Turn on some music and allow yourself at least 20 minutes of healing relaxation.
  • Put a smile on your face and visualize all the good that you would like to see happen in the coming year.


Wishing you love, laughter and Magical kisses,



Be A Love Philanthropist

One of my favorite lines from A Course In Miracles is:


The only thing that can be lacking in any situation is that which you are not giving.


I think of this often, especially when I am out of sorts….and then I quickly figure out that was is missing is: giving and receiving love.


I just simply forget to love myself, or I forget just how fortunate I am to have so much love in my life.


LOVE fivingThat’s when I remind myself that perhaps my most important reason for being is to be LOVE.


For many years, one of the goals I set out for myself was to be a philanthropist and in my own small way, I am.


A few years ago I learned the term  “Love Philanthropist” from my dear friend, Marci Shimoff, bestselling author of Happy For No Reason.


I realized that being a “Love Philanthropist” is even more important than writing checks to worthy causes. I am grateful that I can do both.


Just like we all have enough fresh air to breath and clean water to drink, there is more than enough love for all of us to give and receive.


I want to remind you (and me) to love yourself, especially during the potential stresses of the holiday season.  Make sure to create lots of “me time” and feed yourself well, take naps, get lots of quality sleep and make plans to be with like-minded, fun people.




Because when you are filled up, you have more love to share with the world.


Wishing you love, laughter and Magical kisses,



When Law of Attraction Fails

Have you ever noticed that the Law of Attraction works for you in some areas of your life, but not all? People often ask me “If the Law of Attraction actually works, why doesn’t it work for all of us all of the time?”

There’s only one answer to that question:

limitless headIt is what is in our unconscious mind that has the power — all the stuff that you wish wasn’t there, that you want to get rid of, that you’re still pissed off about or ashamed of, all the beliefs you’re still limited by.

Our unconscious is holding 80% of our power to magnetize our life experiences to us. So if our conscious mind has only 20% of the power, this is the time to get to work on uncovering, owning and embracing our unconscious by truly understanding and transforming what’s no longer wanted or needed.

One fruitful place to start this exploration is to look at what my sister, Debbie Ford, called underlying commitments. These are commitments that exist at an unconscious level that, if not made conscious, will override any other desires we have. Our underlying commitments drive our thoughts, our beliefs and — most importantly — our choices. They are the unseen forces that shape our realities. They are responsible for the discrepancy between what we say we want and what we’re actually experiencing.

These underlying commitments are formed by unconscious decisions we’ve made in the past. In the dark recesses of your unconscious, for example, you may have decided that you can’t trust anyone and that it’s easier to be alone. So even though you want love and intimacy in your life, you always choose the wrong mate because your first commitment is to being by yourself. You become a magnet, but instead of attracting what you think you desire, you are a magnet for failure, for missed opportunities, for being less of a success than you strive for. You continually make choices that are in direct conflict with what you say you want and you find yourself baffled by the choices you are making. Sound familiar? Our underlying commitments become self-fulfilling prophecies. And our unconscious becomes the driver of our lives.

Transformational Action Step

We must expose our underlying commitments before we have the power to shift them.

  • Write down a goal or desire that you’ve been unable to attain.
  • Make a list of the actions you have taken or not taken in the past year that are in direct opposition to this goal.
  • Now take your list and imagine that these choices that have taken you away from your desired goal and not brought you any closer to it are an expression of a deeper commitment, your first commitment.
  • Close your eyes and ask yourself “What commitment are these choices in direct alignment with?” There you will discover your underlying commitment.When you reveal the underlying commitments that prevent you from achieving your goals, you are beginning to turn your life around. You can now replace your old commitments with new, powerful commitments that are in alignment with your highest vision for the future.
  • Write down a new commitment you can make this week that will move you toward the future you desire.

Take some time this week to do these steps and begin to make progress on unraveling your underlying commitments.

Wishing you love, laughter and Magical kisses,


Creating Miracles

As we enter into the last month of the year, I thought this would be a great time to encourage you to create miracles in your life.


The word “miracle” comes from a Latin word meaning “something wonderful.”


The common definitions of miracles include:


“…a surprising and welcome event that is not explicable by natural or scientific laws and is therefore considered to be the work of a divine agency.”


And also


“…a highly improbable or extraordinary event, development, or accomplishment that brings very welcome consequences.”


imagesMy favorite definitions come from A Course in Miracles which states that a miracle is simply ” a shift in perception” and “miracles occur naturally as expressions of love.” It also says that there is “no order of difficulty in miracles.”


I accept and embrace all of these definitions and believe that we have an innate super-power to co-create miracles in our lives.


Here are the simple steps to conjure up a miracle:


Ask – Get clear about what your miracle is. Then close your eyes and with an open heart, connect to the Divine and say a prayer of gratitude thanking the Divine for delivering your miracle to you with effortless ease.


Believe and Expect – Believe, trust and expect that this miracle IS already yours. Put a smile on your face and exude joy to the world as you live in the knowingness that what you’ve asked for IS already yours.


Surrender – Let go of any fear, doubt, anxiety or need to know when the miracle is coming. Being detached from the “need” shows the Universe that you trust your miracle is on the way.


Wishing you love, laughter and MIRACLES,