Today I am in my 17th year of an amazing, deeply loving, fulfilling marriage to my soulmate Brian… and I almost blew it!
Soon after we got married, I made a horrifying discovery: I had no clue how to be a great wife. I was an excellent manifestor, and I was great at being “the boss” of my business, but I had zero partnership skills.
Here’s just one example: One day, several months after we got married, I walked into the house all excited and started talking a mile-a- minute to Brian…no hello, no kiss, just this:
“Hey babe, guess what? We’re having dinner tonight at Deepak and Rita Chopra’s house, we need to be there by 7pm, I haven’t a clue what I’m gonna wear but I have to jump into the tub right now.”
I fully expected Brian to say something like, “Hey that’s great, should be lots of fun to catch up with them.”
Instead I got this strange look from him, that I immediately felt in the pit of my stomach, so I said, “what’s wrong?”
And Brian said, “You didn’t ask me.”
“What do you mean? Don’t you want to have dinner with the Chopra’s?”
“Well, it would have been nice if you had asked me first.”
“Why? I knew you would want to go.”
“Because asking me is the polite and considerate thing to do.”
I was really baffled. If I “knew he would want to go, then WHY, WHY, WHY did I have to ask him first?”
As a first time bride at 44, I was used to having everything my way, all the time. It never occurred to me that Brian would want anything different from what I wanted. It never occurred to me that we wouldn’t always see things “eye to eye” because we were soulmates.
Weren’t we destined to easily and effortlessly live “happily ever after?”
It became obvious that I needed to discover new, better ways to listen, to communicate, to be considerate, and most importantly to become a team player.
I didn’t know what I didn’t know about making a relationship thrive and grow into a joyous and sacred union.
Brian was a natural at most of these things, and most of the time, he was very patient with me when communicating about what was and was not working for him. (And, honestly it took me a L O N G time learn how to be considerate and ask him before committing him to any and all activities.)
If only he had arrived with an “Owner’s Manual” that outlined the one-two-three steps to happy and fulfilling marriage.
Alas, that book never arrived.
Instead, I decided to become a student of love.
In my heart and soul I knew that Brian and I were meant to spend our life together and I also knew that I had to take personal responsibility for my role in the partnership. We went to workshops together, I read lots of books, and best of all, I spent more that 130 hours interviewing the world’s top love and relationship experts for Evolving Wisdom’s Art of Love Series that I co-created and hosted for several years – many of them top researchers and social scientists who virtually never do interviews such as these… and I’m blessed that many of them became friends, and spent hours answering my endless questions and forever changing my understanding of love and how to make it last.
The result of these years of study (and personally road testing the various techniques and strategies to a happy marriage), are that Brian and I just grow closer and closer, and I’ve got him convinced that I’m the most loving and attentive wife ever!
I was so thrilled at the changes in my own relationship (and the peace of mind and security they brought me as well), that I am now sharing the best of the best of my own “light bulb moments” and most effective tools for transformation in my new book:
Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate: A Practical Guide To Happily Ever After
(It will be published on my birthday, December 29th, by HarperOne.)
PLEASE KEEP READING, I have special gifts for you.
I am beyond excited about the upcoming release of this, my 10th book. I truly believe it’s my best work yet, and I know that the information in it provides myriad ways to create loving, long lasting, soulful relationships.
(And if you’re not in a relationship, reading his book will send a big message to the Universe that you are “living as if” and give you great new techniques and tools to use when you are in one.)
Turn Your Mate into Your Soulmate explores and reveals:
- How to make your own grass greener, and save everyone tons of heartache and why changing partners may not be the answer and why re-envisioning the partner you have can be that path to happiness
- What love really is and is not and how to stop being confused from now on
- Why we yearn to be connected to another person (hint: you’re not needy or insecure – it’s healthy and almost universal to want that level of connection with another…)
- Our soul and our sacred contracts around love
- Why giving up perfectionism is the key to happiness (and so much easier for YOU!)
- The purpose and benefits of marriage (science has proven it’s so much more than “just a piece of paper”)
- Moving beyond ourselves to infuse our relationship with God/Spirit/devotion (no matter your beliefs or religion)
- Breathing new life into old love by kick-starting the fun (you really can “get back that spark” – quickly and without embarrassing yourself)
“Arielle Ford is a priestess of love, bringing forth the highest wisdom and placing it down on earth where it belongs. She has lived the love drama, learned from the love drama, and succeeded at the love drama. She has a lot of information to deliver, and in this book she does so compassionately and wisely.”
~Marianne Williamson, author A Return To Love
I consider you, dear reader, one of my friends and I have a special offer for you:
When you pre-order the book, you will instantly receive a free bonus package that includes special gifts from resources I consider to be among the “best of the best”.
Five part Video series (instant access) featuring:
“How Women Can Get Their Needs and Desires Met by Their Mate”
Dr. Pepper Schwartz
“How Sex Can Save Your Life”
Iyanla Van Zant
“The best way to apologize and how to forgive “
Gay & Katie Hendricks
“You’re Too Fat” (and other hard conversations to have)
Dr. Laura Berman
“How to Affair Proof Your Relationship”
Plus there are two great bonus audios (on sex and intimacy) and The Everything Book, an e-Book for you & your mate to fill out an exchange that shares juicy details of what you both most want!
Now here is the offer for YOU only (I’m not making this offer to anyone who is not on my newsletter list)
If you pre-order Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate online you will get instant access to all the bonuses – click here (www.matetosoulmate.com)
And will be on your way to take your relationship go from ho-hum to happy, happy to ecstatic, and ecstatic to EXALTED – for life.
Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,