A Miracle Story

Late last summer, Gabriel Jebb had a long conversation with his sister that ended with her telling him that he would be a great father and maybe it was time for him to look into adoption or finding a surrogate. Instead, he dove into online dating where he quickly encountered health coach Kerry Tepedino and was blown away to discover that she came with a bonus of an awesome son, Grayson.

After their first dinner, they immediately knew that they wanted to see each other again, but it wasn’t until the second date, at a U2 concert, that the sparks really started to fly. That’s when Kerry knew that there could be something really special between them because Gabriel was wildly fun, extremely energetic, not to mention pretty darn handsome.

A few weeks later Gabriel invited Kerry & Grayson on a nine-day camping trip. Everything went wrong… it was a tsunami outside, pouring rain and the tent had a leak so all 3 of them and the dog, ended up sharing one mattress to try to stay dry. It ended with Kerry going to the ER, because she couldn’t talk…. all this added to the chaos because she had 40 clients flying in for a retreat upon her return home days later.

Surviving that wacky camping trip proved to them they had something special to share as a family unit. And their love for each other was growing by the minute.

Gabriel moved in before Thanksgiving, and on last January 16th, he proposed in a helicopter ride above Fort Rosecrans Memorial cemetery where Kerry’s stepdad, the man who had raised her, is laid to rest. They did a right wing salute to dad in the helicopter and Gabriel proposed.

BUT….it was not predictable any of this would happen!

When Kerry was 35, she went to a well-known Vedic astrologer who was visiting the States from India, who told her she would never have children, which, of course made her very angry.

At age 39, hoping the astrologer was wrong, Kerry went to see the top fertility doctor in San Diego who, after many tests, confirmed she would never have children.

A few years later she went to visit the grave of her stepfather, Scott, and as she sat next to him, she wrote in her journal her feelings of devastation that she would never have children.

As she was sobbing and writing, she suddenly wrote:

“Fuck Fear! Nobody gets to tell me what my body can do!”

Kerry felt the power of this statement and made a commitment to figure out how to have a baby.

Knowing that she had two weeks before her next period she began doing daily tests to figure out when she was ovulating. Kerry quickly found a fertility clinic that was willing to support her in making it happen and she picked a sperm donor with her three “must haves:” he needed to be Caucasian, with brown hair and blue eyes, hoping that the baby would look somewhat like her.

There were seven possible matches, and she narrowed it down to two, and ended up choosing the one who she discovered had a jovial personality.

Within three weeks she was pregnant!!!

Convinced she would have a girl, she decided on the name Grace. When she found out she was having a boy, she chose the name Grayson, who was born on Stepdad Scott’s, birthday.

What a blessing.

I love this story because it’s more proof that in spite of what eastern astrologers and western doctors say, or whatever misguided beliefs we have, we can take action in creating our own miracles!

On Saturday, Brian and I had the honor of officiating at their wedding on the cliffs of the Torrey Pines Gliderport, where Gabriel is the Flight Director, overlooking the Pacific Ocean. It was a breathtakingly beautiful summer day with more than 150 friends and family cheering them on.

And little adorable Grayson, who calls Gabriel “Daddy,” was the ring bearer.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. If you are ready for marriage and you have a sincere desire to manifest your soulmate, please visit www.soulmatepassion44.com to hear a free 75-minute webinar.

The REAL Purpose of Marriage

Someone once said, “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably, they’re both disappointed.”

If you’re marrying in the belief that it will make your life significantly better, then things probably aren’t great to begin with. Only you can make yourself happy and when you are happy, and you are with your soulmate/life partner, that is the icing on the cake.

That said, there are always ways to improve your relationship, reignite the fun and passion, and rekindle your commitment, especially when you understand the “real purpose of marriage.”

Oprah calls relationship expert, Harville Hendrix, “the marriage whisperer,” and he is one of my favorite love experts. Harville teaches that the real purpose of marriage is for each of us to heal our childhood wounds. He says that our brain has a built-in “mate-selector” and that we choose someone that has the playbook to push all of our buttons. And…

Harville explains that there will be times when their behavior replicates the worst of our early caregivers.

So the truth about a soulmate marriage is that it’s biggest purpose is for us to heal each other.

Yes, there will be plenty of blissful days and wonderful times and there will also be days where you really don’t like your soulmate at all…in fact you may even hate them temporarily. And this is normal.

And it doesn’t mean you don’t love them.

So, what is true love?

“True love is loving the person for what they love, who they are, for what they stand for. If you go into a marriage loving what you love, not what they love, that is not love. Real love is not finding someone to hold your hand and find common ground with; the institution of marriage is to push you out of your comfort zone, to lift you up above what you need, so you can provide what you’re needed for,” explains Rabbi Baruch Ezagui.

He says “marriage is the highest calling of mankind. It includes the marriage between body and soul, heaven and earth, spirit and matter, one human and another.“

When you are faced with challenging times in your marriage, first remember that this is normal, and then step into the bigger picture and provide what you are most needed for.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Where Did the Love Go?

Seems like the stars and planets have clustered to bring pain to people’s love lives this past week. I’ve gotten many calls and emails from heartbroken people who are baffled and confused by unexpected “love turmoil.”

I don’t know what the celestial answer is, but I do know what to do and what not to do when the “Sh#t” hits the fan:

1) Don’t immediately react. Keep breathing.

2) Don’t automatically assume the relationship is over. Keep breathing.

3) Don’t assume you did anything “wrong” (unless you did, in which case google the best way to make a proper apology and do it). Simply saying I’m sorry is generally not sufficient.

4) Ask for a time when you can sit down and talk (ideally in person) and then be sure to REALLY listen:

One of the best ways to carefully listen to your partner and have them feel really certain that you are “getting” them is to learn a simple and easy five-step technique known as the Imago Dialogue created by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt.

Step One: Listen without interrupting.

Step Two: Act as a mirror. When your partner stops talking repeat back to him what you heard as accurately as possible. Ask, “Did I get that” and “Is there more?”

Step Three: Summarize, especially if he added “more”. Then ask again “Did I get it all?”

Step Four: Validate. “What you said makes sense to me.” This statement doesn’t mean you have to agree with him; it simply lets him know you understand.

Step Five: Empathize. Let him know that you can imagine, if you were in his position, how he might be feeling such as hurt, scared, angry, disappointed, etc.

By listening in this careful, structured way, your partner will feel seen, heard and understood.

5) When it’s your turn to share, use “I” statement. Be honest, open and vulnerable. No blaming, no shaming and no “constructive criticism.” Hendrix says all criticism is a form of violence. Remember you are a “team,” and even though things are ugly at the moment, the love is most likely still there; you just need to be committed to a dialogue that is kind, respectful and focused on a win/win creative solution.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

The Power of Love

The wedding of Prince Harry and Meghan this past Saturday was a beautiful, moving and inspiring affair. We got up in the middle of the night to watch it, and I am so happy we did. To know that we were “in the field of love” with a billion (or more) other human beings watching this, was so heartwarming and healing.

Given the crazy times we are living in, I found watching this to be comforting, soothing, and a great reminder that love does and will prevail.

Below I have pulled some of my favorite excerpts from the powerful wedding sermon given by Rev. Michael Curry on the power of love:

The late Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. once said, We must discover the power of love, the redemptive power of love. And when we discover that, we will be able to make of this old world a new world. Love is the only way.

There’s power, power in love. If you don’t believe me, think about a time when you first fell in love. The whole world seemed to center around you and your beloved. There’s power, power in love, not just in its romantic forms, but any form, any shape of love. There’s a certain sense in which, when you are loved and you know it, when someone cares for you and you know it, when you love and you show it, it actually feels right. There’s something right about it. There’s a reason for it. It has to do with the source.

We were made by a power of love. Our lives are meant to be lived in that love. That’s why we are here. Ultimately, the source of love is God himself. The source of all of our lives. There’s power in love to help and heal when nothing else can. There’s power in love to lift up and liberate when nothing else will. There’s power in love to show us the way to live.

But love is not only about a young couple. The power of love is demonstrated by the fact that we’re all here. Two young people fell in love, and we all showed up. It’s not just for and about a young couple whom we rejoice with. It’s more than that.

Someone once said that Jesus began the most revolutionary movement in human history: a movement grounded on the unconditional love of God for the world and a movement mandating people to live and love. And in so doing, to change not only their lives but the very life of the world itself!

Think and imagine a world where love is the way. When love is the way, poverty would become history. When love is the way, the earth will be a sanctuary. When love is the way, we will lay our swords and shields down by the riverside to study war no more. When love is the way, there’s plenty of room for all of God’s children. When love is the way, we actually treat each other, well, like we are actually family. When love is the way, we know that God is the source of us all, and we are brothers and sisters and children of God.

Brothers and sisters — that’s a new heaven, a new earth, a new world, a new human family.

Dr. King was right. We must discover love, the redemptive power of love. And when we do that, we will be able to make of this old world a new world.”

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Be a Love Philanthropist

My dear friend Marci Shimoff taught me the phrase Love Philanthropist, and every time I say it, it makes me smile.

Just as I’ve learned that tithing not only makes me feel good and does good for others, it also brings me more abundance.

Being a Love Philanthropist brings more love.

There are so many ways to share your love with the world:

Close your eyes and send love and blessings to your nearest and dearest (including your pets).

Send love notes (do it today!) via email or text or snail mail.

Smile and compliment strangers and beam love from your eyes to theirs.

There is a line in A Course in Miracles that says:

“The only thing that can be lacking in any situation is that which you are not giving.”

To have more love, give more love.

It’s so easy, simple, and doesn’t cost a thing.

Be Love.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

3 keys to make this Valentine’s Day your last one single (one may shock you)

My dear friend and love expert, Dr. Lara Fernandez, has graciously agreed to share three soulmate manifesting tips for you today:

1. Stop thinking you have all the answers.

If you are over 30, single and really don’t want to be, and have been trying for years to find love, then there’s still some more you need to learn about yourself, about men (or women), and relationships. Be willing to have what the Buddhists call a “beginner’s mind” and embrace the journey to your soulmate as a learning process.

People who are know-it-alls are NOT attractive to a healthy relationship… they either end up pushing a good person away or attracting a man who is insecure. Stay humble (yet balanced with a gentle confidence) in your pursuit of your dream life.

Become what I call a “Student of Love.” Commit to continued learning and growing in this area of love and relationships. This learning will serve you not only in finding your Mr. Right… but KEEPING him and maintaining a happy, healthy, thriving relationship for years to come.

2. Be kind to yourself.

The inner self-critic (also known as the ego mind or the gremlins) is your worst saboteur. Yes, it’s important to be “real” about yourself and your issues… and it’s crucial to not beat yourself up about them either. We are all imperfect, yet perfectly lovable and worthy of love at the same time. That’s the fascinating paradox that we humans live.

Since the Universe will only treat you as well as you treat yourself, start giving the Universe clear signals that you’re ready for your soulmate by being especially good and kind to yourself.

3. Be a REBEL.

In polls, over 70% of people self-identify as unhappy, unfulfilled, and essentially feeling unloved and lonely. That means there are MANY people feeling ISOLATED AND LONELY OR STUCK in unhappy, unfulfilling, unloving relationships- or just have no relationship at all.

So don’t do what the masses do or your life will BE like the masses…unhappy, unfulfilled, and feeling unloved. Don’t get me wrong, the masses are good people. But going with the status quo just won’t serve you in finding your man and creating the life of your dreams with him.

Being a REBEL means you realize… it’s time to think differently, believe differently, and act differently…if you want different results from the masses.

One of the things we see in common with the women who are successful in finding their soulmate is that they are willing to see themselves as a little different and unique and more independent-minded than most. So go ahead and embrace your uniqueness!

“Do you want me to tell you something really subversive?
Love is everything it’s cracked up to be.
That’s why people are so cynical about it.
It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for.
And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.”
― Erica Jong

Dr. Lara, along with her husband Johnny, are love coaches who specialize in helping women have a breakthrough in their love lives. They are holding a totally free LIVE Love Training THIS THURSDAY where Lara will share:

How I Used These Surprising Forgotten Secrets To ATTRACT My Handsome, Accomplished, SOULMATE And Have Him Adoring And Cherishing ME (and Only Me) – WITHOUT Kissing All The Frogs In The Swamp Or Wasting My Life On Dead-end Relationships

Reserve your space on this exciting NEW love web-class – to learn more and join them CLICK HERE.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Romance, Food & Your Appetite for Love & Life

Dating, whether you love it or loathe it, is an indispensable part of the soulmate manifestation process (and regular date nights are essential once you are a couple). Eventually, there will be a “first dinner date.” What you order will let him or her know if you have a healthy appetite for love and life.

On these early dates, we want to let our large appetite for life, our enthusiasm for life, really shine through as much as possible.

For those of you with gluten or other sensitivities (I fall into this category), it might be best just to order something you know is “safe” for you to eat rather than engage in a big conversation with the server, which will lead to a talk about your various ailments which might make you appear “high maintenance.”

If you are vegan or vegetarian, no problem, as long as you aren’t sitting in judgment if your date orders a steak. If you are a strident vegan, and you can’t watch anyone eat meat products, that is something to figure out BEFORE you go out on a dinner date.

For those of you “foodies” out there…be adventurous and let your date know that you love trying new things.  Foodies need to find each other!

One other thought:  Judging how someone else eats, even if you believe they are harming themselves, is toxic to you, not them.

What got me thinking about all of this was a blog I recently read by Katie Oldenburg at www.thefrisky.com on this topic.  Here’s what she thinks your first date food order says about you…you decide for yourself!

Anything With Garlic: I have no self-awareness or foresight … or I don’t like you.

Tacos: I’m impulsive and a short-term thinker.

Burger And Fries: I want something delicious because I’m hungry. It’s not glamorous and you may judge me for it, so go ahead.

Buffalo Wings: I’m adventurous and not afraid of getting down and dirty.

Pasta: I’m a romantic. There’s something seductive about a savory plate of pasta, as long as sauce isn’t dripping all over the place.

Steak: I’m dominant and powerful. Anybody who wants to slice into a big filet with a steak knife says “I’m in control” (and maybe that attitude will spill into the bedroom later on).

Chicken: I play it safe. May be perceived as boring.

Pizza: I’m down-to-earth. I’m not too uppity, but I also might not be very adventurous.

Meatloaf: I’m not here to impress you. There’s nothing impressive or sexy about meatloaf, therefore there’s nothing impressive or sexy about this date.

Quesadilla: I’m fun, easy going and playful.

Surf And Turf: I’m fancy, sort of materialistic and don’t care about money, because you’re paying.

Salmon: I like you and consider your feelings. I chose a lean piece of fish that’s not too smelly or hearty, tastes good and is classy.

Chicken Fingers: I am a child trapped in an adult’s body and am unaware that you’re probably judging me.

One last thought.  When I was dating, I would generally eat something before going out to dinner, because I didn’t want anyone to see just how ravenous I can become when I get hungry and I am a super sloppy, messy eater.  I would generally order something that I liked ”enough” that wouldn’t end up all over me or them.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Is Self Love A Prerequisite To Soulmate Love?

Self-love seems to be the hot topic in the personal growth movement these days and when it comes to finding soulmate love, there are a lot of myths that until you love yourself first, you won’t be able to get anyone else to love you.  Can this really be true?

My experience has been that most women (at least in the Northern hemisphere) live with a negative, critical voice in their heads that is often filled with ugly, shaming thoughts, self-doubt, and brings with it feelings of never being “good enough.”

And, I began to wonder, do you really have to eliminate that persistent voice in order to find true love?

Do we really need to be 100% in love with ourselves to experience Big Love?

I don’t think so.

What is required is to learn how to “talk back” to that voice and create strategies to love yourself more and better.  This includes a big dose of self-awareness so that when the “voice surfaces” you kick its butt!

For instance, you walk past a mirror and immediately react by thinking “God, you look like a total piece of $#it today.” Immediately stop. Walk back to the mirror, give yourself a big smile and blow yourself a kiss and say something warm and loving to your reflection.  This is called self-care and self-soothing.  Over time, you can change your habitual negative thinking by in-putting loving and uplifting thoughts and beliefs about yourself. And, please, never forget that just because you have a thought does not make it true!

Now, as for soulmate love, one of the greatest, most awesome things about living your life with your soulmate, is that you begin to heal each other in unimaginable ways. When you spend time with someone who loves all of you – the good, the bad and the ugly – you begin to love yourself even more.

So many women are “waiting“ to actively seek their soulmate because they feel stuck in how they feel about themselves.  This is a very selfish thing to do.

Why?  Because, just as you desire to spend your life with your soulmate, they are also seeking you.  And if you are holed up at home, on the couch, watching the Kardashians or the Property Brothers, they can’t find you!

Now, while learning to love yourself a little bit more and more, it’s also important to know that once you do manifest the love of your life, you teach them how to treat you by the way they witness how you treat yourself.  I learned this from my husband Brian. Once we got married and began living together, I noticed how he always prioritized his health and well-being.  At first, I made up stories about how selfish he was because he wasn’t always flexible about the time he took to meditate and exercise.  When I finally asked him about it his response floored me.  He explained that by sticking to his personal care schedule, he was able to fill himself up so that the rest of the day he had more love and more energy to give to me and the rest of the world.

Wow.  What an insight that was for me.  I soon began to follow in his footsteps.

Self-love is important and please know that if your soul is calling for a soulmate, the voice in your head shouldn’t be a barrier to love.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Are You Easy to Please?

My fabulous men, feel free to read this, but know that this message is intended for the ladies.

As part of The Love Codes online course I am currently teaching with the fabulous Claire Zammit, I’ve been reading a lot of online profiles from our students. And I continuously see a pattern that got me thinking about the vast differences between the way men and women think and process love.

Whether you are single and seeking love or partnered up and working on keeping love, it’s critical to remember a few basic facts about most straight men:

  1.  They crave respect more than sex.
  2. They can’t be happy unless you are happy and they are not mind readers, so knowing how to gracefully communicate your needs is a necessary skill.
  3. They love to “win” and they have to feel that they can win with you. They need to genuinely feel they possess what it takes to provide happiness.
  4. They aren’t great at multi-tasking, so offering them one question or one request at a time is the way to go.
  5. They choose a life-partner not based on looks or money, but rather on how she makes him “feel.”

It’s great to know all the things you desire for your soulmate to do and be for you, but listing them all, in great detail, in your online profile (or asking or demanding more than one or two at a time), is a set up for failure.

No matter how “reasonable” you think your requests are, it’s likely you will show up in a way that will have him think he can’t please you, or you may even appear “high maintenance.”

Now, I’m not saying you can’t eventually have all of your desires met; you just have to be strategic in your communication.  And, it’s also important that it’s a two-way street…. asking and/or figuring out what he wants (If you haven’t yet read The Five Languages of Love, do that asap).

As you navigate the path of love, try focusing on how to be “easy to please,” which includes offering high praise to your beloved on a regular basis.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Making Magic: It’s easier than you think

I was blessed to learn about the powers and magic of manifesting on September 12, 1984.  My life changed that day and since then I have devoted my life to mastering the art and science of what we now call The Law of Attraction.

 

Every time I manifest something (which is usually at least once a day) I am still delighted and surprised that it worked!

 

Sometimes my desires are met in mere minutes, other times it can take weeks or even months, but eventually, always, my desires are almost always met with what I asked for, or I get something better.

 

The fastest thing I ever manifested was a gluten-free chocolate chip cookie.  I was at a conference, it was during lunch, and I got up to go to the buffet, hunting for this specific cookie.  There wasn’t one, and there had never been one on the buffet.

 

When I got back to my seat, my friend Lisa Nichols, walked up to me and said “Arielle, would you like this gluten free chocolate chip cookie?” (Of course, I said yes.)

 

The longest it ever took me to manifest something was when I wanted to change jobs. I had a great job, it paid well, and it wasn’t overly demanding but I was totally bored with it.

 

And, I didn’t know what I wanted to do next.

 

What I did know was this:

 

I desired to wake up every day feeling excited and happy to have a new position that was creative, fulfilling, that I could do from home, that was well-paying with excellent company benefits, and that I would be using all my skill sets and working with like-minded people.

 

I had no idea of where this position could be found since I didn’t even know what the position was.

 

However, I completely trusted that not only did the perfect job exist, but that IT would find ME.

 

Every day, for more than a year, I sat at my desk for several minutes while I held on to my old giant Rolodex filled with the names and phone numbers of the thousands of people I had met over the years.  Using my imagination, while focused on my heart and deep feelings of gratitude for my new career path, I thanked the Universe for arranging my new work.

 

I never doubted that this job would appear and I continued to work at my old job, and provided the highest quality creativity and results to my employers.

 

One day, more than a year into this daily practice, I got a call asking me to appear on an interview show to discuss The Soulmate Secret. The interviewer and I became friendly and had several other calls.  I pitched her an idea for a free web event, she said yes, the event was a stunning success and the next day her company offered me the most amazing position!

 

I could have never dreamed up the things that happened from there.  And, and here’s the BIGGEST take away:

 

I didn’t need to know the HOW or the WHY for it to happen.  I simply practiced Law of Attraction 101:

  • I had total clarity on the result I was seeking.
  • I completely trusted that what I asked for was already mine.
  • I did a daily gratitude practice and perhaps most importantly, I was detached from the WHEN it would happen.

This process works and it requires your participation. Simply wishing, hoping, dreaming, or fantasizing won’t get you where you want to go, but when you’re willing to put in a little time, energy, intention and attention, all things are possible.

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

 Arielle