Twenty-three years ago, on June 22, I married my soulmate, Brian, in a beautiful, magical Hindu ceremony officiated by the hugging saint, Amma.
What I didn’t know on that auspicious day could fill a book!
Leading up to the wedding, I had never given any thought as to what kind of wife and partner I would be to him.
Having written and manifested my extensive “soulmate wish list,” I had high expectations of what was in it for me, but never really thought about what was in it for him.
Early on in our marriage I made a horrifying discovery about myself: I had no partnership skills!
Having run a business for many years, I knew how to be the “boss” but was clueless about how to be a great partner.
Fortunately, Brian spent a good part of his life playing team sports and working in collaborative business partnerships. He modeled how to “play well with others.”
Over the years I’ve learned from him and became better at surfing the relationship waves.
I also became a “student of love” and did more than 200 hours of interviews with the world’s top love, marriage, and relationship experts to discover what it takes to be a good partner. (I put all my favorite tips and techniques into my book Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate)
A few of the most important things I’ve discovered are these:
- Love and gratitude. Every day I am grateful for his love and I make sure he knows it. We all receive love differently and practicing the Platinum Rule (Do unto the other as they wish to be done unto) and knowing their Five Love Languages makes all the difference.
- Kindness and respecting your partner is absolutely essential. I’ve learned that we will never agree on everything (and that’s totally normal) and respecting our differences is critical.
- Trust. This one took me awhile but eventually I came to truly understand and know that Brian always has my best interest at heart. (and his intuition is amazing!)
- Creative solutions are best. We decided early on to make our big decisions not based on what does Arielle want or what does Brian want, but rather what is best for the relationship. It’s amazing how looking from this perspective gives an instant solution.
Brian is my hero. I call him my heart chakra on legs. He radiates love and kindness and when I grow up, I want to be more like him, and I am excited, grateful, and looking forward to the next 23 years!
Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,