Declare Yourself A LOVE Philanthropist

My dear friend Marci Shimoff taught me the phrase Love Philanthropist, and every time I say it, it makes me smile.

Just as I’ve learned that tithing not only makes me feel good, and does good for others, it also brings me more abundance.

Being a Love Philanthropist brings more love.

There are so many ways to share your love with the world:

Close your eyes and send love and blessings to your nearest and dearest. (including your pets)

Send love notes (do it today!) via email or text or snail mail.

Smile and compliment strangers and beam love from your eyes to theirs.

There is a line in A Course in Miracles that says:

“The only thing that can be lacking in any situation is that which you are not giving.”

To have more love, give more love.

It’s so easy, simple, and doesn’t cost a thing.

Be Love.

Give Love.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

 Arielle

The Manifestation Thing You MAY not be doing!

I confess I have never read the Bible cover to cover, however, there is a line in the Bible that is Law of Attraction 101, from Matthew 18:29, and it reads:

“Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.”

When I was manifesting my soulmate Brian, I shared with a trusted friend what I was up to and he said to me “I will hold the space for you to accomplish this.” He explained that there is power in having another hold your vision, your dream with you. This is exactly what I believe this Biblical verse implies. 

You’ve heard me talk about the research that proves having an accountability partner puts a rocket booster on your manifestation abilities, so does having trusted friend share your vision, to hold “space” for you. And you can have one person hold “space” while someone else is your accountability partner.

Whatever your dream, goal, desire, or vision is I encourage you to engage a trusted friend to hold space for you.

And, for those of you who plan to meet your soulmate/lifepartner this year, please meet me at the stunning and serene 1440 Multiversity retreat center (near San Jose THIS WEEKEND) Feb. 8-10, and lets fast track your road to love!

DONT MISS OUT SIGN UP NOW! 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

p.s. for other LIVE events with me please visit https://www.arielleford.com/events/

Best Ways To Be Your Biggest Cheerleader

They say we teach what we most need to learn and lately that has been true for me. I have decided to tackle a new project…I am calling it my “creative challenge,” and it is SO BIG and so intimidating to me that I am not sharing it with anyone… just yet.
Every day, as I carve out time to work on this project, I am confronted by a ton of thoughts of why I can’t do it, why it’s impossible, etc., and then I spend a bunch of time diving into my spiritual tool kit to off load the negative thinking.
Needless to say, the project is moving at a snail’s pace.

It’s so easy to let the negative monkey mind chatter take over and I’ve had enough of it so here is my new commitment.
Today I am reminding myself of three very important things I seem to have forgotten:
One: I am reinstituting my formerly daily practice of ending each day reviewing something I did really well and acknowledging myself for it.
Second: At least once a week I am going to share the week’s biggest accomplishments with a friend. (I always tell Brian what I am doing, right and wrong, but it will be useful for me to share with someone else as well. If I can’t be proud of what I am up to then who will be?)
Third: I am dreaming up the “push presents” I will give myself as I reach each milestone along the way to making the creative challenge happen.

How are you going to be your own biggest cheerleader?

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

p.s. LAST CHANCE:  If meeting your soulmate/lifepartner is a priority for 2019, then I invite you to come spend the weekend with me at the stunning and serene 1440 Multiversity retreat center (near San Jose, CA) Feb. 8-10, and lets fast track your road to love!

The Soulmate Secret

When Your Dream ISN’T Happening

We’ve all been there. We’ve got a big dream, a desire, or a goal.
We feel pretty sure it’s meant to be.

We do all the right things: we take our inspired action steps, we pray, meditate, dance naked under the full moon.
We re excited. We anticipate. We tell ourselves to be patient.

We read a book or two or three. Take a workshop. Make the effort.

And nothing happens. Not one thing. Ugh!

When this happens to me, the first thing I do is immediately create something fun and pleasurable for myself. I give myself a big dose of love and yumminess.

Then I take a few minutes to go for a walk or take a bath while I reflect on WHY.

Why do I desire this?

What will it give me that I don’t have now and most importantly, how did I imagine I would FEEL when I got my dream?

When I get to the part about how do I expect I will feel, I then can ask myself, is there, perhaps, another way to get to that feeling?

Or, do I believe this dream is on the way and I have to patiently wait upon Divine Timing?

Since I believe in going with the flow, when I find that things aren’t moving, I sit back and surrender and go into “this or something better” mode, knowing and trusting that the Universe always has my best interests at heart.

Lately, I have discovered that the best manifesting I do is happening without focusing on a particular dream of a goal. I find myself just staying open to all the good I already have and all the good that is coming and then magic happens, things and experiences appear, and when they do I realize they are exactly what is most needed in the moment.

Right now I can only attribute this “grace” to my ongoing faith and trust in the Universe. And, maybe someday I will figure out how to bottle it!

Until then, remember when your dreams seem to be evading you, don’t take it personally, try not to get frustrated and allow yourself to open and receive all the good that is coming your way.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Is Self Love A Pre- Requisite To Soulmate Love?

Self Love is the hot topic in the personal growth movement these days and when it comes to finding soulmate love, there are a lot of myths that until you love yourself first, you won’t be able to get anyone else to love you. Can this really be true?

My experience has been that most women and some men (at least in the Northern hemisphere) live with a negative, critical voice in their heads that is often filled with ugly, shaming thoughts, self-doubt, and brings with it feelings of never being “good enough.”

And, I began to wonder, do you really have to eliminate that persistent voice in order to find true love? Do we really need to be 100% in love with ourselves to experience Big Love?

I don’t think so.

What is required is to learn how to “talk back” to that voice and create strategies to love yourself more and better. This includes a big dose of self-awareness so that when the “voice surfaces” you kick its butt!

For instance, you walk past a mirror and immediately react by thinking “God, you look like a total piece of $#it today.” Immediately stop. Walk back to the mirror, give yourself a big smile and blow yourself a kiss and say something warm and loving to your reflection. This is called self-care and self-soothing. Over time, you can change your habitual negative thinking by in-putting loving and uplifting thoughts and beliefs about yourself. And, please, never forget that just because you have a thought does not make it true!

Now, as for soulmate love, one of the greatest, most awesome things about living your life with your soulmate, is that you begin to heal each other in unimaginable ways. When you spend time with someone who loves all of you – the good, the bad and the ugly, you begin to love yourself even more.

So many are “waiting“ to actively seek their soulmate because they feel stuck in how they feel about themselves. This is a very selfish thing to do.

Why? Because just as you desire to spend your life with your soulmate, they are also seeking you. And, if you are holed up at home, on the couch, watching mindless reality TV, they can’t find you!

Now, while learning to love yourself a little bit, more and more, it’s also important to know that once you do manifest the love of your life, you teach them how to treat you by the way they witness how you treat yourself. I learned this from my husband Brian. Once we got married and began living together, I noticed how he always prioritized his health and well-being. At first, I made up stories about how selfish he was because he wasn’t always flexible about the time he took to mediate and exercise. When I finally asked him about it his response floored me. He explained that by sticking to his personal care schedule, he was able to fill himself up so that the rest of the day he had more love and more energy to give to me and the rest of the world.

Wow. What an insight that was for me. I soon began to follow in his footsteps.

Self-love is important and please know that if your soul is calling for a soulmate, the voice in your head shouldn’t be a barrier to love.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

The Secret Sauce to Achieving Your Goals in 2019

Successfully manifesting your desires is a combination of several factors.
First, you need clarity on what exactly you are asking for.
Second, you need to take time each day to move out of your head and into your heart to feel what it will feel like to have that desire right now, in this moment. I call this a feelingization.
And finally, you need to implement the “secret sauce.”

Research shows that making goals is useful. People who set goals are 10 times more likely to attain their goals than people who don’t!

A study by the Brigham Young University compared the statements by a person made about a particular change (or outcome) in their lives to the likelihood of them actually incorporating it… the results were as follows:

Of those that made the statement “that’s a good idea”, had a 10% chance of making a change.

Of those that committed and said, “I’ll do it.” They had a 25% chance of making a change.

Of those that said WHEN they would do it, they had a 40% chance of making a change.

Of those that set a SPECIFIC PLAN of how to do it, they had a 50% chance of change.

Of those that committed to SOMEONE ELSE that they would do it, they had a 60% chance of change.

Of those that set a specific time to SHARE THEIR PROGRESS with someone else, have a 95% chance of change!!!

SO, the secret sauce is this: make sure you have an accountability partner. This is someone who truly cares about you, and wants the best for you, and will communicate with you at least once a week to make sure you are doing what you say you are going to do and vice versa.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,
Arielle

Mindful Resolutions for a Happier 2019

Did you glide through 2018 with a big smile on your face?

Was 2018 a year of grace and ease under pressure?

If not, here are some amazing tips for a kinder, gentler 2019.

My friend Julie Potiker, author of  “Life Falls Apart, but You Don’t Have To: Mindful Methods for Staying Calm In the Midst of Chaos,” offers super useful tips to make sure 2019 is a year of serenity and mindfulness.

  1. Take In the Good: In 2019, turn your focus toward experiencing the fullness of every beautiful, joyful, silly, fun, or wonderful experience you have. Savor the positive mental state for a few moments to create new neural bridges; what fires together, wires together! By letting the good feelings land, you are pushing the mental state into a neural trait, resulting in a happier brain.

 

  1. Label Negative Emotions: Practice R.A.I.N. When you experience anger, frustration, sadness, or any other negative emotion, recognize it by saying, “Oh, that’s anger” (or whatever the emotion is) coming up right now.” The mere mention of the emotion calms down the brain. Then allow it to be there for a few moments while you gently investigate why it’s there. Finally, nourish yourself by looking inward and asking what you need to hear or do right now to help yourself feel better.

 

  1. Do What Gives You Joy: Life is full of emotional chaos, but bringing it back to focused activities that give joy to your soul can mean the difference between making or breaking it day to day, year to year. Take a few minutes to write down a list of everything you can think of that brings you joy — little things and big things alike — then commit to doing one thing from that list every day.

 

  1. Get Grounded: When you feel anxiety ramping up, focus your attention downward and feel your feet on the floor. Breathe deeply, keeping your focus on the sensation of your feet (i.e., bare, in socks or shoes, whatever — feel it all, just as it is) on the floor. This is an instant tool to break the cycle of anxiety.

 

  1. Transform Suffering Into Love (Tonglen): When you experience suffering — whether from a personal tragedy, an international one, or anything in between — use the Receiving-Sending meditation to transform that suffering into love. Breathe in the pain and sorrow; breathe out love and compassion. Breathe in the suffering; breathe out peace.

 

This year, let mindfulness help you become more resilient. Feel your frustration or disappointment or whatever it is that comes up for you, then turn to one of your Mindful Methods tools to comfort yourself, as you would comfort a dear friend. You are that dear friend! You can enjoy the present more without ruminating on the past or worrying as much about the future.

I would suggest you print these out and post somewhere as a daily reminder!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. Julie is hosting at nonprofit retreat center A Ship In the Woods in Escondido, CA. She is donating all proceeds from ticket sales and onsite book sales to the A Ship In the Woods 501(c)(3) charitable organization.  Please visit:

3 Beliefs That Men Find Irresistible In a Woman

In this day and age of digital dating and limitless options to meet people, it can feel impossible to stand out from the crowd.

YOU are a unique, amazing individual and when you own this fact and learn how to radiate your best qualities, you are sure to separate yourself from the rest.

Many women don’t realize that it’s not the surface-level things that make a man incredibly attracted to you, but rather the beliefs you possess about life, your attitude about yourself, and the fun, authentic self-confidence that comes from a place of true self-love.

There are three beliefs in particular that men find irresistible and are sure to not only set you apart from other women but will aid you in attracting a genuine, connected relationship.

#1 Belief of an Irresistible Woman – “I am worthy of great love”

A woman who owns her worth and believes she deserves respect and authentic love is incredibly attractive to a man.

When a woman does not believe herself to be “enough” (pretty enough, thin enough, smart enough, etc.) she sends out a subconscious signal that lowers a man’s perception of her and deflates his attraction.

Rather, the woman who believes she IS worthy of a great love radiates a vibrancy of high value and self-respect, and this makes a man want to rise to the challenge of being good-enough to win her heart.

Now I know owning your true worth might feel difficult at times, and to help you tune in to and tune-up your self-love, my amazing friend and dating expert, Mat Boggs, has created a Self-Love Activation Kit as a gift from me to you.

Download your free kit here to kick that inner self-critic to the curb and feel a deeper self-love than ever before.

#2 Belief of an Irresistible Woman – “Love can be easy”

This is important! It can hard to remain optimistic when date after date has been a dead-end.

But when you focus your mind on the belief that love can be easy, it puts you in a relaxed, fun, best-self state-of-being — a state where you’re not trying too hard or sabotaging yourself, but rather enjoying moments of connection and letting the love flow into your life with ease.

#3 Belief of an Irresistible Woman – “The best is yet to come”

Finally, the third belief of an irresistible woman is not about where they’ve been or there struggles of the past.

Instead, it’s about where they are going, the knowing that there is more adventure and love out there, and their willingness to seize each moment and day with a zeal for life.

When you believe that there’s more fun to be had, you’re infectious and fun to be around, and a man will find that incredibly attractive.

Now, **WARNING** these three beliefs will not only aid you in living a life filled with love, adventure, and connection…

But might bring your man into your life sooner than you thought!

Because there’s nothing that stands out more than a woman who embraces her unique qualities and limitless potential…

And has a BLAST doing it.

Don’t forget to grab your free copy of the Self-Love Activation Kit so you can align with the vibration of love even more and start living the life you’ve always dreamed of.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Why You Need A Personal Bouncer

We all know the importance of clearing clutter from our home, office, closets, garage, etc. to create more ease, flow, and success in our lives… but what you probably don’t know is that it’s critical to clear another kind of clutter: People.

 

We need to clear out the emotionally draining, toxic, judgmental, crazy-making, and/or even boring, uninspiring people from our lives.

 

Who’s In Your Room is a new book from my dear friends, both powerhouse personal growth leaders, Stewart Emery and Ivan Misner.

 

Several years ago, at a Transformational Leadership Council gathering, I heard Stewart speak on this topic and it completely changed my life. He said that we should look at our life as if it is a room with only one door, no exits. Once someone walks into our life, they really never leave (even if we think we have deleted them the thoughts, feelings, and experiences we have had with them live on in our brain). Therefore, we have to begin to carefully curate ‘who” we allow into our “room,” and we may even use a bodyguard or two stationed outside our room to make sure that we only allow in those that share our values.

 

After I heard Stewart speak I began to think about all the people in my “room” that were energy sucking emotional vampires or chaotic drama queens, etc. And, for the first time, I seriously began to think about the importance of making my room (i.e. my life), a sacred space to share with like-minded family and friends who share my values. It was mind-blowing!

 

I am so thrilled that this is now available as a book (it’s a very short, easy to read book). It is so important to understand that “who” you allow into your “room” will impact the quality of the rest of your life.

 

I consider Who’s In Your Room a must read for everyone focused on living a long, healthy and happy life.

Gratitude, Turkey & Choosing Love

The great spiritual teacher, Ram Dass (“Be Here Now”) once said:

“If you think you’re enlightened go spend a week with your family.”

For those of us who consider ourselves to be loving, conscious people on a spiritual path, we are sometimes flabbergasted by just how easily being with our family can trigger negative emotions and old patterns.

I’ve good news.

This is pretty normal.

You are not the only one.

Some of these DNA-related folks have the playbook and intuitively know how to push our buttons.

If you plan to spend Thanksgiving with relatives, here are a few things to remember:

Begin your day with a few minutes to write a gratitude list of all the people and things you are grateful for.

Set the intention for how you would like the day to go.

Share that intention with at least one other person who will be at the table and ask them to help you “hold the space” for a loving, fun, enjoyable event.

Also, make this person your ally, have a game plan of how to handle certain situations that always seem to come up.

For instance, if cousin Billy and cousin Bob always get into a disagreement, be sure to seat them at opposite ends of the table.

Consider this: No one is showing up to the gathering with the intention to deliberately try to piss you (or anyone else) off.

As much as possible, use humor to deflect conflict.

Do a Google search for stupid, silly Thanksgiving jokes and write them down and have them handy.  Here’s one:

“What did the Turkey say to the computer?”

“Google, Google, Google!”

Finally, remember that it’s always a good idea to avoid controversial topics at the dinner table.  If you, or someone else, brings up a topic that is sure to get folks riled up, be the adult in the room who speaks up and suggest that in the spirit of fun and harmony, it’s time to change the subject, and then guide them into another subject.

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

 

Arielle