Love, Life and What Is Most Needed

One day, many years ago, Brian and I were in Tiffany’s, simply browsing all the pretty shiny and sparkling things.  As we looked through the glass cabinet at a diamond bracelet, a very elegant man in a suit, behind the counter, asked if I would like to try it on.  I immediately said to him: “Oh no thanks, I certainly don’t need anything like this.”

His instant reply floored me: “Madam, this is not about “need,” this is all about “want.”

He was right, and in that moment he gave me a distinction I had never thought about: the difference between “need” vs. “want.”

Our basic needs: air, food, water, shelter, security are obviously the most important ones and essential to life.

But, what about everything else?

Some examples:

cars2I want to eat cheesecake, red velvet cupcakes, macadamia nut chocolate chip cookies and gobs of pasta.  I am gluten and sugar sensitive, so I need to eat healthy foods. The choice is up to me.  My “wants” can hurt me.

I want to drive the big, expensive Tesla sedan.  And, I work from home and only need a very small car to get to the market in.

Now, does that mean I can’t ever have my “wants?”

No, of course not, but knowing the difference is very useful when making decisions (And, I indulge my sweet tooth nearly every day, but I limit myself to 3 small bites.)

For those of you seeking your soulmate, it’s often hard to discern between a want and a need.  One way to do it is to ask yourself this question: “Will this want/need contribute to my long-term happiness?”  If this answer is yes, then I would put it in the “need” category.

I have learned over the years that the more I let go of my “wants” and get comfortable and committed to handling my needs, knowing that I always have “enough” makes my life easier, more fun and certainly more peaceful.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

P.S. If your heart’s desire is to manifest the love of your life, and you are willing to dedicate your time, attention and intention to making it happen, then I invite you to join me August 19-21 at the beautiful Omega Institute to discover how to quickly and easily make it happen! (This is the only time this year I am offering this weekend workshop)

Love Letter From God

If you are single and struggling with love, or have any single friends that are, please read this very special love letter from God:

 

Love Letter From God

Dear One,

Love LetterEveryone longs to give themselves completely to someone, to have a deep soul relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively, but I say “No.”  Not until you are satisfied, fulfilled and content with being alone, with giving yourself totally and unreservedly to Me, will you be ready to have the intensely personal and unique relationship that I have planned for you.  You will never be united with anyone or anything else until you are united with Me. I want you to stop planning, stop wishing, and start allowing Me to give you the most thrilling plan in existence – one that you cannot even imagine. I want you to have the best.  Please, allow Me to bring it to you.

You must keep watching Me expecting the greatest of things.  Keep experiencing the satisfaction that I AM.  Keep listening and learning the things that I will tell you.  Just wait.  That’s all.  Don’t be anxious. Don’t worry. Don’t look around at the things others have or that I have given them.  Don’t look at the things you think you want. Just keep looking up to Me or you will miss what I want to show you.  And then, when you are ready, I will surprise you with a love far more wonderful than any you have dreamed of.

 You see, until you are ready and until the one I have for you is ready (I am working even at this moment to have you both ready at the same time), until you are both satisfied exclusively with Me and the life I have prepared for you, you won’t be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with Me. This is Perfect Love.

 And Dear One, I want you to have this most wonderful love. I want to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship with Me, and to enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting union of beauty, perfection, and love that I offer.  Know that I love you utterly.  Believe it and be satisfied.

 Love,

God

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

My Valentines Day Gift For YOU!

Traditionally, Valentines Day is for couples to gift each other with flowers, candy and sentimental store bought cards. All of which are lovely, and I want to encourage those of you who have your soulmate to be sure to write each other really gushing love letters!

 

NOW…. for my single readers, here’s what I want you to know:

 

YOU deserve BIG LOVE.

 

While you may think that love is currently missing (or might never come), I am here to tell you, not only is it coming, but on the unseen level your soulmate is already connected to you!

 

It’s what I call “love before first sight.”

 

For the past 18 years, I have been happily married to my beloved soulmate Brian. Many of you know my story.

 

What you may not know is that my dear friend and leader of Feminine Power, Claire Zammit, is now celebrating her 10-year anniversary with her soulmate Craig.

 

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Claire and I have a lot in common…. We are both very career oriented results-generating dynamos, and it wasn’t predictable that either one of us would end up blissfully married to our soulmates.

 

And yet we did.

 

And we are going to show you how to do it too!

 

On Valentines Day (this Sunday) at 10 am PT/1 pm ET we have a special free call planned just for you where we will use the magic and power of the day to share with you what it takes to manifest Big Love.

Register for this no charge Valentine’s Day event here

 

If you are ready and willing to invite Big Love into your life, register NOW for this free call with us.

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

 Arielle

Be A Love Philanthropist

One of my favorite lines from A Course In Miracles is:

 

The only thing that can be lacking in any situation is that which you are not giving.

 

I think of this often, especially when I am out of sorts….and then I quickly figure out that was is missing is: giving and receiving love.

 

I just simply forget to love myself, or I forget just how fortunate I am to have so much love in my life.

 

LOVE fivingThat’s when I remind myself that perhaps my most important reason for being is to be LOVE.

 

For many years, one of the goals I set out for myself was to be a philanthropist and in my own small way, I am.

 

A few years ago I learned the term  “Love Philanthropist” from my dear friend, Marci Shimoff, bestselling author of Happy For No Reason.

 

I realized that being a “Love Philanthropist” is even more important than writing checks to worthy causes. I am grateful that I can do both.

 

Just like we all have enough fresh air to breath and clean water to drink, there is more than enough love for all of us to give and receive.

 

I want to remind you (and me) to love yourself, especially during the potential stresses of the holiday season.  Make sure to create lots of “me time” and feed yourself well, take naps, get lots of quality sleep and make plans to be with like-minded, fun people.

 

Why?

 

Because when you are filled up, you have more love to share with the world.

 

Wishing you love, laughter and Magical kisses,

 

Arielle

What’s In The Way of Love?

When it comes to having more LOVE in your life, total clarity on how you desire to feel is the first step.

For those of you who are hyper focused on the “form” your love comes in, I am inviting you to shift into the “feeling space” and for just now, let go of your wish list regarding the physical form (on all levels) you think you need. (The Divine may have something in mind for you that is beyond your ability to conceive of right now.)

Here’s a little exercise to try every morning for the next week that will assist you in having and feeling more love in your life.

When you begin to wake up, before you even open your eyes, imagine that your life is filled with more love than you ever thought possible.

Using your imagination, begin to sense all the loving people in your life from soulmates to friends to family to pets (and don’t forget yourself!)

imagesIn this moment, how are you feeling?

Loved? Happy? Safe? Serene? Excited? Relieved? Filled with gratitude? Content?

Allow yourself to experience the depth of your positive emotions for all the love connections in your life.

In your mind, whisper to each of them words of love, appreciation and gratitude for all the ways they enrich your life.

You do not need to know how or when this reality came to be, just feel the deliciousness of their divine presence and breathe them in.

Thank them for the gift of sharing a life with you.

Tell them that you now know and trust that they are always with you.

Beam your love to each of them.

Put a big smile on your face, swallow the smile and let it land in every organ of your body, and when you are ready, gently open your eyes and begin your day.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. Join me for the Soulmate Secret Weekend Workshop, at Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, July 10-12th. This workshop goes beyond the book, and includes new transformative feelingizations and a fire-ritual to kick start your love life into high gear! This stunning, holistic, rural retreat center is two hours north of NYC.  More info here!

Two Minute LOVE fix!

A few weeks ago I was watching Grey’s Anatomy on TV and learned the most awesome thing!

Here was the scene: Dr. Amelia Shepard was standing in the surgical suite, about to perform a groundbreaking 17-hour brain surgery on a colleague.  She was scared out of her mind because if anything went wrong, her friend would die on the table.

Wonder Woman smallWhen her assistant arrived, she told her to stand with her feet shoulder width apart, hands on hips, chest and chin up in “wonder woman” pose for two minutes. Both women assumed the “wonder woman” position and by doing this simple act it gave them both the courage they needed to tackle the surgery. And, of course as great TV goes, it worked!

I began to wonder if this “wonder woman” pose was for real, so I did some research.  Turns out it is based in fact!  You can instantly re-claim your power and confidence by standing in “wonder woman” pose for just two minutes. Social psychologist, Ann Cuddy, has proven this works!  (check out her TED talk)

The next time you have to have a “difficult” conversation with a loved one or someone at work, try this….I think you will find that it’s easier to be more loving and compassionate when you aren’t filled with fear, dread or getting defensive.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. Guys, this will also work for you!

Be A Love Generator

My dear friend David Wagner, discovered his life’s purpose while at work one day as a hairdresser. One of his regular clients came in unexpectedly for a blow out. David decided to give her an extra long head massage. As he shampooed her hair and lovingly massaged her scalp, he was, as usual, friendly and kind during their time together.

A few days letter he received a surprising letter from the woman. She wrote that she had come in for a blow out because her plan was to commit suicide and she wanted to look good at her funeral. But, because of David’s attention and love, rather than follow through with her plan, she decided life was worth living and she checked herself into the hospital and sought help.

DW Grammy JuneIn that moment, David had an epiphany. He realized that he was more than a hairdresser, more than a boss to 400 employees at his many Juut Salonspas in Minnesota…..he saw that he was in fact a “Daymaker.”

He now knew his purpose in life was to make someone’s day, to spread love, to be a love generator.

It’s a simple concept with a powerful effect.

If we all commit to be “Daymakers” in our lives, and the lives we touch, the world will quickly become a more loving place.

Below are some of David’s tips on how to be a Daymaker in all areas of life.

Make Your Lover’s Day

  • Write a love letter and send it in the mail. It costs 44 cents.
  • Send your mate’s parents flowers on your mate’s birthday.
  • Rent a tandem bicycle for the weekend.
  • Offer to take over something your mate usually does (like cook dinner).
  • Break out the best china this week, especially with kids. It will create a special night for everyone.
  • Ladies, send him flowers at work today. How rare is it for a guy to get flowers? Very rare! They love it!!

Make A Co-Worker’s Day

  • Offer to pick up lunch for someone you know is swamped.
  • If you have an SUV, offer to pick up others on a snowy day.
  • Pass the bouquet. Give someone special a bouquet and have them pass it on to someone else the following day. It’s a week of Daymaking with one bouquet!
  • Create a Daymaker of the Year award at work.
  • Write a thank you note to the boss. It’s lonely at the top. Everyone needs to know they’re appreciated for their work.
  • Acknowledge promotions; send a card to the employee’s home.
  • Grab coffee for your coworker on the way in!

Make A Stranger’s Day

  • Put a quarter in a gumball machine and walk away.
  • Let people merge in traffic today.
  • Carry thank you notes with you. Write them out to waiters and waitresses. It will surprise them more than a big tip.
  • Plug a parking meter that’s expired.
  • Help a stranger take their luggage off the carousel at the airport.
  • Buy a bike for your local children’s shelter.
  • Buy gift certificates to a car wash and leave them on the windshield of random cars.
  • Buy gift certificates to an ice cream shop and give them out on a hot day.

Make Your Own Day

  • Tonight make your home a spa. Use your favorite soothing music, scented candles, bath salts/oils, calming tea, and favorite robe. Unplug the phone, put the kids to sleep and enjoy two hours of bliss.
  • Buy fresh flowers on your way home tonight.
  • Call someone just to say, “I love you and I’m glad you are in my life.”
  • Watch the sunset.
  • Turn off your cell phone ringer during dinner.
  • Be an optimist today. Look on the bright side of everything that comes your way. Repeat it tomorrow.

To join David and the tens of thousands of Daymakers around the world, please visit: www.daymakermovement.com

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. In the photo above, David is being a Daymaker for his wife Charlie’s Grandmother, June. She will be 99 next month!

Can You Make Someone Fall in Love with You?

People often ask me how to use the Law of Attraction to bring back an ex lover or convince someone new to love them.  I do not believe this is the best use of the Law of Attraction and I am not even sure if it would work.  I don’t believe in impeding on someone else’s free will or destiny.

Couple cupsHowever, I recently came across some fascinating research that seems to have an excellent track record in having people fall in love and also having couples re-ignite their level of intimacy.

In a study published in April 1997 by State University of New York psychology professor Arthur Aron, a team of researchers discovered a method for creating closeness between two strangers. In laboratory setting, the team asked participants to use a catalogue of thirty-six increasingly personal questions and to then conduct an exercise of silently looking into each other’s eyes for four minutes.  The idea was to discover three common traits along with a series of other trust-building measures to quickly create trust and intimacy, the cornerstones of any lasting relationship.

In an article in the New York Times, University of British Columbia in Vancouver writing instructor Mandy Len Catron recounts her experience of re-enacting the experiment with a university colleague.  The intensity of the exercise was overwhelming. After several hours of conversation with her male colleague, she revealed that love is indeed an action. To their surprise, the test worked and they fell in love.

You can get the list of 36 questions here.

When you do this, remember, the most important part of the exercise is this:  after answering all the questions, you and your partner gaze into each other’s eyes, in total silence for four minutes.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,   

Arielle

Get the Most from Your Single Days

Today’s wisdom is from my dear friend and bestselling author of Calling In the One, Katherine Woodward Thomas who shares how to get the most out of your remaining days as a single!

If you’ve been without a partner for a long time now, living the single life (you know, sleeping in the middle of the bed, falling asleep with the TV on, taking up all the space on the counter of the bathroom), then I’m here to tell you, “Don’t despair!”

These single years can be an extraordinary time of growth, where you can come home to the center of yourself, connect more deeply with your own feelings, needs and desires, discover your own authentic voice, and reflect upon the impact your beliefs and assumptions have had on your past relationships. And do this in a way that supports you to evolve your consciousness to a healthier place from which to create your next relationship.

In short, you actually have the time and the space right now to identify and release your internal barriers to loving partnership, and to prepare yourself to co-create a relationship that reflects the highest possibility you hold of deeply nourishing, inspired, happy, healthy love!

The kinds of shifts that are possible in these precious times of solitude will, however, require much of you. For in order to dramatically transform your relationship patterns, you must be willing to see clearly how you yourself co-created the old ones, as well as take responsibility to begin showing up in completely new ways.

As a mature adult, and not simply a child in a grown-up body who is holding others hostage to your old wounds from childhood.

As a person who is willing to let go of your solo dance in service to becoming ready to be a part of a couple.

And being willing to take full responsibility for those things within yourself that you’ve been blaming others for.

Becoming ready for authentic, happy, healthy love isn’t always easy. But it is always well worth the effort on the other side.

While setting an intention to find love is a good thing, it is really just the beginning of the journey. A reference point for all that you will be focused on transforming in yourself as you become the woman or man you would need to be in order to create a great relationship – one that would represent the fulfillment of your deepest longings.

When you have the courage to say yes to the possibility of love, it will often mean facing things about yourself you’ve not been willing to really look at until now. Such as the part of you that may not actually want to be in a committed relationship. Or maybe the part of you that doesn’t actually want to risk being sexual again. Or the part of you that doesn’t want anyone else’s wants and needs to interfere with getting your own tended to.

Using your single time as a time to prepare for love, often means a radical departure from your old, automatic, and probably pretty comfortable ways of doing things!

I’m talking about those patterns and habits that may identify who you think you are, such as “I am fiercely independent and never ask anyone for help,” or “I’m such a loving person that I always take care of other people before myself.”

Everything you think about yourself is suddenly suspect.

Is it really your nature to be that independent? Or is it a defense against being disappointed again like you were when you were a child? A creative and compensatory response to no one really ever being there for you in the way you needed when you were young?

Is it really loving to self abandon constantly, and to source your value from pleasing other people? Or is it a destructive pattern that keeps you invisible and makes it nearly impossible for you to ever fully commit yourself to someone else because you don’t trust that your authentic self will ever be taken care of?

This time alone grants you the ability to consciously challenge these old ways of seeing yourself, and to begin identifying and practicing new ways of showing up in relationship to yourself and others that are most likely outside of who we’ve known yourself to be.

So, I encourage you to use this time wisely. Moving into a place of stillness for a while and getting into a deeper relationship with yourself can be the most vital and wonderful preparation for receiving a beloved into your life.

If more people took advantage of this time alone, there would be a lot more healthy and happy unions we could point to as role models for what we ourselves are committed to creating.

It all comes down to really doing the work to transform yourself from the inside out while you are still single. To recreate yourself anew, and to focus on becoming the best potential partner you have the capacity to be . . .

So that when you do call in your wonderful, made-for-you soulmate, you’ll actually be worthy of their devotion and their love.

I hope you enjoyed this.  A big thank you to Katherine for sharing this with us.

For those of you who want to experience her genius first hand, there is a no-cost teleseminar coming up. Register here.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. Katherine Woodward Thomas, MA, MFT is the national bestselling author of Calling in “The One.” She is a licensed psychotherapist and creator of the Calling in “The One” 7-week Interactive Online Course, which has supported many thousands of people around the globe in finding their soulmate. She is a creative and inspired transformative educator with over 20 years experience designing and facilitating leading-edge seminars that support the emergence of life-altering shifts in consciousness both in individuals and in groups. Register here.

 

LOVE before First Sight!

If you believe that on some level we are all connected… that the “unified field” really does exist (and according to quantum physics it does), then great news – you are already connected to your soulmate on the cosmic level.

When I was manifesting my soulmate, I instinctively knew this and so every day I would take time to meditate and then I would “talk” to my soulmate. I didn’t know his name, or where he was, but I would share my day with him and always let him know that I was ready for him to arrive whenever the time was right for him. I believe that one of the reasons Brian and I “recognized” each other when we finally did meet on the physical plane is because I had already begun the relationship with him.

One of my students, Patricia Arroyo, a Ph.D. psychologist and certified coach, recently emailed me to share the fabulous news that ten months ago she manifested her soulmate and that “talking to her soulmate” was one of the Soulmate Secret tools she used that really supported her in the process. The “feelingizations” were a powerful daily reminder that she is the source of love and that by remembering and re-experiencing love she was able to dispel feelings of desperation and loneliness. She also shared with me that believing and knowing that her soulmate was also “looking for her” was a real eye-opener! (Patricia is available as a coach on how to manifest a soulmate so if you want some extra support. You can email her at drparroyo@nullicloud.com)

Remember, BIG LOVE is possible – you just need to commit to putting in a little time, energy, intention and attention on your love life.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle