Manifesting in Baby Steps

I completed writing my eighth book and I’m feeling a mixture of elation and fulfillment while I am also present to a sense of ease and grace. I began the process one year ago with the writing of the book proposal.

At that time I knew the title and I had a broad idea of what the book would be about but I didn’t have any confidence that I could actually write it.

Writing The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction was rather effortless because it only required that I remember the sequence and details of the steps I took to manifest Brian. All of the material already existed in my memory and in my product www.soulmatekit.com.

I was about to tackle a subject that had never been written about before and I would need to reveal deeply personal things about my relationship with Brian to make the book authentic and believable. Yikes!

The book, entitled Wabi Sabi Love: Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships, reveals that Wabi Sabi is an ancient Japanese art form that finds beauty and perfection in imperfection.

Wabi Sabi Love is the art and practice of loving the imperfections in ourselves and in our partner. It is not mere acceptance or denial of the things that may annoy us or even drive us crazy but rather a deep and profound appreciation for the uniqueness of each other.

As I began to write the book proposal I found myself frozen at the prospect of sharing my thoughts about this obscure art form and layering it into the world of relationship and marriage. Even though I had personally practiced Wabi Sabi in my life for decades, no one I knew had even heard of it. So, I asked myself a very important question:

What do I need to do to manifest a beautiful book that will be coded with love and wisdom? A book that offers encouragement to couples?

My inner guidance gave me this answer: Find a way to believe you were born to write this book and create a support team to help you.

And that is exactly what I did. I went online to do some research on Wabi Sabi which led me to an article on the subject by Robin Rice www.bewhoyouare.com , who I then immediately contacted. It turned out that not only is Robin well versed in Wabi Sabi, she has a soulmate relationship and she is a coach!

Within a few sessions I was well on my way to knowing and believing I was meant to write this book. Next I enrolled my husband Brian to be one of my editors on the book and asked my brilliant sister Debbie to provide guidance. Brian then reminded me that my friend, author Christine Hohlbaum, also in a soulmate marriage, www.christine.presskit247.com would be a perfect freelance editor to work with and thus my support team took shape.

Harper One (publisher of The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction ) bought the proposal and gave me 10 months to deliver the book. (Right now the publication date is set for January 2012 ­ more than year away.)

Early on I decided to write 500 words a day, 5 days a week. Usually I write in the early evening after dinner and on the weekends. I also put a sign on my desk with the name of the book and these words “Let It Be Easy”.

Each day when I sat down to write I would do a short feelingization and then ask myself, what is the next step? Sometimes I would pick up the phone and call a friend and tell them what I was writing about and ask if they knew anyone with a great marriage that I could contact for a possible “Wabi Sabi Story”, or, I would Google a particular word or person and generally whatever was “next” would make itself known.

Manifesting this book was fun, creative, challenging at moments and ultimately very gratifying. Whether it’s a new job, a new love, or a new book, the steps of manifestation are always the same:

1) Have clarity in your intention.

2) Believe and trust you can achieve it.

3) Go into action.

What step can you take today to begin make one of your dreams come true?

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Going the Distance (For Love)

Have you ever been or are you currently in a long-distance relationship? How’s that working for you? Probably not great.

Long-distance relationships are fact of life for many of the estimated 4 million married couples that are living apart from each other, often because one of them has a job far from home.

This weekend we went to see the new Drew Barrymore film, GOING THE DISTANCE. It’s a laugh-out-loud romantic comedy about a couple struggling to make a relationship work when he lives in NYC and she lives in San Francisco.

Garrett (played by Justin Long), is a low-level record-company executive. He meets Drew Barrymore’s character, Erin, while she is interning for a summer at a top New York newspaper. A late bloomer in her early 30s, Erin had once given up everything for romance and was now committed to putting her career first.

They meet at a bar and Erin readily tells Garrett she is not looking to get “involved” and yet chemistry ignites and they enjoy a six-week whirlwind romance before she returns to school at Stanford. While the lovers decide to try to make their cross-country romance work with the help of Skype and cell phones, as with most long-distance relationships, trust begins to break down.

They soon discover that seeing each other once every three months just isn’t enough, and phone sex just doesn’t do it for either of them. I won’t spoil the ending for you but here’s what I can tell you: Skype is great and a virtual hug is never as satisfying as the real thing.

When you are creating your soulmate wish list it’s REALLY IMPORTANT to include on your list WHERE you want to live if you already LOVE where you live. (If you are a free spirit and willing to move anywhere, this doesn’t apply to you.)

As many of you already know, I believe the top two items on everyone’s soulmate wish list need to be the same:

#1 ­ My soulmate is open, willing and available for a long-term, committed, monogamous (add straight or gay) marriage (or partnership if you don’t desire to be married.)

#2. ­ My soulmate lives within ___ miles of me or is willing to move to be with me.

Then add in the traits and qualities of your desired soulmate and descriptions of your life together that will make your heart sing. And, you just might want to add in: My soulmate loves to take me to see romantic comedy films.  Wink. Wink.

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My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Arielle Recommends: Why He Disappeared

Even though I’m proud of the work I do, I’m the first to recognize that there are a bunch of other relationship experts with unique and powerful messages.

Today, I want to introduce you to one of my favorites. His name is Evan Marc Katz.

If you haven’t already heard of him, he’s the author of two books about dating, and has appeared on the Today Show, the Early Show, the Tyra Banks, Rachael Ray, and so on. But that’s not why I’m telling you about him.

The reason I want you to get to know Evan Marc Katz is this: He is the only male dating coach I know who works exclusively with smart, strong, successful women.

His entire job is spent helping women just like you – the creme de la creme ­ understand and connect with men. His new book, “Why He Disappeared: the Smart, Strong, Successful Woman’s Guide to Understanding Men and Keeping the Right One Hooked Forever” is phenomenal. Really.

Here’s something he wrote which blew me away. I trust you’ll agree:

You Don’t Attract the Wrong Men. You ACCEPT The Wrong Men. What happens when you find yourself incredibly attracted to a man? Well, there’s the feeling of chemistry and everything that comes along with it – the obsessive highs that come with wanting to be with him, the joy of feeling incredibly connected, and, what you may forget, the willful blindness that allows you to overlook his flaws.

That’s one of the most miraculous things about chemistry: it allows you to focus only on the good and ignore all the bad. Which is why you can have incredible chemistry and end up in a TERRIBLE relationship, where he doesn’t call you, doesn’t sleep with you, doesn’t compliment you, doesn’t make you feel safe, and doesn’t commit to you.

But you stick around because of how strong your rare FEELINGS are. You’ve now discovered the real secret to why you’re in dead end relationships:

You don’t attract the wrong men, you accept the wrong men.

If you consistently find yourself in relationships with liars, cheaters, addicts, leeches, or commitment-phobes, your job isn’t to get them to stop lying, cheating, drinking, mooching or flaking. Your job is to leave.

You’ll never stop attracting the wrong men, but starting now, you can stop ACCEPTING their bad behavior… and save yourself years of heartbreak and pain.

Amen.

Evan is offering a ton of high-quality bonuses to go with his fascinating take on the male mind. Along with his eBook and a 2 hr audio version of the same material, Evan is going to give you this:

Why He Disappeared Online – 30 page eBook and 36-minute audio, helping you understand the 3 main reasons that men don’t follow through with you.

Audio Interview on the difference between chemistry and compatibility, the difference between loving someone and being “in love”, and which flaws you should and should not overlook in men:

Audio Interview on what men really think of women who ask them out, the 2 things that cause men to end relationships every time, and how to find a partner who is more compatible.

Video Interview with Carol Allen – emotional I.Q., having realistic expectations, the false clarity of passion, being a “yes” woman, choosing character over charisma, and what men truly want in a partner.

And best of all, Evan offers a one-year money back guarantee if you don¹t love his book, he’ll refund your money. Definitely worth checking out!

www.evanmarckatz.com

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

The Love You Seek is Already Yours…

Manifesting becomes effortless when you have a clear intention that resonates in every cell of your body. This week allow yourself to remember why it is that you desire a soulmate.

Consider how you, and your life, will be more enriched when you are sharing your daily life with your beloved.

What is that you have to offer your soulmate?

What is it that you most want to share with them?

What is it that you most seek from the relationship?

As you ponder these questions allow yourself to have an experience of present moment awareness and really imagine yourself with these questions answered.  Use this moment to feel what it feels like to be sharing your life, right now, with your soulmate.

Make this a daily practice. I can’t emphasize how important it is to make your soulmate attraction plan a DAILY PRACTICE.  As you continue to focus your intention and attention on your heart’s desire, knowing that what you’ve asked for is ALREADY yours, you magnetize it to you.

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love