As you read this, we are headed to Israel and Italy to celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary. It’s hard to believe how the years have flown by!
What I love most about being married to my soulmate Brian is that every morning I wake up to someone who is SO HAPPY to see me, gives me big hugs and cuddles, tells me how beautiful I am and how much he loves me.
I live in this near daily feeling of being drenched in love, saturated in love, infused with love, support and devotion… some days it seems almost too good to be true and I just pinch myself! BUT, it wasn’t always this way….
Like so many people, when we first got married, I really believed that since I was with my “soulmate,” marriage would be easy and effortless.
What I didn’t know then was that part of the purpose of a sacred relationship is to have a partner to learn and grow and heal with, and that doesn’t happen without challenges.
Fortunately, I committed myself to becoming a “student of love” and I was open and willing to figure out how to become a great partner.
If only someone had prepared me for all of this.
For instance….did you know that research has proven that every couple has at least 9 irreconcilable differences? These are things that you are never going to agree on and yet we have to learn how to love and respect each others’ point of view and then come up with creative solutions. Discovering that having this many differences was “normal” was such a relief! One of the biggest differences for many couples revolves around money. Almost always you get a “spender” and a “saver.”
That was a big one for me.
While at first it seemed like an insurmountable issue, it healed me of my poverty consciousness, something I wasn’t really aware of until confronted with it!
I also didn’t know that men’s brains are wired differently from women’s and that totally impacts the way we need to communicate with each other.
And, communication skills can be easily learned.
While this newsletter doesn’t give me the space to share everything I have learned about “how” to have an amazing marriage, I can tell you that whether you are still seeking your soulmate or you’ve been happily with yours for many decades, everything I have learned is in my book, Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate. I have made this book easy and fun and if you are up for being a “student of love,” be sure to read it. You can get the first few chapters for free at www.arielleford.com.
All the latest science and research now shows that the very best way to insure a long, healthy life is to have a happy marriage. I know many of you exercise, eat right, do yoga, meditate, and drink your green drinks, so please also put your attention on manifesting your soulmate and if you already have one, become a “student of love” to create a long-lasting happy marriage.
Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,