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Are You 2 Degrees From Your Soulmate (or your next BIG dream)

Posted by Jul 24, 2018 , , Leave a Comment

Commerical airline pilot Lisa could easily be called an adventurous woman. In addition to flying jumbo jets, she has gone on many solo journeys from mountain trekking in Peru to dog sledding in Iceland.

A student of my seven-week online course (see more info www.soulmatepassion.com), Lisa was dedicated and did her feelingizations on a regular basis, wrote and released her wish list, sent me her “letter from the future,” and completed the other exercises and rituals.

She even bought herself a Harley thinking that might be a great way to meet a man since she was convinced just sitting around her favorite local coffee cart wasn’t going to bring her to her soulmate.

Except it did!

At age 55, she finally met her gorgeous soulmate Brian…

Here’s what happened.

As a regular at the coffee cart, she met a nice married man named Chuck. She even met Chuck’s mother who was fascinated by petite Lisa riding that big Harley.

After two years of friendly, casual chatting, Chuck mentioned he had a single brother, so Lisa asked a few questions and within minutes, Chuck called his brother and connected the two of them.

Three days later, they had their first date and from the moment they met, Lisa fell hopelessly in love! Brian, like Lisa, is an adventurous traveler, extremely intelligent, multi-lingual….and funny!

They sometimes wake up at 2 am to talk and just laugh. They were married on the beach in the Yucatán on September 20, 2017.

“He is the most amazing man…. generous, thoughtful, loves to clean the house and is great with the grill. Now I look forward to coming home after my trips! We cherish each other and send silly, wonderful love notes to each other. We do not take our time for granted since we met later in life…. every day is truly a gift from God. I kissed a lot of frogs…and finally found my Prince in my mid-50s,” gushes Lisa.

Your soulmate (or your Big Dream) could be just two degrees away….who are you talking to, befriending, hanging out with, that may be the next step to the life of your dreams?

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Will You Ever Be “Fixed?”

Posted by Jul 19, 2018 , , , , , Leave a Comment

I recently had a conversation with a highly successful man who blew my mind.

We totally bonded over the fact that we are both happy users of the Heartmath technology, and as we talked he confessed something to me.

This tall, dark, and handsome retired NFL player and successful business owner with a beautiful wife and 5 children (living in the most expensive zip code in the country, had tears in his eyes when he showed me his Superbowl ring. He said it was the first time he had worn it in years because most of the time he doesn’t feel worthy enough.

What? This gorgeous hunk, who appears to have it all, has worthiness issues?

He had just completed some deep transformational work and was excited to be moving forward in his life now that he was finally dealing with his core wound issues.

And it was sad to learn how much he suffered internally with his fears and limiting beliefs about himself.

All of this got me thinking about so many of my “super successful friends” who still harbor deep feelings of doubt, insecurity, impostor syndrome and even self-loathing.

I have spent the majority of my life reading self-help books, attending personal growth workshops, been in therapy, tried all kinds of modalities and treatments and sometimes prescription drugs, all in the name of healing some part of my soul and psyche.

The good news is that a lot of this stuff worked.

I did find understanding, relief, transformation, healing and peace.

And the truth is, for me, that some of the things I most wanted to “completely heal” (hint: make them go away forever) are still there.

These “issues” are still lingering under the surface, only coming up once in awhile but still there.

I have finally come to understand that this is totally OK.

Normal even.

Through the years, I have developed my own personal spiritual/emotional toolkit (which includes heart lock-ins and feelingizations) that help me through the day (or the night or the week) and I am no longer crippled by the fear or pain or discomfort that once drove me crazy.

Plus, I have now declared myself “cooked.”

This is it.

This is as good as I’m going to get and it’s GOOD ENOUGH!

But, if you aren’t yet “cooked,” just remember that as you seek and find solutions to your issues, please do it with lots of self-care and compassion and remember to take baby steps and remember that you are already enough! (really, it’s true!)

I am sharing this with you today because if you are using your “issues” as a reason not to go for your dreams, stop it! These issues may always be there, but you only have so many breaths left to take on this planet, so I want to encourage you to go for it now.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

A Miracle Story

Posted by Jul 10, 2018 , , , Leave a Comment

Late last summer, Gabriel Jebb had a long conversation with his sister that ended with her telling him that he would be a great father and maybe it was time for him to look into adoption or finding a surrogate. Instead, he dove into online dating where he quickly encountered health coach Kerry Tepedino and was blown away to discover that she came with a bonus of an awesome son, Grayson.

After their first dinner, they immediately knew that they wanted to see each other again, but it wasn’t until the second date, at a U2 concert, that the sparks really started to fly. That’s when Kerry knew that there could be something really special between them because Gabriel was wildly fun, extremely energetic, not to mention pretty darn handsome.

A few weeks later Gabriel invited Kerry & Grayson on a nine-day camping trip. Everything went wrong… it was a tsunami outside, pouring rain and the tent had a leak so all 3 of them and the dog, ended up sharing one mattress to try to stay dry. It ended with Kerry going to the ER, because she couldn’t talk…. all this added to the chaos because she had 40 clients flying in for a retreat upon her return home days later.

Surviving that wacky camping trip proved to them they had something special to share as a family unit. And their love for each other was growing by the minute.

Gabriel moved in before Thanksgiving, and on last January 16th, he proposed in a helicopter ride above Fort Rosecrans Memorial cemetery where Kerry’s stepdad, the man who had raised her, is laid to rest. They did a right wing salute to dad in the helicopter and Gabriel proposed.

BUT….it was not predictable any of this would happen!

When Kerry was 35, she went to a well-known Vedic astrologer who was visiting the States from India, who told her she would never have children, which, of course made her very angry.

At age 39, hoping the astrologer was wrong, Kerry went to see the top fertility doctor in San Diego who, after many tests, confirmed she would never have children.

A few years later she went to visit the grave of her stepfather, Scott, and as she sat next to him, she wrote in her journal her feelings of devastation that she would never have children.

As she was sobbing and writing, she suddenly wrote:

“Fuck Fear! Nobody gets to tell me what my body can do!”

Kerry felt the power of this statement and made a commitment to figure out how to have a baby.

Knowing that she had two weeks before her next period she began doing daily tests to figure out when she was ovulating. Kerry quickly found a fertility clinic that was willing to support her in making it happen and she picked a sperm donor with her three “must haves:” he needed to be Caucasian, with brown hair and blue eyes, hoping that the baby would look somewhat like her.

There were seven possible matches, and she narrowed it down to two, and ended up choosing the one who she discovered had a jovial personality.

Within three weeks she was pregnant!!!

Convinced she would have a girl, she decided on the name Grace. When she found out she was having a boy, she chose the name Grayson, who was born on Stepdad Scott’s, birthday.

What a blessing.

I love this story because it’s more proof that in spite of what eastern astrologers and western doctors say, or whatever misguided beliefs we have, we can take action in creating our own miracles!

On Saturday, Brian and I had the honor of officiating at their wedding on the cliffs of the Torrey Pines Gliderport, where Gabriel is the Flight Director, overlooking the Pacific Ocean. It was a breathtakingly beautiful summer day with more than 150 friends and family cheering them on.

And little adorable Grayson, who calls Gabriel “Daddy,” was the ring bearer.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. If you are ready for marriage and you have a sincere desire to manifest your soulmate, please visit www.soulmatepassion44.com to hear a free 75-minute webinar.

Take More Vacations

Posted by Jul 3, 2018 , , , Leave a Comment

When my sister Debbie was in the last days of her life, she whispered to me, “take more vacations.” I knew exactly what she meant. She had worked hard, too hard, most of her life and she had worn herself out.

Now, in these final moments, she was offering me some wisdom….

For the last several years I have followed her advice and have scheduled at least one vacation a year designed to restore and rejuvenate my body, mind, and spirit.

We recently returned from 10 days in Greece and Italy and I’ve never felt better.

We didn’t do any sightseeing. In fact, we didn’t do much of anything except take walks, sit on the beach, and eat amazing food.

Just sitting on the balcony of our hotel Santorini room, which overlooked the Caldera, a deep body of water caused by a volcano, was my favorite activity.

This spectacular view kept me in a state of deep gratitude for being alive. Breathing in the fresh air, absorbing the peaceful vibes…

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. If you are ready for marriage and you have a sincere desire to manifest your soulmate, please visit www.soulmatepassion44.com to hear a free 75-minute webinar.

The REAL Purpose of Marriage

Posted by Jun 26, 2018 , , , Leave a Comment

Someone once said, “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably, they’re both disappointed.”

If you’re marrying in the belief that it will make your life significantly better, then things probably aren’t great to begin with. Only you can make yourself happy and when you are happy, and you are with your soulmate/life partner, that is the icing on the cake.

That said, there are always ways to improve your relationship, reignite the fun and passion, and rekindle your commitment, especially when you understand the “real purpose of marriage.”

Oprah calls relationship expert, Harville Hendrix, “the marriage whisperer,” and he is one of my favorite love experts. Harville teaches that the real purpose of marriage is for each of us to heal our childhood wounds. He says that our brain has a built-in “mate-selector” and that we choose someone that has the playbook to push all of our buttons. And…

Harville explains that there will be times when their behavior replicates the worst of our early caregivers.

So the truth about a soulmate marriage is that it’s biggest purpose is for us to heal each other.

Yes, there will be plenty of blissful days and wonderful times and there will also be days where you really don’t like your soulmate at all…in fact you may even hate them temporarily. And this is normal.

And it doesn’t mean you don’t love them.

So, what is true love?

“True love is loving the person for what they love, who they are, for what they stand for. If you go into a marriage loving what you love, not what they love, that is not love. Real love is not finding someone to hold your hand and find common ground with; the institution of marriage is to push you out of your comfort zone, to lift you up above what you need, so you can provide what you’re needed for,” explains Rabbi Baruch Ezagui.

He says “marriage is the highest calling of mankind. It includes the marriage between body and soul, heaven and earth, spirit and matter, one human and another.“

When you are faced with challenging times in your marriage, first remember that this is normal, and then step into the bigger picture and provide what you are most needed for.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

OMG – Where did 20 years go?

Posted by Jun 12, 2018 , , , , Leave a Comment

By the time you read this, Brian and I will be in Santorini celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary. It’s where we went on our honeymoon and decided it was time for another visit to this gorgeous paradise. I promise to share some photos when we return.

Today’s newsletter is #444 and that is significant because Brian and I met because of those numbers.

Let me explain.

When we met, Brian’s former business partner, Nick Bunick, had just written The Messengers. Simon and Schuster hired me to do the book tour, which led to Brian and I meeting. The book talked about Angels and much more, including the significance of the numbers 444. Nick claims that when you see these numbers, it’s a message to remind you that God loves you!

Nearly every day when the clock hits 4:44, Brian and I say “I love you” to each other.

Don’t be surprised if you start to notice 444 popping up around you.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. If you are ready to manifest your soulmate, please visit www.soulmatepassion44.com to hear a free 75-minute webinar.

Where Did the Love Go?

Posted by Jun 5, 2018 , , , , , Leave a Comment

Seems like the stars and planets have clustered to bring pain to people’s love lives this past week. I’ve gotten many calls and emails from heartbroken people who are baffled and confused by unexpected “love turmoil.”

I don’t know what the celestial answer is, but I do know what to do and what not to do when the “Sh#t” hits the fan:

1) Don’t immediately react. Keep breathing.

2) Don’t automatically assume the relationship is over. Keep breathing.

3) Don’t assume you did anything “wrong” (unless you did, in which case google the best way to make a proper apology and do it). Simply saying I’m sorry is generally not sufficient.

4) Ask for a time when you can sit down and talk (ideally in person) and then be sure to REALLY listen:

One of the best ways to carefully listen to your partner and have them feel really certain that you are “getting” them is to learn a simple and easy five-step technique known as the Imago Dialogue created by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt.

Step One: Listen without interrupting.

Step Two: Act as a mirror. When your partner stops talking repeat back to him what you heard as accurately as possible. Ask, “Did I get that” and “Is there more?”

Step Three: Summarize, especially if he added “more”. Then ask again “Did I get it all?”

Step Four: Validate. “What you said makes sense to me.” This statement doesn’t mean you have to agree with him; it simply lets him know you understand.

Step Five: Empathize. Let him know that you can imagine, if you were in his position, how he might be feeling such as hurt, scared, angry, disappointed, etc.

By listening in this careful, structured way, your partner will feel seen, heard and understood.

5) When it’s your turn to share, use “I” statement. Be honest, open and vulnerable. No blaming, no shaming and no “constructive criticism.” Hendrix says all criticism is a form of violence. Remember you are a “team,” and even though things are ugly at the moment, the love is most likely still there; you just need to be committed to a dialogue that is kind, respectful and focused on a win/win creative solution.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

The Power of Love

Posted by May 22, 2018 , , , , , Leave a Comment

The wedding of Prince Harry and Meghan this past Saturday was a beautiful, moving and inspiring affair. We got up in the middle of the night to watch it, and I am so happy we did. To know that we were “in the field of love” with a billion (or more) other human beings watching this, was so heartwarming and healing.

Given the crazy times we are living in, I found watching this to be comforting, soothing, and a great reminder that love does and will prevail.

Below I have pulled some of my favorite excerpts from the powerful wedding sermon given by Rev. Michael Curry on the power of love:

“The late Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. once said, We must discover the power of love, the redemptive power of love. And when we discover that, we will be able to make of this old world a new world. Love is the only way.

There’s power, power in love. If you don’t believe me, think about a time when you first fell in love. The whole world seemed to center around you and your beloved. There’s power, power in love, not just in its romantic forms, but any form, any shape of love. There’s a certain sense in which, when you are loved and you know it, when someone cares for you and you know it, when you love and you show it, it actually feels right. There’s something right about it. There’s a reason for it. It has to do with the source.

We were made by a power of love. Our lives are meant to be lived in that love. That’s why we are here. Ultimately, the source of love is God himself. The source of all of our lives. There’s power in love to help and heal when nothing else can. There’s power in love to lift up and liberate when nothing else will. There’s power in love to show us the way to live.

But love is not only about a young couple. The power of love is demonstrated by the fact that we’re all here. Two young people fell in love, and we all showed up. It’s not just for and about a young couple whom we rejoice with. It’s more than that.

Someone once said that Jesus began the most revolutionary movement in human history: a movement grounded on the unconditional love of God for the world and a movement mandating people to live and love. And in so doing, to change not only their lives but the very life of the world itself!

Think and imagine a world where love is the way. When love is the way, poverty would become history. When love is the way, the earth will be a sanctuary. When love is the way, we will lay our swords and shields down by the riverside to study war no more. When love is the way, there’s plenty of room for all of God’s children. When love is the way, we actually treat each other, well, like we are actually family. When love is the way, we know that God is the source of us all, and we are brothers and sisters and children of God.

Brothers and sisters — that’s a new heaven, a new earth, a new world, a new human family.

Dr. King was right. We must discover love, the redemptive power of love. And when we do that, we will be able to make of this old world a new world.”

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Is this a reason NOT to love them?

Posted by May 15, 2018 , , , , Leave a Comment

People can be annoying.

It’s just a basic fact of life.

And when we are annoyed, it creates upset and stress in our body, mind and spirit.

Not to mention the trouble we can cause if we get annoyed and then immediately lash out and create even more drama.

It’s taken me years to train myself to allow myself the time to just “be” with the upset, to not react, or overreact to the situation.

As I am “just being,” I give myself the space to try to figure out what I am annoyed about, and then decide whether or not there is something to do about it.

Sometimes a conversation is in order to talk things through, but most of the time, once I ask myself the following question, I can soften and release my emotions.

That question is: Is this a reason not to love them?

Nearly 99% of the time, whoever you are annoyed at didn’t do something on purpose. They were just being their human, imperfect self (and I am pretty sure my imperfect self can be annoying to others).

Indulging in feelings of anger, annoyance, or the like are just harming me. According to the scientific research done by the Institute of Heartmath, negative emotions such as anger and resentment actually suppress our immune system for up to eight hours!

When I stay personally responsible for my reactions and responses to annoyances, it supports me in reaching my daily goal of santosha, which is Sanskrit for contentment.

Wishing you love, laughter, and SERENITY!

Arielle

When Is It OK to Lie?

Posted by May 8, 2018 , , , , , , , , , Leave a Comment

I’ve been thinking about honesty and lying lately… a lot!

It began several weeks ago while I was listening to Dr. Laura on the radio.

A male caller was sharing that he had recently had a one night stand while on a business trip and he was feeling a huge amount of regret and remorse and was asking Dr. Laura if he should confess to his wife of 10 years with whom he had 3 young children.

He said he loved his wife and his kids and he would never cheat again.

Dr. Laura’s advice took me by surprise.

She told the caller that it would be “selfish” of him to confess to his wife and turn their lives upside down.

And, that since he had committed to never doing it again, he should keep quiet and suffer in silence.

Clearly, this is a lie by omission.

And, it’s also a lie that might keep a mostly happy family intact.

This got me thinking about all the different kinds of lies that exist, from
half-truths to little white lies, to the newest version now known as “alternative facts.”

There is a part of me that agrees with Dr. Laura, and another part that wonders if that is really the best way to go.

Years ago I had a client, Brad Blanton, who wrote a book called Radical Honesty.

It’s exactly what it sounds like and he said that the ONLY lie he would ever condone is if the Nazi’s were banging on your door and you had Jews hidden in your attic, then lying would be the right thing to do.

Many of us consider ourselves basically honest people who tell little lies all the time.

These are lies we are ok with: We lie to not hurt someone’s feelings, or we lie to get out of making plans we don’t want to do (you know, “wow, thanks for the invite but I’ll be in Timbuktu that day…”).

I don’t have any real conclusions here, except to say this is what has been on my mind and if I had a working magic wand, I would wave it at the world and ask for a return to basic values such as honesty, integrity, civility and a whole lot more compassion for ourselves, and fellow humans.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle