Spiritual and Highly Sensitive People Have the Hardest Time in Love

Although this seems very counter-intuitive, I have found the highly sensitive and spiritual people (for now I will call you HSP’s) have the hardest time finding love and keeping love, especially women.

One of the biggest issues around this I have observed is that HSP’s are deeply feeling, not only their own feelings but the feelings of those around them. And sometimes they can’t discern between basic intuition and their own fears or projections. This can lead to making assumptions about someone else’s behavior or possibly do the opposite and they overlook their actions because they feel good around them.

My dear friend and love expert Carol Allen, is hosting a free webinar tomorrow, Wednesday, called “The Soulfully Sensitive Woman in Love” for women of any relationship status…

This is for you if:

  • You have a hard time “letting things go” or “shaking things off” when things don’t go well or as planned.
  • You’re extremely hurt by perceived rejection or when men “disappear” or “pull away” for a while and end up internalizing what happened and unfairly blaming yourself.
  • You take breakups extra hard and can take years to recover or let yourself like someone again – fearing that the risk is just too great to bear.
  • You take it all too hard – normal disappointments or problems seem insurmountable or “not worth it” so they get stuck and stay invisible.

Carol is a genius at helping women with these issues so don’t miss this opportunity to attend her FREE webinar.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Are You An Over-giver?

Today I want to share a special story with you from my friend Debbie Lynn GraceDebbie explains why so many people are “over-givers,” and what’s behind the urge to do that. Whether you are single, or in any kind of relationship in which you are over-giving, please read this.

 

debbielynngraceheadshotsmallfinalWhen I was a child I wanted to be like everybody else.  To fit in.  To belong.  I would look at all the kids around me and try to be like them so I would get accepted. And yet, no matter how much I tried, I had a label that followed me around and always made me feel different.  I was called “too sensitive.”  I could sense things or people around me that weren’t right. I would cry easily. And I would try to express my feelings, but all I got in return for my vulnerability was being told I’m too sensitive.

What I didn’t know at the time, is that there are people all over the world who are like me  are called Highly Sensitive People.  In fact, it’s been estimated that up to 20% of the population are born with a different wiring in your brain that results in you experiencing your senses more acutely than other people

Unfortunately, this knowledge wasn’t known then, so I had to figure out how to fit in through my own logic. I learned that if I couldn’t be like everybody else, then at least I could make people happy. I figured if I made them happy, then they would like me and not tease me.

By the time I entered the dating world, I really wanted a loving mate. And it came naturally to me to show my love for a man by being the giver. While I have a generous nature, I would unconsciously take giving to the extreme. I would look for ways to make my man happy and in the process, didn’t have any clue how to RECEIVE from the man and allow him to make me happy. And then when the man left, I’d wonder what was wrong with me.

Being an “over-giver” is a very common way that some one who is Highly Sensitive uses to cope with their sensitive nature.  It’s a completely unconscious act, because we really do want others to be happy. Unfortunately, when you give to the point of depletion, especially in a personal relationship, you don’t allow yourself to receive. Which is the very thing you want – to receive love from your mate (and your friends, family and co-workers.)

Through my own personal development and upon discovering my true gift as an intuitive, I have not only come to peace with being a highly sensitive person.  I embrace it as the beautiful gift that God bestowed upon me.  And it led me to my life’s work to help others who are highly sensitive learn how to embrace their sensitive nature, have simple tools that help with their sensitivities, and to have thriving, loving relationships and an abundant and fulfilling life.

If you know that you are a “highly sensitive person” or an empath and have struggled in any aspect of your life because of your sensitive nature, I invite you to join me on October 18th for a call on “The Four Step Life Success Formula for Highly Sensitive People!Click here to get complimentary access to the live webinar.

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle