Do Opposites Really Attract?

A few years ago I was at a gathering of personal growth experts and leaders. Many have names you would recognize. All would consider themselves “spiritual” people.

At dinner, I was seated next to a very handsome 50-something man who was the boyfriend of one of our members. Let’s call her Julie and call him John. Julie had been a divorcee for nearly two decades, and in spite of her best efforts to find love, wasn’t having any luck. She is a bit of a “perfectionist” and had a lengthy and detailed “must have” list that honestly sounded like the “male version of her.”

I asked John how they met. He lit up and told me they met at a charity Gala where they had randomly been seated next to each other and sparks flew.
I asked him what he loved about being with Jill: He explained he works as an orthopedic surgeon he also volunteers around the world with Doctors Without Borders. He is a really solid, loving guy who grew up in a happy home. When he met Jill he had never meditated, done yoga, or heard of Deepak Chopra or Jack Canfield.

One day Jill took him to hear Deepak speak about the mind-body connection and he was fascinated and wanted to learn more.
Watching how Jill leads her life with a positive attitude, he decided to try more of these things and he slowly began to align with Jill’s most important values. He saw how doing these things would alleviate stress and also how they could help his patients heal better and faster. Jill became a real gift in every area of his life. John brought love, devotion, security, and fun to Jill’s life.

The point of this story is that if Jill had insisted on finding a man who had done the things on her list such as extensive inner-work (which he didn’t really need because not everyone has gut-wrenching childhood wounds to recover from), and if she had demanded that her soulmate be a meditator, yogi and seeker, they would have never met. Fortunately for Jill, the Universe intervened and sent her what she really most needed (him too!).
Trying to “dictate to the Universe” isn’t always helpful.

While I do believe that you can specifically ask for what you most desire, I also believe that many people don’t first look to more important things such as “how do you most want to feel” with your soulmate and “what is your soul most calling for.”

If you are seeking to feel loved, cherished, adored, and supported with a devoted partner, the truth is there are many potential partners if you eliminate things that truly will not contribute to your long term happiness because meditation and yoga and working on yourself relentlessly are zero indication of someone’s actual values. (Just ask the women who are trying to indict Russell Simmons on sexual assault charges).

My belief is that there can be great attraction from opposites as long as there is also connection, compatibility, clear communication and a shared vision for the future with that person.

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Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Arielle Recommends: Why He Disappeared

Even though I’m proud of the work I do, I’m the first to recognize that there are a bunch of other relationship experts with unique and powerful messages.

Today, I want to introduce you to one of my favorites. His name is Evan Marc Katz.

If you haven’t already heard of him, he’s the author of two books about dating, and has appeared on the Today Show, the Early Show, the Tyra Banks, Rachael Ray, and so on. But that’s not why I’m telling you about him.

The reason I want you to get to know Evan Marc Katz is this: He is the only male dating coach I know who works exclusively with smart, strong, successful women.

His entire job is spent helping women just like you – the creme de la creme ­ understand and connect with men. His new book, “Why He Disappeared: the Smart, Strong, Successful Woman’s Guide to Understanding Men and Keeping the Right One Hooked Forever” is phenomenal. Really.

Here’s something he wrote which blew me away. I trust you’ll agree:

You Don’t Attract the Wrong Men. You ACCEPT The Wrong Men. What happens when you find yourself incredibly attracted to a man? Well, there’s the feeling of chemistry and everything that comes along with it – the obsessive highs that come with wanting to be with him, the joy of feeling incredibly connected, and, what you may forget, the willful blindness that allows you to overlook his flaws.

That’s one of the most miraculous things about chemistry: it allows you to focus only on the good and ignore all the bad. Which is why you can have incredible chemistry and end up in a TERRIBLE relationship, where he doesn’t call you, doesn’t sleep with you, doesn’t compliment you, doesn’t make you feel safe, and doesn’t commit to you.

But you stick around because of how strong your rare FEELINGS are. You’ve now discovered the real secret to why you’re in dead end relationships:

You don’t attract the wrong men, you accept the wrong men.

If you consistently find yourself in relationships with liars, cheaters, addicts, leeches, or commitment-phobes, your job isn’t to get them to stop lying, cheating, drinking, mooching or flaking. Your job is to leave.

You’ll never stop attracting the wrong men, but starting now, you can stop ACCEPTING their bad behavior… and save yourself years of heartbreak and pain.

Amen.

Evan is offering a ton of high-quality bonuses to go with his fascinating take on the male mind. Along with his eBook and a 2 hr audio version of the same material, Evan is going to give you this:

Why He Disappeared Online – 30 page eBook and 36-minute audio, helping you understand the 3 main reasons that men don’t follow through with you.

Audio Interview on the difference between chemistry and compatibility, the difference between loving someone and being “in love”, and which flaws you should and should not overlook in men:

Audio Interview on what men really think of women who ask them out, the 2 things that cause men to end relationships every time, and how to find a partner who is more compatible.

Video Interview with Carol Allen – emotional I.Q., having realistic expectations, the false clarity of passion, being a “yes” woman, choosing character over charisma, and what men truly want in a partner.

And best of all, Evan offers a one-year money back guarantee if you don¹t love his book, he’ll refund your money. Definitely worth checking out!

www.evanmarckatz.com

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