Who Are You Becoming?

The past year has changed most of us on both visible and invisible ways.

For many, the people and things we most value, have come into sharper focus while we let go of people and ways of being that no longer nourish or serve us.

I know for me, and several of my friends, we are asking ourselves:

“Who am I now?”

Last year my friend Chip Conley taught me a new word, liminal, which is appropriate for these times.

With its origin in Latin, “liminal” literally means “on the threshold.”

Certainly, we are all on the threshold of a new life.

Liminal spaces are described as transformative and/or transitional.

spaces where we feel we are on the “verge of something.”

And being in liminal space is often unsettling, uncomfortable, and disorienting.

I have felt all of these things as I ponder “who am I now.”

Just as a caterpillar spins itself a silky chrysalis before radically transforming and eventually emerging as a butterfly, we too are now giving up an old identity as we spin into our new becoming.

Here are the questions I’m currently asking myself:

Who was I?

Who am I now?

Who do I want to become?

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Give Up Your “Hopium” and Get into Action

So… we are now officially three weeks into a New Year – how’s it going so far?

Are you making progress on fulfilling your heart’s desire or did you get sidetracked?

Here’s a few super easy things to do that will keep you on track:

1. Write it down! Make it simple: “Before the end of 2021 I commit to myself to accomplish (or substitute be, do, or have ) _____________________.”

2. I commit to doing ___ things each day towards accomplishing this.
(I find that doing 5 little things every day is doable and works best for me)

3. I promise to enroll someone to be my accountability partner (research shows if you do this you have a 90% better chance of being successful!)

4. Give yourself a weekly reward for the steps you took all week.

5. Spend 5 minutes each day dropping into your heart and feeling what it feels like to have what you say you most desire.

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Co-creating with the Universe isn’t difficult, but it does require your participation and action steps.

PRINT this newsletter out and read it often, so you can keep yourself on track.

Don’t let your dreams fall into the “magical thinking” bucket by filling yourself with “hopium.”

You can do this! Make a plan! Really, truly go for it!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


LOVE is in Your Mirror

For decades I admired the wisdom of the late Louise Hay and looked up to her as an icon of emotional healing and spiritual growth.

I loved her fierce courageousness, her willingness to do and say the right thing with the causes that called to her, and her joie de vivre always inspired me.

More than 30 years ago I sat with her to do her groundbreaking mirror work and it was a life changing day.

Louise held a mirror in front of my face and told me to look into my own eyes and make a series of positive statements to myself including “I love you.”

It was hard because I really felt like I was lying to myself. Somehow, I got through the process and then, with a daily practice of mirror work, I came to know that not only did I really love myself, but that I was also loveable!

All of your self-talk, the dialogue in your head, is a stream of affirmations.

These affirmations are messages to your subconscious that are establishing habitual ways of thinking and behaving.

Positive affirmations plant healing thoughts and ideas that support you in developing self-confidence and self-esteem, creating peace of mind and inner joy.

If you want to change your life, then it’s necessary to retrain your thinking and speaking into positive patterns.

Mirror work, with its positive affirmations, opens the door.

In essence, you are saying to your subconscious mind, “I am taking responsibility. I am aware that there is something I can do to change.” When you pay attention to your thoughts, you can begin to eliminate the ones creating experiences you do not want in your life.

Twice a day stand in front of a mirror, look into your eyes, and repeat positive affirmations ten times. For instance, you might say:

“I am loving and loveable.”
“I am worthy of love and joy.”
“I am kind. I am smart.” I am important and people love me.”

If doubts or fears or negative thoughts come up, just recognize them for what they are—old limiting beliefs that want to stay around.

Say to them gently: “I no longer need you.” And then repeat your positive affirmations again.

That which we constantly affirm becomes true for us.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


What’s Your WORD for 2021?

This year I don’t plan to make any resolutions.

If I learned anything from 2020 it’s that trying to make plans while in the center of a chaotic cyclone is a set up for disappointment and frustration.

Instead, I am going to make ONE WORD the focal point of my biggest desire for 2021 and that word is CONTENTMENT.

Striving for contentment isn’t a new thing with me, but it is something that I now want to master now.

There were many years when my focus was happiness, but I’ve learned that for me, happiness is not the ultimate goal because happiness is tied to other people, outside circumstances, and unforeseeable experiences.

For 2021 for my desire is to remain calm and centered in CONTENTMENT, in spite of the circumstances.

What will your word for 2021 be?

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


It’s My Birthday!!! (here’s my wish)

Today I am 68 years old.

It’s a reality.

It’s a number.

It’s also fun to have reached a stage in my life where I no longer care what anybody thinks about me and I can just totally be me.

I have gray hair, I weigh 144 pounds, I’ve shrunk down to 5’ 7” and my short-term memory is like Swiss cheese.

And I feel healthier and happier than I ever imagined possible, in spite of the fact that I also feel restricted from doing many of the things I most value, like hanging out with friends, dining out, and traveling.

I have learned to be happy in spite of the circumstances.

Today I have given myself permission to boldly ask for what I want for my birthday.

My wish is to raise $80,000 to launch a powerful program in India to help the 100 million teen girls there.

Through this proven program, they will discover how to avoid early marriage, stay in school, protect their bodies from all kinds of abuse, create the career of their dreams and so much more.

This program is called Girl Power Project and it’s something I have been supportive of for many years. It has a proven track record of success in 90 communities in Uganda and it was recently highlighted for its impact and efficacy in the Journal of Universality of Global Education Issues.

If you feel so inclined and have the means to do so, I will be most grateful for your support.

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Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Stepping Out of Darkness (and into the Light)

Yesterday was the shortest, darkest day of the year, in a year that for many people was filled with unfathomable darkness.

If your life was turned upside down, filled with fear, sadness and loneliness or worse, (I had bouts with all of this plus anger, frustration and confusion), I’ve decided to get out a shovel and transform the darkness into light.

One of my coping strategies was to live in two-hour windows. Since making long range plans was nearly impossible, I created a world where I could succeed in short doses every day. I didn’t have to figure out the future or live in the scary mindset of “what if” thinking all the time. The most planning I’ve done is scheduling zoom calls.

Strangely, this has worked well for me. I have had the most creative year of my life, completed my novel and started a new business… all in two-hour windows. (I even scheduled down time and naps this way)

What happened in 2020 was not my fault and it wasn’t your fault.

We have been in a collective, global shit storm, and if you’re reading this, congratulations, you survived!

Now, it’s time to thrive.

According to the astrological experts last night’s winter solstice saw Jupiter and Saturn form The Great Conjunction which kicks off a 20-year cultural reset and a new 200-year era.

We are now in a time of newfound optimism and one where we’ll be moving away from the materialistic and industrialized towards a more humanistic, technological, and inclusive focus.

This is the perfect time to plant seeds for an exciting future. Allow your self to dream, make vision boards, and use your imagination by asking your soul what it would most desire with the question “Wouldn’t it be lovely if_____?”

Since no one knows anything for sure (still), I’m choosing to live “as if.”

This means I am trusting that everything is gonna be OK.

I am going to live as if we’ve turned a corner on COVID and things are slowly and steadily improving.

I am going to live as if the political polarization in this country will lessen and unity will become a possibility.

I am going to live as if the “new normal” will be better than the old normal.

I am going to live as if 2021 will be a year of love, laughter, creativity, great health, and prosperity.

Let’s all support each other in becoming super optimistic and then collectively we can change the frequency from fear to love.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


P.S. Here’s a great video on The Great Conjunction by astrologer Pam Gregory that describes it in detail.

Watch it here!

Is Self-Love A Pre- Requisite Too Soulmate Love?

Self-Love is the hot topic in the personal growth movement these days and when it comes to finding soulmate love, there are a lot of myths that until you love yourself first, you won’t be able to get anyone else to love you. Can this really be true?

My experience has been that most women and some men (at least in the Northern hemisphere) live with a negative, critical voice in their heads that is often filled with ugly, shaming thoughts, self doubt, and brings with it feelings of never being “good enough.”

And, I began to wonder, do you really have to eliminate that persistent voice in order to find true love? Do we really need to be 100% in love with ourselves to experience Big Love?

I don’t think so.

What is required is to learn how to “talk back” to that voice and create strategies to love yourself more and better. This includes a big dose of self-awareness so that when the “voice surfaces” you kick its butt!

For instance, you walk past a mirror and immediately react by thinking “God, you look like a total piece of $#it today.” Immediately stop. Walk back to the mirror, give yourself a big smile and blow yourself a kiss and say something warm and loving to your reflection. This is called self-care and self-soothing. Over time, you can change your habitual negative thinking by in-putting loving and uplifting thoughts and beliefs about yourself.

And please, never forget that just because you have a thought does not make it true!

Now, as for soulmate love, one of the greatest, most awesome things about living your life with your soulmate is that you begin to heal each other in unimaginable ways. When you spend time with someone who loves all of you – the good, the bad and the ugly, you begin to love yourself even more.

So many are “waiting“ to actively seek their soulmate because they feel stuck in how they feel about themselves. This is a very selfish thing to do.

Why? Because just as you desire to spend your life with your soulmate, they are also seeking you. And, if you are holed up at home, on the couch, watching mindless reality TV, they can’t find you!

Now, while learning to love yourself a little bit, more and more, it’s also important to know that once you do manifest the love of your life, you teach them how to treat you by the way they witness how you treat yourself. I learned this from my husband Brian. Once we got married and began living together, I noticed how he always prioritized his health and wellbeing.

At first, I made up stories about how selfish he was because he wasn’t always flexible about the time he took to mediate and exercise. When I finally asked him about it his response floored me. He explained that by sticking to his personal care schedule, he was able to fill himself up so that the rest of the day he had more love and more energy to give to me, and the rest of the world.

Wow. What an insight that was for me. I soon began to follow in his footsteps.

Self-love is important and please know that if your soul is calling for a soulmate, the voice in your head shouldn’t be a barrier to love.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

P.S. If your heart’s desire is sending you signals you are ready for Big Love, get yourself an early Christmas present. Check out my 12 week online course, The Love Codes: https://nb303.isrefer.com/go/FPTLCS/ew131/

How To Create A 2021 You Will Love

In 1980 John Lennon released a song on the Double Fantasy album that included these lyrics: “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.”

Sigh. So true.

Today is the first day of the last month of 2020…easily the craziest year any of us have ever experienced. And all the big plans we may have had for 2020 were blown up by Covid-19, a failing economy, and you know the rest….

So, how does one plan for 2021, when the only thing we know for sure is that no one seems to know anything for sure?

For me, I am going back to the basics of true Manifestation.

I am focusing on how I MOST want to feel every day, not on how I want the circumstances to appear.

My deepest desire is to wake up each day, happy and excited to be alive, knowing and trusting that who I am is more than enough, and that all I need to pray for is to ask the Universe these questions from A Course In Miracles:

  • On this day, where would you have me go?
  • What would you have me do?
  • What would you have me say and to whom?

With this prayer, all I will need to do is follow the signs, the impulses, and the clues of what the next right thing to do is.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Love, Gratitude and Humor

This will be a most unusual Thanksgiving for many families, no need to explain why.
I am grateful for the local restaurant I am ordering a few complete Turkey feasts from (including a slice of Pumpkin Pie) and I will miss the fun and festivities of being with family.
I will be sending all of them a big dose of love via this eight-minute Feelingization™ video that will take you from your head to your heart and fill you with a delicious experience of love.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,
“Gratitude is the wine for the soul. Go on. Get drunk.”

Time For More Pleasure Now!!

Are you having ENOUGH pleasure in your life right now in the midst of all the craziness?

Are you willing to have MORE PLEASURE NOW?

Right now, is the perfect time to UP your pleasure puppy game, build your oxytocin levels which in turn will reduce your stress and free you up to have more fun.

Here’s what I am committing to doing to fill up my oxytocin tanks:

  • Listen and watch amazing music videos on YouTube (The Prayer with Andrea Bocelli and Celine Dion is a fave)
  • Take longer aromatherapy baths at night by candlelight
  • Take extra-long beach walks and REALLY smell the roses
  • Continue binge watching Queens Gambit on Netflix! (I’m up to episode 4!)
  • Eat as many meals outdoors as possible
  • Only wear brightly colored clothes
  • Perfect my “do less accomplish more” magical manifesting!!
  • Get more foot rubs and hugs.
  • Read a new murder mystery!

What will you do to have more pleasure and fun?

To learn more watch this short, 4 minute video:

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,