Let Go of Relationship Clutter

Clutter. It blocks the flow of energy and gets in the way of manifesting our deepest desires.

We know how to unclutter the physical items in our lives and now, thanks to my friend Peggy Fitzsimmons, she is sharing with us today her views on letting go of relationship clutter. Enjoy!

“Our souls are inherently free and our true nature is love. And we also have ego minds that orient us towards self-preservation, lack, and scarcity. When the ego is in the driver’s seat, we relate from fear and separation. If conflict, competing, or power struggles are the norm in your relationships, your ego likely has a tight grip on the wheel. When you fail to treat yourself or someone else as a human being, your ego is present in that moment of relationship. In contrast, when the soul is in the driver’s seat, we relate from safety and connection. If your relationships are characterized by harmony, collaboration, and compassion, your soul is at the wheel. When you treat yourself or someone else with kindness, acceptance, and neutrality, your soul is present for that relationship moment.

The ego drives us to accumulate relationship clutter. Here are some examples:

  • I often feel less than, unworthy, or not good enough.
  • I think I know what’s best for other people.
  • I say yes to things that are not good or right for me.

Know Who You Are

Knowing our soul makes us less susceptible to the “fake news” of the ego, which relentlessly tries to convince us that we are not enough, others are not enough, and there is not enough. When we relate to ourselves as souls in human bodies, we recognize that just by being here on this planet, we are necessary and inherently worthy. We know we belong, and our unique light is needed to illuminate the world. We remember we are all spiritual beings, all connected and, at our core, the same.

Try this simple practice. When you wake up in the morning, look in the mirror and greet yourself as the wise, eternal, connected, loving being you really are. Imagine yourself expanding beyond your fear, your shame, your striving, your petty conflicts, and the feeling that something is missing. Stand tall and affirm “I am here for one purpose– to share my love with the world in my unique ways.” Watch how life changes when you regularly re-mind yourself about the truth of who you are, and the truth of who everyone else is too.

Build Your Self-Love Muscles

If you observe closely, you might notice that many of your everyday thoughts, feelings and actions don’t reflect a heart that loves itself. For example, do you criticize yourself harshly or disregard your own needs? Do you look for others to give you what you want, and end up disappointed when they don’t? Self-love is not a big, lofty thing. It happens in a moment.

To love yourself better, focus on what you can give to yourself. Take a rest when you feel tired. Eat some carrots instead of carrot cake. Say what you want to say instead of what you think someone else wants to hear. Put your dirty clothes in the hamper rather than on the floor. Do something for yourself before you tend to someone else. These radical acts of self-love build your self-love muscles, getting you in shape to love others more freely.

Hold the Space

Do you judge how others live their lives? Do you try to solve problems that aren’t yours to solve? When we interfere in someone else’s life, our ego is at the wheel, masquerading as our soul self. Interfering sends a message to the other person that we don’t trust them, or life itself.

Get curious about how you presume to know what’s best for someone else. Pay attention to where you give unsolicited advice or offer help that may not actually be helpful. Commit to be with others with your presence, not your solutions. Speak to them in your soul voice, rather than one that mirrors their ego mind; chastising, criticizing, fearing, doubting. Trust them to make their own decisions. And trust life enough to know that any choice they make will ultimately contribute to their soul’s growth.

Look for Love in All the Right Places

Are you chronically looking for love in all the wrong places? Do you put the burden on others to make you feel loved? Do you compromise yourself to get love? Do you mistakenly believe you can lose love? Do you fail to realize that when you’re lonely you are actually missing your (soul) self, not another person?

Love is your natural state. It originates in you, belongs to you, and exists wholly within you. It’s an inside job. Your responsibility is to come into presence and the truth of your soul, where your love can always be found. When were sourced from the inside in this way, rather than wanting or needing from others, we’re in position to share our love rather than our clutter in our relationships.

Remember, the ego is part of our human experience, but not all of who we are. When we are willing to stand in our soul nature, we are on the road to freedom.”

Peggy Fitzsimmons is a Ph.D. who has helped many people get their houses in order through intensive decluttering. She was a consulting producer on Oprah Winfrey’s Super Soul Sunday.

In her new book Release: Create a Clutter Free and Soul Driven Life, she shares spiritual and practical insights with readers who want to free themselves from clutter and live in alignment with their true soul nature.

Visit peggyfitzsimmons.com and pick up her powerful, transformative book today!

Get your copy here!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


Hitting the Wall and Not Giving Up

For the past two and a half years I have been working hard on writing my first novel. Along the way I have discovered how much I didn’t know that I didn’t know about writing fiction.
After publishing 11 non-fiction books, I considered myself a relatively talented writer.
Big mistake.
Imagine if you were a house painter who took up painting portraits and expected your first work to hang in a museum. That’s how big a difference this was for me. Oy.
I am so happy that I didn’t know how steep the learning curve was going to be or I would have never made the attempt.
A few days ago, I “hit the wall.” 
Marathoners will know exactly what I am talking about as most have experienced “hitting the dreaded wall” at Mile 20.
This is when your legs feel like heavy bricks, you’re exhausted, running on fumes, physically and emotionally miserable and quitting is a persistent thought.
In this ragged state, as I neared completing my book, all I could think about was giving up.
I allowed myself a few minutes to indulge the “giving up,” fantasy and then asked myself
a really, big question:
“Why did you begin writing this book in the first place?”
A torrent of answers rushed through me:
“I had no choice. The book was inside of me kicking and screaming to get out.”
“It is my destiny to tell this story and whether it’s read by 100 people or a million, this story provides a message of hope and healing.”
“In spite of this momentary pain and frustration, this book has been the greatest creative experience of my life.”
In the process of manifesting our heart’s desire, whether it’s finding Big Love, writing a book, finishing a marathon, climbing Kilimanjaro, starting a new business or something else, it’s super helpful to have a plan in place for the times when you “hit the wall.”
Here are a few tips you might be useful:
  • Set a reasonable pace for yourself. Whatever your goal is, create a timeline for yourself.
  • Runners know that if you run too fast at the start of the race, you burn out sooner.
  • Create a Mission Statement that outlines the reason you want to achieve a certain outcome and then look at it daily. If it’s love you are seeking perhaps it could read: “I am happy, satisfied and content sharing my life with my soulmate/life-partner.”
  • Have an accountability partner to track your progress. Research proves that when we are held accountable, we are 80% more likely to attain our goal.
  • Stay well hydrated with food, water, inspiration, selfcare and rewards. (fyi, I keep a bag of peanut M & M’s in my desk drawer. I eat five as a small reward on the days I reach my writing goal for the day.)
Finally, plan a big reward for reaching your goal. Each time a final manuscript of mine is “accepted” by my publisher, I buy myself a push present. Usually, it’s a beautiful piece of jewelry and when I wear it, I’m reminded of my big accomplishment.
Be kind to yourself and remember that “hitting the wall” is normal no matter what the goal, so have a plan for the days when you just want to give up and trust that you have the power and persistence to get to the finish line.
Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Are You Pushing Miracles Away?

Creating miracles in your life, manifesting your desires, and co-creating your dream life with the Universe is available to all of us once you learn the simple, but not always easy, steps, to success.

Sometimes we get in our own way.

There once was a woman who saw on the television that her neighborhood was about to be flooded and officials warned everyone should evacuate.

She believed that God would save her, thus she ignored the warning.

Then a city emergency worker knocked on her door and told her to leave for higher ground and she said no, “God will save me.”

Then the floods came, and she had to run up to the second floor to stay dry.

A boat soon came to her second story window to rescue her and she said no, “God will save me.”

Then the second floor flooded, and she ended up on the roof of her home.

A helicopter came and she said no, “God will save me.”

Then she was swept away by the rising water and drowned.

When she got to heaven she yelled at God and said, “why didn’t you save me?”

God said, I sent you a warning on TV, a warning to your front door, a rescue boat and a helicopter, why didn’t you listen?

I share this story with you today because I often see people, in their manifesting process, focused on a very specific outcome, not knowing whether or not that outcome will save them or really make them happy. This woman was solely focused on God reaching down from heaven to scoop her up and save her, when in fact, God was doing everything possible to keep her safe.

We must stay open to signs, symbols, and helpful people that cross our path.

It’s important to remember that our ultimate goal is happiness and satisfaction and allow room for surprises and even miracles to occur.

The road to manifestation is not always a straight line, and in the end, we may manifest something unexpected but much more fulfilling. This is why, when I am manifesting my heart’s desire, I also say a prayer ending with “thank you for fulfilling my desire or that which is in my highest and best good.”

Make room for surprises, and miracles always wrapped in gratitude.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


The Power of Love

Love is one of those words that gets used a lot but has so many different meanings. Love is a feeling, a sentiment, a behavior, an action, a way of being, and often the thing that has the capacity to heal almost every situation.
I don’t believe there is a shortage of love in the world, in fact I believe that just as there is more than enough air and water for all of us, there is an abundance of love. When we choose to consciously tap into the vast pool of love and share it with our world and the world around us, life is a better, safer, happier place for us all.
Here are wise words from a sermon by Rev. Michael Curry:
“The late Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. once said, “We must discover the power of love, the redemptive power of love. And when we discover that, we will be able to make of this old world a new world. Love is the only way.
There’s power, power in love. If you don’t believe me, think about a time when you first fell in love. The whole world seemed to center around you and your beloved. There’s power, power in love, not just in its romantic forms, but any form, any shape of love. There’s a certain sense in which when you are loved and you know it, when someone cares for you and you know it, when you love and you show it. It actually feels right. There’s something right about it. There’s a reason for it. It has to do with the source.
We were made by a power of love. Our lives are meant to be lived in that love. That’s why we are here.
Ultimately the source of love is God himself. The source of all of our lives.
There’s power in love to help and heal when nothing else can. There’s power in love to lift up and liberate when nothing else will. There’s power in love to show us the way to live…
Someone once said that Jesus began the most revolutionary movement in human history: a movement ground on the unconditional love of God for the world and a movement mandating people to live and love.
And in so doing, to change not only their lives but the very life of the world itself!
Think and imagine a world where love is the way. When love is the way, poverty would become history. When love is the way, the earth will be a sanctuary. When love is the way, we will lay our swords and shields down by the riverside to study war no more. When love is the way, there’s plenty of room for all of God’s children. When love is the way, we actually treat each other, well, like we are actually family. When love is the way, we know that God is the source of us all, and we are brothers and sisters and children of God. Brothers and sisters — that’s a new heaven, a new earth, a new world, a new human family.
Dr. King was right. We must discover love, the redemptive power of love. And when we do that, we will be able to make of this old world a new world.”
Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Killing Buddha (it’s a good thing)

Did you know that the personal growth world has a dark side? And that not all the superstars of this world walk their talk?

I have spent more than 30 years attending personal growth workshops, working closely with the teachers of it, and have been in a rare birdseye place to observe what goes on. 90% of my experiences with the teachers and their teachings were very positive but I saw some things… out of control diva behavior, falling on the floor sloppy drunk, profound arrogance, and I’ve read about male yoga teachers taking sexual advantage of their students, etc.

I’ve learned that it’s true, we teach what we need to learn most, and that most of us interested in personal growth deliberately come to it in search of healing, which is why the teachers are teaching it in the first place. They had a core wound, found a solution, and now want to share it with the world. So, we don’t always want to be too quick to judge them (unless their behavior is abhorrent or criminal) and make room for their imperfect humanness.

This is why I am super excited to share this news with you: In her new page turner of a novel, Killing Buddha, Betsy Chasse (co-producer of What the Bleep Do We Know) delivers a laser sharp mostly fictional journey through the phony love and light dogma of the personal growth world and the many spurious teachers of self-help.

Workshop junkies will have a blast trying to figure out who is who as the story takes you up and close and personal with the purveyors of transformation and enlightenment.

The heroine, Sara, is loveable, relatable, perfectly imperfect, as well as funny as hell, scathing, snarky, and ultimately totally authentic. Seekers and cynics will equally enjoy the trip.

It’s laugh out loud funny. You can buy it now!

> Get it here <

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


p.s. If you want to watch a 15 minute interview of me and Betsy, check it out here (scroll down on the page to find it).

Watch it here!

A Year of Turmoil and Transformation

One year ago, we went into lockdown.

Covid -19. The Corona virus. A global pandemic. Holy shit!

They said lockdown would probably only last three to four weeks, possibly six.

We were told to wash our hands, wear a mask, social distance so we could “flatten the curve.”

What happened next doesn’t need to be repeated here.

We’ve all been through our own personal trauma.

For the first few months the loss of freedom to come and go and do as I please, including making future plans, had me cycling through the five stages of grief at a rapid pace.

Although I felt physically “bulletproof,” I worried about getting and passing along the virus to my husband or mother, both with underlying conditions.

I took full advantage of being a “senior” to shop super early in the day with the other gray-haired people. I began to look at going to the store as my “big and fun” adventure even when I got too close to other shoppers and felt myself fearful of breathing the same air.

I invented a system for myself for staying sane…. I began to live my life in “two-hour” segments instead of trying to make plans. This helped me stay focused, get stuff done and not freak out.

Now, 365 days later, I am feeling optimistic, I can see a light at the end of the tunnel.

Life will never be as it was pre-Covid, but I am hopeful a new and better world will emerge.

The gifts of lockdown are now evident to me.

This past year has been my most creative and I finally finished my novel.

One of the highlights of the year was celebrating my birthday on zoom with 72 friends and raising more than $90,000 for Girl Power Project India!!!

Thanks to the magic of Zoom there are many friends I am closer with now that we have scheduled weekly meetings. One of my bigger groups is for the purpose of sending healing intentions to our friends that are ailing. Another is a prayer group. With both groups there is plenty of time to catch up and connect.

I’m looking forward to getting the second vaccine in ten days and then finally meeting up with friends for an outdoor meal. Brian can’t wait to see a live concert again. And we are both looking forward to the day when we can go back to Italy to see our friends, eat pasta and drink fine wine.

What are the gifts you received during lockdown and what are you now looking forward too?

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


The Imaginal Cells of Love

In biology there is a term called imaginal cells and it explains how a caterpillar transforms into a butterfly.

The metamorphosis begins when the caterpillar hunkers down on a perch and forms a chrysalis. It then dissolves and decomposes into a cosmic ooze.

During this process imaginal cells, which have been ling quietly inside the DNA of the caterpillar, spring to life, igniting new form and structure until a tipping point is hit and the caterpillar emerges as a beautiful butterfly.

For those of you seeking to find love, keep love, or be love, you can create more love in your life by awakening your own imaginal cells of love. The process is easy.

Write down a list of all the people with whom you share love. Parents, kids, siblings, friends, co-workers, pets. etc. This list can be as long as you would like.

Sit in a quiet place, take a few deep breaths and move your attention to the area around your heart as you slowly read through your list.

Then close your eyes while keeping your attention on your heart and allow yourself to feel how grateful you are for the abundance of love in your life. Fill yourself up with the experience and memories of love as you think of each of these love ones. Remember to include yourself.

By putting your attention on having and being more love, your heart automatically becomes magnetic to love. In just five minutes a day, this simple, daily practice will spark your own imaginal cells to transport you into a world of more love.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


You are Totally Loveable (Just the way you are)

The 8th anniversary of my sister Debbie’s passing was a few days ago.

I was going through some recordings we did together and found a “feelingization” on falling in love with yourself that is just gorgeous.

Below is the essence of the process and you can also access the audio here.

Place your attention on the area around your heart, and take a deep breath into the deepest part of yourself, as you hold the intention of falling in love with yourself: knowing that you are worthy, loving, and wholly unique.

See yourself seated on a beautiful velvet loveseat in the center of your own heart…. a cozy and comfortable love seat…. now look off to your left and you are going to see an image of you…. it’s an image of your most loveable self: the part of you that radiates joy and hope: the part of you that knows you are special and unique and that there is nobody like you in the world.

What does that aspect of you look like? Maybe you’ll see an image of yourself at age 2, or 3, or 15 or 22. It’s you radiating love. Your eyes are lit up, you are irresistible. Now just invite that aspect of yourself to come and sit beside you on the loveseat as you continue to breathe deeply.

Allow your heart to connect heart-to-heart to this part of yourself.

Allow yourself to hear from your most loveable self all the reasons why you are worthy and deserving and enjoying life with your soulmate……

Now allow yourself to hear all the reasons why you should fall madly, passionately in love with YOU.

Ask this apart of you to show you all the good you’ve done and all the people whose lives have been touched and enriched because of you.

Now ask your most loveable self what patterns or behaviors or thoughts you need to let go of in order for you to feel how special, how desirable, how awesome you are?

Just continue to breathe deeply, allowing yourself to hear what you just heard….

And, if you are willing to give those up in the name of love, nod your head yes and put a smile on your face….

And now ask this part of you to tell you the sweet words that you need to say to yourself each and every day to fell loved, to fell loving, to feel loveable……

What sweet words do you need to hear to be in the presence of love every day?

Is it that you are kind and perfect just as you are?
Is it that you are sexy, beautiful, brilliant and wonderful?
Is it that you are desirable, adored, special, important?

Take a deep breath and breathe in those words.

Breathe them in because you are worthy of love

Allow yourself to see those words being etched across the interior walls of your heart.

Notice how your heart is softening.

Notice how these words make you feel appreciated.

Those are your words… you heard them from the most loveable part of you so acknowledge the magnificence of your humanity and the goodness of your heart.

Now imagine all the people closest to you in your life, the ones who really love you and care about and see them coming and kissing you on the cheek…. allow their love to penetrate every cell in your body….

And then, on your next exhale, repeat these words to yourself:

“I am loved. I am loveable. I am love.”
“I am loved. I am loveable. I am love.”
“I am loved. I am loveable. I am love.”

Allow the vibration of these words to melt away anything that exists between you and this reality of being Love and Loveable.

In this moment of awareness KNOW that you are healed, whole and complete. Know that you deserve to experience deep, heart opening, connected, magnificent, soulmate love, and that you don’t have to do this on your own…. at anytime you can call forth the wisdom of God, Goddess and All that is.

Place your hands upon your heart, thank yourself for creating the time, space, energy, intention and attention to allow your path to love to unfold for you.

Know and trust that you are co-creating a magnificent soulmate/ lifepartner for yourself.

You can listen to this 15 minute audio here!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


What is Love Anyway?

Did you know that in the Persian language there are 80 words for love?

In Sanskrit there are 96 words and in Greek there are 7.

Sadly, in English we only have 1 word for love.

Thus, it isn’t surprising that love means different things to just about everyone.

Love is one of those things that when you see it or feel it, you just know it.

And like food, air, and water, I believe love is essential to life.

Today I am sharing with you three very short takes on love that I think sum up some of the many ways love shows up.

“You have no idea how hard I’ve looked for a gift to bring You.
Nothing seemed right.
What’s the point of bringing gold to the gold mine, or water to the ocean.
Everything I came up with was like taking spices to the Orient.
It’s no good giving my heart and my soul because you already have these.
So, I’ve brought you a mirror. Look at yourself and remember me.”
~ Rumi

“Do you want me to tell you something really subversive?
Love is everything it’s cracked up to be.
That’s why people are so cynical about it.
It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for.
And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.”
~ Erica Jong

“A soulmate isn’t someone who completes you. No, a soulmate is someone who inspires you to complete yourself. A soulmate is someone who loves you with so much conviction, and so much here, that it is nearly impossible to doubt just how capable you are of becoming exactly who you have always wanted to be.”
~ Bianca Sparacino

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


The Art of the Love Letter

For those of you already with your soulmate, scroll down to the P.S. for a special bonus gift on the art of writing a love letter.

For all of you singles…imagine this…. it’s one year from now, Valentine’s Day 2022, and your soulmate/lifepartner has just given you a giant array of your favorite flowers.

While looking into your eyes, they are telling you they’ve never been happier, and are so grateful that the two of you have found each other.

This is what is totally possible, predictable even, especially if you start taking steps right now to make it happen.

That is why I am writing to you today.

My dear friend, Dr. Claire Zammit, founder of Feminine Power & I have discovered and developed a break-through approach that especially works for conscious, smart women to attract an extraordinary partner and create happy, fulfilling and lasting love. It’s available now as a 12-week online Course known as The Love Codes and women who have participated rave about the results they’ve been able to get applying our breakthrough approach:

“Thanks to Claire and Arielle not only have I found ‘a man,’ I found The Man. I’m head-over-heels, flat-on-my-face, jaw-on-the-floor drooling in love with the most intelligent, handsome, psychologically stimulating, intellectually challenging, sexiest man I could ever dream of…”

“As a result of what I learned from Arielle and Claire, I just got engaged last night to the wonderful man I attracted into my life! Your insights and wisdom made a huge difference. It worked! I am grateful!”

And the experts say:

“Arielle Ford weds ancient wisdom and modern concerns to create the formula for a sustainable, loving relationship for years to come.”
—Deepak Chopra

“Claire is a woman whose work I deeply admire and a friend who I myself turn to for wisdom and counsel.”
—Marianne Williamson

“For single, conscious women seeking a lifetime of love and happiness, my friends Arielle Ford and Claire Zammit are the “go-to” experts in the field. ”
—John Gray, Bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus and Conscious Men

Imagine finally being with someone who can “meet you”—and feeling deeply seen, supported, cherished and adored…

Imagine finally having a place to land at the end of a hard day… someone to share your wins with, and who is there for you when life gets rough…

Someone who can be your full partner in all areas of life, whom you can respect and count on for advice and emotional support, and whose happiness is as important to you as your own.

And if you’re on a path of personal growth and spiritual development, there’s no greater catalyst for healing and transformation than sharing your life with a life-partner.

The Love Codes is priced at $597 (plus you received thousands of dollars of free bonuses). Today I am offering a $100 Valentine’s Day discount to launch you on your path to love.

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Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


P.S. The Love Letters of Arielle & Brian
From the moment we met, Brian and I began writing each other love letters and sending each other “I love you just because cards.” Over the past 23 years we have saved the numerous birthday, anniversary, Valentine’s Day and mushy emails we sent each other. We have now compiled some of our favorites in this personal, revealing one-of-a-kind e-book. It’s our dream to inspire others to begin writing more love letters! The book includes detailed instructions on how to write a beautiful letter to your beloved!

Download your complimentary e-book here!