The Unbearable Lightness of Liminality

The phrase “the Unbearable Lightness of Being” was introduced as the title of a 1984 novel by Milan Kundera. (It also became a movie). It uses Friedrich Nietzsche’s doctrine of the Eternal Return to illustrate Lightness.

The idea of “eternal return,” explains that our universe and our existence, has occurred an infinite number of times in the past, and is cyclical and will continue to occur forever.

This is a heady, intellectual concept, but I’ve been thinking about it lately in terms of how to make sense of the earth (and soul) shattering times we are currently in.

Last year I discovered a new word, liminal, which is also appropriate for these times.

With its origin in Latin, it literally means “on the threshold.”

Certainly, we are all on the threshold of a new life.

Liminal spaces are described as transformative and/or transitional.

Spaces where we feel we are on the “verge of something.”

And, being in liminal space is often unsettling, uncomfortable, and disorienting.

I made up the phrase, “the unbearable lightness of liminality,” as a way for me to try and define my current state of being.

I find it has a mystical frequency and creates a permeable container for where I am right now.

I also find it strangely comforting.

What brings you comfort these days?

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Wabi Sabi Quarantine

Wabi Sabi is the ancient Japanese aesthetic of seeking to discover beauty and perfection in imperfection. It seeks to find the beauty in things that are old, worn, imperfect or impermanent.

When we are in a situation beyond our control, and are finding ourselves highly annoyed or frustrated with someone’s behavior, that is the time to practice Wabi Sabi Love: this is about having a shift in perception and making up a new and empowering story about whatever you are perceiving as broken, wrong, or just not right.

For those of us that are stressed out, frustrated or are experiencing extreme cabin fever from the quarantine, finding the beauty and perfection in the imperfection can be a challenge.

I could make a long list of all the things I don’t like about being quarantined, but now that we are in week seven, I think for me, the good things are beginning to outweigh the bad.

By digging deep into my spiritual toolkit I have been practicing things I’ve often talked about but never really had to deal with….like turning fear into love and transforming judgement into compassion. The latter being the most difficult.

As I have watched many people filling social media with wild conspiracy theories, I find myself pinging back and forth between outrage and wanting to fix them.

(I know better than to engage online about controversial things).

For the first few weeks it made me crazy, and I labeled them as crazy or stupid.

One day I asked myself, “what is the Wabi Sabi solution to my reaction?”

And here is the new Wabi Sabi story I made up: For reasons I am not meant to understand, they believe this stuff because it may just be the best coping mechanism they currently have.

This new story releases me from judgment.

It allows me to breathe deeper and to just be.

If someone or something is making you crazy and causing you to react (this does not include addiction, abuse or bad behavior – for that you must get professional help), try giving Wabi Sabi a spin.

And, if you can’t figure out a new story about their behavior, then ask yourself this: “Is this a reason not to love them?”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

p.s. click below to watch a free 18 minute video on Wabi Sabi Love on YouTube!

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p.p.s. My book Wabi Sabi Love is below:

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Fasten Your Seatbelt, It’s Going To Be A Bumpy Ride

Bette Davis spoke this classic line in the film All About Eve, and it’s certainly apropos for the world we are currently in.

Unless you are in deep denial, the fact is that the rug has been pulled out from under all of us and it’s going to be bumpy for quite some time.

As we adjust to being in a collective dark night of the soul, we are individually figuring out how wrap our heads around the fact that right now there are no real answers: no one can say when/if the virus will end; when/ if certainty and stability will return; or if life as we once knew it will return.

Whether you are suffering through this process or are doing great with it (or bouncing between happiness and misery), most of us are now learning to adapt to “being with not knowing.”

One of my core beliefs is this:

Contentment is being willing to accept both your happiness and your lack of it at any given moment. This is the practice of the spiritual warrior; to love what is, the good, the bad, the ugly and to remain centered in appreciation and gratitude.

Can you find contentment right now with what is? Start with the smallest baby step of gratitude… right now in this moment, who or what are you grateful for?

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Become A Wabi Sabi Spiritual Warrior

One of my most effective “surviving and thriving” tools is the practice of Wabi Sabi. Known predominantly as an ancient Japanese aesthetic that honors all things old, worn, imperfect and impermanent, Wabi Sabi seeks to find the beauty and perfection in imperfection.

Between Covid-19 and the crashing economy coupled with epic levels of uncertainty and instability, it’s easy to notice everything that is wrong in the world.

I believe it is the job of the spiritual warrior to look for what’s right, to see the light, in spite of all of the painful and dark circumstances.

I’m not in any way minimizing what we are going through, or sticking my head in the sand, but rather broadening the lens to seek out the gifts and benefits of these times.

The images of the incredible reduction of pollution in Beijing, Los Angeles, New Delhi and other places is mind blowing. More than once we were trapped in airports in Beijing and Delhi for days because of air pollution and zero visibility, so to have this kind of transformation in less than six weeks seems like magic.

When I find myself “wishing” things were different, I close my eyes, drop into my heart, and ask myself “what’s good or what good will come from this?” The asking of the question opens up all kinds of creative and imaginative answers and generally lifts feelings of anger or discontent. And, in this situation and process the person I am learning the most about is me!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Was the Virus Predicted 5,000 years ago by an Indian Seer?

A few weeks ago I shared with you my personal experience having Nadi readings (Deepak Chopra first introduced me to them) and I was surprised to learn that there are Nadi leaves for the world as well as individuals, I am sharing with you today a link to a fascinating one hour video of a psychic/researcher/Nadi expert named Craig Hamilton Parker who reveals the predictions found on a variety of Nadi leaves as it relates to Corona Virus and the Kali Yuga (the period of time we are now in that has been predicted for millennia).

In this video he provides some “remedies” to prevent the virus and some to use if you get it and they include an Ayurvedic medicine, Hamas (rituals) to do, a chapter of the Ramayana to read for physical healings, as well as chants and prayers and more.

It’s quite detailed and while I haven’t heard of him before, he shows up as smart, well researched, sincere and I found him likeable. (FYI, the first few minutes he does promote his books but it is not a sales video.)

There is one short section where he mentions the virus might be a biological weapon but this is not a conspiracy theory type of presentation so don’t let that stop you.


Mostly he provides timing and says this is a “temporary crisis” and that it leads to a spiritual renaissance.

My favorite part is when he talks about the “Jeeva Nadis” which are blank palm leaves and once you ask a question, the writing appears on the leaf! I would love to experience that!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

p.s. And, if you or a friend would like their own Nadi reading, send them to www.mynadireading.com I had a spectacular three hour reading via zoom last year. (email me if you can’t register online arielleford@nullgmail.com)

Finding Beauty and Inspiration in Devastation

There is no denying where we are right now.

The shit has hit the fan.

Or, you more evolved types might say “the shift has hit the fan.”

In this moment in time, where no one knows when the pandemic will end, and how and when the economy will recover, I am navigating my rollercoaster of emotions that range from sheer terror to excitement and possibility.

One of my favorite thought leaders and scientists is Bruce Lipton. He is a Stanford stem cell biologist, bestselling author of The Biology of Belief, and recipient of the 2009 Goi Peace Award, and below is a short explanation of “imaginal cells” that he wrote many years ago that is timely today. I think you will find fascinating and uplifting:

“To better understand the opportunity hidden in today’s crises, consider the tale of another world in transition. Imagine you are a single cell among millions that comprise a growing caterpillar. The structure around you has been operating like a well-oiled machine, and the larva world has been creeping along predictably. Then one day, the machine begins to shudder and shake. The system begins to fail. Cells begin to commit suicide. There is a sense of darkness and impending doom.

From within the dying population, a new breed of cells begins to emerge, called imaginal cells. (aka YOU!) Clustering in community, they devise a plan to create something entirely new from the wreckage. Out of the decay arises a great flying machine—a butterfly—that enables the survivor cells to escape from the ashes and experience a beautiful world, far beyond imagination. Here is the amazing thing: the caterpillar and the butterfly have the exact same DNA. They are the same organism, but are receiving and responding to different organizing signals.

That is where we are today. When we read or watch the news, we see the media reporting a decaying caterpillar world. And yet everywhere, you and other human imaginal cells are awakening to a new possibility. We are clustering, communicating, and tuning into a new, coherent signal of love.”

As we are now deep into the yucky soup of what IS, can you allow yourself just to be with the uncertainty, to just be with the mystery?

For me, I am going to hold onto the vision of being an emerging butterfly, a beautiful butterfly that will fly and soar into the possibility of a future filled with big love, good health, serenity and creative expression.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Beach Closed: No Lifeguard on Duty

Several years ago we were vacationing on the insanely beautiful island of Capri in Italy.

One afternoon we went for a walk, searching for a beach, to take a swim in the refreshing, sparkling Mediterranean sea.

We eventually found one and hiked down to a sweet little cove with a sandy beach jammed packed with men, women and children, in all shape and sizes.

As we waded into the water, I noticed a small canoe-like boat that was painted red and on the side were the words, in big block letters, Salvatore.

My first thought was,

“I wonder who Salvatore is and why does he need his name so boldly on the boat?”

And, even though I don’t speak Italian, I soon figured out that it Salvatore wasn’t some man’s name but rather it means “Savior,” and that this was a boat used by lifeguards.

As all of us navigate through these scary and difficult times of the COVID-19 virus, it’s becoming clear that there aren’t enough lifeguards right now, and it’s really up to us to figure out how to rescue ourselves and our loved ones.

We must use the full force of our emotional maturity to manage our fear, anxiety, and negative thoughts, so that we can stay strong and courageous in this time of massive uncertainty. It is uncertainty which triggers our darkest thoughts. We are living through a time when we are constantly bombarded with disastrous news of the global pandemic and economic crash as our minds run wild asking ourselves “what if” questions.

So, how does one balance the “reality” of what is happening with the ability to stay grounded, centered and at peace with what is?

One way is to begin to create a spiritual tool kit filled with simple and easy remedies for the times your monkey mind spins out of control. The first step is to be aware of what is going on in your head and to consciously choose to shift your thinking. Be willing to say out loud what is going on with you. For instance, it might be, “I am crazy scared that someone I love is going to die from the virus.” Just naming the problem often helps alleviate some of the energy of it.

Now create an affirmation for yourself, perhaps close your eyes and say “I am sending love, healing and blessings to myself, my family and my friends knowing and trusting that all is well.”

We can’t eliminate all negative thoughts, but we can begin to manage how we respond to them.

Begin to find ways to feel and experience love, gratitude and appreciate in your life.

In one HeartMath® research study published in the Journal of Advancement in Medicine it was observed that just five minutes of genuinely feeling a positive emotion such as appreciation can provide a beneficial boost to the immune system! Creating your own spiritual toolkit will allow you to be proactive and will also help boost your immune system.

Here are a few of the items in my Spiritual Toolkit.

**I repeat my favorite line from A Course In Miracles: “In this moment I have everything that I need.” For me, this is always true as well as comforting. When I say this to myself I know that in this NOW moment, I have a safe place to sit, clean water to drink, fresh air to breath, food to eat, family and friends who love me.

**I have faith. I remember that even though I don’t know what the future holds, I can choose to ‘be with not knowing’ and choose to know and trust that I am ok and I will be ok. As I recall my faith, I place my hands upon my heart and give thanks for all the goodness in my life.

**I Take Five. I stop whatever I am doing, I stop listening to my scary thoughts and I find a fun way to get through the next five minutes. I may turn on my favorite Earth Wind and Fire tune (loud) and dance around the house, or I’ll do a quick search of the Internet for stupid, funny jokes (here’s one for you right now: Did you hear about the zoo that only had one dog? It was a shitzu!) Take 5 minutes and distract yourself.

**I do EFT Tapping. This is a very useful and easy to learn process to help relieve stress, anxiety and suffering. Just google it and you will find a ton of free videos to tap along with.

**I do a “feelingization.” This is a word I coined to describe a closed eye process to take you from your head to your heart and experience love, gratitude, serenity and peace. Here is a link to one entitled Blessing Yourself, Blessing The World that will calm you and fill you with love, guiding you to extend that love to the world.

In just 15 minutes you can transform your state of being!

>> Listen to my Feelingization audio here <<

Decide today to be your own “Salvatore” and create a safe and nurturing and blessed world for yourself.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Love In The Time of Coronavirus

Rebecca Winn is an artist with words and her new book, new book One Hundred Daffodils; Finding Beauty, Grace, and Meaning When Things Fall Apart, proves the underestimated power of beauty to heal our deepest wounds.

Using her garden, nature, and a delightful smattering of wild creatures, she weaves her midlife catastrophe into a beautifully written story of raw vulnerability, courage, and transformation.

I was totally captivated and entranced.

Today she is guest blogging to share her thoughts on love during this time of crisis:

“We are all connected.” A phrase so common, it has become a meaningless spiritual cliche. Or has it?

Four months ago we could watch the news unfolding in China with a detachment that distance and depersonalization afforded us. Today, we are sheltering in place, surrounded by fear so palpable even the skeptics are panic buying, and the most committed introverts confess that they only want to be alone when it’s their choice.

And yet, only a few days into self-quarantine, something magical has also happened. Musicians are sharing their music for free during social media Live events. Authors whose book tours have been cancelled (including my own) are reading from their books online. People are reaching out to help one another in ways heretofore unimagined. Some property owners are telling restaurants to pay their employees instead of their rent.

Complete strangers in the book world have contacted me offering to help me promote my book with Live events, podcasts and blogs. Movie studios are making new releases accessible online. Neighbors with fruit bearing trees in California are putting boxes of produce on the curb for anyone who needs it. Social media is filled with posts about the beauty of the earth and how grateful people are for those they love. News feeds that were saturated with angry political posts just days before are filled with words and images designed to comfort, uplift and reassure. Photographs of spring unfolding abound, and every tiny, green point of hope that pushes through the earth and blossoms despite this chaos, serves to remind us that the cycles of the earth are continuous, and this too shall pass. In times of crisis, when danger is present and fear abounds, nature persists, humanity’s love rises up, and we are reminded that people are mostly good — even if we disagree with them about some things.

We have been made acutely aware of how closely we share our “personal space”, and how much we touch each other. We now know how inescapably connected we are. The coronavirus known as COVID-19 has single-handedly made mindfulness mainstream. There is a lesson to be learned when “social distancing” is the thing that brings us together. Not only are we connected, we realize how much we need that connection. Every breath we take… the very air we breathe is shared with every other person on this planet. Everything we touch carries our contact for far longer than we ever imagined. We cannot escape that, nor should we want to. The spaces where we move, live and breathe connect us, and that is a good thing when we understand it, respect it and use it honorably.

Love manifests in many ways, sometimes in ways which are unexpected and not readily understood, but we have been given a chance to slow down. This sheltering time is an opportunity to reconnect with ourselves, and be truly present with our loved ones without the pressing demands of our next appointment. We have been given time to turn within. To contemplate. To connect. To remember what really matters. To get out of the rat race and back into the human race. To remember how to be love.”

Rebecca’s book One Hundred Daffodils; Finding Beauty, Grace, and Meaning When Things Fall Apart, is releasing worldwide today, March 24, 2020 through Grand Central Publishing/Hachette.

In lieu of a book tour, she is offering Moments of Peace and Beauty from her garden as spring unfolds, and will be reading essays from her book on her inspirational Facebook page, www.facebook.com/WhimsicalGardens and on Instagram @rebeccawinn.writer

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

How To Spiritually Surf These Crazy Times

I hope you are safe and staying healthy as we all deal with this life changing time we are in. Brian and I are isolating ourselves at home, we’ve stocked up on lots of Amy’s canned organic soup (which I hope tastes good as I’ve never eaten it before), and we are checking in with friends and family by phone, Facebook and Skype.

For the past few days I have been blessed to have the time to listen and read a variety of meditations and blogs that have been comforting and calming.

I have found that my best strategy right now is to stay in the present moment as much as possible and to not let my monkey mind get caught up in “what if” scenarios. Below are links to three free resources that I have found helpful:

Dr. Barbara DeAngelis has a free, special audio with a healing meditation that will help you learn how to “stock up” on love and wisdom.

She offers practical steps you can take to understand and shift your relationship to fear, and navigate more gracefully and steadily in the uncertain weeks and months ahead.

> Listen here <<

Esther Hicks/Abraham has a recording on YouTube that I found to be a very good reminder on Law of Attraction as it relates to healing and wellness. FYI, the title of it is misleading as it says it is regarding Corona virus (which it never mentions) however, that doesn’t invalidate the usefulness of the message.

If you find you are experiencing fear-based thoughts, this will help you shift your thinking and raise your vibration.

> Listen here <<

Bill Bennett has posted a great blog on Facing Fear that explains that here are two types of fear – real fear and imagined fear. He says real fear is survival based fear, and it inhabits the body. Imagined fear is illusory based fear, and it inhabits the mind.

Our bodies can’t distinguish between real fear and imagined fear. One of the reasons there’s so much sickness and ill health in our society is because we live too much in imagined fear and the chemical secretions that result damage our biological systems.

He encourages us to handling this time with calm, with dignity, with compassion and generosity of spirit, with a love and deep respect for every human being on this planet – and with grace.

>> Read it here <<

If you come across any resources that are helpful, please pass them along to me at arielleford@nullgmail.com

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,
Arielle

p.s. My mantra right now is: This too shall pass.

Manifesting In A Time of Madness

I woke up this morning to news about world markets crashing, Corona virus numbers doubling, speaking engagements being canceled, and so much more.

And yet, I am feeling very optimistic as I wash my hands in hot soapy water and make a list of more food to store up on “just in case.”

Why am I feeling good?

Because my faith is strong that despite what is happening in the outer world (where I have little control) my inner world knows that whatever happens, ultimately I am OK and I am going to be OK.

This is a conscious choice to not dive into the worry and despair and anxiety that is prevalent right now.

If I had a magic wand, yes, I would wave it and make the virus disappear, and sick people would get better, and war would cease, and love and peace would prevail.

My magic wand is my heart and my heart says:
I am blessed and I give thanks that in this moment I have many in my life who love me.
I am blessed and I give thanks that in this moment I have everything that I need.
I am blessed and I give thanks that no matter what happens, I am whole, healthy and complete and will continue to survive and thrive.
And so it is.

Remember, we get to choose our thoughts and actions so choose wisely.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle