Is Becoming An Author on Your Wish List?

I’ve written eleven non-fiction books over the past thirty years and along the way I made just about every mistake an author can make.

Writing, publishing, and marketing a book is a very counter-intuitive process, and unless you seek out expert advice, it’s likely you will make a lot of mistakes as well.

That’s why I’ve decided to collaborate with the Book Doulas — my dear friends Kristine Carlson & Debra Evans — and share this amazing program for aspiring authors: The Book Doulas’ Incubator Program.

They are two fantastic experts offering a 12-week online program (August 19 – Nov 4, 2020), where you will:

  • Start your book
  • Clarify your message
  • Expand your platform
  • And learn exactly what it takes to become a bestselling author & more.

Kristine is a New York Times bestselling author and co-author of the Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff books (over 30 million copies sold), and Debra, is an acclaimed developmental book editor who has helped bring over 20 books to market.

Together, they have over 50 years experience in the publishing industry and understand the ins and outs of writing, publishing, and book marketing.

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Now more than ever, it’s TIME to bring your brilliant idea to life!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Finally, some good news….

According to the Vedic tradition, we are now in what is called Kali Yuga, the age of darkness and ignorance. A time when people further down the path of dishonesty, and virtue is of little value. Liars and hypocrites rise. The human diet is now ‘dirty’, and the environment is now polluted. Supposedly this will last 4,000 years.

However, according to my friend, spiritual leader Roger Gabriel there is another, brighter point of view.

Here’s what he has to say:

“Unfortunately there are forces trying to preserve the illusion (of Kali Yuga) so it’s up to us to dispel the darkness and bring in the sunshine of Sat Yuga, the Golden Age. We do this by staying focused on our regular spiritual practices, meditation, pranayama and yoga asana, plus whatever we can do to help the world around us.

This year, from July 20th to August 19th is an auspicious time in the Vedic calendar to receive Divine blessings, prosperity, protection and the removal of obstacles.

During this month-long period, Lakshmi, the archetypal energy of abundance, grace and beauty, is said to overflow to all who seek her blessings. Tuesdays and Fridays are always important days for remembering the Divine Mother or Shakti, the animating force of the Universe, but are even more significant during this time. Tuesdays the focus is on Parvati or Gauri, the wife of Shiva, who brings protection, while Friday is for Lakshmi, who brings every kind of wealth–financial, spiritual, physical and emotional.

Recognizing them on these days helps to remove anxiety, confusion, poverty and ill health, and bestows peace, radiance, prosperity, and the fulfillment of pure desires.

During this period, we should try to eat a more simple, pure diet, follow our spiritual practices, doing our best to be pure, truthful and compassionate in our thoughts, words and actions and staying in harmony with our life’s true purpose.

While this whole period is auspicious, one day is particularly special this year.

July 31st, is known as Sri Vara Lakshmi Vratam. It is said that on this day Mother Lakshmi will grant every kind of auspicious boon. These divine gifts are often beyond normal comprehension and can be the fulfillment of desires that we never thought possible.

Every day during this period (start today!), but especially on July 31st, chant 108 repetitions of the mantra “OM SRIM MAHALAKSHMI NAMAH.”

Thank you, Roger for this uplifting message.

I’m getting out my mala and will begin chanting and asking Goddess Lakshmi for a boon!!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


My Favorite Lockdown Distractions

TV, Books, Beach walks and Travel Memories are all the top of my list of how I’ve been keeping myself amused this summer. FYI, none of these activities fall into the category of spiritual or personal growth.

TV – Brian and I have fallen into an early evening routine of watching a couple of hours of TV together. Since we can’t go out to the movies, we have a found some series that are just as exciting. Our favorites are on Netflix. We’ve watched all of the episodes of White Lines, a decadent, sophisticated mystery of drugs, sex, and murder on Ibiza.

Next we watched Money Heist (created by the same producer as White Lines, Alex Pena who’s storytelling chops are spectacular). It’s a thriller of crazy bank robberies in Spain with an eclectic, captivating cast of characters.

Right now, we are deep into season two of Bloodline about the very wealthy, dysfunctional (but well-respected) Rayburn family in Key Largo. The family owns a beautiful beachfront hotel that is the epicenter of the action. These folks lie more often than they breathe. Everyone has deadly secrets in this twisted, crazy group and when the black sheep brother returns home, all hell breaks loose. It’s quite addicting and stars Sissy Spacek and Sam Shepard.

Travel Memories – I haven’t been on an airplane in more than six months and I really miss it. It’s likely that it may be a long time before it’s safe to travel, so, I have been pulling together all of my favorite travel photos from more than 30 years of trekking around the world. Each day I post a photo on my Facebook page and for now this is calming my travel bug.

Books – just finished a laugh out loud novel by one of my favorite writers, Carl Hiaasen. It’s titled Razor Girl and it’s about a lovable con woman and a disgraced detective who team up to find a redneck reality TV star who gets into more trouble than he can handle. All of Carl’s books take place in South Florida (where I grew up)
and they vividly depict the swampy criminality that is rampant there.

A daily beach walk, working out on my Elliptical, and lots of use of my Calm app are all part of my “new normal.”

What’s your new normal look like?

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Catch A Wave (In Spite of the Wobble)

The first thing I see out my window each morning are the surfers. We live across the street from South Bird Rock, the best “break” in San Diego and only the most expert surfers dare to ride here.

Not only do you have to be an advanced surfer, you also have to hike down a cliff and then paddle out a quarter mile or more to get in position.

Some days, like today, there are as many as a dozen who are wildly riding the high surf.

Other mornings there are just a few wet-suit clad dudes sitting calmly on their boards scanning the horizon for the next wave.

On my daily walks around the neighborhood, I pass two other surf spots. One is suited to the “intermediate” surfers …it has a shorter hike down the cliff, and a shorter paddle out and the waves are a bit smaller.

This seems to be the preferred spot for the older, grayer guys.

The third location is what I call beginners beach. It’s the most picturesque, has the most activity, and by far the littlest waves.

While I was watching those surfers today I was observing how much fun most seem to be having. I could feel their glee when they stood up, caught the wave, knees bent, arms extended. In spite of some wobbling to keep their balance, most succeeded to ride these two and three- foot waves. They were stoked!

While I have no desire to don a wetsuit and paddle out in the 67-degree water, I am learning to surf the waves of uncertainty of this time of Covid.

I am finally developing a little muscle memory, resilience, and acceptance for the ways things are.

I’ve stopped wondering “when is this going to end,” and started to just be with the not knowing and then tuning into the excitement of how to make the best of what is.

I don’t know when the next big wave is coming.

I don’t know if it’s a wave I can ride or if I will “wipe out,” but I do know that right now, in this moment, I have everything that I need.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


John Lennon Got It All Wrong

Don’t get me wrong, I love John Lennon and I love the Beatles, but their song “All You Need is Love,” a lovely sentiment to be sure, is also far from the truth.

The wild and wonderful state of “being in love” is natures greatest trick to get us to keep the species going, but it’s no predictor of a long term, happy, satisfying relationship.

We need more than just love to make love work.

I like to call being in love “the socially acceptable form of insanity.”

It’s a cocktail of adrenalin, dopamine, oxytocin and some other feel good hormones oozing from your brain throughout your body (and it does feel soooo good), but when it wears off (and it always wears off somewhere between six months to three years) you then are confronted with a real, live, fallible human being, and if you haven’t chosen well, things will devolve pretty quickly.

For those of you singles who are desiring a lifelong partner, it’s crucial to understand that true, adult mature love is much more than a feeling.

Love is a behavior. It’s a choice, a decision, a way of being where you and your partner are devoted to each other’s happiness, health and well-being.

And, while there are plenty of good feelings to this kind of love, there are also times when you don’t feel the love and it doesn’t mean you don’t love them.

As you are connecting with potential partners add these to your selection criteria: connection, great communication, compatibility and most importantly a shared vision for the future. (And be sure to ask yourself, is this someone that I would enjoy being in quarantine with for the next time we are in lockdown?)

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


What Does It Take Too Have BIG LOVE?

Yesterday was our 22nd wedding anniversary. As I thought about the wonder of it all, I asked my beloved soulmate, Brian, what his thoughts are on how we have created 22 years of togetherness….what he thought our “secret of success” is.

Here is what he said:

“Our sacred union was ignited in an instant when I literally found myself immersed in a grand conspiracy of love with the Woman/Goddess of my dreams 23 years ago. The day we met the magic began and the Universe/God supported our journey of love on every level. It was a ginormous love explosion where both our tides of love rose together into one ocean of love and where love began to dance with itself!

We celebrate our miracle of love every day as we live grounded in Higher Love with the necessary ingredients of respect, honor, joy, unlimited fun, attentiveness, acceptance, admiration and care of the other’s well-being.

And, for me, living amidst all the wonder of our deep heart connection as well as living through all the challenges a relationship can bring, all of this has generated the glue and the foundation that has solidified the essence of our sacred relationship.

Our devotion to each other continues to be the catalyst to knowing and living our destiny: Big Love.”

Sigh. He truly is a heart chakra on legs, and I am so grateful to spend my life with him. He is my best friend, my greatest teacher, my rock, and even when things get rocky, we are always there for each other.

And, I am very clear that while our meeting was “magical,” I conjured up a ton of manifesting magic to prepare myself, on every level, to meet and spend my life with him. I worked through my blocks, barriers, and limiting beliefs about love and then committed myself to learning how to be a great partner.

While I feel very lucky, none of this happened by chance or by luck.

Using the ancient wisdom of the Law of Attraction, I co-created with the Universe meeting Brian.

Finding love and keeping love (and ultimately being love) can be acquired skills.

If finding love is your desire, let me show you the way.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Now more than ever, Be A Pleasure Puppy

I don’t know about you but lately it seems that everyone I know is totally stressed out – not just from their own lives but from the “frequency in the field.”

From the racial tensions and the horrific killing of African American men, women and children, to Covid-19 and the global pandemic, along with the economy and money worries, most of us are stressed to the max.

Even if you are safe, and your life is peachy right now, chances are you are picking up on the energies of those around you.

It’s almost unavoidable.

This is why I am such a big advocate for all of us to become daily “pleasure puppies” and find ways each day to consciously choose to reduce our stress levels and add more pleasure.

For women, this means doing things that build oxytocin (the cuddling/bonding hormone) and for men this means ways to build testosterone. The more you have of these hormones, the better you can handle stress.

I’ve been doing more research and here are some new ways to do both:

To rebuild oxytocin, ladies try this:

  • Tell someone you love them.
  • Share a meal.
  • Pray and/or meditate
  • Volunteer and donate to charity.
  • Be creative – paint, color, knit, throw pots, whatever sparks creativity in you.
  • Cuddle your pets.
  • Get and give 8 hugs a day.
  • Dancing, listening to music or making music.
  • Indulging in your favorite guilty pleasure – a delicious piece of chocolate or freshly baked bread, whatever makes you drool.

Men, to rebuild testosterone try this:

  • Exercise, especially weightlifting, and high intensity interval training.
  • Chop wood!
  • Play or watch your favorite sport on TV.

Do the Power Pose: Stand with legs shoulder width a part. Put your hands into fists on your waist (Like Superman), tilt your chin up and look at the ceiling and for two solid minutes shout out empowering phrases such as: I am strong, I am courageous, I am powerful, I am energized, I am on purpose, etc.

And one activity that builds both oxytocin and testosterone is to have sex with someone you love!

Learning to manage our stress levels is critical to keeping our immune system strong and healthy, so become a pleasure puppy and consciously do one thing every day that will build your oxytocin or testosterone levels.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

The NEW RULES of Dating

Covid 19 and the murder of George Floyd have changed our world forever.

Not just in North America but around the globe. Billions of people are experiencing these shared traumas. We literally are all in this together.

No one knows when (or if) it will be safe again to sit shoulder to shoulder at a Broadway play or a concert or attend sporting events that once had as many as 70,000 crazed fans cheering on their favorite football, baseball, hockey or soccer teams.

What we do know is that life goes on and we will find ways to adapt to a new normal.

For those of you who are single, and have been quarantined alone, wishing you had a soulmate, life partner, best friend, lover and safe place to land person to share it with, I have some good news: it’s never been easier to manifest your soulmate than right now.

This may sound counter intuitive, it may even sound crazy, but it’s not.

Even though you can’t go out and meet someone at social events, or at the office, or even the local coffee shop, you can easily be fixed up by a friend or even better, and very effective: date online.

The latest statistics show that nearly 40% of marriages now begin online. Dating online works IF you know how to work it and unfortunately, most women don’t know how to successfully use this amazing tool. It can be more fun than you imagine!

And, here’s why this is such good news:

  1. Video dating allows you to sort through prospects faster than meeting at a Starbucks. Because of the current situation we are all in, you can utilize video dating to interact in deeper, more meaningful ways.
  2. You can engage with a stranger and ask questions that in the past would not have been appropriate. You can discover in minutes things such as: are they divorced but living with their ex? You can ask questions that reveal their emotional IQ without seeming intrusive such as asking them to show you their favorite mask. By doing this you quickly discover if you are on the same page about wearing a mask or if they are someone who thinks it’s unnecessary.
  3. There are ways to make video dating fun and creative that reveal more about them. And, if you do all this correctly, video dating is super safe in ways that meeting in person are not right now.

This Friday, June 12th 4:00-6:00pmPT, I am teaching a LIVE, one-time only, two hour workshop on Zoom on how to do ALL of the above and much more. This event is hosted through 1440 Multiversity. The cost is $45 and if you are seriously ready to manifest your soulmate, discover the simple steps to make it happen.

Register here!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Drenched in Holiness

These times of chaos, turmoil, and massive uncertainty require faith and a deepening with our relationship with the Divine. Spending time in prayer, meditation, poetry, being in nature, having gratitude for all that is, cuddling with loved ones and pets…all will infuse the field with love and healing.

My beautiful late sister, Debbie Ford, wrote a prayer book, Your Holiness, and below is one of my favorites.

Drenched in Holiness

Dear God, Spirit, Divine Mother,

On this day I ask You to grant this request ~

May I know who I am and what I am, every moment of every day

May I be a catalyst for light and love and bring inspiration to those whose eyes I meet

May I have the courage to speak my voice, even when I’m scared

May I have the humility to follow my heart, and the passion to live my Soul’s desires

May I seek to know the highest truth and dismiss the gravitational pull of my lower self

May I embrace and love the totality of myself ~ my darkness as well as my light

May I be brave enough to hear my heart ~ to let it soften so that I may gracefully choose faith over fear

Today is my day to surrender anything that stands between the sacredness of my humanity and my divinity

May I be drenched in my Holiness and engulfed by Your love

May all else melt away

And so it is.

~Debbie Ford

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


True, fascinating story of the origin of Love Letter From God

Before I tell you an extraordinary story, read this:

Love Letter from God

Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone — to have a deep soul relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively. But God says:

“No, not until you are satisfied and fulfilled and content with being loved by Me alone. I love you, my child, and until you discover that only in Me is your satisfaction to be found, you will not be capable of the perfect human relationship that I have planned for you. You will never be united with another until you are united with Me — exclusive of anyone or anything else, exclusive of any other desires or longings. I want you to stop planning, stop wishing, and allow Me to give you the most thrilling plan existing — one that you can’t imagine. I want you to have the best. Please allow Me to bring it to you. Just keep experiencing that satisfaction knowing that I AM. Keep learning and listening to the things I tell you . . . You must wait.

Don’t be anxious. Don’t worry. Don’t look around at the things others have gotten or that I’ve given to them. Don’t look at the things you think you want. You just keep looking off and away up to Me, or you’ll miss what I want to show you.

And then, when you’re ready, I’ll surprise you with a love far more wonderful than any would ever dream. You see, until you are ready and until the one I have for you is ready, I am working even this very minute to have both of you ready at the same time. Until you are both satisfied exclusively with Me and with the life I have prepared for you, you won’t be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with Me…and this is perfect love.

And dear one, I want you to have this most wonderful love, I want you to see in flesh a picture of your relationship with Me, and to enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting union of beauty and perfection and love that I offer you with Myself.

Know that I love you utterly, I am God. Believe it and be satisfied.



I received a copy of this letter more than a decade ago when I was writing The Soulmate Secret. The words resonated deeply with me and I was curious about the author of the letter….clearly someone with a very close connection and understanding of God had penned this wisdom.

I searched the internet but never found out where it came from, thus I listed it in my book as “Author Unknown.”

From time to time I would wonder about the source.

Well, recently the most amazing thing happened! I received an email that led me to the woman who brought forth the letter. Her name is Dr. Patty Sadallah and she is a Professor at Christian Leadership University serving master’s and doctoral students and she is also an award-winning author of several Christian books.

When I spoke with Dr. Patty, I asked her how she came to receive this letter and she shared with me one of the most remarkable stories I have ever heard.

Below is a shortened version of the story and at the end of this, I will tell you how to read the full story!

While Patty was a college student in 1979, she was dating Fred, who was a Christian, while she was not. One weekend, at a student leadership retreat, she was assigned Maureen as her roommate and they had an instant connection. They stayed up all night talking about God’s love and salvation and by sunrise, Patty was a Christian. She couldn’t wait to share the exciting news with Fred.

Unfortunately, just as Patty found God, God was directing Fred to break up with her and boom, her heart was broken. She immediately called Maureen, who strangely said that she was expecting her call. God had told Maureen that Fred was going to break up with her and that she had a letter for her: a letter from God saying that He needed to be her first love.

For many months Maureen was Patty’s rock and confident, praying with her and teaching her from the Bible. One day, as Patty was feeling better, she called Maureen only to discover that the phone number she had dialed for months was answered by a frat boy who insisted that they had been assigned that number all year and had no idea who Maureen was. Baffled, she went to the registration office only to discover there was no record of Maureen. She began to wonder if Maureen was really an angel and continued to read her comforting love letter from God. Over the years, Patty shared the letter with dozens of others suffering from a broken heart.

Eventually Patty married George and they began a life together. As she was moving into her new married home, she went to the Bible where she kept the dog-eared letter only to discover it was missing. Twenty-five years later God told her He would return the letter for the upcoming book she was writing. Immediately, she looked for it on the internet. The only thing she remembered was the last line “I am God. Believe it and be satisfied” and there it was, pages of postings of this love letter were online!

By now, Patty was adept at having personal conversations with Jesus and through a guided imagery process she teaches, she met with Jesus. He showed her directly that yes, He wrote the letter specifically to her, and He made sure that she received it from Maureen. She also found out that yes, Maureen is her guardian angel and she was able to reconnect with Maureen who now appeared with a full set of beautiful wings.

Is this just the most beautiful, amazing, miraculous story?

I strongly suggest you buy her book, Clips That Move Mountains to read the entire story. Clips that Move Mountains 2nd Edition is a faith-building, life-changing book of that uses short clips from popular movies such as Forrest Gump, Surf’s Up, Facing the Giants, and others to show you how to grow your relationship with God and live your best Christian life. Check out Patty’s other books at her website: And, if you want to have your own encounter with Jesus Patty’s guided imagery will introduce you to Jesus in your own “Special Place”

I am grateful to have finally solved the mystery of the origin of this letter!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,