What 70 years on the planet has taught me

On December 29th I reach the milestone birthday of turning 70 and I’m surprisingly happy and excited about it.

I am feeling mostly healthy and optimistic, and the biggest benefit is that I feel so FREE!

Free to do what I want.

Say what I want.

Be WHO I want to BE.

And this state of being was not predictable.

As a child I was anxious, depressed, and shy.

I was a terrible student. Often lonely.

And I went through a very long awkward “ugly duckling stage” as a pre-teen.

There was a time when I seriously considered suicide.

Fortunately, at the age of 28, I decided to study “happy” people to see if I could turn my life around.

I observed. I read books. I did research. I went to therapy.

Attended self-help workshops, joined CODA meetings for a while, and I took very big risks including moving from Miami to Los Angeles in 1984 with very little money or connections or even a plan.

I found the courage to attend Landmark Forum, The Hoffman Process, and study A Course in Miracles and it all worked.

I reinvented myself into a happy, outgoing successful person.

To this day I still consider myself a student of life and a student of love.

Was it easy?

No, and there were times when I suffered through dark nights of the soul and yet I discovered that I am resilient and creative and willing to do the hard work to have a life I love.

What I know for sure is that for me, it’s essential to consistently keep studying with the experts as a way to stay informed and motivated.

I am blessed to be surrounded by friends who’ve made transformation their life’s work and I often include them here in my newsletter so that you too can reap the benefits of their knowledge.

Today I see my life as a sacred, ongoing ritual of gratitude and practice to keep myself grounded, healthy and willing to love and be loved.

Manifesting my soulmate Brian at age 44 has certainly been the best and the biggest lesson of my life when it comes to love. To share your life with your best friend, lover, soft place to land is a spiritual path not to be missed.

As I step into seventy, the beginning of what Wayne Dyer called late afternoon in life, I’m looking forward to more fun, ease, grace, and pleasure as well as new adventures both internally and externally.

Thank you for being a part of my community.


OMG, I’m Turning 70!

It’s almost unimaginable that I am about to turn 70 (I still feel 36). For this milestone birthday, I’ve decided to raise much needed funds for Girl Power Project India (which I helped to launch two years ago.) Please take a moment to read this, it would mean a lot to me.

The most dangerous thing you can do in India is to be born female.

India is home to 1.3 billion people, and it has the largest adolescent population in the world, 253 million between the age of 10 to 19 years and almost half of whom are girls.

Here are some mind-blowing facts:

  • India has the highest number of child brides in the world.
  • Child brides are more likely to drop out of school, experience violence and live in poverty.
  • About 43% (an estimated 52 million) girls drop out before completing secondary education due to household responsibilities, marriage, child labor, and lack of sanitation facilities at the school.
  • “That time of the month” is intolerable. Only 1/2 of schools in India have toilets for girls, making menstruation for girls highly embarrassing and impossible to navigate, so girls drop out of school.

In India, a woman is raped every 15 minutes. Over 70% of rape perpetrators go free without conviction or punishment. The true extent of the sexual violence against women and girls in India is thought to be far greater than the figures show.

A Solution!
Girl Power Project provides life changing and life enhancing skills to teenage girls to educate them and keep them safe. We already have a very successful version of this program in Uganda where we have changed the lives of 20,000 teen girls, girls who are now in college, delaying marriage till their late 20’s, happy, successful, and changing the world. NOW we have Girl Power in India.

Our pilot program In Rishikesh over the past two years produced these results (and more):

  • Girls are now able to articulate how a woman becomes pregnant
  • Girls now understand menstruation and how to implement safe menstrual hygiene practices
  • Girls are now able to give examples of how to protect themselves against HIV
  • Girls now say they have a slightly older female mentor outside of their homes whom they trust and could quickly ask for help
  • Girls can now name their special gifts and strengths

With the success of the pilot program, we are excited to announce plans to expand Girl Power Project into 5 new schools within Meerut city in the State of Uttar Pradesh India reaching another 1,000 teenage girls. And later next year we will launch in the state of Tamil Nadu and then we will expand throughout India.

This program really works, we have the proof, we just need more funds to reach more girls.

To help me celebrate my birthday, please consider donating to this very worthy cause. (any amount makes a difference!)


Thank you and sending you blessings & hugs,


Are You Three Feet from Soulmate Gold?

During the California Gold Rush in the 1800’s there was a prospector named Mr. Darby who spent weeks with a pick and a shovel digging for gold ore.

He found a fair amount in a short time. He then went back in search of the motherlode. He dug and dug but couldn’t find any more gold.

He decided to give up and sold his equipment to a junkman and went home. The junkman decided to call in an expert, a mining engineer, for help.

The engineer checked the mine and calculated that there was a vein of gold just three feet from Mr. Darby had stopped digging.

Just three feet!

The junkman went on to make millions!

I share this story with you because you could be just three feet away from your Soulmate and you don’t even know it.

Maybe it’s time for you to have your own “expert” to help you discover the Soulmate who may be closer than you think!

Thomas Edison, was fond of saying that inspiration was only one percent of success and the other ninety-nine percent was hard work.

So many people give up on their dreams and desires when they are literally within reach of the finish line.

What if you are just three feet from your Soulmate gold?

What if all that’s been missing is the guidance, support and step-by-step system you need to access the power to manifest the love of your life in 2023?

Let me take you by the hand and guide you to the partner of your dreams via The Love Codes, the amazing 12 week on demand, online eCourse Claire Zammit and I have created. It’s usually priced at $597 (plus thousands of dollars of free bonuses) and now

For a very limited time we are offering a $100 holiday discount.

This special price is available today through December 17th.

To discover all the details about The Love Codes!

To access $100 off coupon, use code HOLIDAY (case sensitive) when you get to check out. (This is only available for the one pay price)

It’s time to FINALLY have the loving relationship you deserve.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


P.S. Don’t spend 2023 alone. If you are ready to put down the “hopium pipe” thinking love will find you organically, and you desire to manifest Big Love, give yourself an early Christmas present. Check out The Love Codes online course. When you invest a little time, energy, intention, and attention to making love happen, the Universe delivers.

All the details are here: The Love Codes.

Is It Your Fault You’re Still Single?

Have you ever wondered if it’s your fault that you are still single?

The answer to that question is… maybe.

While you may consciously desire to spend your life with a soulmate/lifepartner, it’s possible that old thoughts, beliefs, or patterns are sabotaging your efforts and working against you and not for you.

You may have an unconscious love script that prevents you from being open, willing, and available to love.

You may have a belief that if love is meant to be, it will just magically happen.

Or perhaps you claim to be too busy, or once you lose weight then you’ll be ready, or you live in the wrong city, or you truly don’t trust and know that you are loveable and that you are enough right now!

Whatever limiting beliefs are holding you back, I am excited to share with you that my dear friend, Dr. Claire Zammit, founder of Feminine Power, and I have discovered and developed a break-through approach that works.

It’s a unique 12-week online Course known as The Love Codes created for conscious, smart women to attract an extraordinary partner and create happy, fulfilling, and lasting love.

It’s available now and women who have participated rave about the results they’ve been able to get applying our breakthrough approach:

“Thanks to Claire and Arielle not only have I found ‘a man,’ I found The Man. I’m head-over-heels, flat-on-my-face, jaw-on-the-floor drooling in love with the most intelligent, handsome, psychologically stimulating, intellectually challenging, sexiest man I could ever dream of…”

~ Diely

I am happy to share that thanks to The Love Code journey, I am now in a healthy, committed relationship with a remarkable man. It is such a delight to experience being treated as “the prize”. The other day he said, “I love you so much. It’s hard to believe you weren’t snatched up long ago. Thank you!”

~ Anne

“As a result of what I learned from Arielle and Claire, I just got engaged to the wonderful man I attracted into my life! Your insights and wisdom made a huge difference. It worked! I am grateful!”

~ Barbara

“For single, conscious women seeking a lifetime of love and happiness, my friends Arielle Ford and Claire Zammit are the “go-to” experts in the field. ”

~ John Gray, Bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

Imagine finally being with someone who can “meet you”—and feeling deeply seen, supported, cherished, and adored…

Imagine finally having a place to land at the end of a hard day… someone to share your wins with, and who is there for you when life gets rough…

Someone who can be your full partner in all areas of life, whom you can respect and count on for advice and emotional support, and whose happiness is as important to you as your own.

And if you’re on a path of personal growth and spiritual development, there’s no greater catalyst for healing and transformation than sharing your life with a life-partner.

The Love Codes is a 12 week on demand, online eCourse priced at $597 (plus you receive thousands of dollars of free bonuses).

For a very limited time we are offering a $100 holiday discount.

This special price is available today through December 12th.

Discover all the details about The Love Codes!

To access $100 off coupon, use code HOLIDAY (case sensitive) when you get to check out. (This is only available for the one pay price)

It’s time to FINALLY have the loving relationship you deserve.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


P.S. Don’t spend 2023 alone. If you are ready to put down the “hopium pipe” thinking love will find you organically, and you desire to manifest Big Love, give yourself an early Christmas present. Check out The Love Codes online course. When you invest a little time, energy, intention, and attention to making love happen, the Universe delivers.

All the details are here: The Love Codes.

How’s Your Love Life? (& other annoying questions)

With the holiday season just hours away, it’s likely at the family gatherings someone (or many someone’s) will be asking you, “how’s your love life?”

If you don’t have exciting news to share or you are absolutely dreading this question, I have some fun responses. Here are a few ideas:

Polite response: Not as well as I’m hoping for, so please light a candle and say some prayers for me.

Shocking response: Great! I’m crazy in love with an inmate at Florence Supermax. He’s a reformed drug smuggler with the best sense of humor and he says I’m the most gorgeous thing on the planet. He’s up for parole in 2038. He writes me every day and I think he just might be the One.

Acceptable response: I’m signed up on five dating apps and in between desperately flirting online and Facetime, I’m trying to keep up with my day job. Do you think I need a Vampire facial?

Woo-Woo response: I signed up with a psychic who paints portraits of your soulmate and I’m using Google to search for him based on the image I now have. I’m also doing daily affirmations, visualizations, taking aromatherapy baths with a specially made concoction and offering a cash reward to whoever finds him (or her) for me.”

Realistic (for some) response: I’ve started a Go Fund Me page to freeze my eggs, can I send you a link to donate?

Smartass Response: I’m thinking about trying out for some reality shows like Married at First Sight and I’m buying a six month pass to Speed Dating at the local Sports Bar.

Try to remember that your family and loved ones want what’s best for you. Figure out in advance what your answer to this question is and then quickly change the subject and ask them how their life is going.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


P.S. Don’t spend 2023 alone. If you are ready to put down the “hopium pipe” thinking love will find you organically, and you desire to manifest Big Love, give yourself an early Christmas present. Check out my online course. When you invest a little time, energy, intention, and attention to making love happen, the Universe delivers.

All the details are here: The Love Codes.

The Simple Trick to Feel Happy Fast

I’ll bet you’ve heard the phrase “turn your frown upside down.” When your frown becomes a smile, research has proven that a smile, even if we are faking it, reacts by releasing hormones such as dopamine and serotonin which increase feelings of happiness.

Being happy, or tricking your brain into happiness by smiling, has a ton of benefits including reducing stress, lowering blood pressure, reducing pain, boosts your immune system and contributes to longevity.

Children smile 400 times day. The average happy adult smiles 40-50 times a day and the typical adult only smiles 20 times a day. There are many more reasons to start smiling more frequently including:

Smiling increases feelings of positivity and studies show that people who smile often are more productive at work and earn more money. This is because they appear more likeable, courteous, more attractive and competent as well as seeming more approachable.

Studies have shown that having an attractive smile makes you more alluring to others, 58% of men and 71% of women rate a smile as the most desirable feature that a potential partner can have. When remembering new faces, 24% of Americans said that a smile is the number one feature they recall first, good or bad.

And check this out: A study performed by a group at the University of Cardiff in Wales found that people who could not frown due to Botox injections were happier on average than those who could frown.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


P.S. If you are ready to manifest Big Love, give yourself an early Christmas present. Check out my online course, The Love Codes.

Is Self-Love A Pre- Requisite Too Soulmate Love?

Self-Love is the hot topic in the personal growth movement these days and when it comes to finding soulmate love, there are a lot of myths including this one:

“Until you love yourself first, you won’t be able to get anyone else to love you.”

Can this really be true?

My experience has been that most women and some men (at least in the Northern hemisphere) live with a negative, critical voice in their head that is often filled with ugly, shaming thoughts, self-doubt, and brings with it feelings of never being “good enough.”

And, I began to wonder, do you really have to eliminate that persistent voice in order to find true love?

Do we really need to be 100% in love with ourselves to experience Big Love?

I don’t think so.

What is required is to learn how to “talk back” to that voice and create strategies to love yourself more and better. This includes a big dose of self-awareness so that when the “voice surfaces” you kick its butt!

For instance, you walk past a mirror and immediately react by thinking “God, you look like a total piece of $#it today.”

Immediately stop.

Walk back to the mirror, give yourself a big smile and blow yourself a kiss and say something warm and loving to your reflection.

This is being self-soothing.

Over time, you can change your habitual negative thinking by in-putting loving and uplifting thoughts and beliefs about yourself.

(And please, never forget that just because you have a thought does not make it true!)

Now, as for soulmate love, one of the greatest, most awesome things about living your life with your soulmate is that you begin to heal each other in unimaginable ways.

When you spend time with someone who loves all of you – the good, the bad and the ugly, you begin to love yourself even more.

When you witness the love they have for you, you begin to feel more love for yourself.

And the truth is, even when you are with your soulmate/life-partner, there will still be days when that negative voice appears. If you are “waiting“ to actively seek your soulmate until you are madly in love with yourself, you could be waiting a very long time.

Plus, this is a very selfish thing to do.

Why? Because just as you desire to spend your life with your soulmate, they are also seeking you. And, if you are secluded at home, on the couch, watching mindless reality TV, they can’t find you!

Now, while learning to love yourself a little bit more and more, it’s also important to know that once you manifest the love of your life, you teach them how to treat you by the way they witness how you treat yourself.

I learned this from my husband Brian. Once we got married and began living together, I noticed how he always prioritized his health and wellbeing. At first, I made up stories about how selfish he was because he wasn’t always flexible about the time he took to meditate and exercise. When I finally asked him about it his response floored me. He explained that by sticking to his personal care schedule, he was able to fill himself up so that the rest of the day he had more love and more energy to give to me, and the rest of the world.

Wow. What an insight that was for me. I soon began to follow in his footsteps.

Self-love is important but total self-love, all the time, is not a pre-requisite to soulmate love.

If your soul is calling for a soulmate, the voice in your head shouldn’t be a barrier to love.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


P.S. If your heart’s desire is sending you signals you are ready for Big Love, get yourself an early Christmas present. Check out my 12 week online course, The Love Codes.

LOVE isn’t always enough – Tom & Giselle

It’s hard to imagine the heartbreak pain one goes through when you discover you will never be your partner’s #1 priority.

I’m not a football fan but I’ve been following the story of the demise of the once storybook 13-year marriage of Tom Brady (45) and Gisele Bundchen. (42)

It’s clear there was a time when they were once madly in love.

Giselle willing gave up her supermodel status (and other career dreams) to raise a family. I’m pretty sure she believed Tom when he told her he was going to finally retire to spend more time with her and the kids. And then he broke his promise. Probably not the first of many promises.

And in spite of still loving him, and he says he loves her, she decided divorce was her only option.

Sometimes love just isn’t enough. When the trust is gone, it’s gone.

Divorce is devastating for most people and research shows that during and after a divorce work productivity decreases by 40%.

This is bad news for both Tom and the Buccaneers (they’ve just lost 3 games in a row), not to mention the 10 businesses he has co-founded or is a shareholder in, and his many endorsement deals.

Yes, he will always live on as the ultimate G.O.A.T. in his sport but I think someday Tom will come to understand that choosing football over his wife and family was a brutal price to pay.

Let’s all send them both a lot of light and love.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


Have More Love in Less Than 5 minutes

In biology there is a term called imaginal cells and it explains how a caterpillar transforms into a butterfly.

The metamorphosis begins when the caterpillar hunkers down on a perch and forms a chrysalis. It then dissolves and decomposes into a cosmic ooze.

During this process imaginal cells, which have been lying quietly inside the DNA of the caterpillar, spring to life, igniting new form and structure until a tipping point is hit and the caterpillar emerges as a beautiful butterfly.

For those of you seeking to find love, keep love, or be love, you can create more love in your life by awakening your own imaginal cells of love. The process is easy.

Write down a list of all the people with whom you share love. Parents, kids, siblings, friends, co-workers, pets. etc. This list can be as long as you would like.

Sit in a quiet place, take several slow deep breaths, in through your nose and out through your mouth.

Then move your attention to the area around your heart as you slowly read through your list, taking the time to really focus on each person.

Then close your eyes while keeping your attention on your heart and allow yourself to feel how grateful you are for the abundance of love in your life.

Fill yourself up with love, gratitude and appreciation and re-experience the memories of love as you think of each of these loved ones. Remember to include yourself.

By putting your attention on having and being more love, your heart automatically becomes magnetic to more love.

In just five minutes a day, this simple, daily practice will spark your own imaginal cells to transport you into a world of more love.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


Secret Dating Codes for Singles in Supermarkets

I swear I am NOT making this up.

Next time you go to the market to pick up a few items, you can also use some secret signals to potentially pick up a soulmate!

On her recent podcast, former “Bachelor” star Brittany Hockley claims there are “hidden meanings” singles are using which include placing peaches, pineapples, or bananas in your cart.

“You have to get a cart and you go to the fruit aisle. If you pick up a bunch of bananas, if they are upright, so the curve’s facing up in the top cart, this means you are single. Now if you just want to buy bananas but you’re not looking, you turn them the other way, down — so that means you are not available.

Britt also says people in the “singles club” use placing an “upside down” pineapple in your cart.

“If you have a pineapple upside down in your cart, you are telling everybody that you are a swinger and you are open to swinging,” she explained. “But if you’re looking for a relationship, you need to grab a peach, place the fruit in the cart of the person you’re interested in revealing that you’re open to meeting them.”

Yes, I know this sounds totally weird and crazy and YET, I know a woman who met (and married) her soulmate when they connected in the produce section of Whole Foods.

Give it a try, it could be lots of fun.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,