Killing Buddha (it’s a good thing)

Did you know that the personal growth world has a dark side? And that not all the superstars of this world walk their talk?

I have spent more than 30 years attending personal growth workshops, working closely with the teachers of it, and have been in a rare birdseye place to observe what goes on. 90% of my experiences with the teachers and their teachings were very positive but I saw some things… out of control diva behavior, falling on the floor sloppy drunk, profound arrogance, and I’ve read about male yoga teachers taking sexual advantage of their students, etc.

I’ve learned that it’s true, we teach what we need to learn most, and that most of us interested in personal growth deliberately come to it in search of healing, which is why the teachers are teaching it in the first place. They had a core wound, found a solution, and now want to share it with the world. So, we don’t always want to be too quick to judge them (unless their behavior is abhorrent or criminal) and make room for their imperfect humanness.

This is why I am super excited to share this news with you: In her new page turner of a novel, Killing Buddha, Betsy Chasse (co-producer of What the Bleep Do We Know) delivers a laser sharp mostly fictional journey through the phony love and light dogma of the personal growth world and the many spurious teachers of self-help.

Workshop junkies will have a blast trying to figure out who is who as the story takes you up and close and personal with the purveyors of transformation and enlightenment.

The heroine, Sara, is loveable, relatable, perfectly imperfect, as well as funny as hell, scathing, snarky, and ultimately totally authentic. Seekers and cynics will equally enjoy the trip.

It’s laugh out loud funny. You can buy it now!

> Get it here <

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

p.s. If you want to watch a 15 minute interview of me and Betsy, check it out here (scroll down on the page to find it).

Watch it here!

A Year of Turmoil and Transformation

One year ago, we went into lockdown.

Covid -19. The Corona virus. A global pandemic. Holy shit!

They said lockdown would probably only last three to four weeks, possibly six.

We were told to wash our hands, wear a mask, social distance so we could “flatten the curve.”

What happened next doesn’t need to be repeated here.

We’ve all been through our own personal trauma.

For the first few months the loss of freedom to come and go and do as I please, including making future plans, had me cycling through the five stages of grief at a rapid pace.

Although I felt physically “bulletproof,” I worried about getting and passing along the virus to my husband or mother, both with underlying conditions.

I took full advantage of being a “senior” to shop super early in the day with the other gray-haired people. I began to look at going to the store as my “big and fun” adventure even when I got too close to other shoppers and felt myself fearful of breathing the same air.

I invented a system for myself for staying sane…. I began to live my life in “two-hour” segments instead of trying to make plans. This helped me stay focused, get stuff done and not freak out.

Now, 365 days later, I am feeling optimistic, I can see a light at the end of the tunnel.

Life will never be as it was pre-Covid, but I am hopeful a new and better world will emerge.

The gifts of lockdown are now evident to me.

This past year has been my most creative and I finally finished my novel.

One of the highlights of the year was celebrating my birthday on zoom with 72 friends and raising more than $90,000 for Girl Power Project India!!!

Thanks to the magic of Zoom there are many friends I am closer with now that we have scheduled weekly meetings. One of my bigger groups is for the purpose of sending healing intentions to our friends that are ailing. Another is a prayer group. With both groups there is plenty of time to catch up and connect.

I’m looking forward to getting the second vaccine in ten days and then finally meeting up with friends for an outdoor meal. Brian can’t wait to see a live concert again. And we are both looking forward to the day when we can go back to Italy to see our friends, eat pasta and drink fine wine.

What are the gifts you received during lockdown and what are you now looking forward too?

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

The Imaginal Cells of Love

In biology there is a term called imaginal cells and it explains how a caterpillar transforms into a butterfly.

The metamorphosis begins when the caterpillar hunkers down on a perch and forms a chrysalis. It then dissolves and decomposes into a cosmic ooze.

During this process imaginal cells, which have been ling quietly inside the DNA of the caterpillar, spring to life, igniting new form and structure until a tipping point is hit and the caterpillar emerges as a beautiful butterfly.

For those of you seeking to find love, keep love, or be love, you can create more love in your life by awakening your own imaginal cells of love. The process is easy.

Write down a list of all the people with whom you share love. Parents, kids, siblings, friends, co-workers, pets. etc. This list can be as long as you would like.

Sit in a quiet place, take a few deep breaths and move your attention to the area around your heart as you slowly read through your list.

Then close your eyes while keeping your attention on your heart and allow yourself to feel how grateful you are for the abundance of love in your life. Fill yourself up with the experience and memories of love as you think of each of these love ones. Remember to include yourself.

By putting your attention on having and being more love, your heart automatically becomes magnetic to love. In just five minutes a day, this simple, daily practice will spark your own imaginal cells to transport you into a world of more love.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

You are Totally Loveable (Just the way you are)

The 8th anniversary of my sister Debbie’s passing was a few days ago.

I was going through some recordings we did together and found a “feelingization” on falling in love with yourself that is just gorgeous.

Below is the essence of the process and you can also access the audio here.

Place your attention on the area around your heart, and take a deep breath into the deepest part of yourself, as you hold the intention of falling in love with yourself: knowing that you are worthy, loving, and wholly unique.

See yourself seated on a beautiful velvet loveseat in the center of your own heart…. a cozy and comfortable love seat…. now look off to your left and you are going to see an image of you…. it’s an image of your most loveable self: the part of you that radiates joy and hope: the part of you that knows you are special and unique and that there is nobody like you in the world.

What does that aspect of you look like? Maybe you’ll see an image of yourself at age 2, or 3, or 15 or 22. It’s you radiating love. Your eyes are lit up, you are irresistible. Now just invite that aspect of yourself to come and sit beside you on the loveseat as you continue to breathe deeply.

Allow your heart to connect heart-to-heart to this part of yourself.

Allow yourself to hear from your most loveable self all the reasons why you are worthy and deserving and enjoying life with your soulmate……

Now allow yourself to hear all the reasons why you should fall madly, passionately in love with YOU.

Ask this apart of you to show you all the good you’ve done and all the people whose lives have been touched and enriched because of you.

Now ask your most loveable self what patterns or behaviors or thoughts you need to let go of in order for you to feel how special, how desirable, how awesome you are?

Just continue to breathe deeply, allowing yourself to hear what you just heard….

And, if you are willing to give those up in the name of love, nod your head yes and put a smile on your face….

And now ask this part of you to tell you the sweet words that you need to say to yourself each and every day to fell loved, to fell loving, to feel loveable……

What sweet words do you need to hear to be in the presence of love every day?

Is it that you are kind and perfect just as you are?
Is it that you are sexy, beautiful, brilliant and wonderful?
Is it that you are desirable, adored, special, important?

Take a deep breath and breathe in those words.

Breathe them in because you are worthy of love

Allow yourself to see those words being etched across the interior walls of your heart.

Notice how your heart is softening.

Notice how these words make you feel appreciated.

Those are your words… you heard them from the most loveable part of you so acknowledge the magnificence of your humanity and the goodness of your heart.

Now imagine all the people closest to you in your life, the ones who really love you and care about and see them coming and kissing you on the cheek…. allow their love to penetrate every cell in your body….

And then, on your next exhale, repeat these words to yourself:

“I am loved. I am loveable. I am love.”
“I am loved. I am loveable. I am love.”
“I am loved. I am loveable. I am love.”

Allow the vibration of these words to melt away anything that exists between you and this reality of being Love and Loveable.

In this moment of awareness KNOW that you are healed, whole and complete. Know that you deserve to experience deep, heart opening, connected, magnificent, soulmate love, and that you don’t have to do this on your own…. at anytime you can call forth the wisdom of God, Goddess and All that is.

Place your hands upon your heart, thank yourself for creating the time, space, energy, intention and attention to allow your path to love to unfold for you.

Know and trust that you are co-creating a magnificent soulmate/ lifepartner for yourself.

You can listen to this 15 minute audio here!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

What is Love Anyway?

Did you know that in the Persian language there are 80 words for love?

In Sanskrit there are 96 words and in Greek there are 7.

Sadly, in English we only have 1 word for love.

Thus, it isn’t surprising that love means different things to just about everyone.

Love is one of those things that when you see it or feel it, you just know it.

And like food, air, and water, I believe love is essential to life.

Today I am sharing with you three very short takes on love that I think sum up some of the many ways love shows up.

“You have no idea how hard I’ve looked for a gift to bring You.
Nothing seemed right.
What’s the point of bringing gold to the gold mine, or water to the ocean.
Everything I came up with was like taking spices to the Orient.
It’s no good giving my heart and my soul because you already have these.
So, I’ve brought you a mirror. Look at yourself and remember me.”
~ Rumi

“Do you want me to tell you something really subversive?
Love is everything it’s cracked up to be.
That’s why people are so cynical about it.
It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for.
And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.”
~ Erica Jong

“A soulmate isn’t someone who completes you. No, a soulmate is someone who inspires you to complete yourself. A soulmate is someone who loves you with so much conviction, and so much here, that it is nearly impossible to doubt just how capable you are of becoming exactly who you have always wanted to be.”
~ Bianca Sparacino

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

The Art of the Love Letter

For those of you already with your soulmate, scroll down to the P.S. for a special bonus gift on the art of writing a love letter.

For all of you singles…imagine this…. it’s one year from now, Valentine’s Day 2022, and your soulmate/lifepartner has just given you a giant array of your favorite flowers.

While looking into your eyes, they are telling you they’ve never been happier, and are so grateful that the two of you have found each other.

This is what is totally possible, predictable even, especially if you start taking steps right now to make it happen.

That is why I am writing to you today.

My dear friend, Dr. Claire Zammit, founder of Feminine Power & I have discovered and developed a break-through approach that especially works for conscious, smart women to attract an extraordinary partner and create happy, fulfilling and lasting love. It’s available now as a 12-week online Course known as The Love Codes and women who have participated rave about the results they’ve been able to get applying our breakthrough approach:

“Thanks to Claire and Arielle not only have I found ‘a man,’ I found The Man. I’m head-over-heels, flat-on-my-face, jaw-on-the-floor drooling in love with the most intelligent, handsome, psychologically stimulating, intellectually challenging, sexiest man I could ever dream of…”
—Diely

“As a result of what I learned from Arielle and Claire, I just got engaged last night to the wonderful man I attracted into my life! Your insights and wisdom made a huge difference. It worked! I am grateful!”
—Barbara

And the experts say:

“Arielle Ford weds ancient wisdom and modern concerns to create the formula for a sustainable, loving relationship for years to come.”
—Deepak Chopra

“Claire is a woman whose work I deeply admire and a friend who I myself turn to for wisdom and counsel.”
—Marianne Williamson

“For single, conscious women seeking a lifetime of love and happiness, my friends Arielle Ford and Claire Zammit are the “go-to” experts in the field. ”
—John Gray, Bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus and Conscious Men

Imagine finally being with someone who can “meet you”—and feeling deeply seen, supported, cherished and adored…

Imagine finally having a place to land at the end of a hard day… someone to share your wins with, and who is there for you when life gets rough…

Someone who can be your full partner in all areas of life, whom you can respect and count on for advice and emotional support, and whose happiness is as important to you as your own.

And if you’re on a path of personal growth and spiritual development, there’s no greater catalyst for healing and transformation than sharing your life with a life-partner.

The Love Codes is priced at $597 (plus you received thousands of dollars of free bonuses). Today I am offering a $100 Valentine’s Day discount to launch you on your path to love.

It’s time to FINALLY have the loving relationship you deserve. Stop waiting. Your soulmate is also looking for you and first you must become visible. The Love Codes will show you everything you need to know and do.

This special price is available today through February 17th.

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Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. The Love Letters of Arielle & Brian
From the moment we met, Brian and I began writing each other love letters and sending each other “I love you just because cards.” Over the past 23 years we have saved the numerous birthday, anniversary, Valentine’s Day and mushy emails we sent each other. We have now compiled some of our favorites in this personal, revealing one-of-a-kind e-book. It’s our dream to inspire others to begin writing more love letters! The book includes detailed instructions on how to write a beautiful letter to your beloved!

Download your complimentary e-book here!

Don’t Blame the Victim

A big part of having success with the Law of Attraction is understanding that “thoughts are things” and that our feelings, thoughts, beliefs help to co-create our reality. Other factors that also influence our lives include karma, divine timing, destiny, free will and that omnipresent reality of “shit happens.”
When something really bad happens to someone – lets say a serious diagnosis, losing a job, a big car crash, and then a supposedly well-meaning “spiritual friend” asks them, “ what thoughts were you having that would cause this?”
Well, this scenario just makes me crazy.
We would never ask an abused child, “hey kid, what thoughts did you have that created these beatings?”
So, unless someone is sitting around thinking, “wow, wouldn’t it be cool if I manage to get stage 4 colon cancer so I can scare myself and my family and go on a multi-year journey to fight the cancer and maybe live?”
It’s highly unlikely any of us have consciously had that thought or any thought to choose a bad event. So, while it is true that we cause things with our thoughts, fears and beliefs, it is also true that there are other factors that are at work here.
We all benefit from being more aware and more mindful of our thoughts and as much as possible trying to keep our thoughts positive, but it’s also not useful to “blame the victim,” and kick them when they’re down, by suggesting they caused the problem.
We are not privy to their soul’s purpose and path.
We don’t know what trials and tribulations they agreed to before incarnating in this lifetime, so let’s do what we signed up for: to be their friend, cheerleader, support system, safe place to land.
Let’s hug them with our arms and provide emotional safety for them.
I often tell my closest friends that I am always there for them when they need a place to rant and rave and vent. I can create a safe place for their expression and then bring them back into a loving frequency. (and they do the same for me)
Here’s to a kinder, gentler world of loving support for all.
Wishing you love, laughter & magical kisses,
Arielle

Who Are You Becoming?

The past year has changed most of us on both visible and invisible ways.

For many, the people and things we most value, have come into sharper focus while we let go of people and ways of being that no longer nourish or serve us.

I know for me, and several of my friends, we are asking ourselves:

“Who am I now?”

Last year my friend Chip Conley taught me a new word, liminal, which is appropriate for these times.

With its origin in Latin, “liminal” literally means “on the threshold.”

Certainly, we are all on the threshold of a new life.

Liminal spaces are described as transformative and/or transitional.

spaces where we feel we are on the “verge of something.”

And being in liminal space is often unsettling, uncomfortable, and disorienting.

I have felt all of these things as I ponder “who am I now.”

Just as a caterpillar spins itself a silky chrysalis before radically transforming and eventually emerging as a butterfly, we too are now giving up an old identity as we spin into our new becoming.

Here are the questions I’m currently asking myself:

Who was I?

Who am I now?

Who do I want to become?

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Give Up Your “Hopium” and Get into Action

So… we are now officially three weeks into a New Year – how’s it going so far?

Are you making progress on fulfilling your heart’s desire or did you get sidetracked?

Here’s a few super easy things to do that will keep you on track:

1. Write it down! Make it simple: “Before the end of 2021 I commit to myself to accomplish (or substitute be, do, or have ) _____________________.”

2. I commit to doing ___ things each day towards accomplishing this.
(I find that doing 5 little things every day is doable and works best for me)

3. I promise to enroll someone to be my accountability partner (research shows if you do this you have a 90% better chance of being successful!)

4. Give yourself a weekly reward for the steps you took all week.

5. Spend 5 minutes each day dropping into your heart and feeling what it feels like to have what you say you most desire.

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Co-creating with the Universe isn’t difficult, but it does require your participation and action steps.

PRINT this newsletter out and read it often, so you can keep yourself on track.

Don’t let your dreams fall into the “magical thinking” bucket by filling yourself with “hopium.”

You can do this! Make a plan! Really, truly go for it!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

LOVE is in Your Mirror

For decades I admired the wisdom of the late Louise Hay and looked up to her as an icon of emotional healing and spiritual growth.

I loved her fierce courageousness, her willingness to do and say the right thing with the causes that called to her, and her joie de vivre always inspired me.

More than 30 years ago I sat with her to do her groundbreaking mirror work and it was a life changing day.

Louise held a mirror in front of my face and told me to look into my own eyes and make a series of positive statements to myself including “I love you.”

It was hard because I really felt like I was lying to myself. Somehow, I got through the process and then, with a daily practice of mirror work, I came to know that not only did I really love myself, but that I was also loveable!

All of your self-talk, the dialogue in your head, is a stream of affirmations.

These affirmations are messages to your subconscious that are establishing habitual ways of thinking and behaving.

Positive affirmations plant healing thoughts and ideas that support you in developing self-confidence and self-esteem, creating peace of mind and inner joy.

If you want to change your life, then it’s necessary to retrain your thinking and speaking into positive patterns.

Mirror work, with its positive affirmations, opens the door.

In essence, you are saying to your subconscious mind, “I am taking responsibility. I am aware that there is something I can do to change.” When you pay attention to your thoughts, you can begin to eliminate the ones creating experiences you do not want in your life.

Twice a day stand in front of a mirror, look into your eyes, and repeat positive affirmations ten times. For instance, you might say:

“I am loving and loveable.”
“I am worthy of love and joy.”
“I am kind. I am smart.” I am important and people love me.”

If doubts or fears or negative thoughts come up, just recognize them for what they are—old limiting beliefs that want to stay around.

Say to them gently: “I no longer need you.” And then repeat your positive affirmations again.

That which we constantly affirm becomes true for us.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle