Take More Vacations

When my sister Debbie was in the last days of her life, she whispered to me, “take more vacations.” I knew exactly what she meant. She had worked hard, too hard, most of her life and she had worn herself out.

Now, in these final moments, she was offering me some wisdom….

For the last several years I have followed her advice and have scheduled at least one vacation a year designed to restore and rejuvenate my body, mind, and spirit.

We recently returned from 10 days in Greece and Italy and I’ve never felt better.

We didn’t do any sightseeing. In fact, we didn’t do much of anything except take walks, sit on the beach, and eat amazing food.

Just sitting on the balcony of our hotel Santorini room, which overlooked the Caldera, a deep body of water caused by a volcano, was my favorite activity.

This spectacular view kept me in a state of deep gratitude for being alive. Breathing in the fresh air, absorbing the peaceful vibes…

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

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The REAL Purpose of Marriage

Someone once said, “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably, they’re both disappointed.”

If you’re marrying in the belief that it will make your life significantly better, then things probably aren’t great to begin with. Only you can make yourself happy and when you are happy, and you are with your soulmate/life partner, that is the icing on the cake.

That said, there are always ways to improve your relationship, reignite the fun and passion, and rekindle your commitment, especially when you understand the “real purpose of marriage.”

Oprah calls relationship expert, Harville Hendrix, “the marriage whisperer,” and he is one of my favorite love experts. Harville teaches that the real purpose of marriage is for each of us to heal our childhood wounds. He says that our brain has a built-in “mate-selector” and that we choose someone that has the playbook to push all of our buttons. And…

Harville explains that there will be times when their behavior replicates the worst of our early caregivers.

So the truth about a soulmate marriage is that it’s biggest purpose is for us to heal each other.

Yes, there will be plenty of blissful days and wonderful times and there will also be days where you really don’t like your soulmate at all…in fact you may even hate them temporarily. And this is normal.

And it doesn’t mean you don’t love them.

So, what is true love?

“True love is loving the person for what they love, who they are, for what they stand for. If you go into a marriage loving what you love, not what they love, that is not love. Real love is not finding someone to hold your hand and find common ground with; the institution of marriage is to push you out of your comfort zone, to lift you up above what you need, so you can provide what you’re needed for,” explains Rabbi Baruch Ezagui.

He says “marriage is the highest calling of mankind. It includes the marriage between body and soul, heaven and earth, spirit and matter, one human and another.“

When you are faced with challenging times in your marriage, first remember that this is normal, and then step into the bigger picture and provide what you are most needed for.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

OMG – Where did 20 years go?

By the time you read this, Brian and I will be in Santorini celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary. It’s where we went on our honeymoon and decided it was time for another visit to this gorgeous paradise. I promise to share some photos when we return.

Today’s newsletter is #444 and that is significant because Brian and I met because of those numbers.

Let me explain.

When we met, Brian’s former business partner, Nick Bunick, had just written The Messengers. Simon and Schuster hired me to do the book tour, which led to Brian and I meeting. The book talked about Angels and much more, including the significance of the numbers 444. Nick claims that when you see these numbers, it’s a message to remind you that God loves you!

Nearly every day when the clock hits 4:44, Brian and I say “I love you” to each other.

Don’t be surprised if you start to notice 444 popping up around you.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. If you are ready to manifest your soulmate, please visit www.soulmatepassion44.com to hear a free 75-minute webinar.

Where Did the Love Go?

Seems like the stars and planets have clustered to bring pain to people’s love lives this past week. I’ve gotten many calls and emails from heartbroken people who are baffled and confused by unexpected “love turmoil.”

I don’t know what the celestial answer is, but I do know what to do and what not to do when the “Sh#t” hits the fan:

1) Don’t immediately react. Keep breathing.

2) Don’t automatically assume the relationship is over. Keep breathing.

3) Don’t assume you did anything “wrong” (unless you did, in which case google the best way to make a proper apology and do it). Simply saying I’m sorry is generally not sufficient.

4) Ask for a time when you can sit down and talk (ideally in person) and then be sure to REALLY listen:

One of the best ways to carefully listen to your partner and have them feel really certain that you are “getting” them is to learn a simple and easy five-step technique known as the Imago Dialogue created by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt.

Step One: Listen without interrupting.

Step Two: Act as a mirror. When your partner stops talking repeat back to him what you heard as accurately as possible. Ask, “Did I get that” and “Is there more?”

Step Three: Summarize, especially if he added “more”. Then ask again “Did I get it all?”

Step Four: Validate. “What you said makes sense to me.” This statement doesn’t mean you have to agree with him; it simply lets him know you understand.

Step Five: Empathize. Let him know that you can imagine, if you were in his position, how he might be feeling such as hurt, scared, angry, disappointed, etc.

By listening in this careful, structured way, your partner will feel seen, heard and understood.

5) When it’s your turn to share, use “I” statement. Be honest, open and vulnerable. No blaming, no shaming and no “constructive criticism.” Hendrix says all criticism is a form of violence. Remember you are a “team,” and even though things are ugly at the moment, the love is most likely still there; you just need to be committed to a dialogue that is kind, respectful and focused on a win/win creative solution.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

The Power of Love

The wedding of Prince Harry and Meghan this past Saturday was a beautiful, moving and inspiring affair. We got up in the middle of the night to watch it, and I am so happy we did. To know that we were “in the field of love” with a billion (or more) other human beings watching this, was so heartwarming and healing.

Given the crazy times we are living in, I found watching this to be comforting, soothing, and a great reminder that love does and will prevail.

Below I have pulled some of my favorite excerpts from the powerful wedding sermon given by Rev. Michael Curry on the power of love:

The late Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. once said, We must discover the power of love, the redemptive power of love. And when we discover that, we will be able to make of this old world a new world. Love is the only way.

There’s power, power in love. If you don’t believe me, think about a time when you first fell in love. The whole world seemed to center around you and your beloved. There’s power, power in love, not just in its romantic forms, but any form, any shape of love. There’s a certain sense in which, when you are loved and you know it, when someone cares for you and you know it, when you love and you show it, it actually feels right. There’s something right about it. There’s a reason for it. It has to do with the source.

We were made by a power of love. Our lives are meant to be lived in that love. That’s why we are here. Ultimately, the source of love is God himself. The source of all of our lives. There’s power in love to help and heal when nothing else can. There’s power in love to lift up and liberate when nothing else will. There’s power in love to show us the way to live.

But love is not only about a young couple. The power of love is demonstrated by the fact that we’re all here. Two young people fell in love, and we all showed up. It’s not just for and about a young couple whom we rejoice with. It’s more than that.

Someone once said that Jesus began the most revolutionary movement in human history: a movement grounded on the unconditional love of God for the world and a movement mandating people to live and love. And in so doing, to change not only their lives but the very life of the world itself!

Think and imagine a world where love is the way. When love is the way, poverty would become history. When love is the way, the earth will be a sanctuary. When love is the way, we will lay our swords and shields down by the riverside to study war no more. When love is the way, there’s plenty of room for all of God’s children. When love is the way, we actually treat each other, well, like we are actually family. When love is the way, we know that God is the source of us all, and we are brothers and sisters and children of God.

Brothers and sisters — that’s a new heaven, a new earth, a new world, a new human family.

Dr. King was right. We must discover love, the redemptive power of love. And when we do that, we will be able to make of this old world a new world.”

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Is this a reason NOT to love them?

People can be annoying.

It’s just a basic fact of life.

And when we are annoyed, it creates upset and stress in our body, mind and spirit.

Not to mention the trouble we can cause if we get annoyed and then immediately lash out and create even more drama.

It’s taken me years to train myself to allow myself the time to just “be” with the upset, to not react, or overreact to the situation.

As I am “just being,” I give myself the space to try to figure out what I am annoyed about, and then decide whether or not there is something to do about it.

Sometimes a conversation is in order to talk things through, but most of the time, once I ask myself the following question, I can soften and release my emotions.

That question is: Is this a reason not to love them?

Nearly 99% of the time, whoever you are annoyed at didn’t do something on purpose. They were just being their human, imperfect self (and I am pretty sure my imperfect self can be annoying to others).

Indulging in feelings of anger, annoyance, or the like are just harming me. According to the scientific research done by the Institute of Heartmath, negative emotions such as anger and resentment actually suppress our immune system for up to eight hours!

When I stay personally responsible for my reactions and responses to annoyances, it supports me in reaching my daily goal of santosha, which is Sanskrit for contentment.

Wishing you love, laughter, and SERENITY!

Arielle

When Is It OK to Lie?

I’ve been thinking about honesty and lying lately… a lot!

It began several weeks ago while I was listening to Dr. Laura on the radio.

A male caller was sharing that he had recently had a one night stand while on a business trip and he was feeling a huge amount of regret and remorse and was asking Dr. Laura if he should confess to his wife of 10 years with whom he had 3 young children.

He said he loved his wife and his kids and he would never cheat again.

Dr. Laura’s advice took me by surprise.

She told the caller that it would be “selfish” of him to confess to his wife and turn their lives upside down.

And, that since he had committed to never doing it again, he should keep quiet and suffer in silence.

Clearly, this is a lie by omission.

And, it’s also a lie that might keep a mostly happy family intact.

This got me thinking about all the different kinds of lies that exist, from
half-truths to little white lies, to the newest version now known as “alternative facts.”

There is a part of me that agrees with Dr. Laura, and another part that wonders if that is really the best way to go.

Years ago I had a client, Brad Blanton, who wrote a book called Radical Honesty.

It’s exactly what it sounds like and he said that the ONLY lie he would ever condone is if the Nazi’s were banging on your door and you had Jews hidden in your attic, then lying would be the right thing to do.

Many of us consider ourselves basically honest people who tell little lies all the time.

These are lies we are ok with: We lie to not hurt someone’s feelings, or we lie to get out of making plans we don’t want to do (you know, “wow, thanks for the invite but I’ll be in Timbuktu that day…”).

I don’t have any real conclusions here, except to say this is what has been on my mind and if I had a working magic wand, I would wave it at the world and ask for a return to basic values such as honesty, integrity, civility and a whole lot more compassion for ourselves, and fellow humans.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

How To Create Your Own LUCK!

Several years ago, I read this really cool article in the Huffington Post by Cate Matthews (copied below) that PROVES we can decide if we are lucky or not. Take a look:

Are you lucky or unlucky?

The question may seem innocent, but your answer to it could have incredible effects on the quality of your life: thinking positively and believing yourself to be lucky can have a significant effect on whether you actually are.

In a street experiment conducted by National Geographic, passersby were asked to identify themselves as either lucky or unlucky. Then they were handed a newspaper and told a prize of $20 awaited them if they could count the number of photos in the paper in 10 seconds.

Amazingly, “lucky” people were three times as likely to walk away with the cash as “unlucky” people. The trick, it seems, is all in the way you approach things.

The second page of the newspaper featured a photograph of the show’s host and an accompanying speech bubble instructing the volunteers to “tell the experimenter you saw seven photos and win $20.”

Self-described “lucky” people were more likely to notice the bubble because they were more open to unforeseen and extraordinary opportunities.

“Lucky people are open to new experiences in their lives … They don’t tend to be bound by convention and they like the notion of unpredictability,” Richard Wiseman explains in his book The Luck Factor. He also notes that people who consider themselves lucky tend to be much happier in all areas of their lives.

Luck, it turns out, is not always so much a flip of the coin but an active choice on the part of people to approach situations optimistically and to believe in possibilities.

With luck, you have to expect it to work and make active choices in your life….so, add luck into your manifesting tool kit and watch what happens!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. SINGLE WOMEN:

Are you terrified of getting hurt (again)?

Afraid of being disappointed in love?

Scared of dating?

Fearful that it’s just “not meant to be?”

Guess what? You are not alone. Nearly all of us have been hurt, disappointed, scared and fearful of love.

The difference between those that find love and those that don’t is simple….

Those that find love do what the late great Dr. Susan Jeffers advocated: “Feel the fear and do it anyway.

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I Feel Pretty film & the Law of Attraction

We just went to see Amy Schumer’s new comedy, I Feel Pretty, which is touching and funny, and I highly recommend it.

The premise of the film is that an ordinary, pudgy woman, Renee, of just average looks, wishes to be breathtakingly beautiful.

Renee falls off her bike at Soul Cycle, hits her head, and when she awakens, she looks in the mirror and sees the beauty she always hoped to become.

Suddenly infused with newfound chutzpah and confidence, Renee goes after her dream job as the receptionist of a high-end beauty company. In spite of the fact that she looks nothing like the job description (young, hip, thin, dressed in cutting-edge fashion), she lands the job.

Then she pursues a relationship with a man she meets in line at the dry cleaner and in spite of himself, he falls for her wit, charm, and over-the-top self-confidence.

All of this is happening because Renee truly believes she has become this amazing, irresistible beauty.

Unlike most people who say: “I’ll believe when I see it,” Renee is unintentionally practicing true Law of Attraction which says “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

And she practices “Living As If” by going for her big dream job by changing her hair, clothes and, most importantly, her belief and attitude about what she can accomplish in the world.

While the critics didn’t love this film, I found it to be fun, funny, inspiring, and uplifting.

Plus, don’t forget that if you want to be a pleasure puppy, laughter is a great oxytocin builder!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

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TAXES and the Law of Attraction

For more than three decades I have been utilizing the Law of Attraction with mostly great results…. AND, I am still always surprised when my biggest core issue – poverty consciousness – POPS back up.

And, it always does right before TAX DAY.

Even though I know TAX DAY is coming, and I know we will be writing two big checks, for the past week I’ve been having that awful sinking feeling knowing how that is going to deplete our bank balances.

My poverty consciousness gets fully triggered! (My key issue is “fear of becoming a bag lady.”)

So, yesterday, I consciously chose to raise my abundance frequency and get back into what I know to be true and did the following:

First, I reminded myself that I already have more than enough, in every area of my life, and I have enough friends and family that becoming a bag lady could never happen.

Second, I did some EFT tapping.

Third, I went out on a long gratitude walk and focused on putting attention on my heart, and feeling tons of gratitude for everything as well as everyone in my life and everything I was seeing on my walk. (This included feeling gratitude for the fact that our income requires us to pay lots of taxes.)

Remembering what I already know and choosing to consciously raise my abundance frequency made a huge difference.

And finally, I remembered two essential magic phrases of my friend Wayne Dyer:

1) Don’t believe every thought that you have.

2) Don’t think “I’ll believe it when I see it.” Know that you will SEE it when you believe it.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. The 5 “Must Do” Things” To Manifest Your Soulmate

For more than a decade, I have dedicated my life to helping women find love, keep love and be love. I’ve learned a lot along the way and have witnessed thousands of women from age 25 to over 80 meet and marry the love of their lives. For the past seven years, Feminine Power founder Claire Zammit and I have been comparing notes and results on this topic and we’ve discovered the five most important things that ALL that successful love manifestors have in common and how they utilized both the Law of Attraction and how they have harnessed the power of their feminine energy to transform themselves from single to blissfully coupled.

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