How Do You Know When You’ve Found the ONE?

On the day that I met Brian I knew that he was the ONE. I knew because I heard a voice that keep telling he was the One. I knew because I had been given clues in a dream. It was completely clear to me that he was the One. Lately I have received many emails asking me “how do I know if he/she is the One?” I decided to ask several of my friends who are happily married to their soulmates “how they knew.”

Gay Hendricks shares: It felt very natural and organic that I found Katie, because it happened right after I’d had a powerful transformation experience where I found “the one” inside myself. I remember the writer Tom Robbins saying “We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.” That’s essentially the realization I had in December 1979, that I needed to love myself deeply, and attract a lover out of that unconditional love for me. Next month I met Katie!

Kathlyn Hendricks said: When I first saw Gay in 1980 at a seminar and we locked eyes for a timeless moment, I had the experience of recognizing and being deeply recognized in layers upon layers of delicious expansion. That’s how I knew he was “the one.”

Shannon Peck (married to Scott Peck) said: I used to ask my mom this question when I was growing up at home. She and my dad had a truly soulmate relationship (they just celebrated their 69th wedding anniversary!). Mom said, “You’ll know because you’ll want to be with him all the time.” That was one of the “check in points” I referred to when I found myself growing very strong with love for Scott while we were dating.I also evaluated from other points too, such as: we were spiritually in sync, we had so much fun being together, even while doing nothing, we got along beautifully. I felt treated with great love, respect, and adoration, I felt I could trust Scott with fidelity because of how he lived with integrity and he would never hurt me, and I felt a deep, intimate, lasting, sense of “belonging” connection with him.

Rev. Cynthia James (married to Carl Studna) said: “When a friend asked me, can I imagine my life without him? I said that I couldn’t.”

Monte Farber reveals: I knew Amy Zerner was “The One” when I noticed that watching her live was my supreme enjoyment. I didn’t want her to be anything other than who she was and wanted to be and that is as true today, 35 years later, as it was when our romance first bloomed into love.

As you can see, it’s different from everyone. If you are currently with someone that you “think” might be your soulmate, enjoy the process of getting to know them in all types of situations. Meet their friends and family. Travel with them (one of the best ways I know to get to know someone on the deepest level). Don’t feel as if you have to “know” right now. At the right moment in time, you will become crystal clear.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


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