Dear Arielle & Brian,
I totally resonated with The Soulmate Secret and did 100%, of all the processes, working authentically on loving myself in a way I had never done before. I was happily savoring my time while waiting for my true love to walk into my life until I irrationally and aggressively and in an angry way contacted an ex-love interest. I now feel like I sabotaged everything I was trying to create and I am now having a really hard time forgiving myself. What I did was very ineffective and just made me feel like a fool. What kind of healing or books would you suggest for me? Thank you so much for any words of advice.
Lots of Love & Appreciation,
Before we get started please know we have lots of “love and appreciation” for YOU! Your honesty, courage and vulnerability needs to be acknowledged and if we were with you right now we’d shower you with infinite amounts of comfort hugs and hopefully provide you a “soft place” to land. So please reach out to your friends and family for that infusion of love and support—we all deserve that Leslie!! And then begin to REMEMBER that YOU will get through this but you will want to invest all the time you need to nurture yourself and really “feel” the full range of your feelings you’re experiencing which might be; fear, guilt, anger, sadness, anxiety, whatever might show up but please be patient with that process.
When your love and light begins to dissolve some of those darker moments and you’re beginning to feel a sense of joy and gratitude again please go back to your processes of building on that unconditional love for yourself. Then once again you will start to celebrate your life and your opportunities for a loving relationship—you will be “in the flow.” Leslie, YOU WILL get to that beautiful place you mentioned where you were “happily savoring” your own authenticity and knowing that a man would be very fortunate if he were to meet you at this time and place in your life. What a delicious and deserving intention and one we know you will manifest!!
Leslie, our response to your questions are just a reminder of how beautiful you are and that you were so successful with your earlier work and preparation you did to prepare for your soulmate. That time spent was not lost and in fact it serves as a wonderful foundation to build on and your spirit is even stronger for what you just went through. So with continued heart intention, a daily celebration of how beautiful you are (inside and out) and a open heart and mind to your infinite possibilities you will manifest the love you desire and absolutely deserve!!
Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,
Arielle & Brian
P.S. We would recommend you consider reading The Conscious Heart by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks. They are the Masters of creating conscious loving relationships. We’d also suggest The Dark Side of the Light Chasers by Debbie Ford and any books from the Institute of HeartMath.
Arielle Ford has spent the past 25 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is one of the founding partners of the Spiritual Cinema Circle, a DVD club dedicated to providing movies about love and compassion. She is the author of seven books including the HOT CHOCOLATE FOR THE MYSTICAL SOUL series and her newest book THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction. Her husband and soulmate Brian Hilliard is a business consultant with a life-long interest in spirituality and the practice of compassion. They live in La Jolla, CA www.soulmatesecret.com
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