When we are in a situation beyond our control, and are finding ourselves highly annoyed or frustrated with someone’s behavior, that is the time to practice Wabi Sabi Love: this is about having a shift in perception and making up a new and empowering story about whatever you are perceiving as broken, wrong, or just not right.
For those of us that are stressed out, frustrated or are experiencing extreme cabin fever from the quarantine, finding the beauty and perfection in the imperfection can be a challenge.
I could make a long list of all the things I don’t like about being quarantined, but now that we are in week seven, I think for me, the good things are beginning to outweigh the bad.
By digging deep into my spiritual toolkit I have been practicing things I’ve often talked about but never really had to deal with….like turning fear into love and transforming judgement into compassion. The latter being the most difficult.
As I have watched many people filling social media with wild conspiracy theories, I find myself pinging back and forth between outrage and wanting to fix them.
(I know better than to engage online about controversial things).
For the first few weeks it made me crazy, and I labeled them as crazy or stupid.
One day I asked myself, “what is the Wabi Sabi solution to my reaction?”
And here is the new Wabi Sabi story I made up: For reasons I am not meant to understand, they believe this stuff because it may just be the best coping mechanism they currently have.
This new story releases me from judgment.
It allows me to breathe deeper and to just be.
If someone or something is making you crazy and causing you to react (this does not include addiction, abuse or bad behavior – for that you must get professional help), try giving Wabi Sabi a spin.
And, if you can’t figure out a new story about their behavior, then ask yourself this: “Is this a reason not to love them?”
Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,
p.s. click below to watch a free 18 minute video on Wabi Sabi Love on YouTube!
p.p.s. My book Wabi Sabi Love is below: