In one of my recent workshops, I met Jennifer. Her 20-year marriage ended after her Ex fell in love with her best friend which broke apart two marriages and a lifetime friendship. Jennifer said: “She was like a sister to me. I lost my marriage and both of my best friends all at once.”
Jennifer worked hard on herself to get through the trauma and devastation of the situation but at the time of the workshop she saw that she still held a lot of resentment for her ex and former friend. Because of the egregious nature of the situation, it was easy to hold contempt and she wanted them to be “punished” in some way by the invisible forces of karma or some other life force.
During my workshops we do a very powerful forgiveness feelingization to heal negativity from the past and create space for new love. During this process, Jennifer had a vision of herself as a golden hued angelic figure with wings outspread over her children. In that moment, she realized that she had to let go of the toxic resentment for the benefit of her children and her own health. She finally saw, for the first time, that letting go would actually be possible and by the end of the feelingization, she got to true forgiveness.
After a few years of only communicating with her Ex, via email or text, she has been able to create a new relationship with him . In the past few months, she invited him to hold a shared birthday party with their son, she can now ride in the same car to a kid appointment, they are having phone conversations and she can finally look him in the eye for the first time in two years.
Dr. Gerald Jampolsky describes forgiveness this way:
“At its essence, forgiveness is a willingness to let go of the hurt and give up suffering. It’s a choice to no longer find value in anger or blame and it’s a letting go of the desire to judge another or our selves because of something that happened in the past. It’s a choice to feel love rather than to judge or condemn.”
And, it’s often not easy….and it doesn’t mean that we forget but we do let go, for ourselves, our kids, and to create space for future love.
Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves so we no longer have to carry negativity. It releases us from the past and allows us to heal and let go and be more at peace in the present moment.
Who do you need to forgive in order to clear and open the space for new love?
Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,
P.S. Please join me for a no-cost online seminar this Thursday at 5pm PT where you’ll discover . . .
- How to attract the kind of person who will actually be the right partner for you
- How to clear out the obstacles, such as the memory of past lovers and heartache, that are energetically keeping away any possibility of a soulmate
- How to experience the love and connection you crave even before you meet your soulmate, which will attract that right person to you almost magically
- How to forgive yourself for mistakes you’ve made in the past, and open your heart to the kind of relationship you really need and will make you happy for the long-term
The event is taking place on Thursday, October 24th, 2013 at 5:00pm Pacific,and when you register, even if you can’t listen live, I will be happy to send you the recording afterwards. Register Here at No Charge