My good friend, Ellen Dolgen, is on a mission to educate women about menopause, and today she has graciously shared with us an important message. Please enjoy!
Hand me a microphone, ladies! I’ve got an announcement – menopause can improve your love life!
Sure, when I entered peri-menopause, I never thought I’d say that. Like many women, I was irritable, sweaty, sleepless, and felt like a permanent fog had taken over my brain. Not to mention my vagina suddenly fled to the Sahara desert. Yes, it was dry and parched! I had no idea what was happening-let alone how to get the help I needed.
I learned that what I was experiencing wasn’t just normal. It was fixable!
Here are three ways to throw your love life into high gear:
1. Be Confident
My menopausal journey has given me the most attractive quality around: confidence. I love myself. To be the woman I want to be, both for the people I love and for myself, I have learned to put myself at the top of my To-Do List. I take care of myself with the same commitment with which I care for my family and friends! Confidence is sexy! It has unleashed joy and a renewed sense of self and freedom.
2. Shed Your Inhibitions
“Women always try to tame themselves as they get older, but the ones that look best are often a bit wilder. Thinking about age all the time is the biggest prison women can make for themselves,” Miuccia Prada once said. Get wild – be free and uninhibited in and out of the bedroom.Explore new places to make love – every room offers new opportunities. Try out some new positions and sensual stimulation (candles, toys, massage oils, lingerie just to name a few). The sky is the limit! Let loose!
3. Have A Happy Vagina
I’m not about to stay hush-hush about my vagina. It’s a beautiful part of me and as such I’ve learned to listen to my vagina.If you find that you’re all lubed up and sex is still “meh,” it’s time to find-and treat-the root cause of any pain.
Communication is the key to any healthy relationship, so don’t be embarrassed to tell your partner what you need in and out of the bedroom! Spice it up!
In fact, research published in the American Journal of Medicine shows that women’s sexual satisfaction actually tends to increase with age, even despite the hormonal throws of menopause.
When you are selfish in the sack, your partner doesn’t have to worry that you’re not enjoying yourself-he can see that you are! Be greedy and both of you will have better sex. Yes, please!
Take responsibility for your own orgasm – you are deserving of pleasure! Explore your own body and then tell your partner what feels good for you. BTW faking orgasms will guarantee that your sex life with your partner will not improve. Remember, you are deserving of pleasure, so be honest (not mean!) and you can increase your chances for a fulfilling sex life for both of you.
Ladies, it’s time to take back our bedrooms! During our menopausal years, our sex lives have so much from which they can benefit: a strong sense of self, deep relationships, and bodies we actually know how to use! “The big O” does not mean “the big Ouch.” Nip your vaginal dryness in the bud and you’ll really have something to celebrate. Recapture the rapture in bed.
Be sure to download Ellen’s new FREE eBook, MENOPAUSE MONDAYS: The Girlfriend’s Guide to Surviving and Thriving During Perimenopause and Menopause for more tips!
Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,