Solo for the Holidays?
Dear Soulmate Manifesters,
If you are single this holiday season, I’d like to offer you my three-step guide for making it a super-special time of year. First, for those of you who are sad, depressed, angry, or resigned to the thought you will always be alone, let me offer you a very short exercise.
1) Get out the egg timer and set it for 5 minutes.
2) For 5 minutes close your eyes and dive deep into the feelings you are feeling…don’t resist on any level, just allow yourself too embrace the full (possibly unpleasant) experience of your sadness, anger, doubt, etc. Look and see where in your body the feelings reside, feel them and then see if you can feel them even more intensely.
3) Breathe deeply during this process and with each exhale, breathe out the emotion while silently saying to yourself thank you and goodbye. Chances are before the 5 minutes are up, all or most of these feelings will have dissipated. This is because you have stopped “resisting” feeling those feelings and you allowed yourself to be fully present with what was true for you in that moment.
Second: Now, get out your journal and make a list of three things you can accomplish between now and the end of the year that will make someone else’s life better. This can be anything from taking an elderly neighbor shopping, to serving food at a shelter, to a variety of random acts of kindness.
My favorite line from A Course In Miracles is this: “The only thing that can be lacking in any situation is that which you are not giving.” Want more love? Give love. You get the idea.
Finally, decide to create a memento of this holiday season that you will GIVE to your soulmate someday. It can be a special letter, photographs, a scrap-book or, my favorite, get out your video camera and make a short film that shows where you went and what you did for Holiday 2009 that you will want to share with him or her. This is an excellent way to “live as-if.”
Please email me at email@example.com and let me know what you decided to do to make this a joyous holiday.
Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,