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<\/a>Wabi Sabi Eating Habits? Why Not?<\/p><\/div>\n
Last year I manifested my soulmate at age 59!<\/strong> \u00a0He\u2019s a terrific guy and I\u2019m crazy about him except for one big issue\u00a0that I just can\u2019t seem to figure out the Wabi Sabi Solution too.<\/p>\n His health and his eating. He has diabetes and high blood pressure, which he takes meds for, but he eats as if he doesn’t have a weight issue or these life threatening diseases.<\/p>\n I work to overlook his bad eating (french fries, pizza, over eating) but this is so difficult for me.<\/strong> I am very, very healthy (which he loves and I am in great shape).<\/p>\n He tells me that I am helping him to be more conscious and he is making tiny baby steps (he has given up sodas and is eating less bread) but I don’t want him to stroke out or loose eyesight or a limb.<\/p>\n We read Wabi Sabi Love together and we discussed this but I am finding this issue really difficult to overcome.<\/p>\n Help! Dear Cheryl Ann,<\/p>\n As his best friend, lover, partner for life, it\u2019s clear why you would be so concerned about his health. And, you can’t be his mother or a nag him non-stop because, as you know, that won\u2019t work. Also, don\u2019t forget, that by stressing out about his bad habits, you are suppressing your own immune system, which isn\u2019t good for your health.<\/p>\n I think it\u2019s great that he is taking tiny baby steps<\/strong>….that is so encouraging! And, even if he were a total health-nut, there’s no promise that some random illness would befall him (or any of us).<\/p>\n Why don\u2019t you ask him if he is willing to make one small change each week and also get his OWN life coach to work one-on-one with him.<\/p>\n The best role for you is to praise him (wildly) for all the little steps he is taking.<\/strong> And, at the right time its ok to share with him the truth about how you feel, including the fear of him becoming an invalid, but do it with some humor: tell him you are sure you will end up as Nurse Ratchet from One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest!<\/p>\n You might also want to suggest that he buy long-term health care insurance so if he does fall ill he doesn’t end up in a nursing home but can have in-home care-givers.<\/p>\n One last thought.<\/strong> Last week I went to a funeral of a dear friend who died of cancer\u2026despite a lifetime of meditating twice a day, eating a vegetarian diet, exercising and doing everything \u201cright.\u201d He was only 61.<\/p>\n Life is short…grab the good stuff where and whenever you can.<\/p>\n Wishing you a lifetime of Wabi Sabi Love,<\/p>\n Arielle<\/p>\n
\nThanks,
\nCheryl Ann<\/p>\n