The NEW RULES of Dating

Covid 19 and the murder of George Floyd have changed our world forever.

Not just in North America but around the globe. Billions of people are experiencing these shared traumas. We literally are all in this together.

No one knows when (or if) it will be safe again to sit shoulder to shoulder at a Broadway play or a concert or attend sporting events that once had as many as 70,000 crazed fans cheering on their favorite football, baseball, hockey or soccer teams.

What we do know is that life goes on and we will find ways to adapt to a new normal.

For those of you who are single, and have been quarantined alone, wishing you had a soulmate, life partner, best friend, lover and safe place to land person to share it with, I have some good news: it’s never been easier to manifest your soulmate than right now.

This may sound counter intuitive, it may even sound crazy, but it’s not.

Even though you can’t go out and meet someone at social events, or at the office, or even the local coffee shop, you can easily be fixed up by a friend or even better, and very effective: date online.

The latest statistics show that nearly 40% of marriages now begin online. Dating online works IF you know how to work it and unfortunately, most women don’t know how to successfully use this amazing tool. It can be more fun than you imagine!

And, here’s why this is such good news:

  1. Video dating allows you to sort through prospects faster than meeting at a Starbucks. Because of the current situation we are all in, you can utilize video dating to interact in deeper, more meaningful ways.
  2. You can engage with a stranger and ask questions that in the past would not have been appropriate. You can discover in minutes things such as: are they divorced but living with their ex? You can ask questions that reveal their emotional IQ without seeming intrusive such as asking them to show you their favorite mask. By doing this you quickly discover if you are on the same page about wearing a mask or if they are someone who thinks it’s unnecessary.
  3. There are ways to make video dating fun and creative that reveal more about them. And, if you do all this correctly, video dating is super safe in ways that meeting in person are not right now.

This Friday, June 12th 4:00-6:00pmPT, I am teaching a LIVE, one-time only, two hour workshop on Zoom on how to do ALL of the above and much more. This event is hosted through 1440 Multiversity. The cost is $45 and if you are seriously ready to manifest your soulmate, discover the simple steps to make it happen.

Register here!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Drenched in Holiness

These times of chaos, turmoil, and massive uncertainty require faith and a deepening with our relationship with the Divine. Spending time in prayer, meditation, poetry, being in nature, having gratitude for all that is, cuddling with loved ones and pets…all will infuse the field with love and healing.

My beautiful late sister, Debbie Ford, wrote a prayer book, Your Holiness, and below is one of my favorites.

Drenched in Holiness

Dear God, Spirit, Divine Mother,

On this day I ask You to grant this request ~

May I know who I am and what I am, every moment of every day

May I be a catalyst for light and love and bring inspiration to those whose eyes I meet

May I have the courage to speak my voice, even when I’m scared

May I have the humility to follow my heart, and the passion to live my Soul’s desires

May I seek to know the highest truth and dismiss the gravitational pull of my lower self

May I embrace and love the totality of myself ~ my darkness as well as my light

May I be brave enough to hear my heart ~ to let it soften so that I may gracefully choose faith over fear

Today is my day to surrender anything that stands between the sacredness of my humanity and my divinity

May I be drenched in my Holiness and engulfed by Your love

May all else melt away

And so it is.

~Debbie Ford

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


True, fascinating story of the origin of Love Letter From God

Before I tell you an extraordinary story, read this:

Love Letter from God

Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone — to have a deep soul relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively. But God says:

“No, not until you are satisfied and fulfilled and content with being loved by Me alone. I love you, my child, and until you discover that only in Me is your satisfaction to be found, you will not be capable of the perfect human relationship that I have planned for you. You will never be united with another until you are united with Me — exclusive of anyone or anything else, exclusive of any other desires or longings. I want you to stop planning, stop wishing, and allow Me to give you the most thrilling plan existing — one that you can’t imagine. I want you to have the best. Please allow Me to bring it to you. Just keep experiencing that satisfaction knowing that I AM. Keep learning and listening to the things I tell you . . . You must wait.

Don’t be anxious. Don’t worry. Don’t look around at the things others have gotten or that I’ve given to them. Don’t look at the things you think you want. You just keep looking off and away up to Me, or you’ll miss what I want to show you.

And then, when you’re ready, I’ll surprise you with a love far more wonderful than any would ever dream. You see, until you are ready and until the one I have for you is ready, I am working even this very minute to have both of you ready at the same time. Until you are both satisfied exclusively with Me and with the life I have prepared for you, you won’t be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with Me…and this is perfect love.

And dear one, I want you to have this most wonderful love, I want you to see in flesh a picture of your relationship with Me, and to enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting union of beauty and perfection and love that I offer you with Myself.

Know that I love you utterly, I am God. Believe it and be satisfied.



I received a copy of this letter more than a decade ago when I was writing The Soulmate Secret. The words resonated deeply with me and I was curious about the author of the letter….clearly someone with a very close connection and understanding of God had penned this wisdom.

I searched the internet but never found out where it came from, thus I listed it in my book as “Author Unknown.”

From time to time I would wonder about the source.

Well, recently the most amazing thing happened! I received an email that led me to the woman who brought forth the letter. Her name is Dr. Patty Sadallah and she is a Professor at Christian Leadership University serving master’s and doctoral students and she is also an award-winning author of several Christian books.

When I spoke with Dr. Patty, I asked her how she came to receive this letter and she shared with me one of the most remarkable stories I have ever heard.

Below is a shortened version of the story and at the end of this, I will tell you how to read the full story!

While Patty was a college student in 1979, she was dating Fred, who was a Christian, while she was not. One weekend, at a student leadership retreat, she was assigned Maureen as her roommate and they had an instant connection. They stayed up all night talking about God’s love and salvation and by sunrise, Patty was a Christian. She couldn’t wait to share the exciting news with Fred.

Unfortunately, just as Patty found God, God was directing Fred to break up with her and boom, her heart was broken. She immediately called Maureen, who strangely said that she was expecting her call. God had told Maureen that Fred was going to break up with her and that she had a letter for her: a letter from God saying that He needed to be her first love.

For many months Maureen was Patty’s rock and confident, praying with her and teaching her from the Bible. One day, as Patty was feeling better, she called Maureen only to discover that the phone number she had dialed for months was answered by a frat boy who insisted that they had been assigned that number all year and had no idea who Maureen was. Baffled, she went to the registration office only to discover there was no record of Maureen. She began to wonder if Maureen was really an angel and continued to read her comforting love letter from God. Over the years, Patty shared the letter with dozens of others suffering from a broken heart.

Eventually Patty married George and they began a life together. As she was moving into her new married home, she went to the Bible where she kept the dog-eared letter only to discover it was missing. Twenty-five years later God told her He would return the letter for the upcoming book she was writing. Immediately, she looked for it on the internet. The only thing she remembered was the last line “I am God. Believe it and be satisfied” and there it was, pages of postings of this love letter were online!

By now, Patty was adept at having personal conversations with Jesus and through a guided imagery process she teaches, she met with Jesus. He showed her directly that yes, He wrote the letter specifically to her, and He made sure that she received it from Maureen. She also found out that yes, Maureen is her guardian angel and she was able to reconnect with Maureen who now appeared with a full set of beautiful wings.

Is this just the most beautiful, amazing, miraculous story?

I strongly suggest you buy her book, Clips That Move Mountains to read the entire story. Clips that Move Mountains 2nd Edition is a faith-building, life-changing book of that uses short clips from popular movies such as Forrest Gump, Surf’s Up, Facing the Giants, and others to show you how to grow your relationship with God and live your best Christian life. Check out Patty’s other books at her website: And, if you want to have your own encounter with Jesus Patty’s guided imagery will introduce you to Jesus in your own “Special Place”

I am grateful to have finally solved the mystery of the origin of this letter!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


The Unbearable Lightness of Liminality

The phrase “the Unbearable Lightness of Being” was introduced as the title of a 1984 novel by Milan Kundera. (It also became a movie). It uses Friedrich Nietzsche’s doctrine of the Eternal Return to illustrate Lightness.

The idea of “eternal return,” explains that our universe and our existence, has occurred an infinite number of times in the past, and is cyclical and will continue to occur forever.

This is a heady, intellectual concept, but I’ve been thinking about it lately in terms of how to make sense of the earth (and soul) shattering times we are currently in.

Last year I discovered a new word, liminal, which is also appropriate for these times.

With its origin in Latin, it literally means “on the threshold.”

Certainly, we are all on the threshold of a new life.

Liminal spaces are described as transformative and/or transitional.

Spaces where we feel we are on the “verge of something.”

And, being in liminal space is often unsettling, uncomfortable, and disorienting.

I made up the phrase, “the unbearable lightness of liminality,” as a way for me to try and define my current state of being.

I find it has a mystical frequency and creates a permeable container for where I am right now.

I also find it strangely comforting.

What brings you comfort these days?

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Wabi Sabi Quarantine

Wabi Sabi is the ancient Japanese aesthetic of seeking to discover beauty and perfection in imperfection. It seeks to find the beauty in things that are old, worn, imperfect or impermanent.

When we are in a situation beyond our control, and are finding ourselves highly annoyed or frustrated with someone’s behavior, that is the time to practice Wabi Sabi Love: this is about having a shift in perception and making up a new and empowering story about whatever you are perceiving as broken, wrong, or just not right.

For those of us that are stressed out, frustrated or are experiencing extreme cabin fever from the quarantine, finding the beauty and perfection in the imperfection can be a challenge.

I could make a long list of all the things I don’t like about being quarantined, but now that we are in week seven, I think for me, the good things are beginning to outweigh the bad.

By digging deep into my spiritual toolkit I have been practicing things I’ve often talked about but never really had to deal with….like turning fear into love and transforming judgement into compassion. The latter being the most difficult.

As I have watched many people filling social media with wild conspiracy theories, I find myself pinging back and forth between outrage and wanting to fix them.

(I know better than to engage online about controversial things).

For the first few weeks it made me crazy, and I labeled them as crazy or stupid.

One day I asked myself, “what is the Wabi Sabi solution to my reaction?”

And here is the new Wabi Sabi story I made up: For reasons I am not meant to understand, they believe this stuff because it may just be the best coping mechanism they currently have.

This new story releases me from judgment.

It allows me to breathe deeper and to just be.

If someone or something is making you crazy and causing you to react (this does not include addiction, abuse or bad behavior – for that you must get professional help), try giving Wabi Sabi a spin.

And, if you can’t figure out a new story about their behavior, then ask yourself this: “Is this a reason not to love them?”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


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Fasten Your Seatbelt, It’s Going To Be A Bumpy Ride

Bette Davis spoke this classic line in the film All About Eve, and it’s certainly apropos for the world we are currently in.

Unless you are in deep denial, the fact is that the rug has been pulled out from under all of us and it’s going to be bumpy for quite some time.

As we adjust to being in a collective dark night of the soul, we are individually figuring out how wrap our heads around the fact that right now there are no real answers: no one can say when/if the virus will end; when/ if certainty and stability will return; or if life as we once knew it will return.

Whether you are suffering through this process or are doing great with it (or bouncing between happiness and misery), most of us are now learning to adapt to “being with not knowing.”

One of my core beliefs is this:

Contentment is being willing to accept both your happiness and your lack of it at any given moment. This is the practice of the spiritual warrior; to love what is, the good, the bad, the ugly and to remain centered in appreciation and gratitude.

Can you find contentment right now with what is? Start with the smallest baby step of gratitude… right now in this moment, who or what are you grateful for?

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Become A Wabi Sabi Spiritual Warrior

One of my most effective “surviving and thriving” tools is the practice of Wabi Sabi. Known predominantly as an ancient Japanese aesthetic that honors all things old, worn, imperfect and impermanent, Wabi Sabi seeks to find the beauty and perfection in imperfection.

Between Covid-19 and the crashing economy coupled with epic levels of uncertainty and instability, it’s easy to notice everything that is wrong in the world.

I believe it is the job of the spiritual warrior to look for what’s right, to see the light, in spite of all of the painful and dark circumstances.

I’m not in any way minimizing what we are going through, or sticking my head in the sand, but rather broadening the lens to seek out the gifts and benefits of these times.

The images of the incredible reduction of pollution in Beijing, Los Angeles, New Delhi and other places is mind blowing. More than once we were trapped in airports in Beijing and Delhi for days because of air pollution and zero visibility, so to have this kind of transformation in less than six weeks seems like magic.

When I find myself “wishing” things were different, I close my eyes, drop into my heart, and ask myself “what’s good or what good will come from this?” The asking of the question opens up all kinds of creative and imaginative answers and generally lifts feelings of anger or discontent. And, in this situation and process the person I am learning the most about is me!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Was the Virus Predicted 5,000 years ago by an Indian Seer?

A few weeks ago I shared with you my personal experience having Nadi readings (Deepak Chopra first introduced me to them) and I was surprised to learn that there are Nadi leaves for the world as well as individuals, I am sharing with you today a link to a fascinating one hour video of a psychic/researcher/Nadi expert named Craig Hamilton Parker who reveals the predictions found on a variety of Nadi leaves as it relates to Corona Virus and the Kali Yuga (the period of time we are now in that has been predicted for millennia).

In this video he provides some “remedies” to prevent the virus and some to use if you get it and they include an Ayurvedic medicine, Hamas (rituals) to do, a chapter of the Ramayana to read for physical healings, as well as chants and prayers and more.

It’s quite detailed and while I haven’t heard of him before, he shows up as smart, well researched, sincere and I found him likeable. (FYI, the first few minutes he does promote his books but it is not a sales video.)

There is one short section where he mentions the virus might be a biological weapon but this is not a conspiracy theory type of presentation so don’t let that stop you.

Mostly he provides timing and says this is a “temporary crisis” and that it leads to a spiritual renaissance.

My favorite part is when he talks about the “Jeeva Nadis” which are blank palm leaves and once you ask a question, the writing appears on the leaf! I would love to experience that!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


p.s. And, if you or a friend would like their own Nadi reading, send them to I had a spectacular three hour reading via zoom last year. (email me if you can’t register online

Finding Beauty and Inspiration in Devastation

There is no denying where we are right now.

The shit has hit the fan.

Or, you more evolved types might say “the shift has hit the fan.”

In this moment in time, where no one knows when the pandemic will end, and how and when the economy will recover, I am navigating my rollercoaster of emotions that range from sheer terror to excitement and possibility.

One of my favorite thought leaders and scientists is Bruce Lipton. He is a Stanford stem cell biologist, bestselling author of The Biology of Belief, and recipient of the 2009 Goi Peace Award, and below is a short explanation of “imaginal cells” that he wrote many years ago that is timely today. I think you will find fascinating and uplifting:

“To better understand the opportunity hidden in today’s crises, consider the tale of another world in transition. Imagine you are a single cell among millions that comprise a growing caterpillar. The structure around you has been operating like a well-oiled machine, and the larva world has been creeping along predictably. Then one day, the machine begins to shudder and shake. The system begins to fail. Cells begin to commit suicide. There is a sense of darkness and impending doom.

From within the dying population, a new breed of cells begins to emerge, called imaginal cells. (aka YOU!) Clustering in community, they devise a plan to create something entirely new from the wreckage. Out of the decay arises a great flying machine—a butterfly—that enables the survivor cells to escape from the ashes and experience a beautiful world, far beyond imagination. Here is the amazing thing: the caterpillar and the butterfly have the exact same DNA. They are the same organism, but are receiving and responding to different organizing signals.

That is where we are today. When we read or watch the news, we see the media reporting a decaying caterpillar world. And yet everywhere, you and other human imaginal cells are awakening to a new possibility. We are clustering, communicating, and tuning into a new, coherent signal of love.”

As we are now deep into the yucky soup of what IS, can you allow yourself just to be with the uncertainty, to just be with the mystery?

For me, I am going to hold onto the vision of being an emerging butterfly, a beautiful butterfly that will fly and soar into the possibility of a future filled with big love, good health, serenity and creative expression.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Beach Closed: No Lifeguard on Duty

Several years ago we were vacationing on the insanely beautiful island of Capri in Italy.

One afternoon we went for a walk, searching for a beach, to take a swim in the refreshing, sparkling Mediterranean sea.

We eventually found one and hiked down to a sweet little cove with a sandy beach jammed packed with men, women and children, in all shape and sizes.

As we waded into the water, I noticed a small canoe-like boat that was painted red and on the side were the words, in big block letters, Salvatore.

My first thought was,

“I wonder who Salvatore is and why does he need his name so boldly on the boat?”

And, even though I don’t speak Italian, I soon figured out that it Salvatore wasn’t some man’s name but rather it means “Savior,” and that this was a boat used by lifeguards.

As all of us navigate through these scary and difficult times of the COVID-19 virus, it’s becoming clear that there aren’t enough lifeguards right now, and it’s really up to us to figure out how to rescue ourselves and our loved ones.

We must use the full force of our emotional maturity to manage our fear, anxiety, and negative thoughts, so that we can stay strong and courageous in this time of massive uncertainty. It is uncertainty which triggers our darkest thoughts. We are living through a time when we are constantly bombarded with disastrous news of the global pandemic and economic crash as our minds run wild asking ourselves “what if” questions.

So, how does one balance the “reality” of what is happening with the ability to stay grounded, centered and at peace with what is?

One way is to begin to create a spiritual tool kit filled with simple and easy remedies for the times your monkey mind spins out of control. The first step is to be aware of what is going on in your head and to consciously choose to shift your thinking. Be willing to say out loud what is going on with you. For instance, it might be, “I am crazy scared that someone I love is going to die from the virus.” Just naming the problem often helps alleviate some of the energy of it.

Now create an affirmation for yourself, perhaps close your eyes and say “I am sending love, healing and blessings to myself, my family and my friends knowing and trusting that all is well.”

We can’t eliminate all negative thoughts, but we can begin to manage how we respond to them.

Begin to find ways to feel and experience love, gratitude and appreciate in your life.

In one HeartMath® research study published in the Journal of Advancement in Medicine it was observed that just five minutes of genuinely feeling a positive emotion such as appreciation can provide a beneficial boost to the immune system! Creating your own spiritual toolkit will allow you to be proactive and will also help boost your immune system.

Here are a few of the items in my Spiritual Toolkit.

**I repeat my favorite line from A Course In Miracles: “In this moment I have everything that I need.” For me, this is always true as well as comforting. When I say this to myself I know that in this NOW moment, I have a safe place to sit, clean water to drink, fresh air to breath, food to eat, family and friends who love me.

**I have faith. I remember that even though I don’t know what the future holds, I can choose to ‘be with not knowing’ and choose to know and trust that I am ok and I will be ok. As I recall my faith, I place my hands upon my heart and give thanks for all the goodness in my life.

**I Take Five. I stop whatever I am doing, I stop listening to my scary thoughts and I find a fun way to get through the next five minutes. I may turn on my favorite Earth Wind and Fire tune (loud) and dance around the house, or I’ll do a quick search of the Internet for stupid, funny jokes (here’s one for you right now: Did you hear about the zoo that only had one dog? It was a shitzu!) Take 5 minutes and distract yourself.

**I do EFT Tapping. This is a very useful and easy to learn process to help relieve stress, anxiety and suffering. Just google it and you will find a ton of free videos to tap along with.

**I do a “feelingization.” This is a word I coined to describe a closed eye process to take you from your head to your heart and experience love, gratitude, serenity and peace. Here is a link to one entitled Blessing Yourself, Blessing The World that will calm you and fill you with love, guiding you to extend that love to the world.

In just 15 minutes you can transform your state of being!

>> Listen to my Feelingization audio here <<

Decide today to be your own “Salvatore” and create a safe and nurturing and blessed world for yourself.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,