The Love You Seek is Already Yours…

Manifesting becomes effortless when you have a clear intention that resonates in every cell of your body. This week allow yourself to remember why it is that you desire a soulmate.

Consider how you, and your life, will be more enriched when you are sharing your daily life with your beloved.

What is that you have to offer your soulmate?

What is it that you most want to share with them?

What is it that you most seek from the relationship?

As you ponder these questions allow yourself to have an experience of present moment awareness and really imagine yourself with these questions answered.  Use this moment to feel what it feels like to be sharing your life, right now, with your soulmate.

Make this a daily practice. I can’t emphasize how important it is to make your soulmate attraction plan a DAILY PRACTICE.  As you continue to focus your intention and attention on your heart’s desire, knowing that what you’ve asked for is ALREADY yours, you magnetize it to you.

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

The Coca-Cola & Brownie Solution

I have invited my sister, Debbie Ford, to be a guest columnist today to share with you a powerful story that led her to her work around “the shadow” and the release of her new book THE SHADOW EFFECT which is co-authored with Deepak Chopra and Marianne Williamson. Please enjoy her wisdom:

People are always asking me, “Why are you so passionate about the shadow? Why do you continue to write, train, teach and encourage people to deal with their darkness?”

More than once, I’ve been urged to write about the light, to call in the angels, to eat some raw food, to talk to the dead, or to say my affirmations. “The light, the light is the answer!” they say. But I constantly keep going back, returning to what gave me access to the luminous light that shines in my life right now.

I recall the time in my own life when Coca Cola and brownies were my solution, my moment of light and holiness. The mixture felt so so fine. For a moment, I felt deeply loved, at peace and blissfully calm. The internal voice in my mind stopped screaming negative messages, taunting me to do more, get more and be more.

But one day when the Coca Cola and brownie solution stopped working no matter how many liters I inhaled or how many pans of brownies I stuffed into my body, I embarked on a quest to find out how I could feel happy, whole, loved and blessed.

In a moment of enlightened thought I was given a deep understanding and an unwavering knowing that until we shine the light not just on our good self but also on our hungry, stuck, frustrated, depressed, empty, scared, insecure and unworthy self, we will continue to be caught in the chase of more, better and different and controlled by our bad and addictive behaviors that rob us of loving who we are and living the

So I am here today to tell you that there are no shadows when we are one with the great illuminator, the love of all loves, the divine and rich parts of ourselves, that hold the power to illuminate our truest, most authentic self.

That is why now I urge you too admit to what “empty solution” is no longer working in your own life and mark today as a new beginning, driven by an unwillingness to tolerate any form of fear that no longer serves you and instead go deeper into the great hunt for the light within that cast out the darkness that you often think of as YOU.

Now for the first time in history Deepak Chopra, myself and Marianne Williamson have joined forces to bring you and in depth, practical guide through the darkness and into the light of your highest most deserved life.

Claim it today along with many amazing gifts and I promise from the deepest place in my heart that you will be lite up, excited and passionate by when you discover the brilliance of your true self.

Please visit Debbie’s website to see the amazing bonuses she, Deepak & Marianne are offering: theshadoweffect.com

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Spring Cleaning for Love

Clutter is usually defined as a disorderly heap or assemblage or a state or condition of confusion.

Did you know that clutter can be a block to manifesting love? Feng Shui experts believe that clutter blocks the flow of energy and creates stagnation. Do you have things piled up around the house that need tending to?

Take the time now to imagine what your home will look like to your soulmate when he or she walks through the door. Will they see a disorganized mess or will they find a comfortable, inviting home?

We are now in the heart of Spring so lets get ready to clear out the clutter in our closets, underneath the bed and anywhere else in your home clutter has accumulated.

Then, lets clear the clutter in our hearts, the unresolved issues of past heartache. Remember to practice forgiveness and do the feelingizations so that you are ready to invite new love into your life. (you can download the feelingizations for free at The Soulmate Secret).

Finally, lets purge your home of any negative energy (left by old lovers) using the Native American technique of smudging. Or, you can always simply open your doors and windows on a sunny day and take a broom and imagine you are sweeping out any old or negative energy.

Once the clutter and the negative energy is cleared out bring in items and symbols of new love that will remind you to practice living as if – new plants, fresh cut flowers, candles, fresh linens, etc.

Spring is a time of renewal, rebirth and a great time to re-commit to manifesting your soulmate. What will you do this week to remove clutter?

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Finding Love When & Where You Least Expect It

People often ask me if Brian was working on manifesting his soulmate when he met me and the simple answer is no. Meeting someone new was the last thing on his mind, in fact, when we met he was in the midst of ending a relationship.

As I have said many, many times, Intention, Attention and Divine Timing all go hand-in-hand when it comes to manifesting your soulmate. Here’s a perfect case in point:

Krista, a divorcee, bought The Soulmate Secret in January 2009, just days after it was published. Soon after she contacted me via Facebook when she told me she actually met someone while standing in line at the bookstore to pay for the book.

It turned out that the man she met was not her future soulmate but I remember thinking at the time that this is a woman who is absolutely going to manifest her soulmate. I told her to be sure to stay in touch and keep me posted.

The other day Krista reconnected to tell me that eight months after doing all the exercises, working through the forgiveness processes, journaling about her ideal soulmate, she has found the ONE and they are now planning a life together.

I asked her if I could speak to her soulmate, Don, to find out what, if anything he had done to manifest Krista. Here’s what he had to say:

“The day Krista and I met, I had just ended a 21 year marriage. After a long drawn out process to save the marriage, it was finally clear we couldn’t make it work. I was out looking for a new place to live when I stopped into a local Anthropologie store (www.anthropologie.com).

Walking around dazed, as if underwater, and feeling fairly numb, my heart was in a deep freeze. I remember I was admiring a table in the store. As a writer I knew that I would need to create a workspace for my new place, and this particular table appealed to me.

As I stood there with a notebook under my arm, this woman asked me if I was a designer. I turned around and saw this pretty woman and we began what became an animated conversation. I shared with her that I was looking for a new place to live and she readily offered me some local real estate information.

It quickly became clear that we had a lot in common but neither of us was thinking that it would turn into anything more than a friendship. I will say that I felt an instant bond with her.

I followed up and sent her a thank you email and one thing led to another and soon we were spending a lot of time getting to know each other. The more time we spent together the more apparent it became that we had something special… we really relate to each other on a deep level. I soon realized I had never met anyone that touches me the way she does.

I feel as if I have met my soulmate. As a journalist there is a part of me that is skeptical, questioning can this really happen like this? But I know this is the love match I’ve been dreaming about my whole life. When she walked into my life something big changed.”

As for Krista, she couldn’t be happier. During that random visit to the Anthropologie store she found more than a few new books, she found her soulmate. “Don is everything on my soulmate wish list. We just clicked!”

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Do you give up too easily?

Dear Soulmate Manifesters,

We live in a society of instant gratification and many of us have lost the fine art of getting to know someone. While it’s true that sometimes when soulmates meet, sparks fly and it’s completely obvious to both parties that the ONE has been found, more often than not this isn’t what happens.

I’ve spoken to many, now happily married couples, who once had an idea or fantasy in their head that their beloved would have dark brown hair, or light blond hair or some other physical feature. And then, they met a redhead and felt certain he or she could not be the ONE. Fortunately, they were smart enough to become friends with this wrong-colored-hair person and eventually they fell in love and discovered that their soulmate had been right in front of them all along.

Rather than judging someone by their physical features, or questioning whether or not there is “instant chemistry” (which I believe, for certain people with emotional baggage, can be a sign that you have found someone who fits your past negative patterns not your future), it’s important to seriously examine how you “feel” when you are dating someone. Do you feel heard? Seen? Understood? Is there an ease to your communication? One of the reasons why a Soulmate Wish List is so useful is that it’s there remind you about the traits and qualities that are MOST important to you.

While you are in your manifestation process it’s possible that you will meet potential mates that initially “seem” like they have great potential, only to discover they are not the ONE. This is a good thing. Don’t give up. It just means that you are that much closer than you were before. And, when you meet someone new give them a chance…don’t give up so easily.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

LOVE Recycling- Part 2

Dear Soulmate Manifesters,

I love going to weddings and this past weekend we had an amazing time at the wedding of our dear friends Kim & Nova. The setting couldn’t have been more perfect – Napa in the Spring – flowers in full bloom, warm breezes, and love so palpable you could feel it everywhere and in everyone. The bride was stunning and beautiful and deliriously happy, an even though her wedding day was probably 15 years later than she expected, her groom was worth the wait.

Theirs is a modern-day love story.

The groom mentioned to his friend, Jimmy, that he was ready to meet a great woman. Jimmy, in a flash of genius, knew the perfect woman for him, Kim.

And, thus a love-match was made.

As I heard the story of how they met, I was reminded of a party I once went to when I lived in Los Angeles. My friend Rita asked her single friends (both men & women) to come to a Sunday brunch and to bring two things – something delicious to eat and a former boyfriend or girlfriend. The idea was to bring some one really wonderful, someone that we were still friends with but, for whatever reason, were no longer dating. Rita’s idea was till fill her home with pre-screened (you might even say test-driven) great singles and let them all get together to mingle.

I remember being in the house and the place was just buzzing with excitement. It was easy to talk to everyone because we all had a story to share about who we had brought to the party and why. What I enjoyed best was that I felt really comfortable. Surrounded by friends, old and new, we all wanted to the same thing – to connect and meet someone but without any awkward pressure.

Last week we began this conversation about sharing the great guys & gals we meet with our friends…here’s a way to take it one step further – create a gathering like Rita did. You never know who is going to walk through the door.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Love Recycling

Dear Soulmate Manifesters,

Synchronicity is a wonderous thing and I love to pay attention to the seemingly random yet connected things that happen in my life.

One day, many years ago, my friend Cathy called to tell me about a man, Joe, she wanted to fix me up with on a blind date. Cathy shared that Joe was tall, handsome, successful, lots of fun, spiritual and, oh, by the way, she had been dating him for the past month.

Whoa.

Hold on sister. Why are you trying to fix me up with this great guy if you’re dating him?

Cathy explained that Joe was a fabulous guy but he just wasn’t right for her and she thought that someone in her circle should benefit from meeting him and she chose me. I thought it was pretty strange but agreed to meet him.

Joe and I went to a very chic restaurant for dinner. He was everything Cathy had said and more plus he spent most of the evening massaging my feet. (I have a weakness for great foot rubs)

By the end of the evening all I could think of was: wow, great guy but not for me. Who can I fix him up with? It turned out I really wasn’t a perfect match for him so we decided to become pals.

A few weeks later my friend Holly asked me if I new any great guys I could fix her up with…I thought about it for a few seconds and said, “Yes, you’ve just got to meet Joe!”

So, Holly & Joe went to lunch. And they became…….really great friends.

And yet, again no love match for Joe. But…just a few months later, Joe introduced Holly to his best friend, Jack, who Holly instantly fell in love with and later married.

We never know when or where we will meet our soulmate but when we approach every new person as a possible “friend” unimaginable possibilities could unfold.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Do the right thing

Dear Soulmate Manifesters,

It was the Fall of 1991 and I remember looking into his big brown eyes and feeling my heart expand to the far reaches of the Universe. My body was tingling and I was filled with the yummiest sensations. My mind was filled with the thoughts such as “he must be my twin-soul,” “finally I’ve found my One,” “this is so amazing.” It was like the best possible drug and I was willing to become an addict.

The problem was that (a) I didn’t know a thing about him (b) I was completely delusional (c) he was ALREADY married (d) even though my body was saying YES there was a sane voice in the back of my head saying “hey, hello, hellloooooo, anyone home? Wake up!”

I spent a few weeks in this delirious state of stolen moments (he would fly into town for a few hours and fly home to be with his family), hours on the phone, fantasies that somehow all these feelings MUST mean this is meant to be, right? Wrong.

There was nothing right about this situation. (one obvious clue: I wasn’t talking about this with anyone, especially my closest friends)

I was compromising my values on so many levels.

Did I really want a guy who would behave this way? No.

Did I want to spend any part of my life being the other woman? No.

How long was I willing to be swept away with these dramatic feelings and make up all kinds of crazy stories that somehow we must be meant to be together?

Luckily not long at all.

In a moment of searing clarity I decided to tell him that we were through. We would not be friends. We would not stay in touch. He offered to leave his wife and move 500 miles to be near me but I just said no. I didn’t trust someone who was willing to throw away their life to be with someone that they truly didn’t know.

Were there moments when I thought “how can something that feels this good be so wrong?” YES and I let the thoughts and the feelings float by as I stayed anchored in my heart of hearts that chose to do the right thing.

Was it hard? Making the decision was the hardest part. Was it the right decision? Absolutely, one million percent.

This experience led me to get very clear about the type of man and the kind of relationship my heart truly desired. And as most of you know, that all came to fruition a few years later when I manifested Brian.

True love is never about compromising your values or morals. Learn to trust that at the right time and with the right circumstances love (not just hormonal frenzy) will be yours.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Are you ripe yet?

Dear Soulmate Manifesters,

I’ve recently received a few emails from men and women who are frustrated because they feel they have been actively “searching” for their soulmate without success. I would like to address this issue since it seems to be a big one for many people and I know that a small shift in perspective can make all the difference.

My suggestion is to focus more on “magnetizing” your soulmate to you rather than actively “looking out there” for that person.

Words and feelings are important. “Searching” can sometimes come from a place of desperation instead of the natural flow of love. Remember, that ultimately there is nothing for you to do but there is something and someone for you to BECOME.

Become the loving, giving magnet for love that you are at your core.
Discover true happiness within you and the life you have right now.
Give love to those already in your life.
Practice surrendering to the Universe and to all THAT IS.
When the time is right and you are ripe, love will find you.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

My Soulmate Came Knocking on My Door!

Dear Soulmate Manifesters,

One of the questions I am asked most often is from working moms who want to know “how will I ever meet someone when I am so busy with my kids, work, carpool, etc?” The first thing I always share with them is this true story of how my friend Peggy McColl, at age 46, manifested her soulmate:


After my divorce, I was a stay-at-home mom running an Internet business, working in a home office with very little face-to-face contact with people. I lived in a residential neighborhood filled with families and, to my knowledge, not a single unattached man. Although I believed my soulmate was out there somewhere, it was hard not to notice the years ticking by as I waited for him to arrive. I also wondered how in the world he was going to find me, given that I worked from home and spent most of my days in semi-isolation.

Gradually, I let go of my need to know where or how he was going to come into my life, and one day early in January, I simply decided the following: My soulmate and I are going to meet easily, effortlessly, and perfectly. This, in fact, became my daily mantra, and I developed an unwavering emotion of faith. One day shortly thereafter, I went for a walk with my dog, Noelle. After catching sight of another dog on the front lawn of a neighbor’s house, Noelle bolted over to say “hello” to this new dog in the neighborhood. The moment the dog’s owner walked out of the house, I thought, Hmmm . . . he’s handsome! We started chatting, and in the middle of our conversation I found myself having another thought: This is the kind of guy that I would like to be with. He seemed gentle, kind, and caring, and he obviously liked dogs. Plus, he was handsome and masculine looking. From that point on, I stayed open to the way that Mr. Right would show up in my life, resisting the urge to “make something happen” and having faith in the Universe, its timing, and its wisdom.

Then, one snowy winter morning, my doorbell rang, and there was my new neighbor asking me to take care of his dog because his doggy babysitter wasn’t available and he was called into work (he was a pilot on call). After he returned from work, I invited him in for coffee, and the rest, as they say, is history.

We fell in love and within a short period of time were an item. Two and a half years later we married. I just love this story. It’s a great reminder that, it’s not your job to know how or where or when you will your soulmate, but it is your job to tell the Universe exactly what you desire and then trust that it is already on the way to you.


Take time each day to feel what it feels like to be living your life with your soulmate. Experience the love, the joy, and the fun you will have together. Then give thanks and gratitude to the Universe/God/Goddess/All that Is, for delivering to you your perfect right partner.

If you need a little help getting into the right state of open-heartedness, please do this 5-minute “Heartlight” feelingization. You can download it for free at: www.soulmatesecret.com

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love