Hi Arielle and Brian,
My name is Sharon. I am 42 years old. I have practiced some sort of metaphysics since I was in my teens. The last 15 years I have been mainly focused on manifesting my soul mate. During these many years, I have felt angry and discouraged many times because he is still not here.
The surprising thing is, every time I became angry and discouraged I felt that even though it was not working I had no other choice but to move forward because I had learned a little bit more and it was impossible to live in that place that I passed again. Also, I knew the past was filled with pain and did not see much sense in returning to a place that did not work before.
I have read tons of books, made many, many list that at least 10 years old. I have meditated, you name it and I have done it and is still doing it. I continue to use “new aged” techniques to manifest my soul mate because I do believe they work and have realized just how much they have helped me grow into the person who I know is now ready and deserves the man and type of marriage that I seek.
Everything else in my life is great. I just have this deep longing for my soul mate and the type of marriage I know is right for me even though I did not see any examples around me growing up. I do meet men often but, I am unwilling to go out on dates just for the sake of going out or being in a relationship with a man that I know is not right for me.
I feel comfortable identifying men that I cannot envision having the type of marriage I know I deserve and desire since, I have learned through my practice to be very honest with myself and to look at the not so nice parts of my personality and determine whether I am what I am asking the Universe to bring to me.
My question is, what additional work do I need to do within to manifest my soul mate?
Before we get started we just want to give you thanks and praise for the commitment and discipline you’ve had over the years to grow as a person and open your heart to all the possibilities this wonderful journey has to offer. We also commend you for the discernment you’ve used as well as relying on your intuition in not jumping into a relationship that didn’t feel right to you. It is a beautiful example so many of us could follow.
Sharon, please consider this suggestion to add to your repertoire—continue to do all the great things you’re doing to explore your deeper self, continue to shine a light on your shadow self and please stick with all the exercises and prescriptions in THE SOULMATE SECRET. But do the work with this intention–”I’m going to have as much FUN as I possibly can!” So the next time you feel discouraged or angered move into your heart space and send yourself, your friends and the world more love. This will lighten your load and immediately lift your spirits. You might even consider going out on those dates you’ve turned down in the past just to have more fun and develop more friendships.. It feels like your intuition is well tuned (for knowing who the “right” guy is for you) so having a good time only benefits you and the world. And who knows maybe after the 3rd or 4th date the sparks might fly!!!!! Wouldn’t that be fun Sharon??? And please honestly reassess your definition of marriage—it might be just right but it might also be that you’ve set the “bar” a little too high for any man to jump over. It always works best when you can create enough space of love, acceptance and trust for the man to grow into his higher self and allow him to find his way and (most importantly) follow your guidance in this process as well. You’ll never have that opportunity if the checklist is too long or your demands are unrealistic.
Sharon-you are an amazing person and just “know’ your Soulmate is close by—so be as patient as possible because spirit has no timetable and do your best to detach from any results, expectations or expected outcomes and trust the Universe will support you in delivering your Soulmate to you…in the meantime have as much FUN as your heart desires!!! You obviously deserve Big Love in your life!!
Arielle and Brian