From Spirituality and Practice: February 2012, by Frederic and Mary Ann Brussat

Wabi Sabi Love:  The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships

Arielle Ford
HarperOne 01/12 Hardciver $25.99
ISBN: 9780062003751

Arielle Ford is the international bestselling author of The Soulmate Secret and an acclaimed leader in the personal growth and contemporary spirituality movement.  In Wabi Sabi Love, she has come up with a fresh, sensible and accessible philosophy based on the ancient Japanese art form which finds beauty and perfection in well-worn, tattered, damaged, and impermanent objects and things.  Read Full Review


From Breathe Magazine: January/February 2012

“Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships” by Arielle Ford: This book is perfect for people who have good relationships that they’re eager to make even better. It focuses on Wabi Sabi, the ancient Japanese idea of illuminating the beauty in imperfection, and uses real-life stories of couples learning to turn conflict into connection and differences into mutual passions. We should all learn to embrace our partners’ quirks and imperfections rather than see them as irritations, and what better time to do so than Valentine’s Day?


From by Amanda Martin

Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships

From Disney movies to romantic comedies to romance novels, most of us have grown up with the belief that a “happily-ever-after” ending is commonplace in reality.  Not only are these endings not guaranteed, but anyone who finds true love will admit that sustaining a serious relationship is no easy feat.

Arielle Ford, author of Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships, talked to us about her new book and how to master being in a relationship without trying to attain perfection.  Wabi Sabi is an ancient Japanese art form that honors the beauty in imperfections, and according to Mrs. Ford, it’s the key to the expected happily ever after.

We had a chance to speak to the author herself, and here’s what she had to say:

Do you believe it’s possible to sustain love without Wabi Sabi?

“No, I don’t, because if you’re constantly striving for perfection, you’re constantly going to be disappointed in yourself and everybody else; it’s just not reality.  If you go to, there’s a short YouTube video, Imperfect Husbands, which really demonstrates the essence of a long relationship.  At the end of the day, it’s the quirky, weird, strange things that we come to love and remember about each other.  It’s not the “he was so perfectly groomed and mannered 24/7” that we remember.  Who wants to be with somebody like that?  We want to be challenged, have interesting conversations, and, sometimes, even fight and complain.  That’s just love.”


From the Library Journal:

Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships by Arielle Ford, HarperOne: HarperCollins.

Arielle Ford (The Soulmate Secret) develops the Japanese aesthetic, known as wabi sabi, of finding beauty in imperfection into a relationship model where couples are taught to focus on what’s right with the other person and not what’s wrong. Ford argues that though all couples have irreconcilable differences, they can use the wabi sabi method to embrace rather than try to eliminate the tastes, opinions, and unique viewpoints of their partner. In other words, vive la différence! This is certainly easier to say than to do, but Ford provides numerous examples of couples who have accomplished this ideal. It’s a worthwhile read for anyone in a relationship.


From Retailing Insight’s March issue by Anna Jedrziewski:

Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships

Arielle Ford
$24.99 H, ISBN 978-0-06-200375-1
Harper One

Just in time for spring (following a true winter of discontent) Arielle Ford explains this ancient Japanese art form that values uniqueness and history over perfection and novelty. Even the best relationships contain irreconcilable differences. Ford cites the research that proves it. Managing those differences is the key to sustaining love. Ford’s book offers us time-tested skills to help us do that. There are real-world exercises for accomplishing things like experiencing our hearts at a deeper level, remembering the Big Picture instead of dwelling on the details, curing grumpiness, blending yin and yang, visiting other people’s reality, and taking a bird’s eye view. Of course, there are chapters devoted to sex and money. The stories Ford uses to illustrate the Wabi Sabi principles, both from her own relationship and those of other couples, will make you laugh and nod your head and decide to give the ideas a try. Customers who read this book will almost certainly want to read Ford’s earlier book, The Soulmate Secret, about attracting love. Try displaying them together.