The Art of Love

While I realize that many of you have your attention manifesting a soulmate…..have you thought about “once you are in the relationship” if you have all the necessary skills to navigate the days when things get a little bumpy or dare I say it, even a little boring?

As a first-time bride at age 44, I went into my soulmate relationship with no partnership skills…oy…and I learned how to have a great relationship through trial and error.  But, you don’t have to do it this way!

For the past few months I have been super busy programming a no-cost 10-day, online series called The Art of Love where I have the honor and privilege to guide the world’s top 50 love and relationship experts, who share the latest, cutting edge, transformative love skills through a series of workshops.

It begins on February 12th and features luminaries such as John Gray, don Miguel Ruiz, Alison Armstrong, Neale Donald Walsch, Jack Canfield, Marianne Williamson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Helen Fisher, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Gay & Katie Hendricks, Craig Hamilton, Claire Zammit, Debbie Ford, Jean Houston and more.

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I’ve designed this revolutionary program to help you get READY for love so that you  can heat up your own intimacy skills, learn productive conflict resolution, and much more. (Some days I just have to pinch myself because I can’t believe the amazing things I get to do in my life!)

Here is a sneak peek at what we will be covering:

  • Why incompatibility and conflict are important in a relationship.
  • Sure-fire ways to initiate sex and play.
  • One sentence that fixes almost everything.
  • When honesty isn’t the best policy.
  • The big fat lies that get in the way of love.
  • How reading 50 Shades of Grey gives permission to receive pleasure.
  • The “Wonder Move” to get your self unstuck fast.
  • Two things all men want (hint: it’s not sex).
  • How to invite God into your relationship.
  • The 5 short sentences that heal all wounds.
  • Why hugs, spa days and shopping lead to stronger orgasms in women.
  • And so much more…..

When I programmed and hosted the first version of this series, in the Fall of 2011, afterwards I felt like I had earned a Ph.D in Love.  What I discovered was invaluable to my relationship with Brian! I so wish I had known all of this at the beginning of my marriage instead of learning it the hard way!

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In each workshop I will draw out the most insightful wisdom from each and every transformative love luminary while keeping it easy to digest all of the hot tips. These experts will share their best practices about how to reawaken hot & steamy bedroom activities, navigate through relationship stress, create balance, break destructive patterns, sharpen your relationship-building skills, get what you really want from your beloved, add playfulness to your world, and much more!

Whether you’re dating, or in a new partnership, improving your relationship skills should be high on your TO DO LIST — YOU do have the power to bring change to your love life!

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I encourage you to take advantage of this opportunity right now and register for this no-cost event today.

I look forward to seeing you at The Art of Love Relationship Series!


P.S. FYI, just for registering you have access to a Limited Time GIFT BAG filled with audio/video seminars and eBooks from Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt,      Dr. Diana Kirschner, Alison Armstrong, Sheri Meyers, Tammy Nelson, and Susie & Otto Collins. Plus you’ll be entered into a drawing to win your very own Art of Love iPod Nano!

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Be A Happy Wabi Sabi Single And Watch For Magic

You Hold The Power To Manifest Love

Single men and women, who have read my book The Soulmate Secret, and are actively seeking to manifest the love of their life, often ask me if I can share with them the secret to speeding up the process. They tell me they are tired of waiting, wishing, hoping and yearning for the day the One will arrive.

While I know and believe that we can consciously manifest the love of our life into our lives (I’ve done it as have thousands of my students around the world) we don’t get to choose the speed at which it all comes together.

I believe that “savoring the waiting” is an important part of the process….this is where we get to really enjoy our last days of being single, a time where we can relish the journey and joyfully anticipate our soulmates arrival.

You can choose to allow yourself to feel desperate and alone or you can choose to feel happy and blessed. One way to adopt the “happy and blessed” mindset is to understand the ancient Japanese aesthetic known as wabi sabi which honors all things old, worn, weathered, imperfect, and impermanent. In fact, it seeks to find “beauty and perfection in the imperfections.”

You can now choose to adopt a wabi sabi perspective to your final days as a “single”rather than choosing to succumb to weeks or months of simply “enduring” the wait.

Think of it this way: when the seeds of a flower have been planted in the ground and the first leaves begin to sprout, the gardener does not tug on the leaves every day to make the plant grow fast. He trusts that Mother Nature will play her role and then when the time is right, the flower will blossom. Like a gardener, you have planted a seed and invited love to unfold in your life.

The best part of practicing wabi sabi is that it will become infinitely beneficial once you are with your beloved. I call this the practice of Wabi Sabi Love.

Why would you take the time to learn how to apply Wabi Sabi Love to your relationship? Because 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second marriages and 74% of third marriages all end in divorce! We aren’t born with the innate knowledge of how to “do” relationship. Even worse, we’ve been brainwashed by modern day society to look for and seek perfection, which leads to an ongoing state of frustration and dissatisfaction.

In truth, we all know that perfection is not possible. But with Wabi Sabi Love we can come to appreciate our own and the other’s imperfection, and can actually experience a more natural state of grace than we thought possible.

By learning and practicing Wabi Sabi Love you begin to accept the flaws, imperfections, and limitations – as well as the gifts and blessings – that form your shared history as a couple. Acceptance and its counterpart, understanding, are crucial to achieving relationship harmony.

It’s is sacred love, the highest form of love, and like most things worth striving for in life requires patience, commitment, personal responsibility, and practice. Imagine how great you will feel when you know your partner loves all of you, all the time? The good, the bad, and everything in between!

My soulmate of fourteen years, Brian, and I credit the success of our relationship to applying Wabi Sabi Love to everyday life.

If you want to have more love, fun, harmony, and passion while on your way to your soul mate relationship, I encourage you to order this book today ( There are several terrific free bonuses that come with it including audio workshops from John Gray, Harville Hendrix, Alison Armstrong and more!

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Shhhh…..A Confession and a Secret Revealed

After Brian and I got married I discovered that “manifesting a soulmate” was the easy part.

The hard part was just beginning.

I was totally clueless about creating a great relationship. After 44 years of being single, I was used to having my own way (all of the time) and since I managed skip over having a “starter marriage” I had zero experience in “partnership.”

One day I found myself being particularly pushy.  I witnessed myself pointing my right index finger in Brian’s face (left hand on left hip) ragging him out about something…..and I was shocked!  OMG….what was I doing?

I quickly apologized and then in a flash of insight said to him, “the next time I get like this, and unfortunately there will be a next time, you have my permission to ask me “when did Sheila enter the room?” (Sheila is my brilliant, amazing, and some times overbearing Mom)

Brian instantly got it and said to me, “And the next time I am getting too patronizing, you can call me Wayne.” (his much beloved Dad.) This was the amazing beginning of our dedication to practicing Wabi Sabi Love in our relationship…a way to offset problems and allow in more love.

Now you may be thinking….what the heck is Wabi Sabi?

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Sex With Your Ex: Bad Idea?

Make-up sex. Break up sex. Mercy sex. Drive by sex. It’s easy sex. I just gotta have some sex. It’s better than nothing sex. Friends with benefits sex. Maybe this time it will be different sex.

Sound familiar?

These are just a few of the countless reasons why we might fall into bed with an Ex-lover. Unless a miracle has occurred, and your Ex has suddenly become your perfect right partner, having sex with your Ex is a mistake.


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Wabi Sabi Love: New Book Announcement!

Twenty years ago I came across an art magazine article with a striking black and white photograph of a large Asian urn sitting on a pedestal, with a long crooked crack down the middle. The crack was highlighted by gallery lighting! Huh? It did not compute. The headline read “The Art of Wabi Sabi.”

Curious, I began reading about this exotic sounding phrase. Wabi Sabi is the ancient Japanese art form of finding perfection and beauty in imperfection. The urn in the photograph was, in the world of Wabi Sabi, even more beautiful and valued because of the crack, because of its imperfection.

It would take me another few years to realize the true significance of what I read in that article two decades prior…that Wabi Sabi is the answer to the universal dilemma and struggle of living and ultimately loving another person! (A flawed person, I might add, but aren’t we all?).

Wabi Sabi is the answer to finding beauty and grace in things modest, humble, and unconventional. It is the way to finding these things even in the ordinary. Simply put: Wabi Sabi holds the key to everlasting love.

The truth of how this art form relates to soulmate love didn’t come right away. Still, the impact of seeing Wabi Sabi as it related to beauty and life was immediate for me. So many things began to make sense.

I mean, I knew I wasn’t perfect and wasn’t capable of perfection, but I had never entertained the idea that not only should I NOT strive for perfection, but that my imperfection is and was in its own way more valuable than perfection itself. In terms of my own personal growth and wisdom-seeking, this was a huge emotional and spiritual payday!

I decided then and there to become a Wabi Sabi artisan.

I found it relatively easy to practice Wabi Sabi. I could choose to enjoy and appreciate the little quirks and imperfections of my friends, clients, and employees. Or, I could choose to eliminate them from my daily life altogether.

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Manifesting in Baby Steps

I completed writing my eighth book and I’m feeling a mixture of elation and fulfillment while I am also present to a sense of ease and grace. I began the process one year ago with the writing of the book proposal.

At that time I knew the title and I had a broad idea of what the book would be about but I didn’t have any confidence that I could actually write it.

Writing The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction was rather effortless because it only required that I remember the sequence and details of the steps I took to manifest Brian. All of the material already existed in my memory and in my product

I was about to tackle a subject that had never been written about before and I would need to reveal deeply personal things about my relationship with Brian to make the book authentic and believable. Yikes!

The book, entitled Wabi Sabi Love: Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships, reveals that Wabi Sabi is an ancient Japanese art form that finds beauty and perfection in imperfection.

Wabi Sabi Love is the art and practice of loving the imperfections in ourselves and in our partner. It is not mere acceptance or denial of the things that may annoy us or even drive us crazy but rather a deep and profound appreciation for the uniqueness of each other.

As I began to write the book proposal I found myself frozen at the prospect of sharing my thoughts about this obscure art form and layering it into the world of relationship and marriage. Even though I had personally practiced Wabi Sabi in my life for decades, no one I knew had even heard of it. So, I asked myself a very important question:

What do I need to do to manifest a beautiful book that will be coded with love and wisdom? A book that offers encouragement to couples?

My inner guidance gave me this answer: Find a way to believe you were born to write this book and create a support team to help you.

And that is exactly what I did. I went online to do some research on Wabi Sabi which led me to an article on the subject by Robin Rice , who I then immediately contacted. It turned out that not only is Robin well versed in Wabi Sabi, she has a soulmate relationship and she is a coach!

Within a few sessions I was well on my way to knowing and believing I was meant to write this book. Next I enrolled my husband Brian to be one of my editors on the book and asked my brilliant sister Debbie to provide guidance. Brian then reminded me that my friend, author Christine Hohlbaum, also in a soulmate marriage, would be a perfect freelance editor to work with and thus my support team took shape.

Harper One (publisher of The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction ) bought the proposal and gave me 10 months to deliver the book. (Right now the publication date is set for January 2012 ­ more than year away.)

Early on I decided to write 500 words a day, 5 days a week. Usually I write in the early evening after dinner and on the weekends. I also put a sign on my desk with the name of the book and these words “Let It Be Easy”.

Each day when I sat down to write I would do a short feelingization and then ask myself, what is the next step? Sometimes I would pick up the phone and call a friend and tell them what I was writing about and ask if they knew anyone with a great marriage that I could contact for a possible “Wabi Sabi Story”, or, I would Google a particular word or person and generally whatever was “next” would make itself known.

Manifesting this book was fun, creative, challenging at moments and ultimately very gratifying. Whether it’s a new job, a new love, or a new book, the steps of manifestation are always the same:

1) Have clarity in your intention.

2) Believe and trust you can achieve it.

3) Go into action.

What step can you take today to begin make one of your dreams come true?

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love