What Men Want (Really!)

According to a recent “Atlantic Monthly” article, not only are there more singles than ever in history, but

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(according to this article) dating and mating have never been tougher especially for women.

I asked my friend and relationship expert, Carol Allen, for her thoughts on this topic and to share with you a remarkable new series she has created on “what men want.” Here’s what she has to say and a preview to what she has discovered on this topic:

In terms of romantic opportunities, it’s more of a “man’s world” than ever, but don’t panic!

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Wabi Sabi Love: New Book Announcement!

Twenty years ago I came across an art magazine article with a striking black and white photograph of a large Asian urn sitting on a pedestal, with a long crooked crack down the middle. The crack was highlighted by gallery lighting! Huh? It did not compute. The headline read “The Art of Wabi Sabi.”

Curious, I began reading about this exotic sounding phrase. Wabi Sabi is the ancient Japanese art form of finding perfection and beauty in imperfection. The urn in the photograph was, in the world of Wabi Sabi, even more beautiful and valued because of the crack, because of its imperfection.

It would take me another few years to realize the true significance of what I read in that article two decades prior…that Wabi Sabi is the answer to the universal dilemma and struggle of living and ultimately loving another person! (A flawed person, I might add, but aren’t we all?).

Wabi Sabi is the answer to finding beauty and grace in things modest, humble, and unconventional. It is the way to finding these things even in the ordinary. Simply put: Wabi Sabi holds the key to everlasting love.

The truth of how this art form relates to soulmate love didn’t come right away. Still, the impact of seeing Wabi Sabi as it related to beauty and life was immediate for me. So many things began to make sense.

I mean, I knew I wasn’t perfect and wasn’t capable of perfection, but I had never entertained the idea that not only should I NOT strive for perfection, but that my imperfection is and was in its own way more valuable than perfection itself. In terms of my own personal growth and wisdom-seeking, this was a huge emotional and spiritual payday!

I decided then and there to become a Wabi Sabi artisan.

I found it relatively easy to practice Wabi Sabi. I could choose to enjoy and appreciate the little quirks and imperfections of my friends, clients, and employees. Or, I could choose to eliminate them from my daily life altogether.

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New Moon + Solar Eclipse + Magical Fire Ceremony = Big Love

I’ve learned that some days are more auspicious than others for attracting our heart’s desires. Fourteen years ago when I was actively manifesting my soulmate, Brian, I created a specific fire ceremony to release my “soulmate wish list” and I purposely did it on a Friday when there was also a New Moon.

I love Friday’s because that day belongs to Venus, Goddess of love and beauty. And, I love a New Moon because it’s the best time of the lunar cycle to begin all things “new.” There is a powerful New Moon in Cancer on Friday, July 1st, 2011, and it comes [during?] a Solar Eclipse.

On this day, when the Sun and the Moon are together in the sign of Cancer, it’s symbolic of the joining together of the masculine and feminine energies. According to Vedic astrologer and relationship expert, Carol Allen, this is a highly auspicious time to release your soulmate wish list and it’s a beautiful time to do spiritual practices because “we are more attuned to the more subtle energies, more intuitive and it’s a perfect time to manifest new love.”

On this special New Moon night, I will be leading a special fire ceremony during my Soulmate Secret workshop at Omega as part of my weekend workshop, (for more info Click Here! ) that is designed to bring forth healing as well as calling in the energies for manifesting a life-long partner.

If you have a safe place to make a small fire where you live (with a BBQ grill, a fire pit or some safe container) then you can follow this format and create your own New Moon ritual!  Imagine your intentions included with all those at Omega event in a powerful vortex of Big Love Attraction.  I hope you will join us.

You can do this ceremony by yourself but you will have more fun if you create a mini event yourself. Invite a few friends over and form a circle around the fire. One by one call in support from the Divine, God, Goddess, Source, Spirit, the Universe, the Archangels, Guardian Angels, etc.

Always start with a prayer, and end with a prayer that is coupled with gratitude that your prayers and intentions have already been heard and answered. (Please note that if you are doing this in a group no one is obligated to speak during a Fire Ceremony. Anyone can participate without stating what they are releasing or calling forth.)

The Fire Ceremony is done in three rounds.

Round 1: Begin by making a sacred offering to Mother Earth and to the higher power. This can be as simple as offering some sage to the fire, or some of the food that you ate for dinner that night. Each participant will say a silent prayer of gratitude for all the things they are most grateful and appreciative of in that moment.

Round Two: The focus in on  your prayer for your hearts to be healed of anything that stands in the way of manifesting your soulmate. Write this on a small, clean piece of paper and offer it to the fire. The prayer request will burn, turn to smoke and release into the ethers. This allows the energy of the past to move along to its highest spiritual progression path as we bring in the healing energies.

Round 3: Now is the time for the prayer for “new” love (or if you are already with your soulmate you can use this ceremony to create a new career or new results in some area of life). On a clean sheet of paper write down your desire and then offer it to the fire, knowing, feeling and trusting that the result you have asked for is already yours.

Many find it empowering to recite this prayer during or at the end of your ceremony:

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The Jim Carrey School of Manifesting

I was recently watching Jim Carrey on the Jay Leno show where he was promoting his new film, Mr. Poppers Penguins. Hilarious as always, Jim became very thoughtful when Jay asked him what he attributed his success to.

Jim Carrey then told the most remarkable story….he explained that when he first arrived in Los Angeles, he was doing his best to launch his career as a standup comedian. He would drive around the city like a madman every night to perform at as many as three times a night in three different clubs. Then, late at night, he would drive up to Mulholland Drive and park in a place where he could see the lights of Hollywood.

As he sat in his car he would visualize that he was the biggest star in the world. That the best scripts were being sent to him, along with the best offers. And he would feel would it would feel like to be super successful. On Thanksgiving 1995 he wrote himself a check in the amount of $10 million dollars and put on the memo line: for acting services rendered. Six months later, that is the exact amount he was paid to star in the film The Cable Guy. The rest is history.

Jim Carrey wasn’t sitting home wishing and hoping or buying into the myth “if it’s meant to be it will happen,” he was actively co-creating his career with the Universe.

Have you bought into the myth “if I am meant to be with my soulmate, they will find me.” Does this really make sense?

Imagine that you need to find a new job, would you simply sit on your couch saying, “if it’s meant to be for me to have a job, it will come find me?”

Of course not.

You have the power and ability to manifest a soulmate, and so much more.

To manifest your soulmate here are eight things you can begin doing today:

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Your LOVE Jackpot – You’re Closer Than You Think

I know you might be feeling tired, frustrated or disappointed when it comes to your love life.

I wanted to share this inspiring true story that’s sure to shed some light on your experience – chances are you’re much closer than you think to hitting your LOVE jackpot.

I also have a special announcement I want to share aboutmy upcoming LIVE 5-Week Soulmate Secret Telecourse that starts Wednesday, June 8th.

Back to the story…

During the California Gold Rush in the 1800s there was a prospector named Mr. Darby who spent weeks with a pick and a shovel digging for gold ore. He found a fair amount in a short time. He then went backin search of the mother-lode. He dug and dug but couldn’t find any more gold.

He decided to give up and sold his equipment to a junkman and went home. The junkman decided to call in an expert, a mining engineer, for help.

The engineer checked the mine and calculated that there wasa vein of gold just three feet from where Mr. Darby had stopped digging. Just three feet!

The junkman went on to make millions!

I share this story with you because you could be just three feet away from your Soulmate and you don’t even know it. Maybe it’s time for you to have your own “expert” help you discover the Soulmate who may be closer than you think!

Thomas Edison was fond of saying that inspiration was only one-percent of success and the other ninety-nine percent was hard work. So many people give up on their dreams and desires when they are literally within reach of the finish line.

What if you are just three feet from your Soulmate gold?

What if all that’s been missing is the guidance, support and step-by-step system you need to access the power to manifest the love of your life this summer?

I’m excited to announce, in response to the overwhelming number of requests I’ve received to teach my Soulmate Secret process in a virtual format, I’m going to be teaching a LIVE virtual 5-WeekTelecourse starting next Wednesday, June 8th.

I will personally guide you and hold your hand through the process of manifesting true and lasting love.

The Soulmate Secret: A 5-Week Course to Manifest
The Love of your Life

I have designed the course to be a step-by-step process to fully support you to get clear, release what’s been holding you back, and master the process of manifestation so that you can raise your love vibration to attract your soulmate.

You can get all the details and register here.

In this course, you’ll join me and my exclusive, online Soulmate Secret learning community each week to learn and apply the simple, secret techniques to manifest your soulmate.

You’ll not only receive my live instruction on manifesting your Soulmate, you’ll do so in an environment that’s supportive, encouraging and fun with other committed Soulmate manifestation partners who will support you every step of the way.

I’ll teach you my proven step-by-step process for creating clarity, anticipation and a powerful intention around what I call “Big Love.”

You’ll also learn powerful ways to unhook the past by cutting the love-blocking energetic cords that bind you to go-nowhere relationships.

I’ll show you how to prepare your heart and home so that you can magnetize the right person to you and be ready when the much-awaited day comes when you finally meet your Soulmate.

These are the very same processes I used to manifest my husband Brian, and that thousands of singles have used to manifest their beloved.

You’ll also get the inside tips, the secret sauce, and my bestt echniques that I know WORK, some of which I’ve never shared before.

Find out more.

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Stop Depriving The World of Your LOVE!

Recently, in a large city in France, a poster featuring a young, thin and tan woman appeared in the window of a gym. It said, “This summer, do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?”

A middle-aged woman, whose physical characteristics did not match those of the woman on the poster, responded publicly to the question posted by the gym.

To Whom It May Concern:

Whales are always surrounded by friends…dolphins, sea lions, curious humans.

They have an active sex life, get pregnant and have adorable baby whales. They have a wonderful time with dolphins stuffing themselves with shrimp. They play and swim in the seas, seeing wonderful places like Patagonia, the Bering Sea and the coral reefs of Polynesia. Whales are wonderful singers and have even recorded CDs. They are incredible creatures and virtually have no predators other than humans.

They are loved, protected and admired by almost everyone in the world.

Mermaids don’t exist. If they did exist, they would be lining up outside the offices of psychoanalysts due to an identity crisis. Fish or human? They don’t have a sex life because they kill men who get close to them, not to mention how could they have sex? Just look at them … where is IT? Therefore, they don’t have kids either. Not to mention, who wants to get close to a girl who smells like a fish store?

The choice is perfectly clear to me: I want to be a whale.

I share this story for those of you who still believe you won’t deserve your soulmate until you lose a certain amount of weight or change some part of your physical appearance. Your soulmate is searching for a real person with real love to share not some half-starved, insecure, specimen of Madison Avenue’s standard of perfection. Stop hiding out behind your excuses (or over-indulgence in junk food) and commit today to loving yourself enough to magnetize your soulmate to you.

Now, more than ever, Planet Earth needs your love – the blissful love of self-loving, self-nurturing singles as well as happy couples beaming more love to everyone and everything around them. Stop depriving the world of your love and join the whales.

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My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Are You Too Busy For Love?

Spring is in the air…..which means that summer is right around the corner– the time of year when I get the most requests for workshops….

That’s why I’m excited to announce that for the very first time ever, I will be sharing my very best love magic in a 5 Week LIVE Telecourse that I have designed so that I can take you by the hand, and guide you step-by-step, to assist you manifesting your heart’s desire….your soulmate, your lover for life, your best friend and partner.

Find out all the details here:

The Soulmate Secret: A Five Week Course To Manifest the Love of Your Life

It begins on Wednesday, June 8th and it includes many new tools and processes for clearing the blocks to love that I’ve never shared before, so that you can raise your love vibration and become a magnet for love.

And, if you register by Thursday, May 26th you’ll be able to participate in a very special bonus workshop featuring my wise and beloved friends Joan Borysenko, Victoria Moran and Christine Arylo. It’s called:

Making the Time and Space for Love: How to Reduce Stress and Overwhelm to Raise Your Love Vibration

This panel of experts will show you proven ways to make more time for YOU (and your love life), and add more pleasure to your life right now.

If you are ready to say YES to LOVE, YES to making your dreams of love and happiness a reality, then please visit www.soulmatesecretcourse.com

As someone who stays really busy, I know how crazy life can get. I often have items on my “To-Do” list that I really believe are important to me but somehow they never seem to get done….I just get “too busy.”

Eventually I get honest with myself and ask “do you really desire this or not?” And, if the answer is YES, this is my desire, I will find a way to manage my time or I will take it off my “To-Do” list.

If manifesting a soulmate is something that you say is a major priority for you….and it’s been on your list for more than two years and nothing seems to be happening, chances are you have been “too busy.”

So…my questions to you are this: Are you willing, open and available for a long-term, committed relationship with a soulmate? If your answer is yes, then I would ask you, “are you willing to make a commitment to focusing on love and receiving some help and some support?”

When I hear success stories from my students, I always ask them what they did that made a difference for them. Usually they tell me a few specific processes or rituals from the book or a workshop they attended with me.

And then I ask them, “Who did you have in your life who supported you or held you accountable for making your dream come true?” Most of them had a friend, or a buddy or a coach that joined them in supporting their dream.

There is plenty of research that proves that having a support system is a necessary ingredient to success, whether it’s getting into shape, overcoming an addiction, a disease, or climbing the corporate ladder. For the next five weeks, let me hold your hand on the path to love.

Plus, there are a ton of other great bonuses I’ve created exclusively for participants of my upcoming 5 week Telecourse, including virtual workshops facilitated by my sister, Debbie Ford, EFT Tapping expert Nick Ortner & Internationally acclaimed dating expert and “man whisperer” Lauren Frances. Find out all the details here. Click Here:

The Soulmate Secret: A Five Week Course To Manifest the Love of Your Life

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

The Love You Seek Is Already Yours

Manifesting becomes effortless when you have a clear intention that resonates in every cell of your body.

This week allow yourself to remember why it is that you desire a soulmate.

Consider how you, and your life, will be more enriched when you are sharing your daily life with your beloved.

What is that you have to offer your soulmate?

What is it that you most want to share with them?

What is it that you most seek from the relationship?

As you ponder these questions allow yourself to have an experience of present moment awareness where you can feel what it feels like to be sharing your life, right now, with your soulmate.

Make this a daily practice. As you continue to focus your intention and attention on your heart’s desire, knowing that what you’ve asked for is ALREADY yours, you magnetize it to you.

If you’d like more information on how to really understand and execute this mindset or would love more support around the concept of manifesting your heart’s desire, please listen in on this free recording.

During this recording, I revealed the 3 KEYS to using the same simple, secret techniques I used to manifest my soulmate and husband Brian so that you can manifest YOUR true love.

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I will show you how to manifest true love and magnetize your soulmate into your life!

If it is hard for you to FEEL your way into your future wedding, be sure to check out The Soul Mate Kit, you will find countless exercises to help you get over the obstacles and find your soulmate.

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

A Mystical Process For Clues To Your Soulmate

When my nephew Beau was a little boy (he’s now 16!) he would often announce to those around him that he was “busy playing with his imagination.” This was his way of telling us not to disturb him.

We can all learn something from Beau: playing with your imagination is a powerful way to activate the Law of Attraction. Here’s a fun way to bring some new juice to your soulmate manifestation process:

Take 15 minutes and find a place where you can be completely undisturbed. Find a comfortable place to sit and close your eyes.

Breathe deeply and slowly for a minute or two. Let your shoulders drop, let the tension in your body drift away and then thank yourself for taking this time to have a little fun.

I want you to use your imagination to go into the future.

First pick a year and a season for instance you could use Winter 2012 or whatever time frame comes to you.

Now imagine that it is a Saturday morning. You are asleep but you can observe yourself.

What do the sheets look like? What are you wearing? What time of morning is it?

You are about to wake up (Don’t open your eyes yet) but you know that your soulmate is sleeping next to you with his or her back toward you.

Allow yourself to simply feel the presence of another in the bed with you.

What are you feeling? Where in your body are you feeling it?

Savor these feelings as you continue to breathe slowly.

Your soulmate is sound asleep, but you are beginning to wake up.

Now, with your imagination, begin to remember the plans the two of you have for the weekend. You can’t see the face of your beloved, simply use your imagination to remember one of the events for the weekend that you are looking forward to.

As you see this event, give it details. What will you be wearing? Where will you two be going? What is the weather like? What will be the most memorable part of the event?

This can be any part of the weekend ­ from breakfast in bed, to lunch on the patio, to a walk on the beach, a hike in the woods, a bike ride, grocery shopping, painting the spare room. Whatever event your imagination serves up to you is just perfect.

As you are observing you & your beloved (you can either see the back of their head of feel them behind you but no need to try and see their face) in this event, pick out three details to remember: maybe a color of something around you, a scent in the air, and most importantly an enjoyable feeling.

Now notice where in your body that feeling is located and take a moment to spread that feeling throughout your body. Continue to breathe deeply and slowly and see yourself in this event closing your eyes.

It’s now time to come back to the present moment.

Feel your body sitting in the chair, feel your feet on the ground.

Notice the temperature of the room.

And when you are ready, open your eyes.

You have played with your imagination to reach into your future. The important thing to take away from this exercise is the feelings you experienced. You can tap into them at any time as a reminder that your soulmate exists.

Want to try another FAB Magical Manifesting Tool?  Click Here for the Love Mandala and magnetize yourself to Love: Send My Mandala

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

After Glow of The Royal Wedding

Last Friday Brian and I woke up around 6:15 am in the morning and immediately turned on the television just in time to see “The Kiss.”

We were fortunate to catch the start of a 40-minute recap of the Royal Wedding.

(For those of you who have been sitting in a cave meditating, Prince William and Kate married in a fairytale wedding at Westminster Abbey surrounded by royalty, family, friends, and heads of state.)

There was so much about this event that I just loved:

Her dress was stunning, elegant and absolute perfection.

The setting was spectacular and the hats perched atop the stylish heads were so amusing!

I loved the intimate looks of love exchanged between bride and groom, and of course the carriage ride was straight out of a fairytale.

And, how fun was it to see them in the Aston-Martin convertible as they left Buckingham Palace?

I was also deeply touched that in lieu of wedding gifts, they requested that donations be made to a long list of charities and good causes.

All in all, a beautifully orchestrated wedding.

As I watched the day unfold, I remember feeling immense joy and inspiration knowing that I was aligned with billions of other fellow humans who were also basking in the love and possibility of love that this marriage offers.

I believe Will & Kate are soulmates who are deeply connected and committed to each other. During the past eight years they have matured and grown together and I predict they will be role models for their generation (and generations to come).

At a time on the planet that is filled with so much bad news, devastation, and cynicism, this uplifting wedding offered a wonderful reminder that by sharing and observing the wedding rituals and celebrating a marriage, we can all tap into the power of love. Thanks to the Prince and his Princess!

Want to try a Magical Manifesting Tool?  Click Here for the Love Mandala and magnetize yourself to Love: Send My Mandala

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love