Throw yourself a Pity Party

I want you to think of your 3 most prominent negative beliefs or stories about WHY you are not already with your soulmate.

Is it because someone has betrayed you and you have a belief that all Men (or women) lie or cheat or something like that?

Is one of your beliefs or stories that there is something wrong with you and that is the cause of your aloneness?

Or do you believe that you are too old or too fat or too broke or too damaged?

Lets take just a few minutes and think about your 3 most predominant beliefs or stories….then, if you are willing to finally overcome these stories, do this exercise.

Write down the entire story and make a strong argument for why it is absolutely your TRUTH.

Give every ugly detail and feel free to exaggerate it and make it even worse than you remember.

Read through this a few times and then burn the pages as you say this prayer:

Dear God, Goddess and All That Is,    

I am now willing to release this story about why I cannot have Big Love in my life.

I am now willing to forgive and let go of this completely.

In this moment I give thanks that my heart and mind are now being healed from these past beliefs, stories and wounds.

I am grateful for this healing and I am now open, willing and available to have deep love in my life.

And so it is.  

Then sit down and write a new story, in which your former beliefs existed to prepare you for Big Love.

For instance, I once had a boyfriend, Joe, who was extremely controlling, constantly lied to me, and cheated on me.

For years after the relationship ended I felt the pain of this experience….until I did the pity party process.

When I did this process my new story became this:

Because of my experience with the lying, cheating, controlling Joe, I have now learned that I deserve to be loved, cherished and adored by a man who is honest, trustworthy and faithful.

Being with Joe was an important piece of my personal growth so I can now forgive him, forgive myself and I am grateful for the experience.

I then wrote out how wonderful my next relationship would be, how satisfied and content and loved I felt in this new relationship.

Are you ready to let go of your old story?

Are you ready to write your new story….the story that will magnetize to you the love of your life?

This process is just one of the many things we will be doing in my upcoming Soulmate Secret 7 Week Online Course.

To discover more about this I will be hosting a free preview call on May 16th, register here.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Is Your Pet One of Your Soulmates?

My definition of a soulmate is: someone you can completely be yourself with. Someone with whom you share unconditional love and when you look into their eyes you have the experience of being “home.”

If you accept this definition, you can begin to acknowledge ALL the soulmates already in your life. It may be your kids, parents, siblings, friends, and co-workers AND it can also be your pets.

Not every pet is a soulmate, just as not every friend or relative feels like a soulmate, but when you have one, you know it. There is a special heart connection that is undeniable.

One of my feline soulmates, our beautiful heart chakra on paws, Sheba, left us this morning from stomach cancer. Sheba arrived in our back yard 9 years ago and adopted us. She was a BIG SPIRIT, a sweet indoor/outdoor explorer who lived in my office. She was my brilliant muse and companion. She had a passion for cashmere sweaters to sleep on and Brian spoiled her every day by providing a buffet of different tasty delights for her to eat. For a skinny cat she had a huge appetite. We are so grateful she chose us as her family and we knew she loved us as much as we loved her.

Take some time today to make a list of all the soulmates you already have in your life and think about ways to let them know how important they are to you.

One of the fastest ways to become magnetic to a romantic soulmate is to begin to appreciate all the love you already have in your life. Start sharing your love.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

The 3 steps to getting ANY guy to commit to you (+ a present for you!)

This year something big is happening. 

My friend Matthew Hussey, the star of NBC’s new show Ready For Love is quickly becoming famous in America.

If you haven’t heard of him yet, you soon will.

Eva Longoria read his brand new book and called him “a genius who has cracked the code on men and relationships.”

He’s blowing up.

Luckily for us, I knew him BEFORE he got big ; )

He created a system to get women a date with the guy they want within 30 days, and then keep him! It gives you the behind the scenes secrets to how men think, and how to have your ideal guy chasing you for a relationship.

It’s a fool-proof guide for transforming the state of your love life.

The great news for us is that he’s put his famous advice in his brand new book ‘Get The Guy’, available on Amazon now.

EXCITING NEWS FOR YOU…

As a present for my followers, I have a free chapter from his book for you to read.

In this free chapter, you’ll learn:

– Why he thinks he’s not ready to commit
– Why men say they can’t commit and then marry the next woman they meet
– The 3 tips to get ANY man to commit (even if right now he’s unsure)

This free chapter is a genuine MUST read.

There’s no catch, just enjoy this chapter from the book. If you want the rest, feel free to grab a copy of your own!

Why Cupid Is Depressed

I ran into Cupid the other day and he was depressed and blue

Why?

Because his quiver is overflowing with arrows that he hasn’t been able to deliver.
You see, many of you have carefully followed the steps in The Soulmate Secret, and Cupid is ready to deliver your soulmate to you……..but you are making it impossible for him.

Here’s a story he shared with me that totally represents what he is up against:

“About ten months ago Sheryl wrote out her soulmate wish-list, created a beautiful wish-list release ceremony for herself on the night of a new moon, and then she cleared out the clutter in her heart and her home and made lot of space for her soon-to-come beloved. 

Sheryl also made time to do a lovely daily feelingization where she reconnected with deep feelings of love, appreciation and gratitude. She practiced “living as if” and “savoring the waiting” and she even did some online dating.  

I was so impressed with her dedication that I decided to help her.

So….I went out and found a man that I am 100% certain is the “one” for her…his name is Jake. He’s amazing….everything she is asking for!

First, I arranged for them to meet in the park. Sheryl likes to speed walk several mornings each week in the same park where Jake likes to run. One morning as they were about to pass each other, Jake slowed down to give Sheryl a big welcoming smile and say hello….only Sheryl didn’t see or hear him because she was so busy talking on her cell phone. A few days later I tried again. Same result. 

Who is she talking to so early in the morning???

I noticed that after her run, Sheryl went to a local organic coffee cafe just outside the park for her decaf soy latte with extra foam. 

Hmmm, I thought. Tom loves coffee, lets give him an intense craving and send him over there as well.

Tom ended up standing behind Sheryl in the line at the counter. He immediately recognized her as the cute woman he had seen in the park. He wanted to talk to her but she had her ear-buds in and she was super busy reading and responding to email on her iPhone. She never looked up or around she was just totally focused on her email. Tom couldn’t think of a way to break into her world so he began to look around to see who else was in the cafe…..”

With tears in his eyes, Cupid final words to me were, “they would have been so happy together.”

As I listened to Cupid’s massive frustration, I just knew I had to share this story with you.

Your soulmate is out there.

They want you as much as you want them.

They are not going to randomly come knocking on your door.

You are going to meet them outside in the real world, and you can’t do that if you are focused on talking, texting, emailing or playing a game on your smart-phone.

Please… you have to pay attention!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. What if you could “find love” simply by helping others find the love of their lives? There’s an interesting dynamic in life where you can get more of what you want by helping others get what they want.

 

For example: if you wanted to lose weight, imagine how much easier and motivated you would be if you were coaching and inspiring others to lose weight. You would naturally become more fit yourself and in fact, you would become an expert at losing weight.

 

Well, what if you wanted to find the love of your life? Imagine how much easier it would be if you were coaching others on how to find the love of their lives. So, how do you learn how to coach and influence others? Well, I’ve got 5 free videos from my friend Christy Whitman (who is happily married to the soulmate she manifested with the Law of Attraction) who will show you exactly how to do this.

Go here to watch all of them for free.

 

Karma, Fate, Destiny & You!

 I believe that certain parts of life are meant to remain a mystery.   When I think about karma, fate, and destiny they appear to be related.

When I think about intention and co-creating with the Universe, they are also related.

And, I feel that there is a higher power at work balancing out how things show up for us in life.  The glue that holds it all together for me is faith and trust that this higher power knows more than me and has my best interests at heart.

So, while I often actively utilize the Law of Attraction in my life, I also am at peace knowing that I won’t always get my desires fulfilled exactly the way I envision them.  With faith and trust I know that “this or something better” is on the way to me.

For example, in 1984 I was fired from a job in Miami that I had been heavily pursued for.  I had just left one great job thinking that I was entering my all time dream position.  And then, three months later I was fired.  It was a devastating shock.  I didn’t see it coming.

At the time I thought it was the worst thing that had ever happened to me.  Today, I count it as one of the top three best things that ever happened.  Because of that incident I made decisions to make changes that ultimately led me to the life I have today.  I am beyond grateful for that big kick in the butt I got!

And, like many of you, I had some really heartbreaking love affairs that didn’t work out. Today I am so happy they didn’t. In order for me to experience the love I have now, I see  the gifts of those painful relationships.  I uncovered wounds in myself that needed healing and I grew in the ability to love myself and love others.  All of which was essential to my future happiness.

As you work with the Law of Attraction to manifest your soulmate, I want you to remember that you may meet some frogs and toads along the way.  This doesn’t mean it’s not working!  It just means “something better is on the way.”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Someone To Grow Old With

In the movie, Shall We Dance, starring Richard Gere, Jennifer Lopez and Susan Sarandon, there is a terrific scene where Sarandon ‘s character is sitting at a bar explaining to a stranger why being married is important.  She says,

“We need a witness to our lives.  There are billions of people on the planet…I mean, what does any one life really mean?  But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything – the good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things – all of it, all the time, every day.

You’re saying, “Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it.  Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness.”

For the 65% of Baby Boomers who are married, this ideal of marriage probably resonates. We DO want someone to share ourselves with and to eventually grow old with.  Even for those Boomers who have divorced, most seek to remarry… to find a new lover, best friends, and partner for life.

But things are changing.

There is a disturbing trend happening today around marriage and commitment. One study shows that 39% of Americans say that marriage is becoming obsolete. It appears that marriage has lost its appeal for the younger generations, especially the Millennials (the 18-29-year-olds).  They are pro-parenthood but anti-marriage.

According to Pew Research Center, right now 61% of births to women 20-24 are out of wedlock while one in three births for women 25-29 are to unwed mothers.

Why?

According to Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse, president of the Ruth Institute for Marriage and Family:

“Women don’t think men are necessary.  Therefore, they are unwilling to go to the effort required to be in a relationship with a man.”

Clearly these are women who have not experienced the beauty and magic of a relationship that works.  A relationship where two people choose to share a life together and to make a commitment to work through all the ups and downs, good days and bad days.

What will it take to convince the younger generation that marriage isn’t obsolete? I think they need to hear from those who are happily married all the reasons why they find marriage valuable.  Role models are needed and necessary, and clearly at this point in time, missing….

We’ve become a disposable society, not just with our trash, but also with the people in our lives.  If a relationship becomes difficult we declare, “this isn’t working for me” and move on.  We treat our cars better than people.  At least with our cars we know and expect that they need regular maintenance – the oil needs changing, the tires rotating and brakes need replacing.  And yet, even with the people closest to us, so many of us seem unwilling to put in a little time, energy and effort into working through our issues.

I believe a big part of this problem is that we aren’t born with the innate knowledge on how to make a relationship work and our partners don’t come with an “owner’s manual.”

Here’s the bottom line….we’re all going to get old someday.

We can do it alone or we can make the effort to manifest a soulmate and then nurture them and have a best friend to share our golden years with.  Even if you haven’t met “the one” yet, it’s never too early to learn the needed skills so that you can experience Big Love.

As that commercial says, this is an experience that is “priceless.”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. The good news is that all the tools and tips we need to create an extraordinary, deep, loving, juicy relationship ALREADY EXISTS!

I spent the last six months researching and interviewing the top love and relationship experts on the planet for my Art of Love Series, which recently concluded.  These powerful love luminaries included John Gray, don Miguel Ruiz, Alison Armstrong, Neale Donald Walsch, Jack Canfield, Marianne Williamson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Helen Fisher, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Gay & Katie Hendricks, Jean Houston and more.

If you didn’t have a chance to tune in for this, don’t despair.  You can own the entire series for a special 50% off price ($97 or four payments of $25) that is in effect until Midnight pacific time on March 7th.  Click here for all the details

Monkey Mind Management 101

We’ve all been there…..the days when we spiral down convinced that life just isn’t going our way… that we are undeserving of love, or the new job, or the thing we are most wishing for.

Our mind goes into overdrive, some would call it a negative feedback loop, and we keep replaying the negativity over and over again, convinced our mind is telling us the truth.
BUT….just because you have a thought does not mean it’s true!

It’s up to us to begin to manage our thoughts and emotions and there are ways to do this but it requires a little time and attention.

When you find yourself having negative thoughts, try these techniques:

1)    Stop what you are doing and acknowledge to yourself what you are thinking…internally (or out loud) say “cancel-cancel.”

2)    Then take time to do a feelingization (go to www.soulmatesecret.com and scroll down to the Love Magnet video) to move from your monkey mind to your heart and begin to feel love, appreciation and gratitude.  Remember, you attract MORE of what you are grateful for!

3)    Now create a positive affirmation that FEELS GOOD IN YOUR BODY.  Statements such as: I am a kind and loving being or I am grateful for all the love in my life right now.  Whatever statement feels most natural to you.  Write these on post-it notes and place where you can look at them daily.

I want to suggest that those of you who truly, deeply desire a soulmate that you begin to let go of your doubts of what is possible for you…..remember that the word “impossible” is really “I’m possible.”

One of my favorite quotes in Wayne Dyers book, WISHES FULFILLED, is from the great teacher, Neville, who said “Make your future dream a present fact by assuming the feeling of the wish fulfilled.”

I strongly encourage you to write this down and look at it daily. You deserve love and the one you are seeking is ALSO seeking you.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,
Arielle

P.S. Manifesting the soulmate is the first step, learning how to keep and grow the LOVE is step two – get ready now with The Art of Love Relationship Series (no cost to participate). Love luminaries such as John Gray, don Miguel Ruiz, Alison Armstrong, Neale Donald Walsch, Jack Canfield, Marianne Williamson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Helen Fisher, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Gay & Katie Hendricks, Craig Hamilton, Claire Zammit, Debbie Ford, Jean Houston and more show you how.
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The Art of Love

While I realize that many of you have your attention manifesting a soulmate…..have you thought about “once you are in the relationship” if you have all the necessary skills to navigate the days when things get a little bumpy or dare I say it, even a little boring?

As a first-time bride at age 44, I went into my soulmate relationship with no partnership skills…oy…and I learned how to have a great relationship through trial and error.  But, you don’t have to do it this way!

For the past few months I have been super busy programming a no-cost 10-day, online series called The Art of Love where I have the honor and privilege to guide the world’s top 50 love and relationship experts, who share the latest, cutting edge, transformative love skills through a series of workshops.

It begins on February 12th and features luminaries such as John Gray, don Miguel Ruiz, Alison Armstrong, Neale Donald Walsch, Jack Canfield, Marianne Williamson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Helen Fisher, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Gay & Katie Hendricks, Craig Hamilton, Claire Zammit, Debbie Ford, Jean Houston and more.

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I’ve designed this revolutionary program to help you get READY for love so that you  can heat up your own intimacy skills, learn productive conflict resolution, and much more. (Some days I just have to pinch myself because I can’t believe the amazing things I get to do in my life!)

Here is a sneak peek at what we will be covering:

  • Why incompatibility and conflict are important in a relationship.
  • Sure-fire ways to initiate sex and play.
  • One sentence that fixes almost everything.
  • When honesty isn’t the best policy.
  • The big fat lies that get in the way of love.
  • How reading 50 Shades of Grey gives permission to receive pleasure.
  • The “Wonder Move” to get your self unstuck fast.
  • Two things all men want (hint: it’s not sex).
  • How to invite God into your relationship.
  • The 5 short sentences that heal all wounds.
  • Why hugs, spa days and shopping lead to stronger orgasms in women.
  • And so much more…..

When I programmed and hosted the first version of this series, in the Fall of 2011, afterwards I felt like I had earned a Ph.D in Love.  What I discovered was invaluable to my relationship with Brian! I so wish I had known all of this at the beginning of my marriage instead of learning it the hard way!

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In each workshop I will draw out the most insightful wisdom from each and every transformative love luminary while keeping it easy to digest all of the hot tips. These experts will share their best practices about how to reawaken hot & steamy bedroom activities, navigate through relationship stress, create balance, break destructive patterns, sharpen your relationship-building skills, get what you really want from your beloved, add playfulness to your world, and much more!

Whether you’re dating, or in a new partnership, improving your relationship skills should be high on your TO DO LIST — YOU do have the power to bring change to your love life!

The Art of Love Relationship Series! <== Reserve Your Spot

I encourage you to take advantage of this opportunity right now and register for this no-cost event today.

I look forward to seeing you at The Art of Love Relationship Series!

Arielle

P.S. FYI, just for registering you have access to a Limited Time GIFT BAG filled with audio/video seminars and eBooks from Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt,      Dr. Diana Kirschner, Alison Armstrong, Sheri Meyers, Tammy Nelson, and Susie & Otto Collins. Plus you’ll be entered into a drawing to win your very own Art of Love iPod Nano!

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Can You Use The Law of Attraction To Attract Your Ex?

One of the most frequently asked requests I get is from people who want to know if they can use the Law of Attraction to make someone fall in love with them or to win back an Ex.

Would that work?

If you are a master at Law of Attraction, very possibly….however, I would caution you not to do this. Why? Karma baby!  The Law of Attraction is very powerful but you don’t want to use it as a form of black magic, or as a way to control, dominate, or manipulate anyone. And, it may not get you what you want in the long run.

Just because you think and feel someone is the “one” for you, that doesn’t make it so.  If it isn’t happening organically, or the circumstances are not right for them (they are already in a relationship, or they are choosing not to be with you) I suggest you focus your attention on attracting someone who is open, willing available to BE with you.

Here’s how to use the desire you are feeling towards the unavailable one:

Ask yourself this: What is it I am really wanting to feel and experience with this person?

Right now you are assuming that “having” this person is your only path to these feelings and experiences but reality is showing you that this is not true.

You don’t need to understand why you can’t have the person, but you do need to understand that the things you desire to feel and experience can be yours when you are willing to let go of what doesn’t serve you.

I know how painful it can be when you are yearning for someone who isn’t yearning for you.

Many years ago I was in a difficult relationship where I was constantly trying to make things work and they never did.  One day my friend said something to me that shocked me into reality.

“Trying to get “John” to love you is like asking a man with no arms to hold you.”

I instantly realized she was right.

It wasn’t even his fault.

He just didn’t have the capacity to love me.

Had I tried to use the Law of Attraction to keep him, I would have ended up miserable.

If you find yourself in this circumstance, take the time to uncover what you most want to feel and experience with a soulmate and then follow The Soulmate Secret (http://tinyurl.com/6tjvw8p) steps to love and make it happen.

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Soulmate Manifesting Tips From a Master

I recently read Wayne Dyers new book WISHES FULFILLED and fell in love with it.

In this brilliant book he says, “by using your imagination and practicing the art of assuming the feeling of your wishes being fulfilled, and steadfastly refusing to allow any evidence of the outer world to distract you from your intentions, you will discover that you, by virtue of your spiritual awareness, possess the ability to become the person you were destined to be. Wow!

The “feelings” of knowing and trusting that what you have asked for is already yours is the key to manifestation success!

Last week I interviewed Wayne on my radio show to discuss the book and the topic of “negative thoughts” came up…I shared with him that so many of my students get stuck in doubt, fear and negative thinking.

Wayne’s response was:

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