Two Minute LOVE fix!

A few weeks ago I was watching Grey’s Anatomy on TV and learned the most awesome thing!

Here was the scene: Dr. Amelia Shepard was standing in the surgical suite, about to perform a groundbreaking 17-hour brain surgery on a colleague.  She was scared out of her mind because if anything went wrong, her friend would die on the table.

Wonder Woman smallWhen her assistant arrived, she told her to stand with her feet shoulder width apart, hands on hips, chest and chin up in “wonder woman” pose for two minutes. Both women assumed the “wonder woman” position and by doing this simple act it gave them both the courage they needed to tackle the surgery. And, of course as great TV goes, it worked!

I began to wonder if this “wonder woman” pose was for real, so I did some research.  Turns out it is based in fact!  You can instantly re-claim your power and confidence by standing in “wonder woman” pose for just two minutes. Social psychologist, Ann Cuddy, has proven this works!  (check out her TED talk)

The next time you have to have a “difficult” conversation with a loved one or someone at work, try this….I think you will find that it’s easier to be more loving and compassionate when you aren’t filled with fear, dread or getting defensive.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


P.S. Guys, this will also work for you!

Let Your Heart Heal Your Negative Thinking

When I was growing up in Hollywood, Florida we used to go to an arcade on the beach, next to the Band Shell, that was filled with all kinds of fun things to do, including my favorite, pinball machines. I loved watching the small silver ball bouncing around, creating pings and dings, and whenever I managed to hit the lever fast enough, I could send the ball shooting back into the game.

Playing pinball was an odd combination of fun, fear, excitement and stress.

Over the years, I have noticed that my mind is a lot of like a pinball machine. A fear-filled thought pops up….I try the lever to push it away; sometimes I am successful, but often it lands in a hole and I am suddenly “losing.”

The fear becomes worry and anxiety and sometimes, even obsession.

I am definitely not having fun.

When I stop to examine these negative thoughts, most of the time I realize that they are projections of what “could” happen, not what is actually happening in the moment.

Worrying and stressing out is not useful in any way.

One day I decided to stop torturing myself and figure out a way to transform my fearful thinking…or what the 12-step folks call “stinking thinking.”

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Today I have an “emotional, spiritual toolkit” that I access nearly daily when gripped by thoughts or feelings that are disturbing.

One of my favorite techniques is called a “Heart Lock-in” and it comes from the visionaries at Heartmath. Their research offers compelling evidence that the heart possesses its own intelligence and has great influence over how the body’s many systems align themselves. Heartmath scientists have found that when we focus on the area around the heart, while remembering and re-experiencing feelings such as love, appreciation or gratitude, the positive results can immediately be measured in our heart rhythms or so-called heart rate variability. They call this “heart coherence,” a highly desirable state that improves our emotional, physical and spiritual well-being.

Rather than try to “talk” myself out of having the disturbing thoughts, I change my focus completely with a “heart lock-in” and it only takes about five minutes.

Here’s how: Make sure you are in a quiet, comfortable space. Close your eyes and breathe slowly.  Shift your attention away from your mind and focus on the area around your heart.  I use my imagination and see myself breathing in and out through my own heart.

Then I call up a memory of feelings of gratitude or appreciation. I re-experience these feelings as if they were happening right now in present moment awareness.

After a minute of re-experiencing this, I let it go and call up a memory of a time when I felt love.  Any kind of love.  And I imagine it’s happening in the present moment.

I gently send these feelings of love to myself, I allow these feelings to wash over me like an ocean wave.

Finally, I take three more deep breaths, and then open my eyes.  Voila, no more negative thoughts!

With practice, a Heart Lock-In provides physical, mental and spiritual regeneration and resiliency. The next time you find yourself stuck in negativity,  manage your emotions by shifting your focus to love, appreciation and gratitude.

If you wish to learn more about heart coherence and the techniques and products of Heartmath you can visit

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Be A Love Generator

My dear friend David Wagner, discovered his life’s purpose while at work one day as a hairdresser. One of his regular clients came in unexpectedly for a blow out. David decided to give her an extra long head massage. As he shampooed her hair and lovingly massaged her scalp, he was, as usual, friendly and kind during their time together.

A few days letter he received a surprising letter from the woman. She wrote that she had come in for a blow out because her plan was to commit suicide and she wanted to look good at her funeral. But, because of David’s attention and love, rather than follow through with her plan, she decided life was worth living and she checked herself into the hospital and sought help.

DW Grammy JuneIn that moment, David had an epiphany. He realized that he was more than a hairdresser, more than a boss to 400 employees at his many Juut Salonspas in Minnesota…..he saw that he was in fact a “Daymaker.”

He now knew his purpose in life was to make someone’s day, to spread love, to be a love generator.

It’s a simple concept with a powerful effect.

If we all commit to be “Daymakers” in our lives, and the lives we touch, the world will quickly become a more loving place.

Below are some of David’s tips on how to be a Daymaker in all areas of life.

Make Your Lover’s Day

  • Write a love letter and send it in the mail. It costs 44 cents.
  • Send your mate’s parents flowers on your mate’s birthday.
  • Rent a tandem bicycle for the weekend.
  • Offer to take over something your mate usually does (like cook dinner).
  • Break out the best china this week, especially with kids. It will create a special night for everyone.
  • Ladies, send him flowers at work today. How rare is it for a guy to get flowers? Very rare! They love it!!

Make A Co-Worker’s Day

  • Offer to pick up lunch for someone you know is swamped.
  • If you have an SUV, offer to pick up others on a snowy day.
  • Pass the bouquet. Give someone special a bouquet and have them pass it on to someone else the following day. It’s a week of Daymaking with one bouquet!
  • Create a Daymaker of the Year award at work.
  • Write a thank you note to the boss. It’s lonely at the top. Everyone needs to know they’re appreciated for their work.
  • Acknowledge promotions; send a card to the employee’s home.
  • Grab coffee for your coworker on the way in!

Make A Stranger’s Day

  • Put a quarter in a gumball machine and walk away.
  • Let people merge in traffic today.
  • Carry thank you notes with you. Write them out to waiters and waitresses. It will surprise them more than a big tip.
  • Plug a parking meter that’s expired.
  • Help a stranger take their luggage off the carousel at the airport.
  • Buy a bike for your local children’s shelter.
  • Buy gift certificates to a car wash and leave them on the windshield of random cars.
  • Buy gift certificates to an ice cream shop and give them out on a hot day.

Make Your Own Day

  • Tonight make your home a spa. Use your favorite soothing music, scented candles, bath salts/oils, calming tea, and favorite robe. Unplug the phone, put the kids to sleep and enjoy two hours of bliss.
  • Buy fresh flowers on your way home tonight.
  • Call someone just to say, “I love you and I’m glad you are in my life.”
  • Watch the sunset.
  • Turn off your cell phone ringer during dinner.
  • Be an optimist today. Look on the bright side of everything that comes your way. Repeat it tomorrow.

To join David and the tens of thousands of Daymakers around the world, please visit:

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


P.S. In the photo above, David is being a Daymaker for his wife Charlie’s Grandmother, June. She will be 99 next month!

Can You Make Someone Fall in Love with You?

People often ask me how to use the Law of Attraction to bring back an ex lover or convince someone new to love them.  I do not believe this is the best use of the Law of Attraction and I am not even sure if it would work.  I don’t believe in impeding on someone else’s free will or destiny.

Couple cupsHowever, I recently came across some fascinating research that seems to have an excellent track record in having people fall in love and also having couples re-ignite their level of intimacy.

In a study published in April 1997 by State University of New York psychology professor Arthur Aron, a team of researchers discovered a method for creating closeness between two strangers. In laboratory setting, the team asked participants to use a catalogue of thirty-six increasingly personal questions and to then conduct an exercise of silently looking into each other’s eyes for four minutes.  The idea was to discover three common traits along with a series of other trust-building measures to quickly create trust and intimacy, the cornerstones of any lasting relationship.

In an article in the New York Times, University of British Columbia in Vancouver writing instructor Mandy Len Catron recounts her experience of re-enacting the experiment with a university colleague.  The intensity of the exercise was overwhelming. After several hours of conversation with her male colleague, she revealed that love is indeed an action. To their surprise, the test worked and they fell in love.

You can get the list of 36 questions here.

When you do this, remember, the most important part of the exercise is this:  after answering all the questions, you and your partner gaze into each other’s eyes, in total silence for four minutes.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,   


Let’s meet in person!

It’s wonderful that we can connect online every week, but I would really like to meet you in person!

PINK-Hi-Res-headshot-touched-upIf you would like to spend some time with me, I have four upcoming, life-changing LIVE in-person events. Two events (in Chicago and Bali) are for both couples and singles, and the other two events are for singles that are ready to manifest the love of their life! If you are ready to be inspired to manifest real magic, please join me at one of these locations:

London – One Day Only: The Soulmate Secret Workshop – Saturday, June 6th
This will be a fun and fast-paced intensive one-day workshop to manifest the love of your life. Topics include:

    • Clarify your needs, intentions and desires to bring in a loving partner.How to meet your love “before first sight!”
    • Open your heart through the power of feelingizations – the secret sauce to manifesting successfully.
    • Transformational rituals and other energetic shifting processes that will empower you to create and attract the partner of your dreams.
    • Register here!

Chicago, Celebrate Your Life Conference – June 12-15th
This is amazing weekend event with some of the biggest stars in the personal growth world including: Iyanla Van Zant, Neale Donald Walsch, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Michael Beckwith, James Redfield, Carolyn Myss, Panache Desai, James Twyman, and many others. I will be presenting two 90-minute presentations on June 13th & 14th: The Soulmate Secret and also Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships.  Register here!

Omega Institute, Rhinebeck NEW YORK – July 10-12th
The Soulmate Secret Weekend Workshop
This stunning rural retreat center, two hours north of NYC, is the ideal environment to go deep with the secrets to manifesting the love of your life. This workshop goes beyond the book and includes new transformative feelingizations and a fire-ritual to kick start your love life into high gear!  Register here!

Bali, Indonesia –  August 29 – September 6, 2015
Join Brian and I for a transformational and fun journey: The Manifest Your Biggest Unmet Dream (even if you don’t know what it is) Magical Mystery Tour of Bali. This beautiful and spiritual island allows you to effortlessly “remove” all kinds of energies and beliefs that hold you back from fulfilling your biggest dreams, purpose or destiny. Each day you will experience one – two hour sessions to remove “what’s in the way” and lead you to “what’s next.” Plus there are daily excursions with us to sacred places to deepen the experience via Temples, Waterfalls, Rituals with healers and shamans, Jungle Walks, River Rafting, Yoga, Meditation, healthy food and much more. It’s for singles and couples, seekers, who are ready to discover what’s next for them.  Click here for details!

Looking forward to meeting you soon!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


When Being Right Is SO Wrong!

I am a recovered “need to be right” person.

I grew up in an era and a home where “being right” was highly valued.

From my first days in school, I saw that raising your hand and having the “right” answer meant you were smart.

At home “being right” meant being loved for being smart.

I was brainwashed into believing that when I was “right” I was good enough to be loved.  Quite the ego boost!

Wow, was I wrong.

As I grew up and matured, I found out there is something so much more important than being “right.”

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It’s being “loved.”

I discovered that when I was committed to being “right” it always meant making someone else “wrong.”

So many of us like to assume a rigid stance and “dig in our heels” to fight for our point of view, and prove how “right” we are (often about some pretty stupid stuff).

The cost of needing to be right is hurting, harassing or humiliating the ones we claim to love the most.

Over the years, I have finally learned to manage my mind and my mouth.

I’ve learned that most of the time it’s not necessary to “correct” anyone on what I think is right or wrong unless it’s really pertinent to someone’s well-being.

Now, when I am smart enough to “catch” myself, and I am about to blurt out something in order to be “right,” I slap some imaginary masking tape over my mouth and choose love instead.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


The Magic of A Bucket List

The Magic of A Bucket List

About one year ago Brian and I were talking about the best concerts we have ever been to. I realized that I had never seen one of my all time favorite singers perform live….the amazing Stevie Wonder! In that moment, I declared that going to a Stevie Wonder concert was the #1 item on my bucket list. Six months later, I was reading the Los Angeles Times and came across a story for his upcoming concerts. We immediately bought 3rd row center seats.

What a night that was.

Best concert I’ve ever seen.

It exceeded all my dreams of seeing Stevie Wonder live in concert.

Having a bucket list is different from daily or yearly goals. It fulfills a big dream and creates an experience and warm memories that will last a lifetime.

Bri & Ari Bali gardenFor many years, visiting Bali was on my bucket list. I had heard about it, seen photos, and of course read about it in Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Eat, Pray, Love.

Three years we ago we went for the first time. Not only is Bali the most beautiful place I’ve ever been, spending time there provided me with unexpected and magical things I never anticipated.

Bali is a very spiritual island in Indonesia that is made up of Hindu’s who pray every day. These are happy, smiling, friendly people who seem to exist to make others happy. The weather is tropical, the food delicious, and the terrain and sites are like eye-candy.

I had expected the trip to be a fun and relaxing vacation, but I was blown away by how just BEING in Bali transformed me.

Energetically, this is a very special place.

The lack of density, the gentleness, the soothing energy and vibes, healthy food, and inherent mysticism of Bali took me to a deep, profound, healing and relaxing space. Prior to arriving there, I knew that I was stressed out, but what I didn’t know was how emotionally, physical and mentally depleted I was.

Bali wdancersBali changed my life.

Being there allowed me to “remove” all kinds of energies and beliefs that were holding me back and transformed my life for the better. Which led to unexpected amounts of creativity, better health and prosperity.

“Creating a transformative workshop in Bali” went to #1 on my bucket list.

Guess what happened next? I received an invitation from two women who have spent the last 20 years producing sacred journeys and workshops in Bali (asking to meet with us about the possibility of creating a workshop there). After learning about their successful experiences and meeting them, seeing and feeling the love they bring to their events, Brian and I agreed to do this!

We have named it: Manifest Your Biggest Unmet Dream (even if you don’t know what it is) Magical Mystery Tour of Bali.

We’d love for you to join us August 29 – September 6, 2015.

We will also be hosting a teleconference to share more details on March 12th at 5pmPT /8pmET. Sign up here for the call.

Or, if you are ready to just say YES TO BALI, go here:

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Someone To Grow Old With

In the movie, Shall We Dance, starring Richard Gere, Jennifer Lopez and Susan Sarandon, there is a terrific scene where Sarandon ‘s character is sitting at a bar explaining to a stranger why being married is important.  She says,

“We need a witness to our lives.  There are billions of people on the planet…I mean, what does any one life really mean?  But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything – the good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things – all of it, all the time, every day.

You’re saying, “Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it.  Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness.”

For the 65% of Baby Boomers who are married, this ideal of marriage probably resonates. We DO want someone to share ourselves with and to eventually grow old with.  Even for those Boomers who have divorced, most seek to remarry… to find a new lover, best friends, and partner for life.

But things are changing.

There is a disturbing trend happening today around marriage and commitment. One study shows that 39% of Americans say that marriage is becoming obsolete. It appears that marriage has lost its appeal for the younger generations, especially the Millennials (the 18-29-year-olds).  They are pro-parenthood but anti-marriage.

According to Pew Research Center, right now 61% of births to women 20-24 are out of wedlock while one in three births for women 25-29 are to unwed mothers.


According to Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse, president of the Ruth Institute for Marriage and Family:

“Women don’t think men are necessary.  Therefore, they are unwilling to go to the effort required to be in a relationship with a man.”

Clearly these are women who have not experienced the beauty and magic of a relationship that works.  A relationship where two people choose to share a life together and to make a commitment to work through all the ups and downs, good days and bad days.

What will it take to convince the younger generation that marriage isn’t obsolete? I think they need to hear from those who are happily married all the reasons why they find marriage valuable.  Role models are needed and necessary, and clearly at this point in time, missing….

We’ve become a disposable society, not just with our trash, but also with the people in our lives.  If a relationship becomes difficult we declare, “this isn’t working for me” and move on.  We treat our cars better than people.  At least with our cars we know and expect that they need regular maintenance – the oil needs changing, the tires rotating and brakes need replacing.  And yet, even with the people closest to us, so many of us seem unwilling to put in a little time, energy and effort into working through our issues.

I believe a big part of this problem is that we aren’t born with the innate knowledge on how to make a relationship work and our partners don’t come with an “owner’s manual.”

Here’s the bottom line….we’re all going to get old someday.

We can do it alone or we can make the effort to manifest a soulmate and then nurture them and have a best friend to share our golden years with.  Even if you haven’t met “the one” yet, it’s never too early to learn the needed skills so that you can experience Big Love.

As that commercial says, this is an experience that is “priceless.”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


P.S. The good news is that all the tools and tips we need to create an extraordinary, deep, loving, juicy relationship ALREADY EXISTS!

I spent the last six months researching and interviewing the top love and relationship experts on the planet for my Art of Love Series, which recently concluded.  These powerful love luminaries included John Gray, don Miguel Ruiz, Alison Armstrong, Neale Donald Walsch, Jack Canfield, Marianne Williamson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Helen Fisher, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Gay & Katie Hendricks, Jean Houston and more.

If you didn’t have a chance to tune in for this, don’t despair.  You can own the entire series for a special 50% off price ($97 or four payments of $25) that is in effect until Midnight pacific time on March 7th.  Click here for all the details

Monkey Mind Management 101

We’ve all been there…..the days when we spiral down convinced that life just isn’t going our way… that we are undeserving of love, or the new job, or the thing we are most wishing for.

Our mind goes into overdrive, some would call it a negative feedback loop, and we keep replaying the negativity over and over again, convinced our mind is telling us the truth.
BUT….just because you have a thought does not mean it’s true!

It’s up to us to begin to manage our thoughts and emotions and there are ways to do this but it requires a little time and attention.

When you find yourself having negative thoughts, try these techniques:

1)    Stop what you are doing and acknowledge to yourself what you are thinking…internally (or out loud) say “cancel-cancel.”

2)    Then take time to do a feelingization (go to and scroll down to the Love Magnet video) to move from your monkey mind to your heart and begin to feel love, appreciation and gratitude.  Remember, you attract MORE of what you are grateful for!

3)    Now create a positive affirmation that FEELS GOOD IN YOUR BODY.  Statements such as: I am a kind and loving being or I am grateful for all the love in my life right now.  Whatever statement feels most natural to you.  Write these on post-it notes and place where you can look at them daily.

I want to suggest that those of you who truly, deeply desire a soulmate that you begin to let go of your doubts of what is possible for you…..remember that the word “impossible” is really “I’m possible.”

One of my favorite quotes in Wayne Dyers book, WISHES FULFILLED, is from the great teacher, Neville, who said “Make your future dream a present fact by assuming the feeling of the wish fulfilled.”

I strongly encourage you to write this down and look at it daily. You deserve love and the one you are seeking is ALSO seeking you.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

P.S. Manifesting the soulmate is the first step, learning how to keep and grow the LOVE is step two – get ready now with The Art of Love Relationship Series (no cost to participate). Love luminaries such as John Gray, don Miguel Ruiz, Alison Armstrong, Neale Donald Walsch, Jack Canfield, Marianne Williamson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Helen Fisher, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Gay & Katie Hendricks, Craig Hamilton, Claire Zammit, Debbie Ford, Jean Houston and more show you how.
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The Art of Love

While I realize that many of you have your attention manifesting a soulmate…..have you thought about “once you are in the relationship” if you have all the necessary skills to navigate the days when things get a little bumpy or dare I say it, even a little boring?

As a first-time bride at age 44, I went into my soulmate relationship with no partnership skills…oy…and I learned how to have a great relationship through trial and error.  But, you don’t have to do it this way!

For the past few months I have been super busy programming a no-cost 10-day, online series called The Art of Love where I have the honor and privilege to guide the world’s top 50 love and relationship experts, who share the latest, cutting edge, transformative love skills through a series of workshops.

It begins on February 12th and features luminaries such as John Gray, don Miguel Ruiz, Alison Armstrong, Neale Donald Walsch, Jack Canfield, Marianne Williamson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Helen Fisher, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Gay & Katie Hendricks, Craig Hamilton, Claire Zammit, Debbie Ford, Jean Houston and more.

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I’ve designed this revolutionary program to help you get READY for love so that you  can heat up your own intimacy skills, learn productive conflict resolution, and much more. (Some days I just have to pinch myself because I can’t believe the amazing things I get to do in my life!)

Here is a sneak peek at what we will be covering:

  • Why incompatibility and conflict are important in a relationship.
  • Sure-fire ways to initiate sex and play.
  • One sentence that fixes almost everything.
  • When honesty isn’t the best policy.
  • The big fat lies that get in the way of love.
  • How reading 50 Shades of Grey gives permission to receive pleasure.
  • The “Wonder Move” to get your self unstuck fast.
  • Two things all men want (hint: it’s not sex).
  • How to invite God into your relationship.
  • The 5 short sentences that heal all wounds.
  • Why hugs, spa days and shopping lead to stronger orgasms in women.
  • And so much more…..

When I programmed and hosted the first version of this series, in the Fall of 2011, afterwards I felt like I had earned a Ph.D in Love.  What I discovered was invaluable to my relationship with Brian! I so wish I had known all of this at the beginning of my marriage instead of learning it the hard way!

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In each workshop I will draw out the most insightful wisdom from each and every transformative love luminary while keeping it easy to digest all of the hot tips. These experts will share their best practices about how to reawaken hot & steamy bedroom activities, navigate through relationship stress, create balance, break destructive patterns, sharpen your relationship-building skills, get what you really want from your beloved, add playfulness to your world, and much more!

Whether you’re dating, or in a new partnership, improving your relationship skills should be high on your TO DO LIST — YOU do have the power to bring change to your love life!

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I encourage you to take advantage of this opportunity right now and register for this no-cost event today.

I look forward to seeing you at The Art of Love Relationship Series!


P.S. FYI, just for registering you have access to a Limited Time GIFT BAG filled with audio/video seminars and eBooks from Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt,      Dr. Diana Kirschner, Alison Armstrong, Sheri Meyers, Tammy Nelson, and Susie & Otto Collins. Plus you’ll be entered into a drawing to win your very own Art of Love iPod Nano!

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