Meet Us in Paradise – Big Sur, CA

One of our favorite places in the world (besides India, Italy, and Bali) is Esalen, a stunningly beautiful retreat center in Big Sur, CA.

EsalenSitting high above the Pacific Ocean, this lush paradise offers world-class workshops, delicious organic food, (grown on-site) and the most amazing massages. (They actually invented many innovative massage techniques including a 4-hand massage!) Esalen is also famous for the healing hot tubs that are perched on a cliff over the ocean.

If this sounds enticing, then come hang out with Brian and I at Esalen, the weekend of December 4 – 6.

For the first time ever, The Soulmate Secret weekend workshop will be presented there.

If you are single and don’t want to be, join me in the workshop.

And, if you’re already living life with your soulmate, then check out the other workshops offered that same weekend we are there and hangout with Brian.

He will be soaking up the beauty of the land and having deep-dish conversations with everyone he runs into.

In this experiential (and fun!) weekend, you learn how to:

  • Utilize proven rituals and processes to attract the soulmate of your dreams
  • Experience healing techniques to let go of past heartbreak and remove blocks to love
  • Clarify your needs and desires to manifest long-term romantic fulfillment
  • Open your heart and connect with the partnership energy of the divine
  • Prepare your body, mind, spirit, and home for the arrival of your perfect life partner

As you come to realize that “the one” is not only out there, but also is looking for you, then true love can be yours.  (And I will teach you how to have “love before first sight!”) Details here!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


I Was a Lousy Wife (a confession)

Today I am in my 17th year of an amazing, deeply loving, fulfilling marriage to my soulmate Brian… and I almost blew it!


Soon after we got married, I made a horrifying discovery: I had no clue how to be a great wife. I was an excellent manifestor, and I was great at being “the boss” of my business, but I had zero partnership skills.


bad wifeHere’s just one example: One day, several months after we got married, I walked into the house all excited and started talking a mile-a- minute to Brian…no hello, no kiss, just this:


“Hey babe, guess what? We’re having dinner tonight at Deepak and Rita Chopra’s house, we need to be there by 7pm, I haven’t a clue what I’m gonna wear but I have to jump into the tub right now.”


I fully expected Brian to say something like, “Hey that’s great, should be lots of fun to catch up with them.”


Instead I got this strange look from him, that I immediately felt in the pit of my stomach, so I said, “what’s wrong?”


And Brian said, “You didn’t ask me.”


“What do you mean? Don’t you want to have dinner with the Chopra’s?”


Well, it would have been nice if you had asked me first.”


“Why? I knew you would want to go.”


Because asking me is the polite and considerate thing to do.”


I was really baffled. If I “knew he would want to go, then WHY, WHY, WHY did I have to ask him first?”


As a first time bride at 44, I was used to having everything my way, all the time. It never occurred to me that Brian would want anything different from what I wanted. It never occurred to me that we wouldn’t always see things “eye to eye” because we were soulmates.


Weren’t we destined to easily and effortlessly live “happily ever after?”


It became obvious that I needed to discover new, better ways to listen, to communicate, to be considerate, and most importantly to become a team player.


I didn’t know what I didn’t know about making a relationship thrive and grow into a joyous and sacred union.


Brian was a natural at most of these things, and most of the time, he was very patient with me when communicating about what was and was not working for him. (And, honestly it took me a L O N G time learn how to be considerate and ask him before committing him to any and all activities.)


If only he had arrived with an “Owner’s Manual” that outlined the one-two-three steps to happy and fulfilling marriage.


Alas, that book never arrived.


Instead, I decided to become a student of love.


In my heart and soul I knew that Brian and I were meant to spend our life together and I also knew that I had to take personal responsibility for my role in the partnership. We went to workshops together, I read lots of books, and best of all, I spent more that 130 hours interviewing the world’s top love and relationship experts for Evolving Wisdom’s Art of Love Series that I co-created and hosted for several years – many of them top researchers and social scientists who virtually never do interviews such as these… and I’m blessed that many of them became friends, and spent hours answering my endless questions and forever changing my understanding of love and how to make it last.


The result of these years of study (and personally road testing the various techniques and strategies to a happy marriage), are that Brian and I just grow closer and closer, and I’ve got him convinced that I’m the most loving and attentive wife ever!


I was so thrilled at the changes in my own relationship (and the peace of mind and security they brought me as well), that I am now sharing the best of the best of my own “light bulb moments” and most effective tools for transformation in my new book:


Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate: A Practical Guide To Happily Ever After

(It will be published on my birthday, December 29th, by HarperOne.)



PLEASE KEEP READING, I have special gifts for you.


I am beyond excited about the upcoming release of this, my 10th book. I truly believe it’s my best work yet, and I know that the information in it provides myriad ways to create loving, long lasting, soulful relationships.


(And if you’re not in a relationship, reading his book will send a big message to the Universe that you are “living as if” and give you great new techniques and tools to use when you are in one.)


Turn Your Mate into Your Soulmate explores and reveals:

  • How to make your own grass greener, and save everyone tons of heartache and why changing partners may not be the answer and why re-envisioning the partner you have can be that path to happiness
  • What love really is and is not and how to stop being confused from now on
  • Why we yearn to be connected to another person (hint: you’re not needy or insecure – it’s healthy and almost universal to want that level of connection with another…)
  • Our soul and our sacred contracts around love
  • Why giving up perfectionism is the key to happiness (and so much easier for YOU!)
  • The purpose and benefits of marriage (science has proven it’s so much more than “just a piece of paper”)
  • Moving beyond ourselves to infuse our relationship with God/Spirit/devotion (no matter your beliefs or religion)
  • Breathing new life into old love by kick-starting the fun (you really can “get back that spark” – quickly and without embarrassing yourself)


“Arielle Ford is a priestess of love, bringing forth the highest wisdom and placing it down on earth where it belongs. She has lived the love drama, learned from the love drama, and succeeded at the love drama. She has a lot of information to deliver, and in this book she does so compassionately and wisely.”

~Marianne Williamson, author A Return To Love


I consider you, dear reader, one of my friends and I have a special offer for you:


When you pre-order the book, you will instantly receive a free bonus package that includes special gifts from resources I consider to be among the “best of the best”.


Five part Video series (instant access) featuring:

John Gray

“How Women Can Get Their Needs and Desires Met by Their Mate”

Dr. Pepper Schwartz

“How Sex Can Save Your Life”

Iyanla Van Zant

“The best way to apologize and how to forgive “

Gay & Katie Hendricks

“You’re Too Fat” (and other hard conversations to have)

Dr. Laura Berman

“How to Affair Proof Your Relationship”


Plus there are two great bonus audios (on sex and intimacy) and The Everything Book, an e-Book for you & your mate to fill out an exchange that shares juicy details of what you both most want!


Now here is the offer for YOU only (I’m not making this offer to anyone who is not on my newsletter list)


If you pre-order Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate online you will get instant access to all the bonuses – click here (


And will be on your way to take your relationship go from ho-hum to happy, happy to ecstatic, and ecstatic to EXALTED – for life.


Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Are You Leaking Negative Energy and Turning Off Men?

Have you ever considered that the signals you send out (involuntarily) every day may be turning off the very men you’re living with or trying to attract?


Marni_HeadshotMy good friend and colleague, Marni Battista, calls this “negative energy.”


And it’s the #1 chemistry killing mistake that keeps men from asking you out, keeps men from committing to you, and for those of you in a relationship, keeps men from adoring you and treating you like a queen…his queen.


What are the signs that you’re leaking negative energy?


  • If you’re tired of being single, but struggle to attract a really great guy.
  • You’re in a relationship, but it has lost a little bit of that passion or intimate connection that it once had.
  • You feel helpless and frustrated because the men you date don’t want to commit.
  • You keep attracting and falling for guys who turn out to be emotionally unavailable or not into you … and when he is into you, he’s “not your type.”


A great example of where negative energy can come from is actually from the “masculine” energy you have to tap into to be a success at work, which can diminish the “feminine” energy that men are naturally drawn to and attracted to.


A few great tips on how to overcome this that Marni offers are:


  • “Receive” – let a man “do” things for you – and make sure to tap into your feminine and say “thank you”.
  • Give up the need to “be right” – look at how many times you need to be right.  Become adept at knowing sometimes it is better to be “smart” than to be right.
  • Make sure to communicate that you are active and not “busy” – a man who thinks you are too busy, will think you are too busy for him.


In Marni’s new book, Becoming Irresistible (which is FREE to you for the next few days), she leads you through her proven 3-step process and you will discover exactly how to get a great man to pursue you, adore you and commit to you for life.


Here’s a quick peek at of what Marni shares with you in her FREE book:

  • Stop making the #1 attraction-killing mistake all women make, so that you attract the men you want instead of the ones you can get.
  • Learn to trigger an undeniable magnetic attraction between you and any man so that you effortlessly attract ‘the one’ you desire.
  • Discover the secret quality that drives smart, successful men wild (that has nothing to do with SEX) so that you become the woman these men desire for a relationship.


I urge you to get this important book for FREE right now!


Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,



Fast Fix for Fear

Wonder Woman smallA few months ago I was watching Grey’s Anatomy on TV and learned the most awesome thing! Here was the scene: Dr. Amelia Shepard was standing in the surgical suite, about to perform a groundbreaking 17-hour brain surgery on a colleague. She was scared out of her mind because if anything went wrong, her friend would die on the table. When her assistant arrived, she told her to stand with her feet shoulder width apart, hands on hips, chest and chin up in “wonder woman” pose for two minutes. Both women assumed the “wonder woman” position and by doing this simple act, it gave them both the courage they needed to tackle the surgery. And, of course as great TV goes, it worked!


I began to wonder if this “wonder woman” pose was for real, so I did some research. Turns out it is based in fact! You can instantly re-claim your power and confidence by standing in “wonder woman” pose for just two minutes. Social psychologist, Ann Cuddy, has proven this works!


In as little time as two minutes, the superhero stance elevates confidence. It alters hormone production, lifting the power hormone, testosterone, and reducing the stress hormone.


As science demonstrates, body posture influences our brains and consequently, our feelings. According to science, if you pose like a super-hero, you’ll think like a super-hero, and act like a super-hero.


While you are standing in “Super Hero Pose” and looking up, say out loud statements that will empower you, such as I am:  Brave, Courageous, Safe, Protected, Successful, Fearless, At ease, Proud, Exhilarated, Strong, Heroic, Having fun, etc.


And, the next time you have to have a “difficult” conversation with a loved one or someone at work, or you are about to go on a blind date, try it. I think you will find that it’s easier to be more loving and compassionate when you aren’t filled with fear, dread or getting defensive.


Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,



Be A Pleasure Pig – Part Two


A few weeks ago I introduced you to the concept of living life like our cat Yoda does, as a Pleasure Pig.


We talked about all the ways to give yourself more pleasure in order to build oxytocin in your brain (while reducing stress).  Oxytocin is known as the “cuddling hormone” and having more of it makes life more pleasurable.


Many of you instantly decided the way to more pleasure is eating more of your favorite foods….and while I think indulging in treats is super pleasurable, we also want to stay mindful of being healthy and doing it in moderation.


Food trayA daily pig out on chocolate or ice cream or diet coke is not what I was suggesting.  It’s up to you to decide just how often (and how much) of these tasty treats, makes sense for you.


And, while we are on the topic of pleasure and food, here are some suggestions:

  • Make every meal and snack special.  Rather than stand at the kitchen sink eating cereal out of a box, or crunching on an apple, try this: On a pretty tray, or placemat, use a beautiful china dish or bowl, slice the apple, sprinkle a little cinnamon on it, get out the nice silverware and a cloth napkin, put a flower in a little vase, and create an atmosphere of delight, ALL FOR YOU, all the time.
  • Take the time to really taste your food. Use all of your senses and make eating a true experience.  Savor every bite!
  • When grocery shopping, rather than speeding through aisles, take your time in the produce section…when you pick up the fruit and veggies, smell them, feel their vibration before gently placing them in your shopping cart.  (And you singles, I have two girlfriends who met their husbands in the produce section of markets while they were doing this because the men were enchanted with how sensuously and carefully they selected their veggies!)


Brian wine sunset

Brian is a lover of fine wine and craft beer.  One of his favorite activities is to go to the local specialty shop to discuss the newest and greatest wines with the owner. After he selects his bottle, he comes home and then pours it into his favorite crystal, oversized wine glass.  (When we go to dinner parties, he not only brings his own wine, he also travels with his favorite glass to drink it from!)  When he decides to have a beer, he goes to the freezer to pull out his cold and frosty favorite schooner to drink it from.   He has mastered the art of being a pleasure pig!


Please share with me how you are becoming a pleasure pig by posting comments and photos at


Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


5 Ways to Heal Your Broken Heart

My good friend and colleague, licensed psychotherapist Katherine Woodward Thomas, MA, MFT is like me – devoted to helping people find the love of their lives…


And in her work with thousands of women and men, Katherine has found that sometimes it’s a breakup that allows us to do just that.


She pioneered this new and healing way to navigate the ending of a relationship, a way to consciously uncouple with the kind of compassion, kindness and courage that will not only heal your heart, but open you up to creating deeper love in the future.


CU affiliate_300x250Katherine developed the Conscious Uncoupling Process five years ago and has refined it every year until it has become the most powerful, proven and effective approach to parting ways more and more people are discovering every day.


And today she’s letting me share with you the 5 core steps that make Conscious Uncoupling possible, so that you or someone you know can begin to heal from past or present heartbreak:


  • Don’t Give in to Hate: Instead, find or create a safe space for you to deeply feel, witness, and stop fighting challenging emotions so that you can begin to shift them and use their energy for good.
  • Take Responsibility for Your Part in the End of Your Relationship: When you uncover disempowering scripts you hold inside you that have caused your suffering, then you can learn to reframe them into empowered self-reflection, aligning yourself with your deepest truth and power.
  • Heal the Original Hurt in Your Heart: Identify the initial wounding you experienced, and the underlying beliefs you adopted to cope with that wounding. These beliefs have probably been cropping up in your current relationships, sabotaging your chance at true happiness.
  • Clear the Air: It’s powerfully healing to clear the air between you and your former partner. By simply talking-even over the phone-and listening openly to how each of you felt impacted by the other, and not being reactive, you can actually clear away the hurts and resentments.
  • Be Proactive: Rather than waiting for time to heal your broken heart, know that you can be proactive in your own healing, transforming your pain into grace, happiness and the power to reinvent your life.


There’s no one more skilled or experienced than Katherine in being able to guide you through this process and take these steps, and if you or a loved one could benefit from exploring them more deeply with her, then I can’t recommend her free mini-course highly enough:

The Conscious Uncoupling Introductory Course

How to Avoid the 5 Most-Common Breakup Mistakes that

Cause Suffering, Steal Joy, and Prevent Future Love


Wishing you all the love and joy in the world!



Why Your Dream Is Already A Reality

The core basis of my belief and understanding about manifestation (whether you are manifesting love, a car, a new career, or a new little black dress) is this:


There is no “time.” The past, present, and future all happen simultaneously.


When we have a desire for something, it’s because some part of us “already knows that this is possible for us,” on an unseen level.

Your dream is not some random thing out there some where, it is already in existence, calling upon you to dream it into your existence.


To do this, we must be willing to own and embrace the dream or desire and then take the necessary, appropriate action steps to bring it into 3-D reality.


The secret sauce for this is what I call feelingizations, a process to get out of your head and into your heart to deeply feel that what you have asked for IS already yours.


In 1944, Max Planck, the father of quantum theory, explained that there is a Universal field of energy that connects everything and everyone and he called this the Divine Matrix.


According to my amazing friend, Gregg Braden, author of The Divine Matrix: Bridging Time, Space, Miracles and Belief:


“The Divine Matrix is our world.

It is also everything in our world.

It is us and all that we love, hate, create and experience.

Living in the Divine Matrix, we are as artists expressing our innermost passions, fears, dreams and desires through the essence of a mysterious quantum canvas.

But we are the canvas, as well as the images upon the canvas.

We’re the paints, as well as the brushes.

In the Divine Matrix, we are the container

Within which all things exist, the bridge between

The creations of our inner and outer worlds,

And the mirror that shows us what we have created.

In the Divine Matrix, you are the seed of the miracle as well as the miracle itself.”


Remember the key to manifesting is to feel as though your dream or desire is accomplished and your prayers are already answered.


Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,



Are You In A Season of Love Or Loneliness? What To Do…

I have always found Vedic Astrology to be a useful tool in understanding how the planets are impacting my life and helpful in making decisions.  More often than not, it provides a good explanation from what I am intuitively feeling about how things are going.  One of my favorite astrologers is my dear friend and love expert, Carol Allen.  She recently sent out a newsletter about the impact that Saturn is currently having on love relationships (whether you are in one or seeking one!)  I invited her to share her wisdom with you today.  Please enjoy:


CarolAllenAs an astrologer, two kinds of clients seek my services: singles wanting to know exactly WHEN, WHERE and HOW they’ll meet their soulmate.


(And their name and phone number…)


And couples frustrated with their relationship, wondering how to make it better (or if they should run…).


Usually it’s not their fault – the singles are astrologically “blocked” from finding true love and the couples are feeling especially challenged – for the time being – by the most notorious of all planets, SATURN.


When Saturn takes “center stage” in your stars it creates a “lonely, loveless” phase, wrongly causing you to feel defective or even cursed…


If you’re thinking, “That’s how I feel! Doomed to suffer in love forever – like the Universe HATES me!”


Let me be so brazen as to speak on behalf of the Universe…


It doesn’t hate you – in fact, you’ll look back on this time as one of the most important, powerful of your life…


When you grow the most, and become the best partner you can, ensuring that when love DOES come, you’ll be truly ready – or take your current relationship to the “next level.”


There’s a bigger “plan” you just can’t see yet…


These are clues you’re in a “Cycle of Saturn”:


  1. You’re running in place financially and socially – or going into debt
  2. You’re unusually burdened by responsibilities and losses
  3. You’re feeling rejected by or separated from those you love most


Saturn teaches us we aren’t super-human; we need to ask for help and grow up and “correct” anything not working in our lives.


Giving up bad habits, improving our skills, and seeking out expert support are all things that make these cycles some of the most life-changing and helpful ever.


Turning to spiritual practices (like those in Arielle’s awesome books!) and self-care can actually make this a very meaningful, positive time.


Especially cultivating healthy spiritual detachment (this, too, shall pass!) and gratitude are key – and honoring yourself and what you need.


To determine if and when YOU are in a love-blocking “Cycle of Saturn” check out a personalized, 30-year report to tell you all of this and more, including:

  • How to make the most of the many different phases and versions of these cycles so you can prepare and avoid problems.
  • What to do in a particularly bad cycle of Saturn so that you don’t expose yourself to even MORE heartache and disappointment.
  • When Saturn is on your side, helping to foster more love, abundance, and good fortune.

You can find out in mere minutes when you order your custom, guaranteed “Cycle of Saturn” report right now at this link.


Don’t sit around wondering if there’s something wrong with you, and when you’ll FINALLY feel better about your life, your romantic prospects, or relationship…


Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,



Prayers for Love & Resolution

UnknownEven in the best relationships, there are days when the you-know-what hits the fan and communication breakdowns and hurt feelings seem overwhelming. For times like this I pray for clarity and guidance.  I’ve often wished I had a book full of prayers for every conceivable situation and finally one has appeared!


My dear friend, Sonia Choquette, has written the exact book I have been wishing for.  It called: Uplifting Prayers to Light Your Way, 200 Invocations for Difficult Times.  This book is a powerfully soothing companion when facing challenging moments in life. Each beautiful prayer immediately calms inner storms, awakens the light within, and reconnects you with the ever-loving presence of God. It is a gift of light and love to own, to share, and to reach for any time you feel lost or uncertain.


Here are just two of the two hundred prayers:


Loving Fully

Holy Mother-Father God,
Divine Loving Light and Heart of the Universe,
I humbly ask for the healing power of your grace
to keep my heart fully open, even though I know it
may be broken if I do. Grant me the grace to love with
the entirety of my being, even if my love is not returned.
Grant me the courage to love fully, even when
my beloveds do not receive my love. Please send in
your angels to help me love myself through it all, no
matter what. I thank you in advance, with my whole
heart and soul, for answering my prayer and offering
these blessings.
Amen and with infinite gratitude.


Resolving Differences

Holy Mother-Father God,
Divine Loving Light and Heart of the Universe,
I humbly ask for the healing power of your grace
to help me find peace with those people in my life
with whom I can’t seem to get along. I pray that we
can let go of our differences and find understanding
and acceptance in place of the strife and animosity we
now have between us. Please send in your angels to
help pave a bridge of mutual respect so that we may
meet in the middle and come to a place of peaceful
cooperation. I thank you in advance, with my whole
heart and soul, for this healing.
Amen and with infinite gratitude.


This book is filled with deeply healing invocations that calm your spirit, re-connect you to God, and lead you to inner peace and strength, no matter what difficulties you may be facing right now. Reach for it at any time you feel uncertain, ungrounded, afraid, or unloved and it will immediately soothe and reassure your soul. You can buy it here!


Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,



Be A Pleasure Pig

Our cat Yoda is nicknamed “the pleasure pig.” Yoda demands massive amounts of attention, belly rubs, cheek scratches, and snacks of his favorite baby food, which we called “Yoda’s Crack.” The other day I was watching Brian give Yoda his yoga stretching massage and was silently wishing that I was as good at demanding pleasure as Yoda is!

Yoda Bri

I think it’s safe to say that there is always room in life for more love and more pleasure. And, whether you have a partner or not, there are lots of ways to activate and create more loving and pleasurable feelings.

Here’s how:

When you want to feel more love, you can consciously do it by actively releasing the hormone oxytocin into your brain. Known as the “bonding” chemical, oxytocin is really good for you. According to love master Dr. John Gray, women need to constantly rebuild their “oxytocin” levels. Oxytocin is the bonding hormone essential for women in their ability to give and receive love.

Taking time for mani-pedi’s, getting your hair done, receiving massages, taking long, warm bubble baths, listening to music, dancing, walking in nature, a quiet cup of tea, a perfect piece of chocolate (or your favorite treat)….these are a few ways to add pleasure to your daily life that also rebuild oxytocin.

Oxytocin can be generated lots of ways and the more you have, the better you will feel. Not surprisingly, it plays a big role in producing orgasms.

Stress is one of the main reasons we become depleted in oxytocin, so taking simple steps to rebuild it is necessary to maintain a happy, healthy lifestyle.

It’s well known that a simple hug, gazing into the eyes of someone you care about or petting your dog or cat will also boost your oxytocin level. And, going shopping also does the trick. Even if you don’t buy anything, just looking and touching beautiful items makes a difference.

My personal “pleasure recipe” includes a daily bath with aromatherapy, an early morning walk with my husband, and one-on-one time with my cat. If I have a particularly stressful day, I have a special CD of favorite dance tunes that I crank up in my office and I dance and sing (all by myself) until I feel the endorphins surging through me.

If consciously adding pleasure to your daily life doesn’t come naturally to you, I would suggest a little experiment: For the next 7 days, decide to add at least 15-20 minutes of pleasure…all for you. By taking the time to add pleasure to your life, you will be calmer, happier, and more receptive to enjoying and attracting love at every level.

And, as you create your To-Do list, put YOU on the top of that list, then let me know what happens!

Remember, what you put your attention on grows. Add more pleasure and oxytocin to your brain and your life to add more love on every level and become a pleasure pig like Yoda!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,