Be a Love Philanthropist

My dear friend Marci Shimoff taught me the phrase Love Philanthropist, and every time I say it, it makes me smile.

Just as I’ve learned that tithing not only makes me feel good and does good for others, it also brings me more abundance.

Being a Love Philanthropist brings more love.

There are so many ways to share your love with the world:

Close your eyes and send love and blessings to your nearest and dearest (including your pets).

Send love notes (do it today!) via email or text or snail mail.

Smile and compliment strangers and beam love from your eyes to theirs.

There is a line in A Course in Miracles that says:

“The only thing that can be lacking in any situation is that which you are not giving.”

To have more love, give more love.

It’s so easy, simple, and doesn’t cost a thing.

Be Love.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

3 keys to make this Valentine’s Day your last one single (one may shock you)

My dear friend and love expert, Dr. Lara Fernandez, has graciously agreed to share three soulmate manifesting tips for you today:

1. Stop thinking you have all the answers.

If you are over 30, single and really don’t want to be, and have been trying for years to find love, then there’s still some more you need to learn about yourself, about men (or women), and relationships. Be willing to have what the Buddhists call a “beginner’s mind” and embrace the journey to your soulmate as a learning process.

People who are know-it-alls are NOT attractive to a healthy relationship… they either end up pushing a good person away or attracting a man who is insecure. Stay humble (yet balanced with a gentle confidence) in your pursuit of your dream life.

Become what I call a “Student of Love.” Commit to continued learning and growing in this area of love and relationships. This learning will serve you not only in finding your Mr. Right… but KEEPING him and maintaining a happy, healthy, thriving relationship for years to come.

2. Be kind to yourself.

The inner self-critic (also known as the ego mind or the gremlins) is your worst saboteur. Yes, it’s important to be “real” about yourself and your issues… and it’s crucial to not beat yourself up about them either. We are all imperfect, yet perfectly lovable and worthy of love at the same time. That’s the fascinating paradox that we humans live.

Since the Universe will only treat you as well as you treat yourself, start giving the Universe clear signals that you’re ready for your soulmate by being especially good and kind to yourself.

3. Be a REBEL.

In polls, over 70% of people self-identify as unhappy, unfulfilled, and essentially feeling unloved and lonely. That means there are MANY people feeling ISOLATED AND LONELY OR STUCK in unhappy, unfulfilling, unloving relationships- or just have no relationship at all.

So don’t do what the masses do or your life will BE like the masses…unhappy, unfulfilled, and feeling unloved. Don’t get me wrong, the masses are good people. But going with the status quo just won’t serve you in finding your man and creating the life of your dreams with him.

Being a REBEL means you realize… it’s time to think differently, believe differently, and act differently…if you want different results from the masses.

One of the things we see in common with the women who are successful in finding their soulmate is that they are willing to see themselves as a little different and unique and more independent-minded than most. So go ahead and embrace your uniqueness!

“Do you want me to tell you something really subversive?
Love is everything it’s cracked up to be.
That’s why people are so cynical about it.
It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for.
And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.”
― Erica Jong

Dr. Lara, along with her husband Johnny, are love coaches who specialize in helping women have a breakthrough in their love lives. They are holding a totally free LIVE Love Training THIS THURSDAY where Lara will share:

How I Used These Surprising Forgotten Secrets To ATTRACT My Handsome, Accomplished, SOULMATE And Have Him Adoring And Cherishing ME (and Only Me) – WITHOUT Kissing All The Frogs In The Swamp Or Wasting My Life On Dead-end Relationships

Reserve your space on this exciting NEW love web-class – to learn more and join them CLICK HERE.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

It’ Not Too Late to Make It Happen

So…we are now officially one month into a New Year – how’s it going so far? Are you making progress on fulfilling your heart’s desire or did you get sidetracked?

Here are a few super easy things to do that will keep you on track:

  • Write it down!  Make it simple:  “Before the end of 2018, I commit to myself to accomplish (or substitute be, do or have – whatever makes sense to you) to __________________.”
  • I commit to doing ___ things each day towards accomplishing this. (I find that doing 5 little things every day is doable and works best for me.)
  • I promise to enroll someone to be my accountability partner (research shows if you do this you have a 90% better chance of being successful!)
  • Give yourself a weekly reward for the steps you took all week.
  • Spend 5 minutes each day dropping into your heart and feeling what it feels like to have what you say you most desire.

Co-creating with the Universe isn’t difficult, but it does require your participation and action steps. Don’t let your dreams fall into the “magical thinking” bucket by filling yourself with “hopium.”

You can do this!  Make a plan!  Really, truly go for it!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. And, if manifesting the love of your life is your desire, come spend the weekend with me – check it all out here: http://www.arielleford.com/events/

I Know Where Your Soulmate Is

For those of you that are happily with your beloved, please consider sharing this with your single friends. For those of you single and dreaming of BIG LOVE with your soulmate, here is what I know for sure:

Your soulmate is not missing.

They already exist.

You can begin a relationship with them faster than you can imagine.

During the past decade, I have helped tens of thousands of men and women in 40 countries manifest their beloved.

It’s easier than you think.

95% of the reasons and excuses you have for WHY you aren’t with your soulmate are false beliefs.

Give me a weekend of your life and we can change all that.

If you are willing to give up your time and misbegotten ideas about how love REALLY happens, you can be successful.

Just ask my 40-something first-time bride Heidi.

Brian and I officiated at her beach wedding a few days ago.

She didn’t think she would ever marry.

She was too smart, too successful, too busy, too afraid she would choose the wrong guy.

Really, she was just too scared that no one would ever truly love her for her fears, quirks and emotional issues.

And then she embraced the core teachings of The Soulmate Secret and met and married the most perfect man in the world for her.

And then there was Liz, a first-time bride at 50. And, another second-time bride at 68, and yet another in her late 70’s. I could write for days about all the brides that have made it happen.

It’s not too late for you unless you insist that it is.

And then you will get to be right (and, alone for the rest of your life).

Meet me this year at one of my three weekend workshops.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Romance, Food & Your Appetite for Love & Life

Dating, whether you love it or loathe it, is an indispensable part of the soulmate manifestation process (and regular date nights are essential once you are a couple). Eventually, there will be a “first dinner date.” What you order will let him or her know if you have a healthy appetite for love and life.

On these early dates, we want to let our large appetite for life, our enthusiasm for life, really shine through as much as possible.

For those of you with gluten or other sensitivities (I fall into this category), it might be best just to order something you know is “safe” for you to eat rather than engage in a big conversation with the server, which will lead to a talk about your various ailments which might make you appear “high maintenance.”

If you are vegan or vegetarian, no problem, as long as you aren’t sitting in judgment if your date orders a steak. If you are a strident vegan, and you can’t watch anyone eat meat products, that is something to figure out BEFORE you go out on a dinner date.

For those of you “foodies” out there…be adventurous and let your date know that you love trying new things.  Foodies need to find each other!

One other thought:  Judging how someone else eats, even if you believe they are harming themselves, is toxic to you, not them.

What got me thinking about all of this was a blog I recently read by Katie Oldenburg at www.thefrisky.com on this topic.  Here’s what she thinks your first date food order says about you…you decide for yourself!

Anything With Garlic: I have no self-awareness or foresight … or I don’t like you.

Tacos: I’m impulsive and a short-term thinker.

Burger And Fries: I want something delicious because I’m hungry. It’s not glamorous and you may judge me for it, so go ahead.

Buffalo Wings: I’m adventurous and not afraid of getting down and dirty.

Pasta: I’m a romantic. There’s something seductive about a savory plate of pasta, as long as sauce isn’t dripping all over the place.

Steak: I’m dominant and powerful. Anybody who wants to slice into a big filet with a steak knife says “I’m in control” (and maybe that attitude will spill into the bedroom later on).

Chicken: I play it safe. May be perceived as boring.

Pizza: I’m down-to-earth. I’m not too uppity, but I also might not be very adventurous.

Meatloaf: I’m not here to impress you. There’s nothing impressive or sexy about meatloaf, therefore there’s nothing impressive or sexy about this date.

Quesadilla: I’m fun, easy going and playful.

Surf And Turf: I’m fancy, sort of materialistic and don’t care about money, because you’re paying.

Salmon: I like you and consider your feelings. I chose a lean piece of fish that’s not too smelly or hearty, tastes good and is classy.

Chicken Fingers: I am a child trapped in an adult’s body and am unaware that you’re probably judging me.

One last thought.  When I was dating, I would generally eat something before going out to dinner, because I didn’t want anyone to see just how ravenous I can become when I get hungry and I am a super sloppy, messy eater.  I would generally order something that I liked ”enough” that wouldn’t end up all over me or them.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

7 Steps to have MORE LOVE in your life in 2018

Love is quite simply the most precious possession in existence. And my mission is to share the best insights I know to bring more love into each of your lives. Today, I want to share the most powerful way to create MORE LOVE in your life in 2018.

This beautiful insight comes from my dear friend Ken Page’s game-changing best seller Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy.

If you want more love in 2018, try this life-changing exercise from Ken:

Think about all the people you know, from your nearest and dearest to people you may not have thought about for years. And just ask yourself these three questions:

  • Who truly loves me?
  • Who sees and treasures me for who I really am?
  • Whom do I trust to have my best interests at heart?

Each of the people you picked is gold. They are your personal dream-team in life. The very wisest path to love is to nurture these relationships – by doing three things:

Practice giving more to each one of these precious people.

Practice asking for more from each of them as well (yes, it’s true, asking for more is an act of intimacy!)

And most of all: enjoy them. This last suggestion is perhaps the greatest act of life wisdom that I know.

Follow these 3 steps and watch 2018 blossom into the most love-filled year of your life.

In Deeper Dating, Ken teaches “micro-meditations;” small practices that take less than three minutes, but have the power to enrich your entire intimacy journey. This micro-meditation can be your foundation for a love-filled 2018.

Micro-Meditation: The Love that’s Already Yours

Pick the person who stood out for you most as you reflected on your relationships. Now try the following:

  • Think about what you love most about this person.
  • Think about the quality of this person’s love for you.
  • Remember one time that you deeply felt the bond between the two of you.
  • Hold this person to your heart for a moment, and say “Thank you.”
  • And now, just let your love quietly ripple through you.

Practice this micro-meditation as many times as you wish, and just watch as your reservoir of love deepens and widens, day after day.

And I promise you, it will. Your heart will become warmer, your life will become richer, and you’ll start meeting new people who also love you for who you are.

Deeper Dating is a life-changing book, written for single people but deeply relevant to absolutely everyone who wants more love in his or her life. You can order it here.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

What’s your “word” for 2018?

Every year, I pick a word that is the guiding theme for me. Last year it was “santosha,” which is Sanskrit for contentment. I even had a special rock made to keep on my desk as a constant reminder.

When I selected that word, I had no idea just how important finding contentment would become.  2017 was, in many ways, one of the most difficult years of my life. Both my husband and my mother had multiple hospitalizations and life-threatening illnesses that many times required me to be in two places at once. All of that, on top of the chaos in the world, created a lot of havoc.  Daily reminders to “seek and be contentment” were a lifesaver.

This year my word is “beauty.”

I seek to see, hear, smell, taste, touch and be beauty as much as possible.

What will your word be?

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Permission to INDULGE!

Happy Thanksgiving!

This is a day for gratitude, as well as nourishing ourselves with delightful, tasty foods and nurturing our hearts and souls with those we most love.

When we allow ourselves the joy of indulging all of our senses, we enhance our brain chemistry, especially by increasing the amount of dopamine in our brain.   Dopamine activates our reward center and is a major neurotransmitter that’s a key factor in motivation, productivity, and focus. Dopamine provides your zest for life and it also plays an important role in attention, memory, moods, and sleep.

To build your dopamine levels, I am declaring Thanksgiving an official Pleasure Puppy Indulgence Day! On this day, you have permission to fully, totally, completely enjoy every morsel of food, every drink, and every precious moment with loved ones.

Now, I am not saying that you should binge or gorge yourself to a ridiculous level.

What I am saying is that you can allow yourself to eat all of the things that are most appealing…without going overboard.  For instance, I have a real sweet tooth and when I eat too much sugar, I get a serious headache.  I have learned that I can eat dessert (and I do nearly every day), but I limit myself to three bites.  That way, I can enjoy the treat and not get the headache.

If you approach the dinner table with judgment, guilt, or fear of getting fat, you diminish your capacity for enjoyment.

Brian and I will be with family enjoying the turkey with all the trimmings, sweet potatoes topped with marshmallows and of course, pumpkin pie!

We wish you a fantastic holiday and remind you to savor every bite, every hug and have a fun, and delicious Thanksgiving Feast.

Love,

Arielle

Making “impossible” POSSIBLE

Manifesting our heart’s desire doesn’t always happen instantly, magically, or effortlessly.

It rarely happens that way.

It can often be a long, circuitous route.

In fact, it’s normal, to sometimes get to the point where you say to yourself:

“It’s just too hard.”

“It isn’t meant to be.”

Blah. Blah. Blah.

And, then, it’s up to YOU to re-ignite your passion and persistence, to take daily steps to make your dreams come true.

The Universe is supporting you, even when, especially when, you can’t see or feel that.

This is why it’s sooooo important to do daily feelingizations – close your eyes, drop from your head to your heart, re-experience feelings of love, appreciation and gratitude (deeply), remember that on the unseen plane, what you’ve asked for IS already YOURS and luxuriate in the joy of your wish fulfilled.

Every day make sure to take baby steps of action towards your goal.  Don’t get caught up in having to know the HOW it’s all going to come together.

That is not your job.

Your job is to stay in alignment with your soul’s desire and to co-create with the Universe.

Remember that the word “impossible” really means “I’m Possible.”

Now get out there and live like you believe this, and soon you will be jumping for joy as the results roll in.

Wishing you love, laughter & magical kisses,

Arielle

Are You Highly Sensitive?

One of the biggest AHA moments of my life was when I discovered that I wasn’t crazy…. I found out that being super sensitive to loud noises and bright lights (and more) is actually a condition with a name – it’s called being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).

What a relief it was to discover not only a name for my peculiar reactions to life, but that there are also solutions. (Some are below!)

About 20% of the population is born with heightened sensitivities. One definition of HSP is described as having hypersensitivity to external stimuli, a greater depth of cognitive processing, and high emotional reactivity.

How do you know if you are an HSP?

  • You become overwhelmed from too much stimulation.
  • You feel drained from emotionally charged situations.
  • You have sensitivity to loud noises, certain smells, or bright lights.
  • You are susceptible to feeling other people’s negative emotions in your body such as anger or stress.

For someone born with heightened sensitivities, your path to creating your dream life can be filled with ease, grace and flow OR it can be a hard journey of struggle, hard work and burnout.

Other signs of being an HSP include:

  • Patterns of behavior that you keep repeating over and over again that prevent you from having what you want.
  • Self-sabotaging success, or finding yourself procrastinating to take action towards a goal even when you have a viable plan.
  • Having a cycle of working really hard and burning out before you reach a goal.

When you are on the path of hard work and burnout, it means that you are subconsciously making decisions and taking actions based on your inner voice of fear and criticism. This voice of fear will alternately tell you to hold back and not take a chance and then tell you that you should be working harder. This leaves you feeling stuck, frustrated and depleted.

Here’s a simple exercise you can do to override this fear-based voice and instead listen to your empowering voice of confidence which will lead you on the path of ease and flow.

Think of someone you really admire and respect, and write down all the qualities you really love and respect about them. Then in detail describe how this person demonstrates the qualities you love about them. You will notice that the qualities that really resonate with you about the person you respect are the qualities people admire most about you and see in YOU.

Now close your eyes and feel these special qualities inside yourself. Think of all the evidence in how you demonstrate them into the world.  THESE special qualities ARE the key to how you get on the path of creating your dream life with ease and flow. When you are resonating the most beautiful qualities of your soul, you make decisions that are empowering and authentic.

If you are a highly sensitive person and want to know the simple four-step formula that creates your dream life with ease and flow, then please join my friend, HSP expert Debbie Lynn Grace, on November 9 for a complimentary webinar. To register, CLICK here.

 

Wishing you love, laughter & magical kisses,

Arielle