Get the Most from Your Single Days

Today’s wisdom is from my dear friend and bestselling author of Calling In the One, Katherine Woodward Thomas who shares how to get the most out of your remaining days as a single!

If you’ve been without a partner for a long time now, living the single life (you know, sleeping in the middle of the bed, falling asleep with the TV on, taking up all the space on the counter of the bathroom), then I’m here to tell you, “Don’t despair!”

These single years can be an extraordinary time of growth, where you can come home to the center of yourself, connect more deeply with your own feelings, needs and desires, discover your own authentic voice, and reflect upon the impact your beliefs and assumptions have had on your past relationships. And do this in a way that supports you to evolve your consciousness to a healthier place from which to create your next relationship.

In short, you actually have the time and the space right now to identify and release your internal barriers to loving partnership, and to prepare yourself to co-create a relationship that reflects the highest possibility you hold of deeply nourishing, inspired, happy, healthy love!

The kinds of shifts that are possible in these precious times of solitude will, however, require much of you. For in order to dramatically transform your relationship patterns, you must be willing to see clearly how you yourself co-created the old ones, as well as take responsibility to begin showing up in completely new ways.

As a mature adult, and not simply a child in a grown-up body who is holding others hostage to your old wounds from childhood.

As a person who is willing to let go of your solo dance in service to becoming ready to be a part of a couple.

And being willing to take full responsibility for those things within yourself that you’ve been blaming others for.

Becoming ready for authentic, happy, healthy love isn’t always easy. But it is always well worth the effort on the other side.

While setting an intention to find love is a good thing, it is really just the beginning of the journey. A reference point for all that you will be focused on transforming in yourself as you become the woman or man you would need to be in order to create a great relationship – one that would represent the fulfillment of your deepest longings.

When you have the courage to say yes to the possibility of love, it will often mean facing things about yourself you’ve not been willing to really look at until now. Such as the part of you that may not actually want to be in a committed relationship. Or maybe the part of you that doesn’t actually want to risk being sexual again. Or the part of you that doesn’t want anyone else’s wants and needs to interfere with getting your own tended to.

Using your single time as a time to prepare for love, often means a radical departure from your old, automatic, and probably pretty comfortable ways of doing things!

I’m talking about those patterns and habits that may identify who you think you are, such as “I am fiercely independent and never ask anyone for help,” or “I’m such a loving person that I always take care of other people before myself.”

Everything you think about yourself is suddenly suspect.

Is it really your nature to be that independent? Or is it a defense against being disappointed again like you were when you were a child? A creative and compensatory response to no one really ever being there for you in the way you needed when you were young?

Is it really loving to self abandon constantly, and to source your value from pleasing other people? Or is it a destructive pattern that keeps you invisible and makes it nearly impossible for you to ever fully commit yourself to someone else because you don’t trust that your authentic self will ever be taken care of?

This time alone grants you the ability to consciously challenge these old ways of seeing yourself, and to begin identifying and practicing new ways of showing up in relationship to yourself and others that are most likely outside of who we’ve known yourself to be.

So, I encourage you to use this time wisely. Moving into a place of stillness for a while and getting into a deeper relationship with yourself can be the most vital and wonderful preparation for receiving a beloved into your life.

If more people took advantage of this time alone, there would be a lot more healthy and happy unions we could point to as role models for what we ourselves are committed to creating.

It all comes down to really doing the work to transform yourself from the inside out while you are still single. To recreate yourself anew, and to focus on becoming the best potential partner you have the capacity to be . . .

So that when you do call in your wonderful, made-for-you soulmate, you’ll actually be worthy of their devotion and their love.

I hope you enjoyed this.  A big thank you to Katherine for sharing this with us.

For those of you who want to experience her genius first hand, there is a no-cost teleseminar coming up. Register here.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. Katherine Woodward Thomas, MA, MFT is the national bestselling author of Calling in “The One.” She is a licensed psychotherapist and creator of the Calling in “The One” 7-week Interactive Online Course, which has supported many thousands of people around the globe in finding their soulmate. She is a creative and inspired transformative educator with over 20 years experience designing and facilitating leading-edge seminars that support the emergence of life-altering shifts in consciousness both in individuals and in groups. Register here.

 

Your LOVE Jackpot – You’re Closer Than You Think

I know you might be feeling tired, frustrated or disappointed when it comes to your love life.

I wanted to share this inspiring true story that’s sure to shed some light on your experience – chances are you’re much closer than you think to hitting your LOVE jackpot.

I also have a special announcement I want to share aboutmy upcoming LIVE 5-Week Soulmate Secret Telecourse that starts Wednesday, June 8th.

Back to the story…

During the California Gold Rush in the 1800s there was a prospector named Mr. Darby who spent weeks with a pick and a shovel digging for gold ore. He found a fair amount in a short time. He then went backin search of the mother-lode. He dug and dug but couldn’t find any more gold.

He decided to give up and sold his equipment to a junkman and went home. The junkman decided to call in an expert, a mining engineer, for help.

The engineer checked the mine and calculated that there wasa vein of gold just three feet from where Mr. Darby had stopped digging. Just three feet!

The junkman went on to make millions!

I share this story with you because you could be just three feet away from your Soulmate and you don’t even know it. Maybe it’s time for you to have your own “expert” help you discover the Soulmate who may be closer than you think!

Thomas Edison was fond of saying that inspiration was only one-percent of success and the other ninety-nine percent was hard work. So many people give up on their dreams and desires when they are literally within reach of the finish line.

What if you are just three feet from your Soulmate gold?

What if all that’s been missing is the guidance, support and step-by-step system you need to access the power to manifest the love of your life this summer?

I’m excited to announce, in response to the overwhelming number of requests I’ve received to teach my Soulmate Secret process in a virtual format, I’m going to be teaching a LIVE virtual 5-WeekTelecourse starting next Wednesday, June 8th.

I will personally guide you and hold your hand through the process of manifesting true and lasting love.

The Soulmate Secret: A 5-Week Course to Manifest
The Love of your Life

I have designed the course to be a step-by-step process to fully support you to get clear, release what’s been holding you back, and master the process of manifestation so that you can raise your love vibration to attract your soulmate.

You can get all the details and register here.

In this course, you’ll join me and my exclusive, online Soulmate Secret learning community each week to learn and apply the simple, secret techniques to manifest your soulmate.

You’ll not only receive my live instruction on manifesting your Soulmate, you’ll do so in an environment that’s supportive, encouraging and fun with other committed Soulmate manifestation partners who will support you every step of the way.

I’ll teach you my proven step-by-step process for creating clarity, anticipation and a powerful intention around what I call “Big Love.”

You’ll also learn powerful ways to unhook the past by cutting the love-blocking energetic cords that bind you to go-nowhere relationships.

I’ll show you how to prepare your heart and home so that you can magnetize the right person to you and be ready when the much-awaited day comes when you finally meet your Soulmate.

These are the very same processes I used to manifest my husband Brian, and that thousands of singles have used to manifest their beloved.

You’ll also get the inside tips, the secret sauce, and my bestt echniques that I know WORK, some of which I’ve never shared before.

Find out more.

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