Yep. That’s a message many of us are giving ourselves every day.
We have a negative voice in our head that is constantly judging, criticizing, shaming and blaming and “shoulding” on us.
I stopped fighting with this voice a long time ago.
Now when she speaks, I laugh at her and say: “Yes, you are right. I am a total mess. A complete f$#k up. and you know, what? I love myself anyway.”
My friend, the late, great Wayne Dyer always said: “Don’t believe every thought that you have.”
He is 100% right.
Just because you have a thought, doesn’t make it so.
The negative voice(s) in your head will probably never totally disappear no matter how high you elevate your self-esteem, no matter how many personal growth workshops you take, or how much therapy you have – our core wounds never truly disappear 100%.
So, I suggest we just learn to have fun with this part of ourselves.
My sister, Debbie, would have told you to give this part of yourself a name – maybe call her “Nasty Nellie ” or “Critical Carl” or “Negative Nancy” and when they show up, laugh in their face, tell them they are wrong and then give yourself a big hug and find a mirror in which to blow yourself a kiss!
And, remember what Al Franken’s character, Stuart Smalley, always said on Saturday Night Live: “I’m good enough. I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people like me!“
Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,