Romance, Food & Your Appetite for Love & Life

Dating, whether you love it or loathe it, is an indispensable part of the soulmate manifestation process (and regular date nights are essential once you are a couple). Eventually, there will be a “first dinner date.” What you order will let him or her know if you have a healthy appetite for love and life.

On these early dates, we want to let our large appetite for life, our enthusiasm for life, really shine through as much as possible.

For those of you with gluten or other sensitivities (I fall into this category), it might be best just to order something you know is “safe” for you to eat rather than engage in a big conversation with the server, which will lead to a talk about your various ailments which might make you appear “high maintenance.”

If you are vegan or vegetarian, no problem, as long as you aren’t sitting in judgment if your date orders a steak. If you are a strident vegan, and you can’t watch anyone eat meat products, that is something to figure out BEFORE you go out on a dinner date.

For those of you “foodies” out there…be adventurous and let your date know that you love trying new things.  Foodies need to find each other!

One other thought:  Judging how someone else eats, even if you believe they are harming themselves, is toxic to you, not them.

What got me thinking about all of this was a blog I recently read by Katie Oldenburg at on this topic.  Here’s what she thinks your first date food order says about you…you decide for yourself!

Anything With Garlic: I have no self-awareness or foresight … or I don’t like you.

Tacos: I’m impulsive and a short-term thinker.

Burger And Fries: I want something delicious because I’m hungry. It’s not glamorous and you may judge me for it, so go ahead.

Buffalo Wings: I’m adventurous and not afraid of getting down and dirty.

Pasta: I’m a romantic. There’s something seductive about a savory plate of pasta, as long as sauce isn’t dripping all over the place.

Steak: I’m dominant and powerful. Anybody who wants to slice into a big filet with a steak knife says “I’m in control” (and maybe that attitude will spill into the bedroom later on).

Chicken: I play it safe. May be perceived as boring.

Pizza: I’m down-to-earth. I’m not too uppity, but I also might not be very adventurous.

Meatloaf: I’m not here to impress you. There’s nothing impressive or sexy about meatloaf, therefore there’s nothing impressive or sexy about this date.

Quesadilla: I’m fun, easy going and playful.

Surf And Turf: I’m fancy, sort of materialistic and don’t care about money, because you’re paying.

Salmon: I like you and consider your feelings. I chose a lean piece of fish that’s not too smelly or hearty, tastes good and is classy.

Chicken Fingers: I am a child trapped in an adult’s body and am unaware that you’re probably judging me.

One last thought.  When I was dating, I would generally eat something before going out to dinner, because I didn’t want anyone to see just how ravenous I can become when I get hungry and I am a super sloppy, messy eater.  I would generally order something that I liked ”enough” that wouldn’t end up all over me or them.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


After Glow of The Royal Wedding

Last Friday Brian and I woke up around 6:15 am in the morning and immediately turned on the television just in time to see “The Kiss.”

We were fortunate to catch the start of a 40-minute recap of the Royal Wedding.

(For those of you who have been sitting in a cave meditating, Prince William and Kate married in a fairytale wedding at Westminster Abbey surrounded by royalty, family, friends, and heads of state.)

There was so much about this event that I just loved:

Her dress was stunning, elegant and absolute perfection.

The setting was spectacular and the hats perched atop the stylish heads were so amusing!

I loved the intimate looks of love exchanged between bride and groom, and of course the carriage ride was straight out of a fairytale.

And, how fun was it to see them in the Aston-Martin convertible as they left Buckingham Palace?

I was also deeply touched that in lieu of wedding gifts, they requested that donations be made to a long list of charities and good causes.

All in all, a beautifully orchestrated wedding.

As I watched the day unfold, I remember feeling immense joy and inspiration knowing that I was aligned with billions of other fellow humans who were also basking in the love and possibility of love that this marriage offers.

I believe Will & Kate are soulmates who are deeply connected and committed to each other. During the past eight years they have matured and grown together and I predict they will be role models for their generation (and generations to come).

At a time on the planet that is filled with so much bad news, devastation, and cynicism, this uplifting wedding offered a wonderful reminder that by sharing and observing the wedding rituals and celebrating a marriage, we can all tap into the power of love. Thanks to the Prince and his Princess!

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Beginners Mind: Secret to Manifesting a Soulmate

What does it take to manifest the love of your life?

I’ve heard from first-time brides (at 49 and older!), from busy entrepreneurs whose 80-hour-a-week work schedules left little time for romance, and from divorcees and widowers who were convinced that the opportunity for true love had long passed them by.

Those who have successfully manifested their soulmates did so by finding a healthy balance between intending and allowing; between doing and being.

Not only did they do the necessary manifestation techniques but they also cultivated a state of what the Buddhists call “Beginner’s Mind”. They carried out the exercises and rituals with an attitude of openness, eagerness, and an absence of preconceptions.

Even if their hearts were still aching from a past breakup or their present circumstances were less than ideal, they didn’t allow themselves to fall into the common trap of thinking that they’d already done and tried everything, and therefore nothing new would work for them. They stayed open to the possibilities and remained hopeful, not defeated.

Becoming a successful manifestor requires a certain level of emotional maturity. Great manifestors have learned the art of managing their thoughts and emotions so that even when doubt, fear or other limiting feelings pop up, they are not swept into a spiral of negativity. Developing this kind of mental discipline requires us to make a deliberate choice to focus our attention on what we desire rather than on what we don’t want.

For example, whenever I catch myself dwelling in a negative or unpleasant thought or feeling, I say to myself “cancel-cancel,” and I then intentionally create a new vision for myself. Sometimes this simple shift in perception is all I need, and other times I reach into my toolkit of emotional release techniques and dedicate five or ten minutes to working through my mini-issue so that my creative energies stay aligned with the outcome I desire.

You too must recognize the powerful influence your thoughts and feelings have and do your best to keep them positive. I know; the process of magnetizing your soulmate can get discouraging at times. But if you’re approaching it from the mindset of “it’s been a year and it still hasn’t happened,” you’re living in the reality of what’s missing.

The universe simply can’t add more love to your life when you’re focused on the love you don’t have.

If you can shift your focus to magnetizing your soulmate rather than “looking” for him or her; and if you can adjust your emotional state from impatience to savoring the waiting, love will blossom in its own time, and in colors and fragrances that will both surprise and delight you.

Your soulmate is on the way to you from wherever he or she is right now. The details are not yours to coordinate. Your job is simply to love yourself, enjoy your life as it unfolds in each moment, hold a clear intention of the love you are manifesting, and have faith in the unseen forces that are even now guiding the fulfillment of your dream.

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