Someone To Grow Old With

In the movie, Shall We Dance, starring Richard Gere, Jennifer Lopez and Susan Sarandon, there is a terrific scene where Sarandon ‘s character is sitting at a bar explaining to a stranger why being married is important.  She says,

“We need a witness to our lives.  There are billions of people on the planet…I mean, what does any one life really mean?  But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything – the good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things – all of it, all the time, every day.

You’re saying, “Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it.  Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness.”

For the 65% of Baby Boomers who are married, this ideal of marriage probably resonates. We DO want someone to share ourselves with and to eventually grow old with.  Even for those Boomers who have divorced, most seek to remarry… to find a new lover, best friends, and partner for life.

But things are changing.

There is a disturbing trend happening today around marriage and commitment. One study shows that 39% of Americans say that marriage is becoming obsolete. It appears that marriage has lost its appeal for the younger generations, especially the Millennials (the 18-29-year-olds).  They are pro-parenthood but anti-marriage.

According to Pew Research Center, right now 61% of births to women 20-24 are out of wedlock while one in three births for women 25-29 are to unwed mothers.


According to Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse, president of the Ruth Institute for Marriage and Family:

“Women don’t think men are necessary.  Therefore, they are unwilling to go to the effort required to be in a relationship with a man.”

Clearly these are women who have not experienced the beauty and magic of a relationship that works.  A relationship where two people choose to share a life together and to make a commitment to work through all the ups and downs, good days and bad days.

What will it take to convince the younger generation that marriage isn’t obsolete? I think they need to hear from those who are happily married all the reasons why they find marriage valuable.  Role models are needed and necessary, and clearly at this point in time, missing….

We’ve become a disposable society, not just with our trash, but also with the people in our lives.  If a relationship becomes difficult we declare, “this isn’t working for me” and move on.  We treat our cars better than people.  At least with our cars we know and expect that they need regular maintenance – the oil needs changing, the tires rotating and brakes need replacing.  And yet, even with the people closest to us, so many of us seem unwilling to put in a little time, energy and effort into working through our issues.

I believe a big part of this problem is that we aren’t born with the innate knowledge on how to make a relationship work and our partners don’t come with an “owner’s manual.”

Here’s the bottom line….we’re all going to get old someday.

We can do it alone or we can make the effort to manifest a soulmate and then nurture them and have a best friend to share our golden years with.  Even if you haven’t met “the one” yet, it’s never too early to learn the needed skills so that you can experience Big Love.

As that commercial says, this is an experience that is “priceless.”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


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Are You Too Busy For Love?

Spring is in the air…..which means that summer is right around the corner– the time of year when I get the most requests for workshops….

That’s why I’m excited to announce that for the very first time ever, I will be sharing my very best love magic in a 5 Week LIVE Telecourse that I have designed so that I can take you by the hand, and guide you step-by-step, to assist you manifesting your heart’s desire….your soulmate, your lover for life, your best friend and partner.

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It begins on Wednesday, June 8th and it includes many new tools and processes for clearing the blocks to love that I’ve never shared before, so that you can raise your love vibration and become a magnet for love.

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As someone who stays really busy, I know how crazy life can get. I often have items on my “To-Do” list that I really believe are important to me but somehow they never seem to get done….I just get “too busy.”

Eventually I get honest with myself and ask “do you really desire this or not?” And, if the answer is YES, this is my desire, I will find a way to manage my time or I will take it off my “To-Do” list.

If manifesting a soulmate is something that you say is a major priority for you….and it’s been on your list for more than two years and nothing seems to be happening, chances are you have been “too busy.”

So…my questions to you are this: Are you willing, open and available for a long-term, committed relationship with a soulmate? If your answer is yes, then I would ask you, “are you willing to make a commitment to focusing on love and receiving some help and some support?”

When I hear success stories from my students, I always ask them what they did that made a difference for them. Usually they tell me a few specific processes or rituals from the book or a workshop they attended with me.

And then I ask them, “Who did you have in your life who supported you or held you accountable for making your dream come true?” Most of them had a friend, or a buddy or a coach that joined them in supporting their dream.

There is plenty of research that proves that having a support system is a necessary ingredient to success, whether it’s getting into shape, overcoming an addiction, a disease, or climbing the corporate ladder. For the next five weeks, let me hold your hand on the path to love.

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