Get the Most from Your Single Days

Today’s wisdom is from my dear friend and bestselling author of Calling In the One, Katherine Woodward Thomas who shares how to get the most out of your remaining days as a single!

If you’ve been without a partner for a long time now, living the single life (you know, sleeping in the middle of the bed, falling asleep with the TV on, taking up all the space on the counter of the bathroom), then I’m here to tell you, “Don’t despair!”

These single years can be an extraordinary time of growth, where you can come home to the center of yourself, connect more deeply with your own feelings, needs and desires, discover your own authentic voice, and reflect upon the impact your beliefs and assumptions have had on your past relationships. And do this in a way that supports you to evolve your consciousness to a healthier place from which to create your next relationship.

In short, you actually have the time and the space right now to identify and release your internal barriers to loving partnership, and to prepare yourself to co-create a relationship that reflects the highest possibility you hold of deeply nourishing, inspired, happy, healthy love!

The kinds of shifts that are possible in these precious times of solitude will, however, require much of you. For in order to dramatically transform your relationship patterns, you must be willing to see clearly how you yourself co-created the old ones, as well as take responsibility to begin showing up in completely new ways.

As a mature adult, and not simply a child in a grown-up body who is holding others hostage to your old wounds from childhood.

As a person who is willing to let go of your solo dance in service to becoming ready to be a part of a couple.

And being willing to take full responsibility for those things within yourself that you’ve been blaming others for.

Becoming ready for authentic, happy, healthy love isn’t always easy. But it is always well worth the effort on the other side.

While setting an intention to find love is a good thing, it is really just the beginning of the journey. A reference point for all that you will be focused on transforming in yourself as you become the woman or man you would need to be in order to create a great relationship – one that would represent the fulfillment of your deepest longings.

When you have the courage to say yes to the possibility of love, it will often mean facing things about yourself you’ve not been willing to really look at until now. Such as the part of you that may not actually want to be in a committed relationship. Or maybe the part of you that doesn’t actually want to risk being sexual again. Or the part of you that doesn’t want anyone else’s wants and needs to interfere with getting your own tended to.

Using your single time as a time to prepare for love, often means a radical departure from your old, automatic, and probably pretty comfortable ways of doing things!

I’m talking about those patterns and habits that may identify who you think you are, such as “I am fiercely independent and never ask anyone for help,” or “I’m such a loving person that I always take care of other people before myself.”

Everything you think about yourself is suddenly suspect.

Is it really your nature to be that independent? Or is it a defense against being disappointed again like you were when you were a child? A creative and compensatory response to no one really ever being there for you in the way you needed when you were young?

Is it really loving to self abandon constantly, and to source your value from pleasing other people? Or is it a destructive pattern that keeps you invisible and makes it nearly impossible for you to ever fully commit yourself to someone else because you don’t trust that your authentic self will ever be taken care of?

This time alone grants you the ability to consciously challenge these old ways of seeing yourself, and to begin identifying and practicing new ways of showing up in relationship to yourself and others that are most likely outside of who we’ve known yourself to be.

So, I encourage you to use this time wisely. Moving into a place of stillness for a while and getting into a deeper relationship with yourself can be the most vital and wonderful preparation for receiving a beloved into your life.

If more people took advantage of this time alone, there would be a lot more healthy and happy unions we could point to as role models for what we ourselves are committed to creating.

It all comes down to really doing the work to transform yourself from the inside out while you are still single. To recreate yourself anew, and to focus on becoming the best potential partner you have the capacity to be . . .

So that when you do call in your wonderful, made-for-you soulmate, you’ll actually be worthy of their devotion and their love.

I hope you enjoyed this.  A big thank you to Katherine for sharing this with us.

For those of you who want to experience her genius first hand, there is a no-cost teleseminar coming up. Register here.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. Katherine Woodward Thomas, MA, MFT is the national bestselling author of Calling in “The One.” She is a licensed psychotherapist and creator of the Calling in “The One” 7-week Interactive Online Course, which has supported many thousands of people around the globe in finding their soulmate. She is a creative and inspired transformative educator with over 20 years experience designing and facilitating leading-edge seminars that support the emergence of life-altering shifts in consciousness both in individuals and in groups. Register here.

 

LOVE before First Sight!

If you believe that on some level we are all connected… that the “unified field” really does exist (and according to quantum physics it does), then great news – you are already connected to your soulmate on the cosmic level.

When I was manifesting my soulmate, I instinctively knew this and so every day I would take time to meditate and then I would “talk” to my soulmate. I didn’t know his name, or where he was, but I would share my day with him and always let him know that I was ready for him to arrive whenever the time was right for him. I believe that one of the reasons Brian and I “recognized” each other when we finally did meet on the physical plane is because I had already begun the relationship with him.

One of my students, Patricia Arroyo, a Ph.D. psychologist and certified coach, recently emailed me to share the fabulous news that ten months ago she manifested her soulmate and that “talking to her soulmate” was one of the Soulmate Secret tools she used that really supported her in the process. The “feelingizations” were a powerful daily reminder that she is the source of love and that by remembering and re-experiencing love she was able to dispel feelings of desperation and loneliness. She also shared with me that believing and knowing that her soulmate was also “looking for her” was a real eye-opener! (Patricia is available as a coach on how to manifest a soulmate so if you want some extra support. You can email her at drparroyo@nullicloud.com)

Remember, BIG LOVE is possible – you just need to commit to putting in a little time, energy, intention and attention on your love life.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

I’ve Got Something Special for You

One of the most fun and creative things I get to do in my life is interviewing the world’s top love experts…luminaries like Deepak Chopra, Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, John Gray, Lisa Nichols, Marianne Williamson, Gay and Katie Hendricks, John Assaraf, Marci Shimoff, and so many more!

It’s all part of the AMAZING and FREE online Series I host called Attract Your Soulmate Now. I honestly feel like I have gotten a Ph.D. in love by interviewing more than 50 of the world’s top authors, thought leaders, and experts, who have shared with me their insights, tips and techniques on attracting powerful love into your life.

During the 9 days of this free online event, these love experts offer you their best teachings and advice, and they’ll share their latest research and discoveries on how to attract and cultivate deep, soulful love.

Here’s the really good news …. there is absolutely no cost to you, the payoff is huge!

Reserve Your Spot For Attract Your Soulmate Now!

You’ll learn proven techniques to:

  • Manifest the love of your life
  • Let go of past hurts and attachments
  • Break-through fears (It can be terrifying to love someone so much!)
  • Master successful dating strategies
  • Communicate and resolve conflicts
  • Ask for (and get!) what you want from a partner
  • Sustain a deeply soulful connection

Plus, master panelists will share their best insights on “dating, mating and flirting,” increasing self-love, changing your limiting beliefs, improving communication in all your relationships, bringing more playfulness to your love life, navigating the world of online dating, surviving a breakup, and using astrology, numerology, and feng shui to find love.

I can hardly believe how much wisdom and insight we have packed into just 9 powerful days!

I even invited some real-life soulmate couples who reveal how they prepared themselves for Big Love and how they manifested each other. They also give an inside look at what soulmate love is all about.

Join me To Attract Your Soulmate Now!

Does this work? Just ask our event director Bevin Lynch who participated in this series in 2011 and is now engaged and planning her Fall wedding!

Previous event participants have said they experienced real break-throughs, resulting in big shifts in their love lives:

“I feel so blessed to have come across these teachings at the place I am now in my life-dating for the first time at the age of 33. Tears of gratitude fill my eyes when I listen to and learn from the talks!” –Melana

“Recently single after being in a relationship for three years, I had been afraid to date again. But this series completely changed my perspective and now I’m so hopeful!” –Cheyenne

“I love the whole series! Especially the messages about self-acceptance and how to connect to our feelings . . . plus, all the fun dating advice. I’m now ready to try online dating with a whole new perspective and ability to attract my soulmate to me!” -Jill

So whether you’re new to dating, just getting back in the game, or wondering if the person you’re with could actually be “the one,” you owe it to yourself to participate in this extraordinary “love-changing” series. And it won’t cost you a penny!

Discover How To Attract Your Soulmate Now!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses!

Arielle

 

Someone To Grow Old With

In the movie, Shall We Dance, starring Richard Gere, Jennifer Lopez and Susan Sarandon, there is a terrific scene where Sarandon ‘s character is sitting at a bar explaining to a stranger why being married is important.  She says,

“We need a witness to our lives.  There are billions of people on the planet…I mean, what does any one life really mean?  But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything – the good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things – all of it, all the time, every day.

You’re saying, “Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it.  Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness.”

For the 65% of Baby Boomers who are married, this ideal of marriage probably resonates. We DO want someone to share ourselves with and to eventually grow old with.  Even for those Boomers who have divorced, most seek to remarry… to find a new lover, best friends, and partner for life.

But things are changing.

There is a disturbing trend happening today around marriage and commitment. One study shows that 39% of Americans say that marriage is becoming obsolete. It appears that marriage has lost its appeal for the younger generations, especially the Millennials (the 18-29-year-olds).  They are pro-parenthood but anti-marriage.

According to Pew Research Center, right now 61% of births to women 20-24 are out of wedlock while one in three births for women 25-29 are to unwed mothers.

Why?

According to Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse, president of the Ruth Institute for Marriage and Family:

“Women don’t think men are necessary.  Therefore, they are unwilling to go to the effort required to be in a relationship with a man.”

Clearly these are women who have not experienced the beauty and magic of a relationship that works.  A relationship where two people choose to share a life together and to make a commitment to work through all the ups and downs, good days and bad days.

What will it take to convince the younger generation that marriage isn’t obsolete? I think they need to hear from those who are happily married all the reasons why they find marriage valuable.  Role models are needed and necessary, and clearly at this point in time, missing….

We’ve become a disposable society, not just with our trash, but also with the people in our lives.  If a relationship becomes difficult we declare, “this isn’t working for me” and move on.  We treat our cars better than people.  At least with our cars we know and expect that they need regular maintenance – the oil needs changing, the tires rotating and brakes need replacing.  And yet, even with the people closest to us, so many of us seem unwilling to put in a little time, energy and effort into working through our issues.

I believe a big part of this problem is that we aren’t born with the innate knowledge on how to make a relationship work and our partners don’t come with an “owner’s manual.”

Here’s the bottom line….we’re all going to get old someday.

We can do it alone or we can make the effort to manifest a soulmate and then nurture them and have a best friend to share our golden years with.  Even if you haven’t met “the one” yet, it’s never too early to learn the needed skills so that you can experience Big Love.

As that commercial says, this is an experience that is “priceless.”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. The good news is that all the tools and tips we need to create an extraordinary, deep, loving, juicy relationship ALREADY EXISTS!

I spent the last six months researching and interviewing the top love and relationship experts on the planet for my Art of Love Series, which recently concluded.  These powerful love luminaries included John Gray, don Miguel Ruiz, Alison Armstrong, Neale Donald Walsch, Jack Canfield, Marianne Williamson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Helen Fisher, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Gay & Katie Hendricks, Jean Houston and more.

If you didn’t have a chance to tune in for this, don’t despair.  You can own the entire series for a special 50% off price ($97 or four payments of $25) that is in effect until Midnight pacific time on March 7th.  Click here for all the details

For Better or Worse

As most of you know by now, my darling sister Debbie died last week after a very long journey with cancer. Deb and I were as close as two sisters could possibly be. Our lives were deeply intertwined. When she became gravely ill this past month, I basically stopped my normal life to be with her. When it became clear that she was in her final days, my soulmate, Brian, became my rock, my hero, and my soft place to land. He did this not just for me, but my mother, as well as Debbie’s co-workers and caregivers Julie and Fran. Brian, who is so wise–not only on how to live but he also understands the dying process–spent much of his time preparing all of us for the inevitable. With patience and grace — and with so much love – Brian helped us cope, understand and adapt on so many levels.

And he was present for my sister Debbie in ways that her soul yearned for. They had many deep conversations about where she was, and where she was going. She loved and trusted Brian so much, and with his support, she was able to come to terms with dying. He helped her see that something beautiful awaited and gave her the peace to let go. It made the end of her life her so much more profound and beautiful because she had someone to guide her through.

He gave of himself tirelessly, with devotion, patience, empathy, and buckets full of unconditional love. Brian wrapped us all in a down comforter of love and hugs that made the unbearable bearable.

As every moment left with Debbie became more precious, the true meaning of life became so obvious–we are here to give love, to receive love and to truly BE love. I was reminded how truly important it is for us to love and honor ourselves, to love those around us, and to purposely manifest your soulmate. I know how blessed I feel to know that my soulmate is by my side.

Today, I want to leave you with one of my favorite quotes from A Course In Miracles:
“The only thing that can be lacking in any situation is that which you are not giving.”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. In lieu of flowers donations can be made to Debbie’s foundation www.thecollectiveheart.org for the Girl Power Project.  If you would like to share your memories and stories about Debbie, prayers for Debbie, or messages for her family, please visit www.RememberingDebbieFord.com

Monkey Mind Management 101

We’ve all been there…..the days when we spiral down convinced that life just isn’t going our way… that we are undeserving of love, or the new job, or the thing we are most wishing for.

Our mind goes into overdrive, some would call it a negative feedback loop, and we keep replaying the negativity over and over again, convinced our mind is telling us the truth.
BUT….just because you have a thought does not mean it’s true!

It’s up to us to begin to manage our thoughts and emotions and there are ways to do this but it requires a little time and attention.

When you find yourself having negative thoughts, try these techniques:

1)    Stop what you are doing and acknowledge to yourself what you are thinking…internally (or out loud) say “cancel-cancel.”

2)    Then take time to do a feelingization (go to www.soulmatesecret.com and scroll down to the Love Magnet video) to move from your monkey mind to your heart and begin to feel love, appreciation and gratitude.  Remember, you attract MORE of what you are grateful for!

3)    Now create a positive affirmation that FEELS GOOD IN YOUR BODY.  Statements such as: I am a kind and loving being or I am grateful for all the love in my life right now.  Whatever statement feels most natural to you.  Write these on post-it notes and place where you can look at them daily.

I want to suggest that those of you who truly, deeply desire a soulmate that you begin to let go of your doubts of what is possible for you…..remember that the word “impossible” is really “I’m possible.”

One of my favorite quotes in Wayne Dyers book, WISHES FULFILLED, is from the great teacher, Neville, who said “Make your future dream a present fact by assuming the feeling of the wish fulfilled.”

I strongly encourage you to write this down and look at it daily. You deserve love and the one you are seeking is ALSO seeking you.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,
Arielle

P.S. Manifesting the soulmate is the first step, learning how to keep and grow the LOVE is step two – get ready now with The Art of Love Relationship Series (no cost to participate). Love luminaries such as John Gray, don Miguel Ruiz, Alison Armstrong, Neale Donald Walsch, Jack Canfield, Marianne Williamson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Helen Fisher, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Gay & Katie Hendricks, Craig Hamilton, Claire Zammit, Debbie Ford, Jean Houston and more show you how.
The Art of Love Relationship Series <== Join The Love Fest!

The Art of Love

While I realize that many of you have your attention manifesting a soulmate…..have you thought about “once you are in the relationship” if you have all the necessary skills to navigate the days when things get a little bumpy or dare I say it, even a little boring?

As a first-time bride at age 44, I went into my soulmate relationship with no partnership skills…oy…and I learned how to have a great relationship through trial and error.  But, you don’t have to do it this way!

For the past few months I have been super busy programming a no-cost 10-day, online series called The Art of Love where I have the honor and privilege to guide the world’s top 50 love and relationship experts, who share the latest, cutting edge, transformative love skills through a series of workshops.

It begins on February 12th and features luminaries such as John Gray, don Miguel Ruiz, Alison Armstrong, Neale Donald Walsch, Jack Canfield, Marianne Williamson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Helen Fisher, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Gay & Katie Hendricks, Craig Hamilton, Claire Zammit, Debbie Ford, Jean Houston and more.

The Art of Love Relationship Series! <== Join The Love Fest!

I’ve designed this revolutionary program to help you get READY for love so that you  can heat up your own intimacy skills, learn productive conflict resolution, and much more. (Some days I just have to pinch myself because I can’t believe the amazing things I get to do in my life!)

Here is a sneak peek at what we will be covering:

  • Why incompatibility and conflict are important in a relationship.
  • Sure-fire ways to initiate sex and play.
  • One sentence that fixes almost everything.
  • When honesty isn’t the best policy.
  • The big fat lies that get in the way of love.
  • How reading 50 Shades of Grey gives permission to receive pleasure.
  • The “Wonder Move” to get your self unstuck fast.
  • Two things all men want (hint: it’s not sex).
  • How to invite God into your relationship.
  • The 5 short sentences that heal all wounds.
  • Why hugs, spa days and shopping lead to stronger orgasms in women.
  • And so much more…..

When I programmed and hosted the first version of this series, in the Fall of 2011, afterwards I felt like I had earned a Ph.D in Love.  What I discovered was invaluable to my relationship with Brian! I so wish I had known all of this at the beginning of my marriage instead of learning it the hard way!

The Art of Love Relationship Series! <== Join The Love Fest!

In each workshop I will draw out the most insightful wisdom from each and every transformative love luminary while keeping it easy to digest all of the hot tips. These experts will share their best practices about how to reawaken hot & steamy bedroom activities, navigate through relationship stress, create balance, break destructive patterns, sharpen your relationship-building skills, get what you really want from your beloved, add playfulness to your world, and much more!

Whether you’re dating, or in a new partnership, improving your relationship skills should be high on your TO DO LIST — YOU do have the power to bring change to your love life!

The Art of Love Relationship Series! <== Reserve Your Spot

I encourage you to take advantage of this opportunity right now and register for this no-cost event today.

I look forward to seeing you at The Art of Love Relationship Series!

Arielle

P.S. FYI, just for registering you have access to a Limited Time GIFT BAG filled with audio/video seminars and eBooks from Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt,      Dr. Diana Kirschner, Alison Armstrong, Sheri Meyers, Tammy Nelson, and Susie & Otto Collins. Plus you’ll be entered into a drawing to win your very own Art of Love iPod Nano!

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Your LOVE Jackpot – You’re Closer Than You Think

I know you might be feeling tired, frustrated or disappointed when it comes to your love life.

I wanted to share this inspiring true story that’s sure to shed some light on your experience – chances are you’re much closer than you think to hitting your LOVE jackpot.

I also have a special announcement I want to share aboutmy upcoming LIVE 5-Week Soulmate Secret Telecourse that starts Wednesday, June 8th.

Back to the story…

During the California Gold Rush in the 1800s there was a prospector named Mr. Darby who spent weeks with a pick and a shovel digging for gold ore. He found a fair amount in a short time. He then went backin search of the mother-lode. He dug and dug but couldn’t find any more gold.

He decided to give up and sold his equipment to a junkman and went home. The junkman decided to call in an expert, a mining engineer, for help.

The engineer checked the mine and calculated that there wasa vein of gold just three feet from where Mr. Darby had stopped digging. Just three feet!

The junkman went on to make millions!

I share this story with you because you could be just three feet away from your Soulmate and you don’t even know it. Maybe it’s time for you to have your own “expert” help you discover the Soulmate who may be closer than you think!

Thomas Edison was fond of saying that inspiration was only one-percent of success and the other ninety-nine percent was hard work. So many people give up on their dreams and desires when they are literally within reach of the finish line.

What if you are just three feet from your Soulmate gold?

What if all that’s been missing is the guidance, support and step-by-step system you need to access the power to manifest the love of your life this summer?

I’m excited to announce, in response to the overwhelming number of requests I’ve received to teach my Soulmate Secret process in a virtual format, I’m going to be teaching a LIVE virtual 5-WeekTelecourse starting next Wednesday, June 8th.

I will personally guide you and hold your hand through the process of manifesting true and lasting love.

The Soulmate Secret: A 5-Week Course to Manifest
The Love of your Life

I have designed the course to be a step-by-step process to fully support you to get clear, release what’s been holding you back, and master the process of manifestation so that you can raise your love vibration to attract your soulmate.

You can get all the details and register here.

In this course, you’ll join me and my exclusive, online Soulmate Secret learning community each week to learn and apply the simple, secret techniques to manifest your soulmate.

You’ll not only receive my live instruction on manifesting your Soulmate, you’ll do so in an environment that’s supportive, encouraging and fun with other committed Soulmate manifestation partners who will support you every step of the way.

I’ll teach you my proven step-by-step process for creating clarity, anticipation and a powerful intention around what I call “Big Love.”

You’ll also learn powerful ways to unhook the past by cutting the love-blocking energetic cords that bind you to go-nowhere relationships.

I’ll show you how to prepare your heart and home so that you can magnetize the right person to you and be ready when the much-awaited day comes when you finally meet your Soulmate.

These are the very same processes I used to manifest my husband Brian, and that thousands of singles have used to manifest their beloved.

You’ll also get the inside tips, the secret sauce, and my bestt echniques that I know WORK, some of which I’ve never shared before.

Find out more.

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Stop Depriving The World of Your LOVE!

Recently, in a large city in France, a poster featuring a young, thin and tan woman appeared in the window of a gym. It said, “This summer, do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?”

A middle-aged woman, whose physical characteristics did not match those of the woman on the poster, responded publicly to the question posted by the gym.

To Whom It May Concern:

Whales are always surrounded by friends…dolphins, sea lions, curious humans.

They have an active sex life, get pregnant and have adorable baby whales. They have a wonderful time with dolphins stuffing themselves with shrimp. They play and swim in the seas, seeing wonderful places like Patagonia, the Bering Sea and the coral reefs of Polynesia. Whales are wonderful singers and have even recorded CDs. They are incredible creatures and virtually have no predators other than humans.

They are loved, protected and admired by almost everyone in the world.

Mermaids don’t exist. If they did exist, they would be lining up outside the offices of psychoanalysts due to an identity crisis. Fish or human? They don’t have a sex life because they kill men who get close to them, not to mention how could they have sex? Just look at them … where is IT? Therefore, they don’t have kids either. Not to mention, who wants to get close to a girl who smells like a fish store?

The choice is perfectly clear to me: I want to be a whale.

I share this story for those of you who still believe you won’t deserve your soulmate until you lose a certain amount of weight or change some part of your physical appearance. Your soulmate is searching for a real person with real love to share not some half-starved, insecure, specimen of Madison Avenue’s standard of perfection. Stop hiding out behind your excuses (or over-indulgence in junk food) and commit today to loving yourself enough to magnetize your soulmate to you.

Now, more than ever, Planet Earth needs your love – the blissful love of self-loving, self-nurturing singles as well as happy couples beaming more love to everyone and everything around them. Stop depriving the world of your love and join the whales.

P.S. For a FREE chapter of my newest book, Click right here:  WabiSabiLove.com

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Arielle Recommends: Growing Up in Heaven

In his newest book, James Van Praagh reveals the reality that LOVE transcends the physical and material planes of this world; loved ones are never really lost and children who pass from this world are very HAPPY in heaven!.

Growing Up in Heaven follows the path of a child’s soul—their time spent in heaven and their connection to the living.

Widely considered as one of the most accurate and authentic mediums in the WORLD, Van Praagh has written three New York Times bestselling books and was a producer of the hit T.V. show The Ghost Whisperer.

Curious about what else is in heaven? Satisfy your curiosity by ordering your copy now.  Growing Up in Heaven

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love