A Little Love Goes A Long Way

I just love the healing power of homeopathy.

Based on the theory that “like attracts like,” a homeopathic remedy is an itty, bitty healing dose that generally brings big relief.

I think putting out homeopathic doses of love to yourself, friends, family, and the world has a similar effect.

What “small dose of love” can you give yourself today?

It can be anything from taking something off your To-Do list, enjoying a soothing bubble bath, forgiving yourself whatever feels kind & loving for you.

What love could you give to someone else?

A phone call? Bring them flowers? Send a beautifully written email or letter of appreciation?

What small dose of love can you offer the world?

Plant a tree? Donate to a good cause?  Say prayers of peace and healing for the planet?

If we each did these things, perhaps we can have a big impact (and raise up) the love frequency of the world.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

Love, Longevity & Toxic Thoughts

me&Br caveIf you are reading this, it’s likely you are someone who is committed to a healthy, spiritual lifestyle of meditating, yoga, exercise, practicing loving kindness and eating organic, non-GMO foods. Chances are you are focused on supplying your life and your body with things that have the highest-level of nourishment. What you probably don’t know is that there is something that quickly wipes out the benefits of all of this…. Having toxic and judgmental thoughts about your spouse!

 

Research shows that these negative emotions and thoughts actually suppress your immune system.

 

The latest science now shows that the #1 thing that will extend your life and contribute to the quality of your life, for many years, is a happy marriage!

 

Known as “the marriage effect” it’s now proven that happily married couples are:

  • More likely to live longer.
  • More likely to be physically and mentally healthier and happier.
  • More likely to recover from illness quicker and with greater success.

 

And for men, this is really important to know:

A 2007 study found that the rate of death of single men over age 40 was twice as high than that of married men. Marriage for men is a lifesaver.

 

And for those of you of the generation that would prefer to shack up over getting legally married, you need to know that living together is not the same as being married to each other. It was found that happy couples who are living together in a committed, unmarried relationship don’t receive the benefit of The Marriage Effect.

 

When I asked Harville Hendrix  (love expert extraordinaire, whom Oprah calls The Marriage Whisperer) about it, he explained that it has to do with safety and security. On the unconscious level, those committed but unmarried couples do not experience the same level of safety that married couples do.  Safety is one of our most profound human needs.

 

What about those couples who lived together for years very successfully but then got married and soon divorced? Harville says the reason stems from the emergence of the real work of marriage only after we take those sacred vows. It seems that we have to work for our security, but the pay-off is longevity and a more stable lifestyle.

 

More good news:  Sex can save your life!  Just as you commit to eating right and exercising for your well being and health, it’s important to make sure you are having sex…. the more the better.  According to leading sex expert and researcher, Dr. Pepper Schwartz of the University of Washington, studies shows that for women, sex provides lower anxiety, more vitality, a higher quality of life all while building immunity.

 

For men, sex one time a month of more will reduce his risk of dying by 60%.  The men who had sex twice a week (or more) were least likely to die and sex provides protection for men against cancer and heart disease.

 

Bottom line:  A happy, sexy marriage is one key to a long, satisfying healthy life.  Add this to the top of your program and watch what happens!

 

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

P.S. If your heart’s desire is to manifest the love of your life, and you are willing to dedicate your time, attention and intention to making it happen, then I invite you to join me August 19-21 at the beautiful Omega Institute to discover how to quickly and easily make it happen! (This is the only time this year I am offering this weekend workshop.)

Love, Life and What Is Most Needed

One day, many years ago, Brian and I were in Tiffany’s, simply browsing all the pretty shiny and sparkling things.  As we looked through the glass cabinet at a diamond bracelet, a very elegant man in a suit, behind the counter, asked if I would like to try it on.  I immediately said to him: “Oh no thanks, I certainly don’t need anything like this.”

His instant reply floored me: “Madam, this is not about “need,” this is all about “want.”

He was right, and in that moment he gave me a distinction I had never thought about: the difference between “need” vs. “want.”

Our basic needs: air, food, water, shelter, security are obviously the most important ones and essential to life.

But, what about everything else?

Some examples:

cars2I want to eat cheesecake, red velvet cupcakes, macadamia nut chocolate chip cookies and gobs of pasta.  I am gluten and sugar sensitive, so I need to eat healthy foods. The choice is up to me.  My “wants” can hurt me.

I want to drive the big, expensive Tesla sedan.  And, I work from home and only need a very small car to get to the market in.

Now, does that mean I can’t ever have my “wants?”

No, of course not, but knowing the difference is very useful when making decisions (And, I indulge my sweet tooth nearly every day, but I limit myself to 3 small bites.)

For those of you seeking your soulmate, it’s often hard to discern between a want and a need.  One way to do it is to ask yourself this question: “Will this want/need contribute to my long-term happiness?”  If this answer is yes, then I would put it in the “need” category.

I have learned over the years that the more I let go of my “wants” and get comfortable and committed to handling my needs, knowing that I always have “enough” makes my life easier, more fun and certainly more peaceful.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

P.S. If your heart’s desire is to manifest the love of your life, and you are willing to dedicate your time, attention and intention to making it happen, then I invite you to join me August 19-21 at the beautiful Omega Institute to discover how to quickly and easily make it happen! (This is the only time this year I am offering this weekend workshop)

Love Letter From God

If you are single and struggling with love, or have any single friends that are, please read this very special love letter from God:

 

Love Letter From God

Dear One,

Love LetterEveryone longs to give themselves completely to someone, to have a deep soul relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively, but I say “No.”  Not until you are satisfied, fulfilled and content with being alone, with giving yourself totally and unreservedly to Me, will you be ready to have the intensely personal and unique relationship that I have planned for you.  You will never be united with anyone or anything else until you are united with Me. I want you to stop planning, stop wishing, and start allowing Me to give you the most thrilling plan in existence – one that you cannot even imagine. I want you to have the best.  Please, allow Me to bring it to you.

You must keep watching Me expecting the greatest of things.  Keep experiencing the satisfaction that I AM.  Keep listening and learning the things that I will tell you.  Just wait.  That’s all.  Don’t be anxious. Don’t worry. Don’t look around at the things others have or that I have given them.  Don’t look at the things you think you want. Just keep looking up to Me or you will miss what I want to show you.  And then, when you are ready, I will surprise you with a love far more wonderful than any you have dreamed of.

 You see, until you are ready and until the one I have for you is ready (I am working even at this moment to have you both ready at the same time), until you are both satisfied exclusively with Me and the life I have prepared for you, you won’t be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with Me. This is Perfect Love.

 And Dear One, I want you to have this most wonderful love. I want to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship with Me, and to enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting union of beauty, perfection, and love that I offer.  Know that I love you utterly.  Believe it and be satisfied.

 Love,

God

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

My Valentines Day Gift For YOU!

Traditionally, Valentines Day is for couples to gift each other with flowers, candy and sentimental store bought cards. All of which are lovely, and I want to encourage those of you who have your soulmate to be sure to write each other really gushing love letters!

 

NOW…. for my single readers, here’s what I want you to know:

 

YOU deserve BIG LOVE.

 

While you may think that love is currently missing (or might never come), I am here to tell you, not only is it coming, but on the unseen level your soulmate is already connected to you!

 

It’s what I call “love before first sight.”

 

For the past 18 years, I have been happily married to my beloved soulmate Brian. Many of you know my story.

 

What you may not know is that my dear friend and leader of Feminine Power, Claire Zammit, is now celebrating her 10-year anniversary with her soulmate Craig.

 

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Claire and I have a lot in common…. We are both very career oriented results-generating dynamos, and it wasn’t predictable that either one of us would end up blissfully married to our soulmates.

 

And yet we did.

 

And we are going to show you how to do it too!

 

On Valentines Day (this Sunday) at 10 am PT/1 pm ET we have a special free call planned just for you where we will use the magic and power of the day to share with you what it takes to manifest Big Love.

Register for this no charge Valentine’s Day event here

 

If you are ready and willing to invite Big Love into your life, register NOW for this free call with us.

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

 Arielle

Be A Love Philanthropist

One of my favorite lines from A Course In Miracles is:

 

The only thing that can be lacking in any situation is that which you are not giving.

 

I think of this often, especially when I am out of sorts….and then I quickly figure out that was is missing is: giving and receiving love.

 

I just simply forget to love myself, or I forget just how fortunate I am to have so much love in my life.

 

LOVE fivingThat’s when I remind myself that perhaps my most important reason for being is to be LOVE.

 

For many years, one of the goals I set out for myself was to be a philanthropist and in my own small way, I am.

 

A few years ago I learned the term  “Love Philanthropist” from my dear friend, Marci Shimoff, bestselling author of Happy For No Reason.

 

I realized that being a “Love Philanthropist” is even more important than writing checks to worthy causes. I am grateful that I can do both.

 

Just like we all have enough fresh air to breath and clean water to drink, there is more than enough love for all of us to give and receive.

 

I want to remind you (and me) to love yourself, especially during the potential stresses of the holiday season.  Make sure to create lots of “me time” and feed yourself well, take naps, get lots of quality sleep and make plans to be with like-minded, fun people.

 

Why?

 

Because when you are filled up, you have more love to share with the world.

 

Wishing you love, laughter and Magical kisses,

 

Arielle

What’s In The Way of Love?

When it comes to having more LOVE in your life, total clarity on how you desire to feel is the first step.

For those of you who are hyper focused on the “form” your love comes in, I am inviting you to shift into the “feeling space” and for just now, let go of your wish list regarding the physical form (on all levels) you think you need. (The Divine may have something in mind for you that is beyond your ability to conceive of right now.)

Here’s a little exercise to try every morning for the next week that will assist you in having and feeling more love in your life.

When you begin to wake up, before you even open your eyes, imagine that your life is filled with more love than you ever thought possible.

Using your imagination, begin to sense all the loving people in your life from soulmates to friends to family to pets (and don’t forget yourself!)

imagesIn this moment, how are you feeling?

Loved? Happy? Safe? Serene? Excited? Relieved? Filled with gratitude? Content?

Allow yourself to experience the depth of your positive emotions for all the love connections in your life.

In your mind, whisper to each of them words of love, appreciation and gratitude for all the ways they enrich your life.

You do not need to know how or when this reality came to be, just feel the deliciousness of their divine presence and breathe them in.

Thank them for the gift of sharing a life with you.

Tell them that you now know and trust that they are always with you.

Beam your love to each of them.

Put a big smile on your face, swallow the smile and let it land in every organ of your body, and when you are ready, gently open your eyes and begin your day.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. Join me for the Soulmate Secret Weekend Workshop, at Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, July 10-12th. This workshop goes beyond the book, and includes new transformative feelingizations and a fire-ritual to kick start your love life into high gear! This stunning, holistic, rural retreat center is two hours north of NYC.  More info here!

Two Minute LOVE fix!

A few weeks ago I was watching Grey’s Anatomy on TV and learned the most awesome thing!

Here was the scene: Dr. Amelia Shepard was standing in the surgical suite, about to perform a groundbreaking 17-hour brain surgery on a colleague.  She was scared out of her mind because if anything went wrong, her friend would die on the table.

Wonder Woman smallWhen her assistant arrived, she told her to stand with her feet shoulder width apart, hands on hips, chest and chin up in “wonder woman” pose for two minutes. Both women assumed the “wonder woman” position and by doing this simple act it gave them both the courage they needed to tackle the surgery. And, of course as great TV goes, it worked!

I began to wonder if this “wonder woman” pose was for real, so I did some research.  Turns out it is based in fact!  You can instantly re-claim your power and confidence by standing in “wonder woman” pose for just two minutes. Social psychologist, Ann Cuddy, has proven this works!  (check out her TED talk)

The next time you have to have a “difficult” conversation with a loved one or someone at work, try this….I think you will find that it’s easier to be more loving and compassionate when you aren’t filled with fear, dread or getting defensive.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. Guys, this will also work for you!

Be A Love Generator

My dear friend David Wagner, discovered his life’s purpose while at work one day as a hairdresser. One of his regular clients came in unexpectedly for a blow out. David decided to give her an extra long head massage. As he shampooed her hair and lovingly massaged her scalp, he was, as usual, friendly and kind during their time together.

A few days letter he received a surprising letter from the woman. She wrote that she had come in for a blow out because her plan was to commit suicide and she wanted to look good at her funeral. But, because of David’s attention and love, rather than follow through with her plan, she decided life was worth living and she checked herself into the hospital and sought help.

DW Grammy JuneIn that moment, David had an epiphany. He realized that he was more than a hairdresser, more than a boss to 400 employees at his many Juut Salonspas in Minnesota…..he saw that he was in fact a “Daymaker.”

He now knew his purpose in life was to make someone’s day, to spread love, to be a love generator.

It’s a simple concept with a powerful effect.

If we all commit to be “Daymakers” in our lives, and the lives we touch, the world will quickly become a more loving place.

Below are some of David’s tips on how to be a Daymaker in all areas of life.

Make Your Lover’s Day

  • Write a love letter and send it in the mail. It costs 44 cents.
  • Send your mate’s parents flowers on your mate’s birthday.
  • Rent a tandem bicycle for the weekend.
  • Offer to take over something your mate usually does (like cook dinner).
  • Break out the best china this week, especially with kids. It will create a special night for everyone.
  • Ladies, send him flowers at work today. How rare is it for a guy to get flowers? Very rare! They love it!!

Make A Co-Worker’s Day

  • Offer to pick up lunch for someone you know is swamped.
  • If you have an SUV, offer to pick up others on a snowy day.
  • Pass the bouquet. Give someone special a bouquet and have them pass it on to someone else the following day. It’s a week of Daymaking with one bouquet!
  • Create a Daymaker of the Year award at work.
  • Write a thank you note to the boss. It’s lonely at the top. Everyone needs to know they’re appreciated for their work.
  • Acknowledge promotions; send a card to the employee’s home.
  • Grab coffee for your coworker on the way in!

Make A Stranger’s Day

  • Put a quarter in a gumball machine and walk away.
  • Let people merge in traffic today.
  • Carry thank you notes with you. Write them out to waiters and waitresses. It will surprise them more than a big tip.
  • Plug a parking meter that’s expired.
  • Help a stranger take their luggage off the carousel at the airport.
  • Buy a bike for your local children’s shelter.
  • Buy gift certificates to a car wash and leave them on the windshield of random cars.
  • Buy gift certificates to an ice cream shop and give them out on a hot day.

Make Your Own Day

  • Tonight make your home a spa. Use your favorite soothing music, scented candles, bath salts/oils, calming tea, and favorite robe. Unplug the phone, put the kids to sleep and enjoy two hours of bliss.
  • Buy fresh flowers on your way home tonight.
  • Call someone just to say, “I love you and I’m glad you are in my life.”
  • Watch the sunset.
  • Turn off your cell phone ringer during dinner.
  • Be an optimist today. Look on the bright side of everything that comes your way. Repeat it tomorrow.

To join David and the tens of thousands of Daymakers around the world, please visit: www.daymakermovement.com

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. In the photo above, David is being a Daymaker for his wife Charlie’s Grandmother, June. She will be 99 next month!

Can You Make Someone Fall in Love with You?

People often ask me how to use the Law of Attraction to bring back an ex lover or convince someone new to love them.  I do not believe this is the best use of the Law of Attraction and I am not even sure if it would work.  I don’t believe in impeding on someone else’s free will or destiny.

Couple cupsHowever, I recently came across some fascinating research that seems to have an excellent track record in having people fall in love and also having couples re-ignite their level of intimacy.

In a study published in April 1997 by State University of New York psychology professor Arthur Aron, a team of researchers discovered a method for creating closeness between two strangers. In laboratory setting, the team asked participants to use a catalogue of thirty-six increasingly personal questions and to then conduct an exercise of silently looking into each other’s eyes for four minutes.  The idea was to discover three common traits along with a series of other trust-building measures to quickly create trust and intimacy, the cornerstones of any lasting relationship.

In an article in the New York Times, University of British Columbia in Vancouver writing instructor Mandy Len Catron recounts her experience of re-enacting the experiment with a university colleague.  The intensity of the exercise was overwhelming. After several hours of conversation with her male colleague, she revealed that love is indeed an action. To their surprise, the test worked and they fell in love.

You can get the list of 36 questions here.

When you do this, remember, the most important part of the exercise is this:  after answering all the questions, you and your partner gaze into each other’s eyes, in total silence for four minutes.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,   

Arielle