When Law of Attraction Fails

Have you ever noticed that the Law of Attraction works for you in some areas of your life, but not all? People often ask me “If the Law of Attraction actually works, why doesn’t it work for all of us all of the time?”

There’s only one answer to that question:

limitless headIt is what is in our unconscious mind that has the power — all the stuff that you wish wasn’t there, that you want to get rid of, that you’re still pissed off about or ashamed of, all the beliefs you’re still limited by.

Our unconscious is holding 80% of our power to magnetize our life experiences to us. So if our conscious mind has only 20% of the power, this is the time to get to work on uncovering, owning and embracing our unconscious by truly understanding and transforming what’s no longer wanted or needed.

One fruitful place to start this exploration is to look at what my sister, Debbie Ford, called underlying commitments. These are commitments that exist at an unconscious level that, if not made conscious, will override any other desires we have. Our underlying commitments drive our thoughts, our beliefs and — most importantly — our choices. They are the unseen forces that shape our realities. They are responsible for the discrepancy between what we say we want and what we’re actually experiencing.

These underlying commitments are formed by unconscious decisions we’ve made in the past. In the dark recesses of your unconscious, for example, you may have decided that you can’t trust anyone and that it’s easier to be alone. So even though you want love and intimacy in your life, you always choose the wrong mate because your first commitment is to being by yourself. You become a magnet, but instead of attracting what you think you desire, you are a magnet for failure, for missed opportunities, for being less of a success than you strive for. You continually make choices that are in direct conflict with what you say you want and you find yourself baffled by the choices you are making. Sound familiar? Our underlying commitments become self-fulfilling prophecies. And our unconscious becomes the driver of our lives.

Transformational Action Step

We must expose our underlying commitments before we have the power to shift them.

  • Write down a goal or desire that you’ve been unable to attain.
  • Make a list of the actions you have taken or not taken in the past year that are in direct opposition to this goal.
  • Now take your list and imagine that these choices that have taken you away from your desired goal and not brought you any closer to it are an expression of a deeper commitment, your first commitment.
  • Close your eyes and ask yourself “What commitment are these choices in direct alignment with?” There you will discover your underlying commitment.When you reveal the underlying commitments that prevent you from achieving your goals, you are beginning to turn your life around. You can now replace your old commitments with new, powerful commitments that are in alignment with your highest vision for the future.
  • Write down a new commitment you can make this week that will move you toward the future you desire.

Take some time this week to do these steps and begin to make progress on unraveling your underlying commitments.

Wishing you love, laughter and Magical kisses,

Arielle

Want a HOT date for 4th of July?

Many years ago I represented a couple who were both famous artists. 

They had been married for 40 years and had two grown children.

One day, while we having lunch, they shared with me the story of how they met.

It began while they were both attending art school in Rome.

On their third date they went to a festival and in the evening fireworks exploded in the sky. Under the bright lights and brilliant colors they kissed for the first time and both instantly knew they would spend the rest of their lives together creating beautiful art and a beautiful life.

I never forgot this enchanting story of love and romance .

With 4th of July less than two months away, now is the best possible time to start preparing for and anticipating a Summer of Love!

Are you ready and willing to have many hot dates this Summer? If so, apply the wisdom of Dr. Venice Bloodworth:

“The Universal mind is omnipotent and omnipresent: it surrounds you like the sunshine and air. Your subconscious mind is a part of the Universal mind, and through your subconscious self you have access to the mighty wisdom and power of the universal mind. When you realize this fact, there is no limit to your achievement. For the mind does its building solely by the power of thought. Its creation take form in the exact accord with your mental image, and desire builds the mental image for you.”

Remember these Law of Attraction 101 basics:

  • Have clarity in your mind of what you most desire.
  • You attract what you think about most.
  • Every thought has a frequency.
  • Thoughts and feelings become things.
  • Thoughts and feelings send out a magnetic signal.
  • Choose to live “as if” and in possibility each day, knowing and trusting that what you have asked for is already yours!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Karma, Fate, Destiny & You!

 I believe that certain parts of life are meant to remain a mystery.   When I think about karma, fate, and destiny they appear to be related.

When I think about intention and co-creating with the Universe, they are also related.

And, I feel that there is a higher power at work balancing out how things show up for us in life.  The glue that holds it all together for me is faith and trust that this higher power knows more than me and has my best interests at heart.

So, while I often actively utilize the Law of Attraction in my life, I also am at peace knowing that I won’t always get my desires fulfilled exactly the way I envision them.  With faith and trust I know that “this or something better” is on the way to me.

For example, in 1984 I was fired from a job in Miami that I had been heavily pursued for.  I had just left one great job thinking that I was entering my all time dream position.  And then, three months later I was fired.  It was a devastating shock.  I didn’t see it coming.

At the time I thought it was the worst thing that had ever happened to me.  Today, I count it as one of the top three best things that ever happened.  Because of that incident I made decisions to make changes that ultimately led me to the life I have today.  I am beyond grateful for that big kick in the butt I got!

And, like many of you, I had some really heartbreaking love affairs that didn’t work out. Today I am so happy they didn’t. In order for me to experience the love I have now, I see  the gifts of those painful relationships.  I uncovered wounds in myself that needed healing and I grew in the ability to love myself and love others.  All of which was essential to my future happiness.

As you work with the Law of Attraction to manifest your soulmate, I want you to remember that you may meet some frogs and toads along the way.  This doesn’t mean it’s not working!  It just means “something better is on the way.”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Monkey Mind Management 101

We’ve all been there…..the days when we spiral down convinced that life just isn’t going our way… that we are undeserving of love, or the new job, or the thing we are most wishing for.

Our mind goes into overdrive, some would call it a negative feedback loop, and we keep replaying the negativity over and over again, convinced our mind is telling us the truth.
BUT….just because you have a thought does not mean it’s true!

It’s up to us to begin to manage our thoughts and emotions and there are ways to do this but it requires a little time and attention.

When you find yourself having negative thoughts, try these techniques:

1)    Stop what you are doing and acknowledge to yourself what you are thinking…internally (or out loud) say “cancel-cancel.”

2)    Then take time to do a feelingization (go to www.soulmatesecret.com and scroll down to the Love Magnet video) to move from your monkey mind to your heart and begin to feel love, appreciation and gratitude.  Remember, you attract MORE of what you are grateful for!

3)    Now create a positive affirmation that FEELS GOOD IN YOUR BODY.  Statements such as: I am a kind and loving being or I am grateful for all the love in my life right now.  Whatever statement feels most natural to you.  Write these on post-it notes and place where you can look at them daily.

I want to suggest that those of you who truly, deeply desire a soulmate that you begin to let go of your doubts of what is possible for you…..remember that the word “impossible” is really “I’m possible.”

One of my favorite quotes in Wayne Dyers book, WISHES FULFILLED, is from the great teacher, Neville, who said “Make your future dream a present fact by assuming the feeling of the wish fulfilled.”

I strongly encourage you to write this down and look at it daily. You deserve love and the one you are seeking is ALSO seeking you.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,
Arielle

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The Art of Love

While I realize that many of you have your attention manifesting a soulmate…..have you thought about “once you are in the relationship” if you have all the necessary skills to navigate the days when things get a little bumpy or dare I say it, even a little boring?

As a first-time bride at age 44, I went into my soulmate relationship with no partnership skills…oy…and I learned how to have a great relationship through trial and error.  But, you don’t have to do it this way!

For the past few months I have been super busy programming a no-cost 10-day, online series called The Art of Love where I have the honor and privilege to guide the world’s top 50 love and relationship experts, who share the latest, cutting edge, transformative love skills through a series of workshops.

It begins on February 12th and features luminaries such as John Gray, don Miguel Ruiz, Alison Armstrong, Neale Donald Walsch, Jack Canfield, Marianne Williamson, Harville Hendrix, Dr. Helen Fisher, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Gay & Katie Hendricks, Craig Hamilton, Claire Zammit, Debbie Ford, Jean Houston and more.

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I’ve designed this revolutionary program to help you get READY for love so that you  can heat up your own intimacy skills, learn productive conflict resolution, and much more. (Some days I just have to pinch myself because I can’t believe the amazing things I get to do in my life!)

Here is a sneak peek at what we will be covering:

  • Why incompatibility and conflict are important in a relationship.
  • Sure-fire ways to initiate sex and play.
  • One sentence that fixes almost everything.
  • When honesty isn’t the best policy.
  • The big fat lies that get in the way of love.
  • How reading 50 Shades of Grey gives permission to receive pleasure.
  • The “Wonder Move” to get your self unstuck fast.
  • Two things all men want (hint: it’s not sex).
  • How to invite God into your relationship.
  • The 5 short sentences that heal all wounds.
  • Why hugs, spa days and shopping lead to stronger orgasms in women.
  • And so much more…..

When I programmed and hosted the first version of this series, in the Fall of 2011, afterwards I felt like I had earned a Ph.D in Love.  What I discovered was invaluable to my relationship with Brian! I so wish I had known all of this at the beginning of my marriage instead of learning it the hard way!

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In each workshop I will draw out the most insightful wisdom from each and every transformative love luminary while keeping it easy to digest all of the hot tips. These experts will share their best practices about how to reawaken hot & steamy bedroom activities, navigate through relationship stress, create balance, break destructive patterns, sharpen your relationship-building skills, get what you really want from your beloved, add playfulness to your world, and much more!

Whether you’re dating, or in a new partnership, improving your relationship skills should be high on your TO DO LIST — YOU do have the power to bring change to your love life!

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I encourage you to take advantage of this opportunity right now and register for this no-cost event today.

I look forward to seeing you at The Art of Love Relationship Series!

Arielle

P.S. FYI, just for registering you have access to a Limited Time GIFT BAG filled with audio/video seminars and eBooks from Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt,      Dr. Diana Kirschner, Alison Armstrong, Sheri Meyers, Tammy Nelson, and Susie & Otto Collins. Plus you’ll be entered into a drawing to win your very own Art of Love iPod Nano!

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Can You Use The Law of Attraction To Attract Your Ex?

One of the most frequently asked requests I get is from people who want to know if they can use the Law of Attraction to make someone fall in love with them or to win back an Ex.

Would that work?

If you are a master at Law of Attraction, very possibly….however, I would caution you not to do this. Why? Karma baby!  The Law of Attraction is very powerful but you don’t want to use it as a form of black magic, or as a way to control, dominate, or manipulate anyone. And, it may not get you what you want in the long run.

Just because you think and feel someone is the “one” for you, that doesn’t make it so.  If it isn’t happening organically, or the circumstances are not right for them (they are already in a relationship, or they are choosing not to be with you) I suggest you focus your attention on attracting someone who is open, willing available to BE with you.

Here’s how to use the desire you are feeling towards the unavailable one:

Ask yourself this: What is it I am really wanting to feel and experience with this person?

Right now you are assuming that “having” this person is your only path to these feelings and experiences but reality is showing you that this is not true.

You don’t need to understand why you can’t have the person, but you do need to understand that the things you desire to feel and experience can be yours when you are willing to let go of what doesn’t serve you.

I know how painful it can be when you are yearning for someone who isn’t yearning for you.

Many years ago I was in a difficult relationship where I was constantly trying to make things work and they never did.  One day my friend said something to me that shocked me into reality.

“Trying to get “John” to love you is like asking a man with no arms to hold you.”

I instantly realized she was right.

It wasn’t even his fault.

He just didn’t have the capacity to love me.

Had I tried to use the Law of Attraction to keep him, I would have ended up miserable.

If you find yourself in this circumstance, take the time to uncover what you most want to feel and experience with a soulmate and then follow The Soulmate Secret (http://tinyurl.com/6tjvw8p) steps to love and make it happen.

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

When Law of Attraction Fails

Have you ever noticed that the Law of Attraction works for you in some areas of your life but not all? People often ask me “If the Law of Attraction actually works, why doesn’t it work for all of us all of the time?” My sister Debbie and I were talking about this recently and I just HAD to share her answer with you:

There’s only one answer to that question: It is what is in our unconscious mind that has the power — all the stuff that you wish wasn’t there, that you want to get rid of, that you’re still pissed off about or ashamed of, all the beliefs you’re still limited by.

Our unconscious is holding 80% of our power to magnetize our life experiences to us. So if our conscious mind has only 20% of the power, this is the time to get to work on uncovering, owning and embracing our unconscious by truly understanding and transforming what’s no longer wanted or needed.

One fruitful place to start this exploration is to look at what I call underlying commitments. These are commitments that exist at an unconscious level that, if not made conscious, will override any other desires we have.

Our underlying commitments drive our thoughts, our beliefs and — most importantly — our choices. They are the unseen forces that shape our realities. They are responsible for the discrepancy between what we say we want and what we’re actually experiencing.

These underlying commitments are formed by unconscious decisions we’ve made in the past. In the dark recesses of your unconscious, for example, you may have decided that you can’t trust anyone and that it’s easier to be alone. So even though you want love and intimacy in your life, you always choose the wrong mate because your first commitment is to being by yourself.

You become a magnet, but instead of attracting what you think you desire, you are a magnet for failure, for missed opportunities, for being less of a success than you strive for. You continually make choices that are in direct conflict with what you say you want and you find yourself baffled by the choices you are making. Sound familiar?

Underlying commitments keep us stuck in the same place year after year. When we carry the wounds, hurts or outdated beliefs that created these underlying commitments in the first place, we will unfortunately keep attracting the same circumstances over and over again so that we can be right about these early decisions lurking in our unconscious. Our underlying commitments become self-fulfilling prophecies. And our unconscious becomes the driver of our lives.

Transformational Action Step

We must expose our underlying commitments before we have the power to shift them. By exposing these unconscious commitments, we gain the freedom to stand in the truth. Then we can begin the process of transformation.

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Arielle Recommends: Follow Your Passion – Find Your Power

Bob Doyle, one of the teachers featured in the film and book “The Secret” is releasing his brand new book this week!

The book is called “Follow Your Passion – Find Your Power”, and the timing for such a book is absolutely perfect.

After “The Secret”, many attempted to use the Law of Attraction but got mixed results. Bob wrote this book to set the record straight on many of the misconceptions people have about the Law of Attraction which have caused some to give up on it completely!

You’ll learn why tapping into and living your PASSION is the key to making all of this “create your reality” stuff work on autopilot!

And if you order today, Bob has a collection of carefully chosen gifts for you contributed by 16 highly successful people he recently interviewed about how PASSION led the way to their success. GREAT stuff!

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The Upside of Expectations

Last June, I taught a Soulmate Secret weekend workshop in Dublin, Ireland ­a beautiful, magical part of the world. Yesterday I received this email from one of my students, Brendan, a widower, who was longing for a new soulmate. He shared with me his success story:

Dear Arielle,

Good news!

After a fruitless search for a partner for five years, I was fortunate to attend your seminar in Dublin early this year. Besides being won over by your lovely personality and genuine concern for helping everyone achieve happiness, I also took on board the simple techniques that you showed us are proven to work.

*I made my wish list of 19 qualities of my perfect soulmate.

*I stuck it up on the wall beside my pillow and enclosed it inside a big heart.

*I visualized what it would be like to live with this person.

*I threw my wishes out to the universe and expected to get a good result.

Two months later I was approached on a dating website by the woman of my dreams from Poltava in the Ukraine. She ticked off every one of my 19 ideal qualities for my soulmate, even though she spoke no English and I spoke no Russian!! The online site provided a daily translation service. An email sent by me before 12 noon got a reply in English that evening. A very efficient service!!

Nadya had also made a wish list of the qualities she expected in her perfect soulmate, and I matched them. Nine weeks later I met her in Poltava and proposed marriage within two days. We are getting married on the 30th April next year.

She said that she knew we would get married even before we met!!

Many thanks for your inspiration!

Brendan

One of the most powerful things Brendan did is this: “I threw my wishes out to the universe and expected to get a good result”. As you know, but it bears repeating, The Law of Attraction states that we draw to us the people and experiences that match our state of BEING, Brendan “expected” a good result and that is exactly what he got.

What are you expecting?

If it is hard for you to FEEL your way into your future wedding, be sure to check out The Soul Mate Kit, you will find countless exercises to help you get over the obstacles and find your soulmate.

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Living As If: A Reminder

The period of time when you are waiting for your soulmate to make his or her presence known to you gives you an important opportunity for self-reflection.

Consider this: If your soulmate had the ability to see your life right now, would you (and they) be happy with what they were observing?

Begin to live your life today as if they are already here. This is the secret to activating the Law of Attraction!

Chances are, if you really knew your soulmate was on his or her way to you, you would hold yourself to a higher standard than you do now ­ so why wait for them to arrive to put these things in place?

Think not only about what you do on a given day but also the way that you represent yourself to others. Remember, you will attract someone who energetically “matches” the degree of esteem that you hold towards yourself.

If there are behaviors you’re engaged in that you wouldn’t want your future lover to see, stop them. This might mean giving up obsessing over your ex-lover or having casual sex with your neighbor.

“Living As If” can be fun, easy and simple. Before I met Brian I was buying him birthday cards, and anniversary cards and “just because I love you” cards. (I really like the cards at www.soulebrate.com) I also bought some tickets to concerts and plays that I wanted to attend.

Get creative! One woman I know just finished a “boudoir photo session” and is making an album of sensual photos to hand over to her soulmate when he walks through the door.

Remember, the process of attracting your soulmate is one of magnetism. When you make the choice to live as if your soulmate is already a part of your life, you send out an irresistible signal to the Universe that you are ready now. Not a signal that you’ll be ready someday ­ when you work less and your house is clean and you’ve lost five pounds!

Remember the famous line in the 1989 movie, Field of Dreams starring Kevin Costner? “If you build it, they will come.” Living as if is like flipping on a light switch inside your heart. This is the light your beloved will use to navigate his or her way to your door.

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love