Forgiveness: Essential For More Love

Maybe it’s just me, but when someone does something mean or upsetting (to me or anyone I know and love), I find getting to real forgiveness is super hard.

 

I just want to dig in and make them bad and wrong, and I find myself thinking of ways to get revenge.  And yes, I know better, and in spite of “not wanting to,” I do make myself forgive… even if it sometimes takes me a while to get there.

 

At its essence, forgiveness is the willingness to let go of the hurt and give up suffering.

 

It’s a decision to no longer find value in anger or blame and it’s a letting go of the desire to judge another or ourselves because of something that happened in the past.

 

It’s a choice to feel love rather than to judge or condemn, and it’s often not easy… and it doesn’t mean that we forget… but we do let go.

 

Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves so we no longer have to carry negativity.

 

It releases us from the past and allows us to heal and let go and be more at peace in the present moment.

 

When I am stuck in “I’ve been done wrong,” one of the practices that works well for me is to sit down and write a letter to the one I need to forgive. This is not a letter that will ever be sent, but a chance to write down and FULLY express how hurt and wronged I feel… to write down what happened from my perspective.

 

Once I’ve written it all down… I add to the end of the letter, “I forgive, you, I bless you and I set you free.”

 

Then, I write a second letter from them to me.  I actually channel them and have them tell ME the story of what happened from their perspective… which usually results in finding out that they never really meant to cause harm… and then, I end that letter with “I forgive, you, I bless you and I set you free.”

 

When it comes to love, I know that being able and willing to learn to forgive is essential to all healthy relationships.  And sometimes, it’s necessary to forgive and to also eliminate certain people from your life if they are toxic or detrimental to your core happiness.

 

Wishing you love & freedom,

 Arielle

 

Learning to Love The Unlovable

Some people are easier to love than others.

It’s easy to love the people who love, support, and nurture you.

The ones that accept you for who you are.

The ones that will always be there for you.

And then there are the difficult ones.

The judgmental and sometimes downright mean ones.

The ones that drive you crazy and/or make you miserable or both!

I once heard Marianne Williamson describe it this way:

If you saw a small child fall down and skin their knee, you would quickly wrap your arms around them and give them comfort.  But when an adult is acting out and misbehaving or being cruel, we can’t see the wounds that are the source of their pain and actions.

Most of the time, whatever they are doing or saying, has little to do with you, they are acting out of old pain, disappointment, etc., and you have become the unfortunate victim of their history.

The challenge for me (and many of us) is that when these people are related to us, we need to find a way to stay open to loving and accepting them.

And most importantly, forgiving them.

Not an easy task.

One of my favorite processes in my spiritual tool kit, one that harnesses the power of forgiveness while being wonderfully healing, is called Ho’Oponopono.

It can be utilized not only for forgiveness, but all kinds of emotional healing and reconciliation.  I first learned about it from Joe Vitale and his book Zero Limits.

So, what is this miraculous thing, Ho’Oponopono?

It’s crazy easy and simple to do. You begin by taking full responsibility for what is going on.  Then, close your eyes and imagine that you and this difficult person are one and say to yourself:

I love you, please forgive me, I’m sorry, and thank you.

Ho’oponopono is based on the idea that anything that happens to you (or that you perceive) and the entire world where you live, is your own creation and thus, it is entirely your responsibility.

One hundred percent, no exceptions.

What has happened is your responsibility AND, it doesn’t mean it’s your fault – it just means that you are responsible for healing yourself in order to heal whatever or whoever it is that appears to you as a problem.

You simply repeat these four simple phases several times:

I love you, please forgive me, I’m sorry, and thank you.

I find that when I do this (sometimes I do it everyday), it really makes a difference.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

Steps to Installing Love on the Human Computer

I am thrilled to share with you this very insightful piece on: Instructions for Installing Love on the Human Computer.

Tech Support: Yes, how can I help you?

Customer: Well, after much consideration, I’ve decided to install Love. Can you guide me through the process?

Tech Support: Yes. I can help you. Are you ready to proceed?

Customer: Well, I’m not very technical, but I think I’m ready. What do I do first?

Tech Support: The first step is to open your Heart. Have you located your Heart?

Customer: Yes, but there are several other programs running now. Is it okay to install Love while they are running?

Tech Support: What programs are running?

Customer: Let’s see, I have Past Hurt, Low Self-Esteem, Grudge and Resentment running right now.

Tech Support: No problem, Love will gradually erase Past Hurt from your current operating system. It may remain in your permanent memory but it will no longer disrupt other programs. Love will eventually override Low Self-Esteem with a module of its own called High Self-Esteem. However, you have to completely turn off Grudge and Resentment. Those programs prevent Love from being properly installed. Can you turn those off?

Customer: I don’t know how to. Can you tell me how?

Tech Support: With pleasure. Go to your start menu and invoke Forgiveness. Do this as many times as necessary until Grudge and Resentment have been completely erased.

Customer: Okay, done! Love has started installing itself. Is that normal?

Tech Support: Yes, but remember that you have only the base program. You need to begin connecting to other Hearts in order to get the upgrades.

Customer: Oops! I have an error message already. It says, “Error – Program not run on external components.” What should I do?

Tech Support: Don’t worry. It means that the Love program is set up to run on Internal Hearts, but has not yet been run on your Heart. In non-technical terms, it simply means you have to Love yourself before you can Love others.

Customer: So, what should I do?

Tech Support: Pull down Self-Acceptance; then click on the following files: Forgive-Self; Realize Your Worth; and Acknowledge your Limitations.

Customer: Okay, done.

Tech Support: Now, copy them to the “My Heart” directory. The system will overwrite any conflicting files and begin patching faulty programming. Also, you need to delete Verbose Self-Criticism from all directories and empty your Recycle Bin to make sure it is completely gone and never comes back.

Customer: Got it. Hey! My heart is filling up with new files. Smile is playing on my monitor and Peace and Contentment are copying themselves all over My Heart. Is this normal?

Tech Support: Sometimes. For others it takes awhile, but eventually everything gets it at the proper time. So Love is installed and running.

One more thing before we hang up.

Love is Freeware.

Be sure to give it and its various modules to everyone you meet. They will in turn share it with others and return some cool modules back to you.

Customer: Thank you, God.

CREATOR, aka, Tech Support: You’re Welcome, Anytime.

Special thanks to the unknown author who wrote this and to Monte and Amy, authors of The Soulmate Path for sending this beautiful piece of wisdom to me. Visit them at TheEnchantedWorld.com.

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