OMG, you won’t believe this!

My friend (and my sister Debbie’s dear friend), world-famous medium James Van Praagh called last December to invite me, Bri, and my Mom to visit his new home here in San Diego and he offered us a reading with my sister in heaven, Debbie.  This was an irresistible offer, as it’s now impossible to get private readings with James.

During the reading, Debbie kept asking me if I would write a prayer book with her.  I politely declined.  How in the world would he do that?  We couldn’t possibly impose on James to be a daily intermediary and I didn’t have any desire to figure it out.

During the “reading” lots and lots of relatives from the other side came through and in between these lovely visits, Debbie would pop in, insisting we write a prayer book together.

Eventually, I gave in and said yes, clueless as to how this would happen.

On the drive home, Brian mentioned that he recalled Debbie talking about some prayers she had written and suggested I contact the amazing Julie Stroud, (who to this day runs The Ford Institute along with Kelly Kosow) to see if she had any of these prayers.

Julie, who was Debbie’s right hand everything for years, immediately wrote back and said not only did she have the prayers, she had an entire unpublished manuscript entitled Your Holiness: Discover the Light Within, and it was attached to the email.

What?

Debbie wrote a prayer book and I never knew?

How was that possible?

I immediately read the book – astounded at the wisdom, the beauty, and the brilliance of it.

And, then I called her editor at Harper One, who admitted that he had been feeling guilty for the past several years because he knew that she always wanted to write a prayer book but he talked her out of it.

Well, guess what?

He bought the book and it will be published on March 6th with an introduction from Marianne Williamson.

Here’s what Deepak Chopra has to say about Your Holiness:

Debbie Ford was a spiritual sister, colleague, and teacher to me. This book, discovered as her writings after her passing is an extraordinary journey to higher consciousness. Read it, absorb her insights and you may see the world fresh, vibrant and holy and as if for the first time.”

In two days, this Thursday ONLY, for 24 hours, the e-book version will be on sale for $4.99 as a pre-order.

I will be sending out an email on Thursday with the subject line: Debbie Ford’s Lost Manuscript if you would like to take advantage of it.  (The normal retail price of the e-book will be $11.99.)

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

BE A LOVE WARRIOR

Regardless of your relationship status, one thing you can do this year is to choose to be a Love Warrior. Quite simply, commit to sharing your love and appreciation for the special people in your life.

 

A Love Warrior is committed to living with an open, generous heart and sharing their love far and wide. (My amazing Brian is the best Love Warrior I know!)

 

Art by www.sharronkatz.com

Art by www.sharronkatz.com

One definition I discovered is this:

 

To be a Warrior of Love means to have a platform of behavior that encourages in yourself & those around you to see the absolute best in people & to only accept respectful behavior in those you are close with. To be a Warrior of Love is to take the high road. To be a Warrior of Love means to cultivate a personal juiciness so that you are forever in love with the world.

 

Here’s how you can be a Love Warrior:

For the special people in your life, let them know how much they matter by writing them a love letter. Share with them what you most love and appreciate about them, how they enrich your life and the world around them, really GUSH! Then put the letter in a beautiful card and send it off to them. Every time you speak or text them, tell them you love them. As my friend Edie Weinstein says, they are only on loan to us; eventually, we all die, so make every moment count.

 

Courage PB FLAT COVER IMAGENow for the hard part:

 

I recently re-read my sister Debbie’s last book COURAGE. In it, she advises to write yourself a love letter – a letter that includes at least five ways in which you are a truly great person. This is a letter that should make you blush when you are done writing it. Loving ourselves gives us more love to share with others!COURAGE is an amazing and inspiring book that will show you how to ignite self-confidence, overcome fear, and will give you practical steps to becoming a Warrior of Love. From now till Feb. 22nd, you can buy the Kindle version of COURAGE on Amazon for just $1.99.

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

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Have the COURAGE to love

Courage PB FLAT COVER IMAGECourage is the key to having a fantastically intimate and loving relationship. It is a muscle that must be constantly exercised in order for it to show up in all of your actions and communications.

It takes courage to get into a relationship, to fall in love, and to commit to another human being. It takes even more courage to stay in that relationship, to do the work necessary to constantly create more intimacy, more respect, more compassion and more love.

I once met a woman on an airplane who was about to celebrate her 50th wedding anniversary. I was in awe and asked her what she thought was the key to celebrating 50 years. She said it was courage — the courage to stay on the merry-go-round even when there are opportunities every time it goes around for you to get off, the courage to make the choice to see through new eyes.

It takes courage to be wrong and allow your partner to be right even if you know you’re right.   And it takes courage, which is another form of trust and faith, to believe that you can reinvent both yourself and your relationship over and over again.

Two years go my angelic sister, Debbie Ford, wrote a groundbreaking book called Courage: Igniting Self-Confidence, today the book is now out in paperback.

In this book:

Debbie introduces you to a new kind of courage. Instead of thinking about courage as something that you do, your life and your choices will be infused with courage.

She will guide you through a divine process to release emotional baggage and step into the delightful vibration of emotional freedom.

You’ll learn to see the perfection in your life and be able to distinguish between higher will and your will. You will be inspired to surrender to the greatest power of all.

You will be able to forgive someone who may appear unrelated to the area of love and relationships but is really blocking you in achieving your heart’s desires. Then you will learn to love yourself in new ways that will affect every area of your life.

You will be guided to allow a new inspired vision to guide you, not a vision based in the past or even yesterday but a new vision that will propel you to love, listen and act in a deeper, more profound way.

And maybe most importantly, in Courage, you will be present to your supreme beauty — all that you are, all that you can be — and you will reclaim the qualities that will take you to the next evolution of yourself.

Love and courage are one and the same because courage asks us to open up to our compassionate heart and the divine warrior within who is ready to take on even the most difficult task of healing the heart and living in love.

I completely agree with Debbie… CLICK HERE to get your copy today.

Wishing you love AND courage,

Arielle

What happened after he said ‘we have to talk.’

Last April, just after dinner, my soulmate Brian sat me down on the couch and said something that was the equivalent of the heart-stopping phrase,
“We have to talk.”

I remember this sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach, followed by the thought, “oh no, what have I done?”

With the passing of my sister, Debbie, in February, we had both been through several brutal months… trying our best to survive as she slipped away from us. Neither one of us were getting much sleep, both of us deep in our grief, and I was finally back at work trying to tackle not one, but three gigantic projects.

In the sweetest, most gentle voice, Brian began to share with me his massive concern for my health and wellbeing. With tears in his eyes, he told me he really felt that if I didn’t stop the long, intense hours and stressing out so much, he was afraid I would get very sick and possibly even “work myself to death.”

As someone who has always been able to accomplish major things, juggle lots of simultaneous projects and withstand huge amounts of pressure, I normally would have just assured him that I could “power” through this period and deal with it all.

But there was something in the way he was approaching the conversation that made me stop and listen. With his sincere, open-hearted vulnerability I really, really heard him.

And, I got that he was right.

I was no longer the person who could do it all. My nervous system was shredded. I was out of “reserves” and running on fumes.

As I sat there, trying to take it all in, trying to figure out what to “do” about my situation, I remembered something Debbie whispered to me in the middle of the night:

“Take more vacations.”

I spent the next several days looking the calendar, trying to see when I could take a vacation and for how long.

And then it dawned on me: I didn’t just need a week or two on a tropical island. I need a big, long, extended break. I needed to rest, rejuvenate, re-boot and re-think the rest of my life.

On August 1st I stopped working. Completely!

I turned off my cell phone and put it in a drawer.

I turned on the auto-responder to my email and the recorded a new voicemail on my phones to announce that I would now be completely, totally unavailable and I began my sabbatical.

One of my ongoing thoughts was, what if I get bored? How would I fill my days? Could I really do this? Completely unplug?

I am happy to report, yes!

For the past 90 days I have been sleeping in, taking naps (for the first time ever), reading lots of books (some of my favorites have been The Dalai Lama’s Cat and Elizabeth Gilbert’s new novel, The Signature of All Things plus several James Patterson mysteries!). Brian and I are playing tennis and taking tons of beach walks, we’ve traveled to Bora Bora, Italy, and Romania, I’m cooking more and resting a lot.

Every time I’d get an idea for a new project, I’d sit down and close my eyes, breathe deep and wait for it to pass. If the idea persisted, I wrote it down and then forgot about it (for now). I’ve worked with my doctors to restore my energy levels had many visits with the acupuncturist, chiropractor and my amazing partners at Evolving Wisdom gave me a huge gift of many massages.

During this healing time I decided to reinvent how I “do” life.

One of my biggest aha moments came with the realization that “I am now experiencing a new kind of aliveness that is not fueled by adrenalin.”

Without the tyranny of a “To-Do” list eating up every minute of my day, I have made time to have some deep, meaningful conversations with several girlfriends who I’ve discovered are also “hitting the wall” and ready to make major changes. We have all admitted to being “busyness addicts” and we may even start a support group!

In the past I often defined myself by my work and I hate to admit this, but my ego took a lot of pride in “just how much I can accomplish” in an hour or a day or a week.

Years ago, when I worked as Deepak Chopra’s publicist he used to call me “speedy” and I thought that was a good thing! Too bad I wasn’t listening more closely when Deepak was telling me how stressing out causes jittery platelets which is not good for your health.

Today I am done working for a living.

I am eliminating the word “work” from my vocabulary and…. I plan to spend half my time diving into projects that provide me creativity, fun, freedom, and offer some level of contribution and prosperity.

My biggest fear is that as I begin to return to the real world, and start some projects, my old habits will emerge. I expect that there will be days when I slip. Days when I begin to spin out of control, or get caught up in the delusion that anything that I am doing is more important than taking care of myself.

These will be the days when I need to remember my commitment to being a Wabi Sabi Love artisan, someone who finds beauty and perfection in her own imperfection. Just as I am now re-writing and shifting the story of how I “do life,” so must I find compassion for the part of me who still thinks she can do it all.
(and, fortunately I have my caring and committed soulmate to remind me when I lose my way.)

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

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“I have met my soulmate and in my daily life I feel cherished!”
Andi, Italy

“I have actually manifested my soulmate! We are now married and sharing our lives. Thank you, Arielle!”
Constance, CA

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Seasons of Love

On Saturday we honored my sister Debbie with a Celebration of Life event for 400 of her family, friends, coaches and community. It was beautiful, moving tribute to her life and legacy. I had the honor of emceeing the event and sharing stories…and we had several speakers including Brian, my brother Mike, a few friends and Marianne Williamson and Deepak Chopra. Plus, per her request, we had the rooftop raising Eddie Baltrip Fulfillment Gospel Choir.

One of Debbie’s favorite songs is from the Broadway show, RENT, and the Choir sang it yesterday. As I listened to the lyrics, I realized I wanted to share them with all of you because they really speak to what is most important in life.

Seasons Of Love

Five hundred twenty-five thousand
Six hundred minutes,
Five hundred twenty-five thousand
Moments so dear.
Five hundred twenty-five thousand
Six hundred minutes
How do you measure, measure a year?

In daylights, in sunsets, in midnights
In cups of coffee
In inches, in miles, in laughter, in strife.

In five hundred twenty-five thousand
Six hundred minutes
How do you measure
A year in the life?

How about love?
How about love?
How about love? Measure in love

Seasons of love. Seasons of love

Five hundred twenty-five thousand
Six hundred minutes!
Five hundred twenty-five thousand
Journeys to plan.

Five hundred twenty-five thousand
Six hundred minutes
How do you measure the life
Of a woman or a man?

In truths that she learned,
Or in times that he cried.
In bridges he burned,
Or the way that she died.

It’s time now to sing out,
Tho’ the story never ends
Let’s celebrate
Remember a year in the life of friends
Remember the love!
Remember the love!
Seasons of love!
Oh you got to got to
Remember the love!
You know that love is a gift from up above
Share love, give love spread love
Measure measure your life in love.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

For Better or Worse

As most of you know by now, my darling sister Debbie died last week after a very long journey with cancer. Deb and I were as close as two sisters could possibly be. Our lives were deeply intertwined. When she became gravely ill this past month, I basically stopped my normal life to be with her. When it became clear that she was in her final days, my soulmate, Brian, became my rock, my hero, and my soft place to land. He did this not just for me, but my mother, as well as Debbie’s co-workers and caregivers Julie and Fran. Brian, who is so wise–not only on how to live but he also understands the dying process–spent much of his time preparing all of us for the inevitable. With patience and grace — and with so much love – Brian helped us cope, understand and adapt on so many levels.

And he was present for my sister Debbie in ways that her soul yearned for. They had many deep conversations about where she was, and where she was going. She loved and trusted Brian so much, and with his support, she was able to come to terms with dying. He helped her see that something beautiful awaited and gave her the peace to let go. It made the end of her life her so much more profound and beautiful because she had someone to guide her through.

He gave of himself tirelessly, with devotion, patience, empathy, and buckets full of unconditional love. Brian wrapped us all in a down comforter of love and hugs that made the unbearable bearable.

As every moment left with Debbie became more precious, the true meaning of life became so obvious–we are here to give love, to receive love and to truly BE love. I was reminded how truly important it is for us to love and honor ourselves, to love those around us, and to purposely manifest your soulmate. I know how blessed I feel to know that my soulmate is by my side.

Today, I want to leave you with one of my favorite quotes from A Course In Miracles:
“The only thing that can be lacking in any situation is that which you are not giving.”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. In lieu of flowers donations can be made to Debbie’s foundation www.thecollectiveheart.org for the Girl Power Project.  If you would like to share your memories and stories about Debbie, prayers for Debbie, or messages for her family, please visit www.RememberingDebbieFord.com

It Takes Courage To Manifest Love

In the popular movie We Bought A Zoo, I loved when a teenage boy remembers the moment his father taught him that you only have to have courage and be brave for 20 seconds to make something great happen.

This got me thinking about all the people who share with me that they “fear getting hurt again” as if that is a strong enough excuse not to do the work of getting prepared for love.

There is always risk when getting into a relationship.…in order to find your soulmate, you need to deal with accepting that risk.  What if the character in that movie was right?  What if you only had to focus for 20 seconds to rise above a fearful challenge?

Book

My sister Debbie’s new book on the subject of courage and confidence is the ideal addition to your soulmate attraction plan.

Once again she is at her best sharing tools to help you move gracefully and steadily through your fear of love and potential rejection.  No wonder I am so proud to announce the release of:

Courage: Overcoming Fear and Igniting Self-Confidence.

 

Debbie is an expert on this topic. Three years ago she was told that a rare form of cancerous tumors, that had been surgically removed a decade ago, had come back.

There is no known cure for what she has. But, they told her, there were a variety of treatments to try. Many of which made her even sicker than she already was.  Some days she could barely lift her head off the pillow.  She endured pain as well as the fear that she might die.

At one point she was confined to bed for 18 months. And yet, through it all, she dug deep to find the courage to live.  The courage to try both traditional and experimental treatments.  The courage to travel to major hospitals and cancer centers around the country in search of a cure.

She even sat down with Oprah for an hour-long in-depth interview on the OWN network baring her soul and sharing her story with the world.

Today she is doing so much better and she is out of bed and in control of her life looking forward to a very bright future.

During this difficult time, Debbie finished her new book, Courage and in it she shares her proven process…a process for overcoming fear, insecurity and unlocking the enormous courage that resides within.

Debbie has excelled in the school of life, overcoming drug addiction, divorce, a heartbreaking betrayal, and the grave cancer diagnosis. For decades, she has been helping people break free from the emotional baggage that has held them hostage.

In this new book she outlines a transformational process that will deliver you to a version of yourself and your life that will inspire, excite and exhilarate you. You will discover how to accept and transform your flaws, your misgivings, your weaknesses, and your fears.

You will learn how to be confident, stand in your strength, and feel great about your life.  You will activate the seven guiding principles of courage to become strong, powerful, confident and courageous.

Plus you will experience a new kind of courage and a new kind of confidence that will propel you into an infinitely beautiful and inspiring future. I promise you that when you recognize the strength, power, and freedom of the courage that has been present in you all along, you will realize that you have the power to accomplish your heart’s desires.

Wayne Dyer wrote in the Foreword to Courage:

 “I can assure you that you will find yourself becoming more and more equipped to deal with all of your life’s challenges from a new and stronger position of self-confidence and, yes, courage as well.”

I agree. Read Courage. Whatever area in your life you need more courage or more self confidence, this book will provide you the breakthrough you are seeking.  There is really no excuse for living without love in your life. Try being brave…20 seconds at a time and be sure to let me know what happens!

CLICK HERE:  http://bit.ly/HFyJr4  to purchase your copy. It comes with a priceless bonus bundle and a chance to win many incredible prizes-including a one-hour coaching session with Debbie herself!

You’ll be particularly inspired by the amazing stories of transformation in this book. This same transformation is available to you as well, you don’t have to wait to be guided through the processs, get your copy of Courage now!  http://bit.ly/HFyJr4

When Law of Attraction Fails

Have you ever noticed that the Law of Attraction works for you in some areas of your life but not all? People often ask me “If the Law of Attraction actually works, why doesn’t it work for all of us all of the time?” My sister Debbie and I were talking about this recently and I just HAD to share her answer with you:

There’s only one answer to that question: It is what is in our unconscious mind that has the power — all the stuff that you wish wasn’t there, that you want to get rid of, that you’re still pissed off about or ashamed of, all the beliefs you’re still limited by.

Our unconscious is holding 80% of our power to magnetize our life experiences to us. So if our conscious mind has only 20% of the power, this is the time to get to work on uncovering, owning and embracing our unconscious by truly understanding and transforming what’s no longer wanted or needed.

One fruitful place to start this exploration is to look at what I call underlying commitments. These are commitments that exist at an unconscious level that, if not made conscious, will override any other desires we have.

Our underlying commitments drive our thoughts, our beliefs and — most importantly — our choices. They are the unseen forces that shape our realities. They are responsible for the discrepancy between what we say we want and what we’re actually experiencing.

These underlying commitments are formed by unconscious decisions we’ve made in the past. In the dark recesses of your unconscious, for example, you may have decided that you can’t trust anyone and that it’s easier to be alone. So even though you want love and intimacy in your life, you always choose the wrong mate because your first commitment is to being by yourself.

You become a magnet, but instead of attracting what you think you desire, you are a magnet for failure, for missed opportunities, for being less of a success than you strive for. You continually make choices that are in direct conflict with what you say you want and you find yourself baffled by the choices you are making. Sound familiar?

Underlying commitments keep us stuck in the same place year after year. When we carry the wounds, hurts or outdated beliefs that created these underlying commitments in the first place, we will unfortunately keep attracting the same circumstances over and over again so that we can be right about these early decisions lurking in our unconscious. Our underlying commitments become self-fulfilling prophecies. And our unconscious becomes the driver of our lives.

Transformational Action Step

We must expose our underlying commitments before we have the power to shift them. By exposing these unconscious commitments, we gain the freedom to stand in the truth. Then we can begin the process of transformation.

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Are You Too Busy For Love?

Spring is in the air…..which means that summer is right around the corner– the time of year when I get the most requests for workshops….

That’s why I’m excited to announce that for the very first time ever, I will be sharing my very best love magic in a 5 Week LIVE Telecourse that I have designed so that I can take you by the hand, and guide you step-by-step, to assist you manifesting your heart’s desire….your soulmate, your lover for life, your best friend and partner.

Find out all the details here:

The Soulmate Secret: A Five Week Course To Manifest the Love of Your Life

It begins on Wednesday, June 8th and it includes many new tools and processes for clearing the blocks to love that I’ve never shared before, so that you can raise your love vibration and become a magnet for love.

And, if you register by Thursday, May 26th you’ll be able to participate in a very special bonus workshop featuring my wise and beloved friends Joan Borysenko, Victoria Moran and Christine Arylo. It’s called:

Making the Time and Space for Love: How to Reduce Stress and Overwhelm to Raise Your Love Vibration

This panel of experts will show you proven ways to make more time for YOU (and your love life), and add more pleasure to your life right now.

If you are ready to say YES to LOVE, YES to making your dreams of love and happiness a reality, then please visit www.soulmatesecretcourse.com

As someone who stays really busy, I know how crazy life can get. I often have items on my “To-Do” list that I really believe are important to me but somehow they never seem to get done….I just get “too busy.”

Eventually I get honest with myself and ask “do you really desire this or not?” And, if the answer is YES, this is my desire, I will find a way to manage my time or I will take it off my “To-Do” list.

If manifesting a soulmate is something that you say is a major priority for you….and it’s been on your list for more than two years and nothing seems to be happening, chances are you have been “too busy.”

So…my questions to you are this: Are you willing, open and available for a long-term, committed relationship with a soulmate? If your answer is yes, then I would ask you, “are you willing to make a commitment to focusing on love and receiving some help and some support?”

When I hear success stories from my students, I always ask them what they did that made a difference for them. Usually they tell me a few specific processes or rituals from the book or a workshop they attended with me.

And then I ask them, “Who did you have in your life who supported you or held you accountable for making your dream come true?” Most of them had a friend, or a buddy or a coach that joined them in supporting their dream.

There is plenty of research that proves that having a support system is a necessary ingredient to success, whether it’s getting into shape, overcoming an addiction, a disease, or climbing the corporate ladder. For the next five weeks, let me hold your hand on the path to love.

Plus, there are a ton of other great bonuses I’ve created exclusively for participants of my upcoming 5 week Telecourse, including virtual workshops facilitated by my sister, Debbie Ford, EFT Tapping expert Nick Ortner & Internationally acclaimed dating expert and “man whisperer” Lauren Frances. Find out all the details here. Click Here:

The Soulmate Secret: A Five Week Course To Manifest the Love of Your Life

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Arielle Recommends: The Shadow Effect

Is your dark side making your choices and driving your behavior? Join my sister, Debbie Ford, Deepak Chopra, and Marianne Williamson on a journey of transformation. Never before have these three New York Times bestselling authors joined together to delve into this most provocative and powerful inquiry.

The Shadow Effect will solve the mystery of why you do what you do. It will explain the hidden power of your unclaimed self and support you in returning to your true authentic expression. In The Shadow Effect, Deepak Chopra illustrates our dualistic nature and gives a prescription for wholeness.

Debbie Ford examines the birth of the shadow and the role the shadow has in sabotaging our success, relationships, diets, and dreams. And Marianne Williamson touches our hearts and minds with an exploration of the shadow and the soul.

This practical book is designed to support you in breaking free from repetitive patterns and self- defeating behaviors while illuminating your deeper heart and finding authentic compassion for yourself, others and the world.

The courage to reclaim all of yourself is already within you. Take this journey and reclaim your right to the life you were meant to live and be who you were meant to be. This book holds the power to transform your future.

Click here to order: The Shadow Effect

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love