What happened after he said ‘we have to talk.’

Last April, just after dinner, my soulmate Brian sat me down on the couch and said something that was the equivalent of the heart-stopping phrase,
“We have to talk.”

I remember this sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach, followed by the thought, “oh no, what have I done?”

With the passing of my sister, Debbie, in February, we had both been through several brutal months… trying our best to survive as she slipped away from us. Neither one of us were getting much sleep, both of us deep in our grief, and I was finally back at work trying to tackle not one, but three gigantic projects.

In the sweetest, most gentle voice, Brian began to share with me his massive concern for my health and wellbeing. With tears in his eyes, he told me he really felt that if I didn’t stop the long, intense hours and stressing out so much, he was afraid I would get very sick and possibly even “work myself to death.”

As someone who has always been able to accomplish major things, juggle lots of simultaneous projects and withstand huge amounts of pressure, I normally would have just assured him that I could “power” through this period and deal with it all.

But there was something in the way he was approaching the conversation that made me stop and listen. With his sincere, open-hearted vulnerability I really, really heard him.

And, I got that he was right.

I was no longer the person who could do it all. My nervous system was shredded. I was out of “reserves” and running on fumes.

As I sat there, trying to take it all in, trying to figure out what to “do” about my situation, I remembered something Debbie whispered to me in the middle of the night:

“Take more vacations.”

I spent the next several days looking the calendar, trying to see when I could take a vacation and for how long.

And then it dawned on me: I didn’t just need a week or two on a tropical island. I need a big, long, extended break. I needed to rest, rejuvenate, re-boot and re-think the rest of my life.

On August 1st I stopped working. Completely!

I turned off my cell phone and put it in a drawer.

I turned on the auto-responder to my email and the recorded a new voicemail on my phones to announce that I would now be completely, totally unavailable and I began my sabbatical.

One of my ongoing thoughts was, what if I get bored? How would I fill my days? Could I really do this? Completely unplug?

I am happy to report, yes!

For the past 90 days I have been sleeping in, taking naps (for the first time ever), reading lots of books (some of my favorites have been The Dalai Lama’s Cat and Elizabeth Gilbert’s new novel, The Signature of All Things plus several James Patterson mysteries!). Brian and I are playing tennis and taking tons of beach walks, we’ve traveled to Bora Bora, Italy, and Romania, I’m cooking more and resting a lot.

Every time I’d get an idea for a new project, I’d sit down and close my eyes, breathe deep and wait for it to pass. If the idea persisted, I wrote it down and then forgot about it (for now). I’ve worked with my doctors to restore my energy levels had many visits with the acupuncturist, chiropractor and my amazing partners at Evolving Wisdom gave me a huge gift of many massages.

During this healing time I decided to reinvent how I “do” life.

One of my biggest aha moments came with the realization that “I am now experiencing a new kind of aliveness that is not fueled by adrenalin.”

Without the tyranny of a “To-Do” list eating up every minute of my day, I have made time to have some deep, meaningful conversations with several girlfriends who I’ve discovered are also “hitting the wall” and ready to make major changes. We have all admitted to being “busyness addicts” and we may even start a support group!

In the past I often defined myself by my work and I hate to admit this, but my ego took a lot of pride in “just how much I can accomplish” in an hour or a day or a week.

Years ago, when I worked as Deepak Chopra’s publicist he used to call me “speedy” and I thought that was a good thing! Too bad I wasn’t listening more closely when Deepak was telling me how stressing out causes jittery platelets which is not good for your health.

Today I am done working for a living.

I am eliminating the word “work” from my vocabulary and…. I plan to spend half my time diving into projects that provide me creativity, fun, freedom, and offer some level of contribution and prosperity.

My biggest fear is that as I begin to return to the real world, and start some projects, my old habits will emerge. I expect that there will be days when I slip. Days when I begin to spin out of control, or get caught up in the delusion that anything that I am doing is more important than taking care of myself.

These will be the days when I need to remember my commitment to being a Wabi Sabi Love artisan, someone who finds beauty and perfection in her own imperfection. Just as I am now re-writing and shifting the story of how I “do life,” so must I find compassion for the part of me who still thinks she can do it all.
(and, fortunately I have my caring and committed soulmate to remind me when I lose my way.)

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. If you’re longing to have someone to share all of life’s most beautiful moments with, someone who is your safe place to land, your best friend, lover, partner and healer, you owe it to yourself to listen to this free audio:

The Soulmate Secret: The 3 Keys to Manifesting True Love

I’m so grateful for the feedback participants have shared about how the principles of my “3 Keys” seminar and my Soulmate Secret course have changed their lives. Here’s what Andi and Constance had to say:

“I have met my soulmate and in my daily life I feel cherished!”
Andi, Italy

“I have actually manifested my soulmate! We are now married and sharing our lives. Thank you, Arielle!”
Constance, CA

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Join Me to Discover How to Manifest True Love

Starts tomorrow 5:30pm… PT Marianne Williamson & me

Have I shared with you lately how much I love my soulmate?

Brian is one of the most loving and easiest people on the planet to be with and what you may not know about him is the incredible amount of nurturing and support he provides for me when I am in crazy work mode.

For the past several months I have been fully immersed in the creation of a big new project… it’s been very creative, fun, time-consuming, and super-inspiring.

And, knowing that Brian is always there to encourage me, feed me, hug me, and rub my shoulders makes it so much easier.

Brian is a daily reminder of how great life can be when you share it with your soulmate which is why my dream, my mission, is to make sure that everyone who desires a soulmate has everything they need to make it happen.

Here’s what I know for SURE:
Everyone (especially you) is deserving of soulmate love and there are many possible soulmates out there (they are looking for you!).

If you are willing to give a little time, energy, intention and attention to your love life (and many of you already have, but maybe make time for just a little bit more), love will be yours!

Beginning tomorrow night, I will be hosting a NO COST online series, Attract Your Soulmate Now, featuring the world’s leading experts on love and relationships for 9 days to share their love manifestation secrets and techniques in ONE powerful place. www.lovesummit.com

Join me for the LIVE KICK OFF call at 5:30pmPT, when Marianne Williamson and I launch this “Virtual Seminar.”

For the next 9 days you will hear all the latest and best from Deepak Chopra, Elizabeth Gilbert, Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt, John Gray, Lisa Nichols, John Assaraf, Laura Day, Alison Armstrong, Gay & Kathlyn Hendricks, Marci Shimoff, Colette Baron Reid, Katherine Woodward Thomas, and many others. ) These are actual workshops that will provide you with cutting edge information on finally manifesting the love of your life.

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Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses!

Arielle

P.S. When you register right away, you’ll also receive a limited-time gift bag filled with powerful audio and video seminars from Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson, Debi Berndt, Carol Allen, and Jonathon Aslay, plus ebooks from Sonia Choquette and me!

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Get Your Hug from the Divine Mother

Nearly 20 years ago Deepak Chopra told me a story about a hugging saint from India named Amma.  He told she was the “real deal” and if I ever had a chance to see her in person, not to miss it.

A month before I met Brian, I received my first hug from Amma.  While she was hugging me, I whispered in her ear and asked her to heal my heart of anything that would stop me from manifesting my soulmate.  She laughed and hugged me tighter. That night I had dreams that gave me very clear clues about Brian and she also sent him dreams about me.  On the day that we met we recognized each other and a year later Amma married us.  Our 15th anniversary is in a few weeks.

Amma is known for her selfless love and compassion toward all beings. Her entire life has been dedicated to alleviating the pain of the poor and those suffering physically and emotionally. Amma inspires, uplifts and transforms through her physical embrace, and her spiritual wisdom. Throughout her life, Amma has embraced and comforted more than 32 million people.

 When asked where she gets the energy to help so many people while simultaneously running a massive humanitarian organization, Amma answers:

“Where there is true love, everything is effortless.”

Amma is now on an American tour and if you would like a little assistance on your quest to manifest a soulmate, I would suggest you arrange to have a hug from Amma. There is no charge to attend the public sessions and receive a hug although you generally will wait several hours as thousands will be in attendance.

Trust me, it is worth the wait!

While you are waiting for your hug you will have the opportunity to see unconditional love in action.  As Amma looks at each individual, she does so with the most amazing amount of love beaming from her eyes. It’s truly something to experience and witness. You can find her schedule here.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses!

Arielle

For Better or Worse

As most of you know by now, my darling sister Debbie died last week after a very long journey with cancer. Deb and I were as close as two sisters could possibly be. Our lives were deeply intertwined. When she became gravely ill this past month, I basically stopped my normal life to be with her. When it became clear that she was in her final days, my soulmate, Brian, became my rock, my hero, and my soft place to land. He did this not just for me, but my mother, as well as Debbie’s co-workers and caregivers Julie and Fran. Brian, who is so wise–not only on how to live but he also understands the dying process–spent much of his time preparing all of us for the inevitable. With patience and grace — and with so much love – Brian helped us cope, understand and adapt on so many levels.

And he was present for my sister Debbie in ways that her soul yearned for. They had many deep conversations about where she was, and where she was going. She loved and trusted Brian so much, and with his support, she was able to come to terms with dying. He helped her see that something beautiful awaited and gave her the peace to let go. It made the end of her life her so much more profound and beautiful because she had someone to guide her through.

He gave of himself tirelessly, with devotion, patience, empathy, and buckets full of unconditional love. Brian wrapped us all in a down comforter of love and hugs that made the unbearable bearable.

As every moment left with Debbie became more precious, the true meaning of life became so obvious–we are here to give love, to receive love and to truly BE love. I was reminded how truly important it is for us to love and honor ourselves, to love those around us, and to purposely manifest your soulmate. I know how blessed I feel to know that my soulmate is by my side.

Today, I want to leave you with one of my favorite quotes from A Course In Miracles:
“The only thing that can be lacking in any situation is that which you are not giving.”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. In lieu of flowers donations can be made to Debbie’s foundation www.thecollectiveheart.org for the Girl Power Project.  If you would like to share your memories and stories about Debbie, prayers for Debbie, or messages for her family, please visit www.RememberingDebbieFord.com