Be a pleasure puppy this summer

Our cat Yoda is nicknamed “the pleasure pig.” Yoda demands massive amounts of attention, belly rubs, cheek scratches, and snacks we called “Yoda’s Crack.” The other day, I was watching Brian give Yoda his yoga stretching massage and was silently wishing that I was as good at demanding pleasure as Yoda is!

pleasure puppyI think it’s safe to say that there is always room in life for more love and more pleasure. And, whether you have a partner or not, there are lots of ways to activate and create more loving and pleasurable feelings.  I want to encourage you to become a Pleasure Puppy this summer!

Here’s how:

When you want to feel more love, you can consciously do it by actively releasing the hormone oxytocin into your brain. Stress is one of the main reasons we become depleted in oxytocin, so taking simple steps to rebuild it is necessary to maintain a happy, healthy lifestyle.

Known as the “bonding” chemical, oxytocin is really good for you. According to love master Dr. John Gray, women need to constantly rebuild their “oxytocin” levels. Oxytocin is the bonding hormone essential for women in their ability to give and receive love.

Taking time for mani-pedi’s, getting your hair done, receiving massages, taking long, warm bubble baths, listening to music, dancing, walking in nature, a quiet cup of tea, a perfect piece of chocolate (or your favorite treat), coloring and being creative….these are a few ways to add pleasure to your daily life that also rebuild oxytocin.

Oxytocin can be generated lots of ways and the more you have, the better you will feel. Not surprisingly, it plays a big role in producing orgasms.

It’s well known that a simple hug, gazing into the eyes of someone you care about or petting your dog or cat will also boost your oxytocin level. And, going shopping also does the trick. Even if you don’t buy anything, just looking and touching beautiful items makes a difference.

This summer, make time to savor the taste of fresh fruit, inhale the aroma of blossoming flowers, create a gourmet picnic and treat your loved ones to an array of fine wine, French cheese, and baguettes in a beautiful park or by the ocean.  Go for walks in nature, schedule a Skype video chat with a long lost friend, listen to your favorite album from high school, attend an outdoor concert, schedule special events on every new moon, full moon, and crescent moon, and don’t forget to make a fun plan for the 4th of July.

My personal “pleasure recipe” includes a daily bath with aromatherapy, an early morning walk with my husband, and one-on-one time with my cat. If I have a particularly stressful day, I have a special CD of favorite dance tunes that I crank up in my office and I dance and sing (all by myself) until I feel the endorphins surging through me.

If consciously adding pleasure to your daily life doesn’t come naturally to you, I would suggest a little experiment: For the next 7 days, decide to add at least 15-20 minutes of pleasure… all for you. By taking the time to add pleasure to your life, you will be calmer, happier, and more receptive to enjoying and attracting love at every level.

And, as you create your To-Do list, put YOU on the top of that list, then let me know what happens!

Remember, what you put your attention on grows. Add more pleasure and oxytocin to your brain and your life to add more love on every level and become a pleasure puppy!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Be A Pleasure Pig – Part Two

 

A few weeks ago I introduced you to the concept of living life like our cat Yoda does, as a Pleasure Pig.

 

We talked about all the ways to give yourself more pleasure in order to build oxytocin in your brain (while reducing stress).  Oxytocin is known as the “cuddling hormone” and having more of it makes life more pleasurable.

 

Many of you instantly decided the way to more pleasure is eating more of your favorite foods….and while I think indulging in treats is super pleasurable, we also want to stay mindful of being healthy and doing it in moderation.

 

Food trayA daily pig out on chocolate or ice cream or diet coke is not what I was suggesting.  It’s up to you to decide just how often (and how much) of these tasty treats, makes sense for you.

 

And, while we are on the topic of pleasure and food, here are some suggestions:

  • Make every meal and snack special.  Rather than stand at the kitchen sink eating cereal out of a box, or crunching on an apple, try this: On a pretty tray, or placemat, use a beautiful china dish or bowl, slice the apple, sprinkle a little cinnamon on it, get out the nice silverware and a cloth napkin, put a flower in a little vase, and create an atmosphere of delight, ALL FOR YOU, all the time.
  • Take the time to really taste your food. Use all of your senses and make eating a true experience.  Savor every bite!
  • When grocery shopping, rather than speeding through aisles, take your time in the produce section…when you pick up the fruit and veggies, smell them, feel their vibration before gently placing them in your shopping cart.  (And you singles, I have two girlfriends who met their husbands in the produce section of markets while they were doing this because the men were enchanted with how sensuously and carefully they selected their veggies!)

 

Brian wine sunset

Brian is a lover of fine wine and craft beer.  One of his favorite activities is to go to the local specialty shop to discuss the newest and greatest wines with the owner. After he selects his bottle, he comes home and then pours it into his favorite crystal, oversized wine glass.  (When we go to dinner parties, he not only brings his own wine, he also travels with his favorite glass to drink it from!)  When he decides to have a beer, he goes to the freezer to pull out his cold and frosty favorite schooner to drink it from.   He has mastered the art of being a pleasure pig!

 

Please share with me how you are becoming a pleasure pig by posting comments and photos at www.facebook.com/ariellefordfanpage

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Be A Pleasure Pig

Our cat Yoda is nicknamed “the pleasure pig.” Yoda demands massive amounts of attention, belly rubs, cheek scratches, and snacks of his favorite baby food, which we called “Yoda’s Crack.” The other day I was watching Brian give Yoda his yoga stretching massage and was silently wishing that I was as good at demanding pleasure as Yoda is!

Yoda Bri

I think it’s safe to say that there is always room in life for more love and more pleasure. And, whether you have a partner or not, there are lots of ways to activate and create more loving and pleasurable feelings.

Here’s how:

When you want to feel more love, you can consciously do it by actively releasing the hormone oxytocin into your brain. Known as the “bonding” chemical, oxytocin is really good for you. According to love master Dr. John Gray, women need to constantly rebuild their “oxytocin” levels. Oxytocin is the bonding hormone essential for women in their ability to give and receive love.

Taking time for mani-pedi’s, getting your hair done, receiving massages, taking long, warm bubble baths, listening to music, dancing, walking in nature, a quiet cup of tea, a perfect piece of chocolate (or your favorite treat)….these are a few ways to add pleasure to your daily life that also rebuild oxytocin.

Oxytocin can be generated lots of ways and the more you have, the better you will feel. Not surprisingly, it plays a big role in producing orgasms.

Stress is one of the main reasons we become depleted in oxytocin, so taking simple steps to rebuild it is necessary to maintain a happy, healthy lifestyle.

It’s well known that a simple hug, gazing into the eyes of someone you care about or petting your dog or cat will also boost your oxytocin level. And, going shopping also does the trick. Even if you don’t buy anything, just looking and touching beautiful items makes a difference.

My personal “pleasure recipe” includes a daily bath with aromatherapy, an early morning walk with my husband, and one-on-one time with my cat. If I have a particularly stressful day, I have a special CD of favorite dance tunes that I crank up in my office and I dance and sing (all by myself) until I feel the endorphins surging through me.

If consciously adding pleasure to your daily life doesn’t come naturally to you, I would suggest a little experiment: For the next 7 days, decide to add at least 15-20 minutes of pleasure…all for you. By taking the time to add pleasure to your life, you will be calmer, happier, and more receptive to enjoying and attracting love at every level.

And, as you create your To-Do list, put YOU on the top of that list, then let me know what happens!

Remember, what you put your attention on grows. Add more pleasure and oxytocin to your brain and your life to add more love on every level and become a pleasure pig like Yoda!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Sex With Your Ex: Bad Idea?

Make-up sex. Break up sex. Mercy sex. Drive by sex. It’s easy sex. I just gotta have some sex. It’s better than nothing sex. Friends with benefits sex. Maybe this time it will be different sex.

Sound familiar?

These are just a few of the countless reasons why we might fall into bed with an Ex-lover. Unless a miracle has occurred, and your Ex has suddenly become your perfect right partner, having sex with your Ex is a mistake.

Why?

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