Are you “All In” When It Comes To Your Dream?

Sometimes we say we desire something, and then, when we examine our progress (or lack there of) it quickly becomes clear that our desire isn’t necessarily a priority.  It’s more like a hope, or wish, or fantasy.


We rely on magical thinking rather than “working our personal magic.”


I know I am, at times, certainly guilty of this.


imagesThere are things I think about…a lot…but never really take action on…except to make up more excuses as to when I will begin or why I won’t be successful in attaining my desire.


What I know for sure is that, when I do turn my focus and attention on something really important to me, and I willing to make some effort, eventually I attain success.


But, until I get to the point of “going all in” and truly committing, I try to give myself a break and stop “shoulding” on myself, and allow myself to experience as much happiness and peace as possible with how things are right now.


And, often the best way to BEGIN is with a baby step.




Then another.


Going slowly, rather than trying to figure it all out at once.


Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


The UP side of endings

For many of us, life is hectic and stress-filled, and for some, it’s even scary with all the instability in the world. Every day I receive a wisdom-filled email from Neale Donald Walsch. Here is a recent one that I especially love that addresses this issue:

p1010572On this day of your life

I believe God wants you to know…

…that this is not the end, but the beginning.

All endings start something better.

It is inevitable.

Here is God’s promise: Life proceeds, it never recedes.

Life progresses, it never regresses.

Not even death ends anything, so how much can this particular event matter?

It is true. When one door closes, another does open.

The movement of life is ever upward.

Six months from today you will know this. For now, trust it.

Do you think God does not know what She is doing?

Whether life is totally peachy or you are down in the dumps, it’s good to remember these words from Neale.

I know, trust and believe that the Universe always has our back and that “good” is always on the way.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


Are You An Over-giver?

Today I want to share a special story with you from my friend Debbie Lynn GraceDebbie explains why so many people are “over-givers,” and what’s behind the urge to do that. Whether you are single, or in any kind of relationship in which you are over-giving, please read this.


debbielynngraceheadshotsmallfinalWhen I was a child I wanted to be like everybody else.  To fit in.  To belong.  I would look at all the kids around me and try to be like them so I would get accepted. And yet, no matter how much I tried, I had a label that followed me around and always made me feel different.  I was called “too sensitive.”  I could sense things or people around me that weren’t right. I would cry easily. And I would try to express my feelings, but all I got in return for my vulnerability was being told I’m too sensitive.

What I didn’t know at the time, is that there are people all over the world who are like me  are called Highly Sensitive People.  In fact, it’s been estimated that up to 20% of the population are born with a different wiring in your brain that results in you experiencing your senses more acutely than other people

Unfortunately, this knowledge wasn’t known then, so I had to figure out how to fit in through my own logic. I learned that if I couldn’t be like everybody else, then at least I could make people happy. I figured if I made them happy, then they would like me and not tease me.

By the time I entered the dating world, I really wanted a loving mate. And it came naturally to me to show my love for a man by being the giver. While I have a generous nature, I would unconsciously take giving to the extreme. I would look for ways to make my man happy and in the process, didn’t have any clue how to RECEIVE from the man and allow him to make me happy. And then when the man left, I’d wonder what was wrong with me.

Being an “over-giver” is a very common way that some one who is Highly Sensitive uses to cope with their sensitive nature.  It’s a completely unconscious act, because we really do want others to be happy. Unfortunately, when you give to the point of depletion, especially in a personal relationship, you don’t allow yourself to receive. Which is the very thing you want – to receive love from your mate (and your friends, family and co-workers.)

Through my own personal development and upon discovering my true gift as an intuitive, I have not only come to peace with being a highly sensitive person.  I embrace it as the beautiful gift that God bestowed upon me.  And it led me to my life’s work to help others who are highly sensitive learn how to embrace their sensitive nature, have simple tools that help with their sensitivities, and to have thriving, loving relationships and an abundant and fulfilling life.

If you know that you are a “highly sensitive person” or an empath and have struggled in any aspect of your life because of your sensitive nature, I invite you to join me on October 18th for a call on “The Four Step Life Success Formula for Highly Sensitive People!Click here to get complimentary access to the live webinar.


Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


The Power of Positivity

Just like the Law of Gravity is always working, whether you are aware of it or not, so the Law of Attraction is always working, bringing to you that which you focus on.  Our monkey minds often try to scare us with thoughts about “what if” and “I never” and all kinds of junk.  It’s up to us to be aware of these negative thoughts and then do something about them.  Mindfulness Guru Barb Schmidt offers some very easy and practical tips below:


Use a positive affirmation to interrupt negative thoughts. “I trust the process of life.” “All is well.” “Everything is working out for my greatest good.”

  • One simple technique is repeating a positive affirmation in your head throughout the day.
  • We have on average 50,000 thoughts a day, and more than half of those are negative.
  • A positive and a negative thought cannot exist at the same time.
  • Choose a positive affirmation to replace negative thoughts.
  • Choose a phrase that feels right for you.
  • The most important thing is to settle on one word or phrase, and use it consistently every day.
  • Repeat this word or phrase often, not just when you are stressed. When you are waiting in line, when stuck in traffic, when you are in the shower, etc.
  • Interrupts the stream of habitual, negative thoughts.
  • Creates a new pattern of positivity.

Briefly reflect on your day before you fall asleep. What went well today? What can you let go of? What are three things you are grateful for?

  • Reflecting on your day before you fall asleep is so important because so many of us have trouble falling asleep or sleeping soundly.
  • Our minds are still going full speed and have trouble letting go of everything that happened during the day so that we can have a restful sleep.
  • Before bed take a few minutes to recap the events of the day. Note a few things that you are grateful for. One of them can be that you are alive and breathing.
  • Note what went well and what didn’t go well. Then let it go. Tell yourself that tomorrow is a new day.

Barb Schmidt is the author of the internationally best-selling book on mindfulness The Practice. She is a meditation teacher based out of Boca Raton. To find out more about being mindful, go to Barb’s website


Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Be A Badass!

When I was growing up, we had the term “badass,” but it was usually the bully in school who was always in detention, or even worse, sent to military school because he couldn’t get along with the other kids.

Today, Badass has a whole new meaning, especially for women, and my friend Nikki Jade defines it this way:

1) Someone who doesn’t care what other people think of them because they are authentically, boldly and freely expressing their beautiful divine self.

2) They create their life moment by moment on the basis of what they would love.

3) They are so powerful they must watch every thought and choose wisely.

4) An empowered goddess.

love this definition and I think it provides a great template for living a life filled with love, prosperity, satisfaction and fun.


So, what does it take to live authentically and boldly?  Courage!  Allow yourself to be fully YOU.  Allow others to see you, and while that can be scary, follow the lead of the late, great Susan Jeffers and “feel the fear and do it anyway.”

Creating your life moment by moment requires that you first get to dig deep and really know what makes you happy and what you love. One way to do this is to make a list of times and experiences in your past where you experienced true joy. Then do MORE of that!

Now, the hard part:  The Law of Attraction is ALWAYS working, which is why you must learn to manage your thoughts, feelings and emotions. You are a very powerful being and what you put your attention on grows.  If you are stuck in negative emotions or thought forms, you are not creating the life you desire.  This is not to say that you don’t honor and process negative emotions, you must; but learn how to do that so you don’t find yourself in negative feedback loops that keep you stuck.

Remember…. choose every thought wisely.

Now go out there and be the fabulous Badass that you are!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


P.S.  If you want to be a Badass in love and when it comes to manifesting your soulmate, join Claire Zammit and I for:

The 7 Myths Keeping You From Love
LIVE Seminar this Thursday,  September 29th
Register Here at No Charge

How To Love Yourself More

Learning to love myself was a painful and slow process.

I grew up awkward, introverted, and with a very loud, self-critical voice in my head.

More than 25 years ago I had the good fortune to be introduced to Louise Hay who took me through her life-changing “mirror work” process.

I remember sitting with her as she held a mirror in front of my face and told me to look into my own eyes and make a series of positive statements to myself, including “I love you.”  It was hard, because I really felt like I was lying to myself.  Somehow I got through the process and then, as a daily practice, I did mirror work on my own, and learned to understand that not only did I really love myself, but that I was also loveable!

All of your self-talk, the dialogue in your head, is a stream of affirmations. These affirmations are messages to your subconscious that are establishing habitual ways of thinking and behaving. Positive affirmations plant healing thoughts and ideas that support you in developing self-confidence and self-esteem, and creating peace of mind and inner joy.

If you want to change your life, then it’s necessary to retrain your thinking and speaking into positive patterns, and mirror work, with its positive affirmations, opens the door. In essence, you are saying to your subconscious mind, “I am taking responsibility. I am aware that there is something I can do to change.” When you pay attention to your thoughts, you can begin to eliminate the ones creating experiences you do not want in your life.

Twice a day, stand in front of a mirror, look into your eyes, and repeat positive affirmations ten times. For instance, for self love you might say: “I want to like you. I want to really learn to love you. Let’s go for it and really have some fun.”

Take another deep breath and say: “I’m learning to really like you. I’m learning to really love you.

If doubts or fears or negative thoughts come up, just recognize them for what they are – old limiting beliefs that want to stay around. Say to them gently: “Out, I no longer need you.” And then repeat your positive affirmations again.

That which we constantly affirm becomes true for us.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


P.S. To learn how to do this from the master herself, LOUISE HAY, sign up for her Loving Yourself: 21 Days to Improved Self-Esteem Online Video Course to achieve the love, the prosperity, and the relationships you’ve been longing for.

Each day for 21 days, you’ll learn how to:

  • Recognize your heart’s desire
  • Gain confidence to listen to and follow your inner guidance
  • Cultivate your soul gifts – all of those talents you’ve come to share with the world
  • Realize that self-love makes it so much easier for others to love you
  • Have less drama and fewer conflicts
  • Heal your personal suffering and the suffering of others through self-love

Don’t miss this amazing opportunity to fall in love with yourself and your life!

Do you practice the Sunshine Law?

When I was growing up in Hollywood, Florida (30 minutes north of Miami Beach), my Dad was politically active…he was into civil rights, protecting the environment by fighting the land developers (to this day Hollywood Beach is still nearly free of the tall buildings that block beach access), and he was a strong advocate for getting the  “Sunshine Law” passed when I was around 12 years old.


sun-catsI remember him explaining to me that the “Sunshine Law” was important because it required that all that all meetings of any governmental body, where official acts take place, will be public meetings. He said that they couldn’t be secret – or take place in the dark – because we deserved to know what our officials were doing.


It’s interesting that my sister Debbie, incorporated this into her life’s work around dealing with “the dark side” and showing people how to love and embrace both their darkness and their light.


I also decided that this is how I wanted to be in the world… really open, no secrets, what we now call transparency.  For me, it just seems logical and easy to just be this way.  It is also a great way to stay deeply connected to your partner.


Living life with your own “sunshine law” requires a big commitment to vulnerability.  It’s not easy to always share your truth, your deepest feelings, and the “not so wonderful” parts of ourselves.


Elizabeth Gilbert is particularly genius at this.  Last week, on her Facebook blog, she shared that one of the reasons for her upcoming divorce is that her best friend, Rayya, is now her lover and partner.  In a deeply revealing and touching piece, Elizabeth shares the intimate details of Rayya’s diagnosis with pancreatic/liver cancer and how that revealed their truest feelings for each other.


The Sunshine Law is a great metaphor for allowing your love and life to shine brightly, and bless yourself and all those in your world.


Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


TEXTING – The Junk Food of Dating

Lately, I have been hearing from a ton of people that thought they had potentially “found the one,” (they were getting lots of great texts, many times a day), only to discover that the texts suddenly slowed down or stopped all together.


They truly believed they were on the verge (or were in) a relationship.


Why does this happen?


Well, chances are, you weren’t the only one they were texting.


And, they may have found someone to start a relationship with, and then abandoned you.


Bottom line: By relying on texting, rather than meeting in person, calling, etc., they hadn’t made any real investment in getting to know you.


And you allowed that to happen.


Texting offers an easy and fun way to flirt without requiring very much effort.


Most of the time, texting also doesn’t really give you all the insight you need to determine if the other person has potential to be a date, let alone your future life partner.


As humans, we need verbal plus non-verbal cues to get to know someone.


In fact, UCLA did a study decades ago showing that as much as 92% of the information we take in from someone is non-verbal. This means we need to actually “see” them, not just get little words on a tiny screen from them.


TextingWe are sensory, sensual beings. 


Our senses of sight, hearing and touch, and the all important “sixth sense,” are necessary components to dating.


It’s likely you’ve had the experience where you spent a ton of time texting with someone, only to meet them in person and discover zero chemistry and/or great disappointment.


Texting is incredibly useful for conveying short bits of information such as “sorry, I am running 5 minutes late,” but to really get to know someone, you must take the time to get on the phone, meet for coffee, and arrange Skype or Facetime chats.


While so many people are now using texting as a dominant form of communication, you can quickly convey your preferences for connecting.


Let them know upfront that you don’t do a lot of texting, but you are looking forward to a call.  Once you do get on the phone with them, be sure to reinforce how wonderful it is to hear their voice – be generous in your praise with things like “you’ve got a really soothing voice” (or a sexy one!)  When you see them on Facetime or Skype, compliment something about their appearance.


One you are in a relationship, text all you want, but in the beginning stages, I really caution you against over-texting as a way to evaluate potential soulmates.


Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


Have You Been Emotionally Tanked??

Have you ever walked into a room and before you heard any words you could feel the anger/tension in the air?   We all have the ability, like radios and cell phones, to receive unseen vibrations and signals from the world around us.  Those of us who are particularly sensitive not only absorb these energies but you may also have to consciously clear them.


What you may not know is that not every “feeling” you are experiencing is yours.


For instance, if your significant other is angry/sad/whatever (but is in denial or unaware of their feelings) and perhaps they are suppressing them, you might be the one who ends up getting triggered and expressing “their” feelings.


It’s something known as emotional tanking.


Sometimes when I am experiencing an emotion that I can’t figure out the source of, if I look to see whom I have been around, I realize that I have taken on their feelings.


UnknownThe fastest way for me to release them is to cut cords.


Cords are invisible energetic strands of energy that connect two people.


How to Cut Cords:


Simply imagine that this person is standing in front of you.


Place one hand, cupped palm down, near the top of where their head would be and place the other hand, cupped up, as low as you can, then scoop up the cords, grasp them in one hand and then using your other hand, make a karate chop three times to sever the cords.  Then clap your hands three times to disperse the energy.


If you’re still struggling getting an “ex” out of your life, be sure to do this process.  You might notice that after you cut cords with them, they call you or show up.  This doesn’t mean you are suppose to take them back, it just means they felt the energetic release and they want to continue to be an emotional vampire.  You can cut cords as often as necessary.


I have been using this technique for many years and find it very effective.


Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


Releasing Negativity

We’ve all been there…..the days when we spiral down convinced that life just isn’t going our way… that we are undeserving of love, or the new job, or the thing we are most wishing for.

imagesOur mind goes into overdrive, some would call it a negative feedback loop, and we keep replaying the negativity over and over again, convinced our mind is telling us the truth.

BUT….just because you have a thought does not mean it’s true!

It’s up to us to begin to manage our thoughts and emotions and there are ways to do this but it requires a little time and attention.

When you find yourself having negative thoughts, try these techniques:

1)  Stop what you are doing and acknowledge to yourself what you are thinking…internally (or out loud) say “cancel-cancel.”

2)  Then take time to do a feelingization (go to and scroll down to the Love Magnet video) to move from your monkey mind to your heart and begin to feel love, appreciation and gratitude.  Remember, you attract MORE of what you are grateful for!

3)  Now create a positive affirmation that FEELS GOOD IN YOUR BODY.  Statements such as: I am a kind and loving being or I am grateful for all the love in my life right now.  Whatever statement feels most natural to you.  Write these on post-it notes and place where you can look at them daily.

I want to suggest that those of you who truly, deeply desire a soulmate (or a new career or whatever) that you begin to let go of your doubts of what is possible for you…..remember that the word “impossible” is really “I’m possible.”

One of my favorite quotes in Wayne Dyer’s book, WISHES FULFILLED, is from the great teacher, Neville, who said “Make your future dream a present fact by assuming the feeling of the wish fulfilled.”

I strongly encourage you to write this down and look at it daily. You deserve love and the one you are seeking is ALSO seeking you.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,