What’s Your MISERY set point?

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the inevitable “aging and decaying process.”

I witness my own body and mind as I struggle with various aches, pains and wrinkles, as well as that of my friends and family.

There are days when I just hate it.  I cringe, complain, whine and moan….

In spite of knowing that I often do the best I can to offset the reality of time and gravity, I began to ask myself “why do I have so much resistance to what is so?”

I realize there no use in being miserable over things that I don’t have a lot of control over.

The last time I was in this deep of a quandary, I was in my mid-twenties.

I was severely depressed and having suicidal thoughts, I was on medication, and seeing a shrink.

In one of our sessions she said the most dreadful and life-changing thing to me: “I don’t think you are depressed enough.”


I couldn’t imagine being even more depressed than I already was.

Getting out of bed to go to work took every bit of effort I had.

Her words haunted me and as I thought about them I realized that I had to be willing to dive into the deepest, lowest depth of my depression and be willing to see what happened.

So I did.

And I discovered that not only could I survive being at the lowest possible point, allowing myself to go there gave me the motivation to fight my way out of it with everything I could muster.

I committed to figuring out how to heal myself and I realized that I needed to focus on how to be happy instead of focusing on how not to be depressed.

It didn’t happen overnight.

It actually took a few years.

But, what did change, was that I let go of the fantasy of finding the “magic bullet” fix.

I decided to begin to study the happy people that I knew (this was long before the internet or Google) and it worked.

I discovered how to take baby steps.

I learned to appreciate the moments, or hours, and eventually days and months when the depression lifted.

And slowly I transformed.

Whatever level of misery you are experiencing, the way out is through.

Feel it. Heal it. And most importantly focus on how you MOST want to feel – even if it means faking it until you make it.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


CUPID is searching for you!

Is it your dream to find a soul mate?

A life-partner who will love, cherish and adore you?

This wonderful Universe of ours is set up to deliver the people and things we draw to us that are consistent with our personal belief system.  If you don’t believe you will ever find the ONE, then, guess what?  You get to be right …you probably won’t. If, however, you learn to believe that the ONE is not only out there, but is ALSO LOOKING FOR YOU, then true love can be yours.

When I was in my early forties, I decided to manifest my soulmate using everything I had ever learned about manifestation, psychology, spirituality, and the Law of Attraction.   And it worked. I met my husband, Brian, who has exceeded all of my desires and expectations. And now, 20 years later, he was and still is everything I ever wished for.

What if I told you that it’s not your job to know HOW your soul mate is going to appear? What if I told you it’s only your job to be ready, willing and open to love. Think about it this way: you really don’t know where air comes from, but you do believe that it’s always there for you, right?

The same is true for love.  It’s there for you.  It’s always been there for you.  You just need to remember the love that you are and once you do, the Universe will deliver to you the perfect soul mate.

The basic Law of Attraction states that you will attract to you those things that match your state of belief. Believing that your soul mate is out there is critical to the preparation of manifestation.

To manifest your soul mate, here are the ten top things to do and remember:

  • Be the loving person that you are. Find ways to express more love to everyone in your life.
  • Live in the knowingness that you are in a loving, committed relationship.
  • Live that truth every day as you savor the waiting for your beloved to arrive.
  • Create a “vision map” of your romantic vision and look at it daily.
  • Write a list of the most important qualities your soul mate will possess.
  • Heal your heart of any past hurts that will prevent you from magnetizing big love.
  • Clear out the clutter in your home and create space for your beloved (especially in your closets).
  • Create an altar in the relationship corner of your home.
  • Listen to your intuition to take action when opportunities present themselves.
  • Fall in love with yourself. Know that you are lovable.

Big love is possible for anyone of any age if you are willing to become a magnet for love.  Continue to live each day in the knowingness that you are in a loving, committed relationship as you savor the waiting for your beloved to arrive.

The “secret sauce” to manifesting everything and anything is to move from your head and into your heart and I have a bunch of new (and free) Feelingizations™ for you at www.soulmatesecret.com – just click on the “free stuff” tab!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


My Valentine’s Gift to YOU!

Happy Valentines Day – whether you are single, with the love of your life, or somewhere in between, I am waving my magic wand over you and sending blessings for a lifetime of deep, heart-opening, soul-stirring love for you (today and every day).

When I first married my soulmate, Brian, I was pretty clueless about what it takes to make a marriage totally awesome and amazing. What I didn’t know was shocking (!) and I often hoped someone would give me the comprehensive guide for growing and sustaining our soulful connection.

So, I became a student of love, scouring the world for wisdom from Love Masters, determined to create a one-stop resource for deepening communication, navigating common conflicts that come up, and keeping passion sizzling when the ho-hum of life sets in.

Now you can benefit from my findings, because next week I’ll be streaming 25 relationship seminars with the world’s top love experts – at no charge!

Join me February 18 – 20 for The Art of Love Relationship Series and take your relationship from ho-hum to hotter than ever!

It’s totally FREE! Sign Up Here.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Manifesting Magic in 26 mins. (NEW no-cost video from me)

Here is a simple fact:

The Law of Attraction is ALWAYS working, whether you are focusing on it or not. The vibration of your thoughts and beliefs and feelings are constantly co-creating your reality with the Universe…

As a student of the Law of Attraction for more than 30 years, I still need to stay aware of my thoughts & beliefs and “manage” them.  It is easy to let our monkey mind take over and fill us with negative thoughts.

For the launch of my new coloring book, Inkspirations: Love By Design Coloring the Divine Path to Manifest Your SoulmateI created a free 26-minute video (bookmark it when you get there) on how to use the Law of Attraction for the best results and I want you to have access to it here.

On this site, you will see pages from the coloring book and then scroll down to the box to fill in your name to get free access.

Remember, the Universe has your back, and the Law of Attraction works, but not always on the timetable we are hoping for, so never give up!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


P.S. Today is the official publication date of my book… If you buy the book NOW, it will help me reach my goal of being #1 on the Amazon Adult Coloring book list. ☺

Invite God To Help You Manifest

There are many different ways to pray and I believe one of the most powerful and effective ways are prayers of gratitude.

Here is a beautiful letter to God I received from a woman named Mona, from India, and I am excited to share it with you today:

Dear God,

I love you!

I offer deep gratitude for this precious life I am blessed with. Thank you for “me being me.”

At this moment, I rest in the knowing that I am a spitting image of you in spirit. You manifest through me. You ARE me!

To say that I am not good enough is to say that you are not good enough. And how can that ever, ever be possible?

I seek solace in that restful place of limitless unconditional love, divine peace and pure wisdom within me, that is my own personal temple of you. Here, I easily and effortlessly place each fear of my heart, each doubt of my mind, to be taken away from me. At this moment, I surrender myself exactly the way I am to you. 

While I rest in my most natural state of love in this temple, I let myself revitalize in body, mind, and spirit. I rediscover myself as a spark of your creativity, which makes me a unique and spectacular creation! I freely and easily love myself exactly as you love me…

And as I go about playfully exploring my inner universe only to find that I see your love everywhere, I also discover that you’ve set aside another spark of your creativity, another of your most enchanting creations, essentially and exclusively for me to gift myself to.

I rest in the deep knowing that you have already blessed me with a love that goes far beyond all my expectations and is unimaginably beautiful. I am reassured beyond doubt that you have created my unique and perfect match.

In not yet being reunited in flesh with my perfect match, it is not that I’m unworthy of your choice. I recognize humbly that it is your way of letting me discover my own uniqueness before I seek someone else’s. The challenges I see in my outer universe are but a reminder from you that I am indeed as expansive and empowered as you’ve made me.

I rest back in my comforting inner silence through which you speak to me every moment; even this very moment, to guide me to my perfect match in a way that will most uniquely help me discover that love inside me which I so deeply desire to gift.

Thank you for the gift of my unmatched life and unconditional love.

In this moment, I believe…

Love and gratitude,


I was deeply touched by Mona’s letter – her sincerity, trust, and gratitude are so evident and clear.  She is vibrating on a high level of love!  If it feels right for you, try writing your own letter to God for whatever desire you are working on to manifest.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


P.S. Color your way to LOVE with my new coloring book, Inkspirations Love by Design: Coloring the Divine Path to Manifest Your Soulmate.

What’s Your Blind Spot?

Have you ever gone looking for something (keys, glasses, etc.) only to discover, after much searching, that the keys were just where you left them, or your glasses were on top of your head?

It happens to me all the time.

Sometimes we are right in front of something (like our potential soulmate, our new career move, the funding source we need) and we just don’t see it.

It’s because we have a belief. It could be that we don’t believe we have the answer or we believe the answer needs to look like something else.

There is an actual word for this condition – it’s called a “schotoma.”  Blind spots!

A Sample of Schotoma

imagesCount the number of the letter “F” in the statement below:





How many did you count 3?  5? There are actually 7!

The answer was right in front of you and yet you didn’t see it.

Don’t worry, most people do this. (I’ll tell you where they are in the P.S. if you don’t figure it out 🙂

In order to manifest your heart’s desire, you need to really believe in the possibility of it.  And, then be open that the answer might be right in front of you.

Or next door to you.

Or coming in a package you never expected!

As Deepak Chopra says, “your desire comes with the seeds of its own fulfillment!”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


P.S. Chances are, you missed the “F’s” in the word “of.”

P.P.S. Color your way to LOVE with my new coloring book, Inkspirations Love by Design: Coloring the Divine Path to Manifest Your Soulmate.







Manifesting with Crayons!

Me & CoverMy big guilty pleasure these days is coloring….. I color about an hour a day and I have coloring books and felt tip markers in both the living room and my office. It’s a pleasure pig move because it rebuilds oxytocin, not to mention how relaxing, creative, fun and satisfying it is.  I am hooked!

While on a book tour at Transitions Bookstore in Chicago twenty years ago for Hot Chocolate for the Mystical Soul, I met the owner, Gayle Mandel, who shared with me her true story of manifesting her soulmate by coloring a love mandala.  Gayle was ready to manifest her soulmate and as she used different colors in each section of the mandala, she spoke out loud the trait or quality she most desired in her soulmate. Less than three weeks later, while at the gym looking her worst, she met the man on the exercise machine next to her, Howard.  He has now been her loving, devoted husband for 30 years!   This all happened long before I had any thoughts of writing The Soulmate Secret (in which I share Gayle’s story), but having learned it, I instantly began to color mandalas to successfully manifest all kinds of things in my life!

Just the other day I received this note from Linda who shared her soulmate coloring success story:

wedding16After a painful divorce from a 27-year marriage, and dating for another almost 6 years without finding the soulmate I was seeking, I came across The Soulmate Secret.  I followed your steps to attract my soulmate and found that the most enjoyable and profound step for me was to color a love mandala.

I used a spiritual color guide where each color correlated to a spiritual quality (ie: Blue represents wisdom and clarity). Then I used the all the colors that correlated with the qualities I was seeking in my soulmate to fill in the sections of the mandala (red for loving and passionate, orange for vitality, brown for groundedness, grey for balanced, yellow for spiritual connection to God, and so forth).

Three months later I met Jim and eighteen months later we married in a beautiful ceremony. We have now been together for 9 years, and we look forward to sharing the rest of our lives together, loving, growing, having fun and working to make the world a better place.

For those of you who are open to coloring as a manifestation tool, I am excited to announce the publication of my new coloring book, Inkspirations Love by Design: Coloring the Divine Path to Manifest Your Soulmate.

This unique, transformational coloring book offers simple yet specific exercises, completed in concert with 32 specially designed coloring pages by internationally acclaimed artist Manja Burton.  Coloring in this book creates the frequency of love in your life that allows you to engage your romantic destiny. Love by Design comes out February 7th and you can pre-order now at: http://amzn.to/2hQJ0ZO.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


P.S. Come meet me in person, I will be on Book Tour in February to San Diego, LA, San Francisco, Miami and Boca Raton, Florida. Details here.

How To Ask A Guy Out (by text!)

One of the big debates I hear from single women is whether or not it’s “ok” to make the first move and ask a guy out, especially if you are seeking a “masculine alpha male” type.  So, I decided to ask my dear friend and awesome love expert, Mat Boggs, to write today’s newsletter and give you his advice on this hot topic.  I think what he has to say makes perfect sense.  Enjoy!

mat-boggs-webinarjam-headshotHave you ever wanted to ask a guy out, but you weren’t sure how to do it while still remaining in your feminine energy?

A client of mine named Kelli had this exact challenge.

Kelli wanted to ask her friend, Rich (whom she’d had a secret crush on for months) to be her date at her company party.  Kelli and Rich were just friends (not romantic…yet!) but Kelli wanted to move the relationship out of the “friend zone”.

So how can Kelli ask Rich out, while remaining feminine?

Here’s the key…

First, you must know that masculine energy wants to provide and protect.  One way to ignite the masculine is by stepping into your feminine energy by asking for something you want — something that would make you happy.

Here’s the text that I told Kelli to send Rich… and it worked like a charm!

Help! I’m looking for a good-lookin’, fun, sushi-lovin’ guy (who preferably lives in San Diego area) to accompany me to my work holiday party, before someone in accounting asks me to go (yikes!).  Know anyone who would be interested???

Let’s dive into the anatomy of this perfect text and understand why it worked so well:

Help!  I’m looking for a good-lookin’, fun, (insert a quality you know him for) guy (who preferably lives in [insert where you live] area)

This phrasing indirectly references him and compliments him at the same time. This indirect approach is in line with feminine energy, and asking for “Help!” signals him that there’s an opportunity for his masculine energy to fulfill a need.

to accompany me to my work holiday party, before someone in accounting asks me to go (yikes!).  Know anyone who would be interested???

Including the “before someone in accounting asks me to go” is key, because it demonstrates you are an “in-demand” woman who has options.  When he sees other people desire you, his desire naturally increases.

Sure enough, Rich wrote back, asking when the party would be, and they agreed to go together.

He accompanied her to the party. And at the end of the night, he kissed her! Now they are both enjoying a budding new relationship.

Pretty awesome, right?!

There were three keys that helped my client bring this relationship from “just friends” to big chemistry:

  • She had the right mindset, that was action-oriented and feminine at the same time.
  • She had the right heart-set, knowing she was worthy of love.
  • And she had the right skill-set, the right words to say to evoke his masculine energy.

To serve you in learning more about how to have the right mindset, heart-set, skill-set, I’ve put together a complimentary webinar that you’re going to LOVE called: 3 Secrets to Manifesting the Man of your Dreams.

You’ll learn even more about how to ignite a man’s attraction triggers and call in the relationship you desire.

Register HERE. It’s a gift from us to YOU.

Remember, the love you seek is out there seeking you, so get out there and make some moves, girl!

With Love and Light,


I consider Mat Boggs to be one of my “love teachers” – his depth, wisdom and understanding of the man/woman dynamic never ceases to amaze me.  For those of you who try this out, be sure to let me know how it works for you!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Forget Resolutions, Use Manifestation Magic (for anything!)

Have you noticed that your New Year’s resolution list looks pretty much the same year after year? Often it’s a lofty bunch of goals that are forgotten within days or weeks.

champagneThis year, try something different! Something that works!

One of the most powerful Law of Attraction manifesting techniques I use is called “The Letter From The Future.”

Rather than look at what’s “missing” in your life and then “trying” to make it happen,” this process puts you into the reality that “what you’ve asked for is already yours” (which it is, even though you don’t know yet how it came to be!).

Try this:

First, think about the few things you most want to be celebrating one year from now.  Then, close your eyes, drop your attention from your head to your heart, and with your full attention on the area around your heart, call up feelings of love, appreciation and gratitude (one at a time). Do this in present moment awareness and Re-Live and Re-Experience these feelings.

Once you have spent 2-3 minutes feeling fully immersed in love, then imagine that you have fast-forwarded into the future.  It is now one year from today and you are looking back at all the miraculous ways you have manifested your dream(s).  You are writing down feeling how excited, happy, content, etc. you are, now that you are living your dream.  (Remember, your dream already exists on the “unseen planes” and you are accessing it from your heart through the Divine Matrix.)

From this perspective, write me a letter.  First, date the letter (Dec. 31, 2017) and then write “Dear Arielle, I am so excited to share with you…” and with as much feeling and detail as you can imagine, tell me the story of manifesting your dream.  Just use your imagination to make up the details while also really “feeling” the feeling of having been successful.

This is an awesome “living as if” process to manifest your greatest dreams! If you wish, you can email the letter to me at arielleford@nullgmail.com (and keep a copy for yourself) or put the letter on or under your sacred altar or inside your favorite spiritual book.  Remember to look for signs and synchronicities along the way and to take inspired action! 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Winter Solstice Manifestation Rituals

Tomorrow is the Winter Solstice – the first day of winter and the shortest day of the year. Celebrated by cultures across the globe for more than 6,000 years, it signifies the return of light and with it, life.

This is a sacred, powerful day to take advantage of the cosmic energies so that you can clear the past and set a strong intention for the future.  A fabulous day to focus your highest energies to manifest the life your soul is most calling for.




Here are some suggestions to make it happen:

1. If 2016 was a particularly difficult year:

Letting go of the past clears the way and the space for a brighter future. Take some time to reflect on the hardest moments and situations of the past year and then write down everything negative that happened. Light a fire in your fireplace, your barbecue, or someplace outside.

Say a prayer of gratitude over this list, thanking the Universe for all of the lessons you received (however difficult) and then say:

“Goodbye 2016. I let you go. I set you free and I set myself free.”

Burn the paper while visualizing your troubles disappearing in the smoke and setting you free.

2. Create a fabulous 2017

On a piece of paper, draw a vertical line down the middle of it  Then on one side, write down your dreams for the New Year. On the other side, write everything you are committed to doing to making your dreams come true. Then commit to doing one item on this list every week until you have manifested the new dream.

3. Tithe

From whom or what did you receive spiritual nourishment this year?  Take a few minutes to sit down and write them a thank you note with a message of gratitude and enclose a generous check.

4. The healing power of water

Light some candles and draw yourself a soothing bath. Add your favorite essential oils or bath salts. Turn on some music and allow yourself at least 20 minutes of healing relaxation.

5. The Power of Accountability

Enroll a good friend to be your accountability buddy to make sure you stick to your commitments. Research has proven that writing down your goals, sharing them with friends, and sending your friends regular updates about your progress will boost your chances of succeeding. The study showed that people who merely thought about their goals and how to reach them succeeded less than 50% of the time, while people who wrote goals down, and enlisted friends to help them by sending regular progress reports succeeded closer to 80% of the time.

Finally, put a smile on your face and visualize and feel all that you would like to see happening in your life as already yours!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,