Liz Gilbert on Love and Purpose

As many of you know, I am a big Elizabeth Gilbert fan. I recently fell in love with her even more when I read her very inspiring and heartwarming Facebook post about her view on what our “purpose” in life really is.

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Dear Ones:

Can I ask you a question?

Do you believe that you’re supposed to have a purpose in life?

I’m guessing that you do believe this. Most people believe this.

I’m also guessing that this belief brings you a huge amount of anxiety.

Because, it’s a really fucking stressful belief, if you think about it for even one minute.

Here is something you will hear “inspirational” people say a lot:

“You were born for a reason. You have a special destiny. Your job as a human being is to find out what your special destiny is, and then to use your special destiny to help change the world.”

Does that statement make you anxious? Because it makes me anxious as hell.

Because how will I KNOW what my reason for living is? How will YOU know? What if I FAIL at my special destiny? What if YOU fail? What if you CAN’T FIGURE IT OUT? What if you WASTE YOUR WHOLE LIFE? What if you go in the WRONG DIRECTION? What if you LEAVE NO IMPACT? What if you live and die a full lifespan on this earth, and you NEVER DID ANYTHING IMPORTANT? What if you thought that your reason for living was ONE THING, and then you found out you were TOTALLY MISTAKEN? What if you turn out to be INSIGNIFICANT?

WHAT IF YOU MAKE NO OFFERING TO THE WORLD???!!!

Here’s what I think — and after what I’ve been through in the last year and a half, I think it now than ever.

You do have a purpose. But it’s probably not what you think. Your only purpose here is to be Loved.

That’s it. And I spell “Loved” with a capital L, because I’m talking about being Loved by creation itself. I’m talking about knowing that you are Loved by divinity, that you are Loved by the universe itself, you are made out of Love, and that you will return into Love…and that this Love does not give one single solitary shit what you do or don’t do with your life; It just LOVES you.

There is no part of yourself so dark or so flawed that Love cannot find it and surround it and Love it.

You know that part of you who is ambitious and thirsty and miserable? Love has already found that part of you, and it Loves you, anyway.

You know that part of you who is angry and bitter and depressed? Love has already found that part of you, and it Loves you anyway.

You know that part of you who is jealous and mean and lazy and stupid and hurtful and suspicious and addicted and a liar and a loser? Love has already found that part of you, and it Loves you, anyway.

LOVE DOESN’T GIVE A SHIT WHO YOU ARE OR WHAT YOU DO; IT JUST LOVES YOU.

There is nothing you could ever become — or not become — that Love cannot love.
And if you’re wondering what your offering to this world is supposed to be, then you’ve got it all wrong: You are not here to be a freaking offering. That would make you an object of sacrifice, and that’s not what you’re supposed to be. This world is not a sacrificial altar; it is a GIFT. You are not an offering to this world: THIS WORLD IS AN OFFERING TO YOU.
Every single thing here is a gift to you because you are Loved.

You don’t have to pay rent in this world — in the form of labor or desperation or sacrifice or striving — in order to be Loved. You do not owe ANYTHING to the world, in order to be Loved. You are not required to leave an impact here, in order to be Loved. You do not have to hustle to be Loved. YOU DO NOT NEED TO HAVE A JOB HERE TO BE LOVED. You are a gift. Even if you’re just sitting on your couch, year after year, eating nachos and farting, you are a fucking gift. You are LOVED. LOVE LOVES YOU SO MUCH.

Love loves you — pure and simple. No matter what they did to you, and no matter what you did to them, you are Loved. PERIOD.

Do you hear me?

I know that this is a radical thing to believe — and it goes against every message you have ever been taught. To dare to believe that you are created by Love, for Love, and to be Loved (and that this is ENOUGH) is the most outrageous stance you could ever take in your life.

You don’t need to change the world. It’s too big a job, and “changing the world” assumes that you know what the master plan for the world is supposed to be, anyhow, and you don’t. You never will.

You will never know your purpose. The other day I was walking down the street and I saw a man on a ladder, cleaning a window, and his ladder looked a little wobbly, so I steadied the ladder for him. For all I know, that moment could’ve been what I was born for. Who can say?

This doesn’t mean you have to be complacent. If you want to do work in the world, do it. If you want to be an activist, be one. If you want to help people, help them. But you don’t OWE it. You owe nothing to this world in return for the mystery of having been born. You are not a debtor here. You are a GIFT here. And this world — in return — is an offering of Love to YOU.

Do you have a pet? Look at your pet right now. What is your pet doing? What is your dog or cat or fish or bird doing, right this moment?

Is it worrying about its DESTINY? Is it concerned that it isn’t CHANGING THE WORLD? Is it trying to figure out what its OFFERING TO HUMANITY is? And if your dog or cat doesn’t change the world, has it FAILED at life? If your dog or cat doesn’t make an impact on the lives of other dogs and cats, is it unworthy of Love?

Of course not.

Your dog or cat doesn’t need to do anything but just sit there in order to be worthy of Love. It’s just a creature made out of Love — an experiment of Creation — and that’s all it has to be.

Not unlike your pet, you are also an experiment of creation — a spasm of God-ness, a curious compilation of matter and awareness, an energy made out of a mystery. And that’s all you ever have to be, to be perfect and to be LOVED.

It is HILARIOUS to me that you still think there is anything wrong with you.

It’s ABSURD that I still sometimes think there is something wrong with me.

It’s just total nonsense. It is to laugh.

All you have to do to be here — to make this world become an offering to YOU — is to start knowing that you are Loved.

When you realize this truth, that will be world-changing enough.

Believe me. Try it on, and you’ll see.

You don’t even have to believe it, for it to be true. Love can even Love the part of you who doesn’t believe in Love. But for the record, it IS true. You are so goddamn Loved, it’s freaking insane.

I just wanted to tell you that today.

And I love you all so, so, so, so, so, so, so much.

Liz

I hope this missive on LOVE lights you up, expands your heart, puts sparkle in your soul and maybe even blows your mind.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Can Prayer Save Your Life?

Although she passed away five years ago, my sister, the beloved spiritual teacher Debbie Ford, has left a powerful legacy with her new book, YOUR HOLINESS.

Through world-renowned medium, James Van Praagh, I received a clear message that she wanted to share with the world a life-changing prayer book. I had no idea that she had written such a book, but once James shared the messages, a quick search unearthed this beautiful, enlightening, and inspiring work.

What you may not know about Debbie and WHY she wrote this book:

Decades ago, Debbie was a drug addict.

At a certain point she knew that if she didn’t get help, she was going to die.

On the tenth day of her 4th rehab center, she was getting ready to run away in search of drugs. Instead, she went into a bathroom, with a very dirty floor, she got on her hands and knees and prayed, and God responded and gave her the strength to get sober.

In this recently discovered book, Debbie combines motivational prayers with deeply personal stories about her own spiritual journey. She translates her experience into a practical path for transformation.

This book is very prescriptive and will lead you back to your inner wisdom and Divine Self. This book is for anyone who yearns to be closer to God, and/or suffers with hard or soft addictions, self-loathing, self-sabotage, and also anyone with a desire to be deeply connected to their highest and true divine self.

In this book Debbie writes:

“What you are seeking at the deepest level exists inside of you, in the quietude of your own inner world, in the privacy of your own sweet heart. So now it’s your responsibility, your holy responsibility, to encode your consciousness with thoughts, feelings and images that will support you in creating the perfect internal environment to cultivate a deep and intimate relationship with the one you call God. This is the force that loves you, cheers for you and wants it all for you. In a world where love leaves as quickly as it comes, you can rest now, knowing that you have found a love that will never leave you, never misguide you, and never ever let you down. My advice, dear friend, is take great care of that Love. It will give you everything you’ve been looking for.”

At a time of such uncertainty and suffering, Debbie’s words ground us in the here and now with its timeless and empowering message of relentless love and strength.

When you buy the book, you will receive amazing bonuses, including a very deep and personal video interview I recently did with her (via James Van Praagh), audio’s of her meditations, and more.

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Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Einstein’s Theory of LOVE!

I am super excited to share with you something my amazing soulmate, Brian, turned me on to: A letter Albert Einstein sent to his daughter about love.

“When I proposed the theory of relativity, very few understood me, and what I will reveal now to transmit to mankind will also collide with the misunderstanding and prejudice in the world.

I ask you to guard the letters as long as necessary, years, decades, until society is advanced enough to accept what I will explain below.

There is an extremely powerful force that, so far, science has not found a formal explanation to. It is a force that includes and governs all others, and is even behind any phenomenon operating in the universe and has not yet been identified by us. This universal force is LOVE.

When scientists looked for a unified theory of the universe, they forgot the most powerful unseen force.

Love is Light that enlightens those who give and receive it.

Love is gravity, because it makes some people feel attracted to others.

Love is power, because it multiplies the best we have, and allows humanity not to be extinguished in their blind selfishness.

Love unfolds and reveals.

For love, we live and die.

Love is God and God is Love.

This force explains everything and gives meaning to life. This is the variable that we have ignored for too long, maybe because we are afraid of love because it is the only energy in the universe that man has not learned to drive at will. To give visibility to love, I made a simple substitution in my most famous equation. If instead of E = mc2, we accept that the energy to heal the world can be obtained through love multiplied by the speed of light squared, we arrive at the conclusion that love is the most powerful force there is, because it has no limits.

After the failure of humanity in the use and control of the other forces of the universe that have turned against us, it is urgent that we nourish ourselves with another kind of energy…If we want our species to survive, if we are to find meaning in life, if we want to save the world and every sentient being that inhabits it, love is the one and only answer.

Perhaps we are not yet ready to make a bomb of love, a device powerful enough to entirely destroy the hate, selfishness and greed that devastate the planet. However, each individual carries within them a small but powerful generator of love whose energy is waiting to be released.

When we learn to give and receive this universal energy, dear Lieserl, we will have affirmed that love conquers all, is able to transcend everything and anything, because love is the quintessence of life. I deeply regret not having been able to express what is in my heart, which has quietly beaten for you all my life. Maybe it’s too late to apologize, but as time is relative, I need to tell you that I love you and thanks to you I have reached the ultimate answer!”

Your father,

Albert Einstein

While Einstein is best known for his theory of relativity, this letter might just be his most important missive.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Take INSPIRED Action to make Dreams Come True

Whether manifesting your next dream career, new home, your soulmate (or whatever), a key component involves taking inspired action. Sometimes that means just trying something new and small, other times it means taking a GIANT LEAP OF FAITH and going for it.

More than 30 years ago, when I was living in South Florida, I had one of the worst days of my life.  I was blindsided when I went to work and got fired.  I never saw it coming.  My ego was deeply bruised and I was in a state of shock. As I began to think about “what’s next,” I realized that a part of me yearned to live in Los Angeles.  A city I had only briefly visited once. Within a few weeks, with less than $1,000, two suitcases, and very few contacts, I moved to L.A.

Was it scary?  You bet!

And, it turned out to be the best thing I ever did.  My entire life is what it is today because I was brave enough to follow my inner yearning.

What’s next for you when it comes to making your dreams come true?

I see a lot of people falling into the trap of postponing fun and adventure until after they meet their soulmate, reasoning that then they’ll have someone to share the adventure with. I once coached a man who loved whales. He finally decided to take a kayak trip with a bunch of strangers so he could have the experience of seeing whales up close. Well, he not only saw the whales, he ended up meeting his soulmate who just happened to be kayaking right next to him.

I know several couples that met on trips to foreign lands where they never expected to find romance. Vivian was from Boston; Mike was from Minneapolis. They met in Greece on a group tour. They’ve now been happily married for 15 years.

Sometimes the act of taking a bold step or following your heart’s desire actually leads you to the arms of your beloved, or your dream job, or the fulfillment of a lifelong pursuit.

Although you can’t control the exact day, place, and time your dream will come true, you can increase your odds significantly by being actively involved in your own life. This often means pursuing interests that you’ve put on the back burner. Whatever you’ve been waiting for, this is the time to do it. If you love tennis, but haven’t picked up a racquet in years, join a tennis club or sign up for some lessons. If you daydream about taking nature hikes, go on a guided tour at a nearby state park, or make it a point to stop by the beach or other recreational area after work. If you’re an avid reader, join a book club.

Look at it this way: What’s the worst that could happen if you decide to start actively pursuing your interests and passions? You’ll probably end up making yourself happier, healthier, and more intellectually fit. You will also most likely meet some interesting people, and you’ll be broadcasting your unique tastes and preferences to the Universe even more clearly.

Remember the Law of Attraction states:  “We attract to us the people, places, and experiences that match our state of being.”  When your actions are driven from a place of emptiness or lack of fulfillment, it’s quite possible you will only attract more of the same. It’s important to trust that things will work out. Take action when the signs are there to take action, and don’t feel pressured to act when the inspiration isn’t there.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Be a Love Philanthropist

My dear friend Marci Shimoff taught me the phrase Love Philanthropist, and every time I say it, it makes me smile.

Just as I’ve learned that tithing not only makes me feel good and does good for others, it also brings me more abundance.

Being a Love Philanthropist brings more love.

There are so many ways to share your love with the world:

Close your eyes and send love and blessings to your nearest and dearest (including your pets).

Send love notes (do it today!) via email or text or snail mail.

Smile and compliment strangers and beam love from your eyes to theirs.

There is a line in A Course in Miracles that says:

“The only thing that can be lacking in any situation is that which you are not giving.”

To have more love, give more love.

It’s so easy, simple, and doesn’t cost a thing.

Be Love.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

3 keys to make this Valentine’s Day your last one single (one may shock you)

My dear friend and love expert, Dr. Lara Fernandez, has graciously agreed to share three soulmate manifesting tips for you today:

1. Stop thinking you have all the answers.

If you are over 30, single and really don’t want to be, and have been trying for years to find love, then there’s still some more you need to learn about yourself, about men (or women), and relationships. Be willing to have what the Buddhists call a “beginner’s mind” and embrace the journey to your soulmate as a learning process.

People who are know-it-alls are NOT attractive to a healthy relationship… they either end up pushing a good person away or attracting a man who is insecure. Stay humble (yet balanced with a gentle confidence) in your pursuit of your dream life.

Become what I call a “Student of Love.” Commit to continued learning and growing in this area of love and relationships. This learning will serve you not only in finding your Mr. Right… but KEEPING him and maintaining a happy, healthy, thriving relationship for years to come.

2. Be kind to yourself.

The inner self-critic (also known as the ego mind or the gremlins) is your worst saboteur. Yes, it’s important to be “real” about yourself and your issues… and it’s crucial to not beat yourself up about them either. We are all imperfect, yet perfectly lovable and worthy of love at the same time. That’s the fascinating paradox that we humans live.

Since the Universe will only treat you as well as you treat yourself, start giving the Universe clear signals that you’re ready for your soulmate by being especially good and kind to yourself.

3. Be a REBEL.

In polls, over 70% of people self-identify as unhappy, unfulfilled, and essentially feeling unloved and lonely. That means there are MANY people feeling ISOLATED AND LONELY OR STUCK in unhappy, unfulfilling, unloving relationships- or just have no relationship at all.

So don’t do what the masses do or your life will BE like the masses…unhappy, unfulfilled, and feeling unloved. Don’t get me wrong, the masses are good people. But going with the status quo just won’t serve you in finding your man and creating the life of your dreams with him.

Being a REBEL means you realize… it’s time to think differently, believe differently, and act differently…if you want different results from the masses.

One of the things we see in common with the women who are successful in finding their soulmate is that they are willing to see themselves as a little different and unique and more independent-minded than most. So go ahead and embrace your uniqueness!

“Do you want me to tell you something really subversive?
Love is everything it’s cracked up to be.
That’s why people are so cynical about it.
It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for.
And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.”
― Erica Jong

Dr. Lara, along with her husband Johnny, are love coaches who specialize in helping women have a breakthrough in their love lives. They are holding a totally free LIVE Love Training THIS THURSDAY where Lara will share:

How I Used These Surprising Forgotten Secrets To ATTRACT My Handsome, Accomplished, SOULMATE And Have Him Adoring And Cherishing ME (and Only Me) – WITHOUT Kissing All The Frogs In The Swamp Or Wasting My Life On Dead-end Relationships

Reserve your space on this exciting NEW love web-class – to learn more and join them CLICK HERE.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

It’ Not Too Late to Make It Happen

So…we are now officially one month into a New Year – how’s it going so far? Are you making progress on fulfilling your heart’s desire or did you get sidetracked?

Here are a few super easy things to do that will keep you on track:

  • Write it down!  Make it simple:  “Before the end of 2018, I commit to myself to accomplish (or substitute be, do or have – whatever makes sense to you) to __________________.”
  • I commit to doing ___ things each day towards accomplishing this. (I find that doing 5 little things every day is doable and works best for me.)
  • I promise to enroll someone to be my accountability partner (research shows if you do this you have a 90% better chance of being successful!)
  • Give yourself a weekly reward for the steps you took all week.
  • Spend 5 minutes each day dropping into your heart and feeling what it feels like to have what you say you most desire.

Co-creating with the Universe isn’t difficult, but it does require your participation and action steps. Don’t let your dreams fall into the “magical thinking” bucket by filling yourself with “hopium.”

You can do this!  Make a plan!  Really, truly go for it!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. And, if manifesting the love of your life is your desire, come spend the weekend with me – check it all out here: http://www.arielleford.com/events/

I Know Where Your Soulmate Is

For those of you that are happily with your beloved, please consider sharing this with your single friends. For those of you single and dreaming of BIG LOVE with your soulmate, here is what I know for sure:

Your soulmate is not missing.

They already exist.

You can begin a relationship with them faster than you can imagine.

During the past decade, I have helped tens of thousands of men and women in 40 countries manifest their beloved.

It’s easier than you think.

95% of the reasons and excuses you have for WHY you aren’t with your soulmate are false beliefs.

Give me a weekend of your life and we can change all that.

If you are willing to give up your time and misbegotten ideas about how love REALLY happens, you can be successful.

Just ask my 40-something first-time bride Heidi.

Brian and I officiated at her beach wedding a few days ago.

She didn’t think she would ever marry.

She was too smart, too successful, too busy, too afraid she would choose the wrong guy.

Really, she was just too scared that no one would ever truly love her for her fears, quirks and emotional issues.

And then she embraced the core teachings of The Soulmate Secret and met and married the most perfect man in the world for her.

And then there was Liz, a first-time bride at 50. And, another second-time bride at 68, and yet another in her late 70’s. I could write for days about all the brides that have made it happen.

It’s not too late for you unless you insist that it is.

And then you will get to be right (and, alone for the rest of your life).

Meet me this year at one of my three weekend workshops.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Romance, Food & Your Appetite for Love & Life

Dating, whether you love it or loathe it, is an indispensable part of the soulmate manifestation process (and regular date nights are essential once you are a couple). Eventually, there will be a “first dinner date.” What you order will let him or her know if you have a healthy appetite for love and life.

On these early dates, we want to let our large appetite for life, our enthusiasm for life, really shine through as much as possible.

For those of you with gluten or other sensitivities (I fall into this category), it might be best just to order something you know is “safe” for you to eat rather than engage in a big conversation with the server, which will lead to a talk about your various ailments which might make you appear “high maintenance.”

If you are vegan or vegetarian, no problem, as long as you aren’t sitting in judgment if your date orders a steak. If you are a strident vegan, and you can’t watch anyone eat meat products, that is something to figure out BEFORE you go out on a dinner date.

For those of you “foodies” out there…be adventurous and let your date know that you love trying new things.  Foodies need to find each other!

One other thought:  Judging how someone else eats, even if you believe they are harming themselves, is toxic to you, not them.

What got me thinking about all of this was a blog I recently read by Katie Oldenburg at www.thefrisky.com on this topic.  Here’s what she thinks your first date food order says about you…you decide for yourself!

Anything With Garlic: I have no self-awareness or foresight … or I don’t like you.

Tacos: I’m impulsive and a short-term thinker.

Burger And Fries: I want something delicious because I’m hungry. It’s not glamorous and you may judge me for it, so go ahead.

Buffalo Wings: I’m adventurous and not afraid of getting down and dirty.

Pasta: I’m a romantic. There’s something seductive about a savory plate of pasta, as long as sauce isn’t dripping all over the place.

Steak: I’m dominant and powerful. Anybody who wants to slice into a big filet with a steak knife says “I’m in control” (and maybe that attitude will spill into the bedroom later on).

Chicken: I play it safe. May be perceived as boring.

Pizza: I’m down-to-earth. I’m not too uppity, but I also might not be very adventurous.

Meatloaf: I’m not here to impress you. There’s nothing impressive or sexy about meatloaf, therefore there’s nothing impressive or sexy about this date.

Quesadilla: I’m fun, easy going and playful.

Surf And Turf: I’m fancy, sort of materialistic and don’t care about money, because you’re paying.

Salmon: I like you and consider your feelings. I chose a lean piece of fish that’s not too smelly or hearty, tastes good and is classy.

Chicken Fingers: I am a child trapped in an adult’s body and am unaware that you’re probably judging me.

One last thought.  When I was dating, I would generally eat something before going out to dinner, because I didn’t want anyone to see just how ravenous I can become when I get hungry and I am a super sloppy, messy eater.  I would generally order something that I liked ”enough” that wouldn’t end up all over me or them.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

7 Steps to have MORE LOVE in your life in 2018

Love is quite simply the most precious possession in existence. And my mission is to share the best insights I know to bring more love into each of your lives. Today, I want to share the most powerful way to create MORE LOVE in your life in 2018.

This beautiful insight comes from my dear friend Ken Page’s game-changing best seller Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy.

If you want more love in 2018, try this life-changing exercise from Ken:

Think about all the people you know, from your nearest and dearest to people you may not have thought about for years. And just ask yourself these three questions:

  • Who truly loves me?
  • Who sees and treasures me for who I really am?
  • Whom do I trust to have my best interests at heart?

Each of the people you picked is gold. They are your personal dream-team in life. The very wisest path to love is to nurture these relationships – by doing three things:

Practice giving more to each one of these precious people.

Practice asking for more from each of them as well (yes, it’s true, asking for more is an act of intimacy!)

And most of all: enjoy them. This last suggestion is perhaps the greatest act of life wisdom that I know.

Follow these 3 steps and watch 2018 blossom into the most love-filled year of your life.

In Deeper Dating, Ken teaches “micro-meditations;” small practices that take less than three minutes, but have the power to enrich your entire intimacy journey. This micro-meditation can be your foundation for a love-filled 2018.

Micro-Meditation: The Love that’s Already Yours

Pick the person who stood out for you most as you reflected on your relationships. Now try the following:

  • Think about what you love most about this person.
  • Think about the quality of this person’s love for you.
  • Remember one time that you deeply felt the bond between the two of you.
  • Hold this person to your heart for a moment, and say “Thank you.”
  • And now, just let your love quietly ripple through you.

Practice this micro-meditation as many times as you wish, and just watch as your reservoir of love deepens and widens, day after day.

And I promise you, it will. Your heart will become warmer, your life will become richer, and you’ll start meeting new people who also love you for who you are.

Deeper Dating is a life-changing book, written for single people but deeply relevant to absolutely everyone who wants more love in his or her life. You can order it here.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle