Survey Says: Online Dating leads to marriage!

Did you know that more than one-third of marriages now begin via online dating sites?

Did you know that couples that meet online are twice as likely to marry than those who meet offline?

And, did you know that couples that met online are happier than those who didn’t? These are just some of the most recent statistics from surveys (including a really important one from eHarmony) and studies about online dating that ran in a recent USA Today article.

My friend, Jeannie Assimos, is the Director of Content at eHarmony and has some really interesting tips (from interviews she did with eHarmony success couples) to share about online dating:

1. Make sure you are ready to commit. If you are, then you need to commit to eHarmony (or other online dating site) as well. Translation: Be patient with the process, and it will pay off. You are looking for lifetime love, and this isn’t something that usually happens overnight.

The amount of time it took before these couples met really varied – for some it was only two weeks, for others, two or four months. One guy even stayed on the site for two years until he met his now-wife. And he told me it was absolutely worth it. But every single one of them mentioned patience as an absolute must.

2. Be completely honest when filling out the questionnaire and profile. One woman told Jeannie she wasn’t getting matches she thought were a fit for her initially. She remembered that when she filled out the questionnaire, she wasn’t in a great mood. So she called customer care at eHarmony and requested that she take it over again. She did, and met her now-husband a month later on the site.

3. Know what you are looking for. One man said he considered all of his past relationships and actually wrote down the things he liked about the women he had dated, and what qualities were not a fit for him. This helped him clarify what he wanted. He then made a list of the values and character he wanted in his partner. The key here is that he got totally clear about what was going to work for him and created his intention. He met his now-wife on eHarmony about four months later.

4. Look at what you have to offer and make sure you feel good about yourself.Norman shared that he went onto eHarmony twice. The first time he wasn’t really in a good place – not happy with himself in many areas, emotionally or physically. When he asked himself what he had to offer someone else and the answer was, “not much,” he left the site and took about two years to get his life together and achieve some personal goals. He then returned and was connected with his gorgeous wife.

5. Keep coming back! As one guy put it, “Sometimes it’s just the wrong time of year, the wrong season, or you have hit a dry spell. Come back to it later. I just put it down and came back to it.” His third time on eHarmony turned out to, in fact, be the charm – he finally met his wife.

The overall takeaway for Jeannie was that all of these couples were absolutely ready to find a lifelong partner. They didn’t half-ass it. They all put a lot of thought, time and energy into the whole process, and understood that being patient and having a positive attitude was necessary. They were also self-reflective and aware of what they were looking for, wanting to be sure that they had something to bring to the table as well. It wasn’t all about what someone else had to offer them.

Now, I realize that some of you are a little apprehensive about online dating, or have had bad experiences in the past, but think of it this way….we’ve all had some really negative experiences at work but that doesn’t stop us from finding another job and being productive. Maybe now is the time to try again….

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses!

Arielle

Get Your Hug from the Divine Mother

Nearly 20 years ago Deepak Chopra told me a story about a hugging saint from India named Amma.  He told she was the “real deal” and if I ever had a chance to see her in person, not to miss it.

A month before I met Brian, I received my first hug from Amma.  While she was hugging me, I whispered in her ear and asked her to heal my heart of anything that would stop me from manifesting my soulmate.  She laughed and hugged me tighter. That night I had dreams that gave me very clear clues about Brian and she also sent him dreams about me.  On the day that we met we recognized each other and a year later Amma married us.  Our 15th anniversary is in a few weeks.

Amma is known for her selfless love and compassion toward all beings. Her entire life has been dedicated to alleviating the pain of the poor and those suffering physically and emotionally. Amma inspires, uplifts and transforms through her physical embrace, and her spiritual wisdom. Throughout her life, Amma has embraced and comforted more than 32 million people.

 When asked where she gets the energy to help so many people while simultaneously running a massive humanitarian organization, Amma answers:

“Where there is true love, everything is effortless.”

Amma is now on an American tour and if you would like a little assistance on your quest to manifest a soulmate, I would suggest you arrange to have a hug from Amma. There is no charge to attend the public sessions and receive a hug although you generally will wait several hours as thousands will be in attendance.

Trust me, it is worth the wait!

While you are waiting for your hug you will have the opportunity to see unconditional love in action.  As Amma looks at each individual, she does so with the most amazing amount of love beaming from her eyes. It’s truly something to experience and witness. You can find her schedule here.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses!

Arielle

God’s Cosmic Joke On Men and Women…

I’m constantly amazed at how little men and women understand each other… and at how much needless pain and suffering that causes.

Our differences are downright comical – as though God is playing a cosmic joke on all of us.

Don’t believe me?

Here’s what I mean…

Did you know that the more upset a woman is, the more she needs to talk about it? But that the more upset a man is, the less he wants to? (Doesn’t that explain a lot?)

Did you know that when women feel stressed out, they will typically reach out to others? But when men feel stressed out they mostly want to be left alone?

Did you know that women communicate with an average of over 20,000 words and sounds a day, but men use only about 7,000? (Yup – he really is out of words at the end of the day…)

And did you know that if you look at the results of research studies from many branches of knowledge (psychology, sociology, anthropology, neuroscience), they all find that women’s core primary need is connection, while men’s is competition?

Do you see a little, er, problem with each of these examples?

Me, too…

Sadly, they leave many of us baffled. And vowing that we’d rather “call the whole thing off.”

Which is why it’s so helpful to understand what’s really going on, and that it’s not personal. But once we women get past the theories, philosophies and research results, it’s so helpful to know just what to do at critical moments when you’re dealing with a real, live man.

How should you behave when you first meet a guy?

Is it okay to approach, or should you wait to see if he’s interested?

What do you do on first dates? Second dates? And when is it okay to sleep with him?

And once you’re seeing him regularly, how can you be sure he’ll stick around if you want him to?

For answers to such questions, I like to go “straight to the horse’s mouth.”

That’s right – I like to learn from men.

My good friend, Carol Allen, (Vedic astrologer and relationship coach), agrees. Her favorite thing is learning about men from men, too. But not just any men. Carol likes finding out what men want from men who’ve made it their life’s mission to understand other men.

So she sat down with eight of the world’s leading male relationship experts and interviewed them at length about what men are thinking, and what attracts them and wows them in a woman (and what makes them want to commit!), for a program called, “What Men Want.”

What she learned from these amazing men (all of whom are authors, and many of whom have worked with thousands – even hundreds of thousands – of men!) forever changed her understanding of and appreciation for men.

You see, when you know how to give a man what he wants, you’ll get what you want.

And a soulmate relationship ensues.

Here is just a small sampling of the golden nuggets that come from these incredible men:

  • The men said they were THRILLED when a woman made the first move, and that many men DO NOT love the chase as they’ve been hurt or rejected a lot.
  • If you make men feel great about themselves, and that you truly care about them, they’ll WANT to commit. Being needy or clingy, bossy or pushy are the top reasons men withdraw.
  • Thousands of men surveyed said what they want MOST from us in bed is an emotional connection.
  • All of the experts insist that men want to fall in love as much as women do.
  • Despite what you’ve heard, the men swear we SHOULDN’T be dating multiple guys if we really like one as many men find this a turn off, and become intimidated even if they’re strong and confident.

Carol is one of my favorite relationship experts, and the men she’s gathered are among my favorite men! (Seriously, these guys are all great and they really know their stuff – Evan Marc Katz, Christian Carter, David Wygant, Jonathon Aslay, Alex Allman, Larry Michel, Adam Gilad, Dr. Ali Binazir… there’s even a bonus interview with Mat Boggs.)

Don’t ever be needlessly baffled or hurt by a man again. Learn the secrets only men can tell you, and be amazed at how much better life can be. Learn more or order this special, love-life saving program here.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses!

Arielle

This Is The ONE Thing

A few years ago I shared The Soulmate Secret with my friend Greg Reid.  He’s a really successful, busy guy and while he was fully committed to manifesting the love of his life, he didn’t have time to do every single step of the process.

So, he decided to do one thing in a really BIG way.

Greg created his treasure map, his vision of love, on an entire wall of his office so that he would spend many of his waking hours surrounded by images of the love future he was co-creating with the Universe.  Every time he gazed upon his treasure map he would allow himself to feel how happy he was to know, in very cell of his body, that she was already in his life.  He didn’t yet know her name, but he knew she would soon arrive.

Within a few months, he met his soulmate, Allyn.

Brian and I danced at their seaside wedding at the Birch Aquarium here in La Jolla.

Today they are the proud and loving parents of their one-year-old son, Colt.

What is the ONE thing you can begin to do (or even re-do) that will have you re-commit to manifesting the love of your life?

As you already know, manifesting your heart’s desire requires a little time, energy, intention and attention on your goals.

You don’t need to do this alone.  I can want to help you and be your guide and cheerleader on this journey. Please check out my upcoming Soulmate Secret 7 Week Interactive Online Course here.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Martha Stewart’s Love Life!

Many The other day I was working out on my elliptical machine, channel surfing, when I came across the TODAY SHOW. Matt Lauer was interviewing Martha Stewart, 71, about her love life. Martha is now hoping to meet Mr. Right with and has put up her profile up online. She was on the show to meet the two men she narrowed down from a pool of 1,000 of bachelors she connected with on Match.com.

The two men are Larry and Stan, both 68 and divorced.

Larry, an international steel trade executive, describes himself on the site as a “romantic above all” who craves “the intimacy of a one-on-one relationship.”

He told Matt Lauer that he shares Stewart’s feelings about looking for love at a certain age.

“When I read the profile, she expressed the same feelings that all of us this age have, a lot of trepidation and the fear of it – and we’re usually not afraid of much,” he said.

“But then when she said the learning, curiosity, adventure: That’s really what we’re looking for.”

Both men professed a love of sports, cultural events and being social – a must for any guy who wants to keep up with Stewart.

Stewart’s profile brought a staggering 20,000 page views to Match.com after she announced she’d joined the site under the handle “thegoodlonglife.”

She stressed that the profile is no joke, and her search for love is genuine. The men will follow up their very public introduction by taking her on individual dates.

“None of these have been set up. None of this is fake,” she said on “Today.” “I just want everybody to know that because I want other women in a similar situation to mine to realize that it can be done.”

What I really love about this story is that Martha, in spite of her fame and fortune, is making a bold stand for herself to find love. If Martha can do it, you can do it!

On Thursday, I am offering a free teleseminar where I am going to reveal 3 proven techniques to manifest love. I hope you will join me….you can sign up here.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Want a HOT date for 4th of July?

Many years ago I represented a couple who were both famous artists. 

They had been married for 40 years and had two grown children.

One day, while we having lunch, they shared with me the story of how they met.

It began while they were both attending art school in Rome.

On their third date they went to a festival and in the evening fireworks exploded in the sky. Under the bright lights and brilliant colors they kissed for the first time and both instantly knew they would spend the rest of their lives together creating beautiful art and a beautiful life.

I never forgot this enchanting story of love and romance .

With 4th of July less than two months away, now is the best possible time to start preparing for and anticipating a Summer of Love!

Are you ready and willing to have many hot dates this Summer? If so, apply the wisdom of Dr. Venice Bloodworth:

“The Universal mind is omnipotent and omnipresent: it surrounds you like the sunshine and air. Your subconscious mind is a part of the Universal mind, and through your subconscious self you have access to the mighty wisdom and power of the universal mind. When you realize this fact, there is no limit to your achievement. For the mind does its building solely by the power of thought. Its creation take form in the exact accord with your mental image, and desire builds the mental image for you.”

Remember these Law of Attraction 101 basics:

  • Have clarity in your mind of what you most desire.
  • You attract what you think about most.
  • Every thought has a frequency.
  • Thoughts and feelings become things.
  • Thoughts and feelings send out a magnetic signal.
  • Choose to live “as if” and in possibility each day, knowing and trusting that what you have asked for is already yours!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Throw yourself a Pity Party

I want you to think of your 3 most prominent negative beliefs or stories about WHY you are not already with your soulmate.

Is it because someone has betrayed you and you have a belief that all Men (or women) lie or cheat or something like that?

Is one of your beliefs or stories that there is something wrong with you and that is the cause of your aloneness?

Or do you believe that you are too old or too fat or too broke or too damaged?

Lets take just a few minutes and think about your 3 most predominant beliefs or stories….then, if you are willing to finally overcome these stories, do this exercise.

Write down the entire story and make a strong argument for why it is absolutely your TRUTH.

Give every ugly detail and feel free to exaggerate it and make it even worse than you remember.

Read through this a few times and then burn the pages as you say this prayer:

Dear God, Goddess and All That Is,    

I am now willing to release this story about why I cannot have Big Love in my life.

I am now willing to forgive and let go of this completely.

In this moment I give thanks that my heart and mind are now being healed from these past beliefs, stories and wounds.

I am grateful for this healing and I am now open, willing and available to have deep love in my life.

And so it is.  

Then sit down and write a new story, in which your former beliefs existed to prepare you for Big Love.

For instance, I once had a boyfriend, Joe, who was extremely controlling, constantly lied to me, and cheated on me.

For years after the relationship ended I felt the pain of this experience….until I did the pity party process.

When I did this process my new story became this:

Because of my experience with the lying, cheating, controlling Joe, I have now learned that I deserve to be loved, cherished and adored by a man who is honest, trustworthy and faithful.

Being with Joe was an important piece of my personal growth so I can now forgive him, forgive myself and I am grateful for the experience.

I then wrote out how wonderful my next relationship would be, how satisfied and content and loved I felt in this new relationship.

Are you ready to let go of your old story?

Are you ready to write your new story….the story that will magnetize to you the love of your life?

This process is just one of the many things we will be doing in my upcoming Soulmate Secret 7 Week Online Course.

To discover more about this I will be hosting a free preview call on May 16th, register here.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Creating A Sacred Soulmte Altar

As you know, where intention goes, energy flows.

Because of how energy functions, we are each engaged in co-creation with the Life Force. If you want to manifest your soulmate, you need to set the intention for it to be so. Setting an intention is like speaking to the Divine through a megaphone: it gets the message across more clearly. This is the true magic behind creating an altar or shrine, which are incredible spiritual tools because they anchor our feelings and thoughts so we become very clear and specific about what we want.

The bedroom is an important sacred space, as it is usually where you spend the most time in your home. This sacred space and how it is decorated and arranged is especially important to manifesting your soul mate. Intentions made here resonate strongly through your personal energy field. In terms of manifesting your soulmate, what intention do you have for this sacred space?

If you want to manifest a more active love life or initiate a romantic relationship, energy enhancements and specifically designed altars can assist you in anchoring these intentions.

This room is an excellent place for an altar or shrine because you will see it first, when rising in the morning, and last, when going to bed at night. To your psyche these are significant moments when the body makes an organic and natural internal shift. In the morning we “start our engines” so to speak. In the evening, we slow down, rest and relax from the day’s activities.

Whether your bedroom is located in the Marriage and Relationship quadrant of the Feng Shui Bagua (see p.70 of the Soulmate Secret), or not, it is the preferred location for an altar or shrine dedicated to manifesting your soul mate.

Tips for a simple shrine or altar in your bedroom:

Whether you decide to create a vision board, or want to establish a small altar, it is important to cleanse and sanctify the ambient energy of the surrounding space.

Energy and space clearing techniques include: first de-cluttering the space; cleansing yourself; and then utilizing any of the following practices: smudging, bells (and/or drums), holy water, and if you are trained – a pendulum for clearing energies.

Next, gather pictures and items that resonate deeply with your vision of romance and your potential partner I always like to include a statue of the Hindu lovers Krishna & Radha). They can be inspirational, practical, decorative, symbolic or all four. You may want to utilize and balance the aspects of the 5 elements of feng shui – water; metal; earth; fire and wood.

Balance the qualities of yin and yang (feminine and masculine attributes) with color, sound, and scents.

Other ideas are: talismans, gem stones, totems, inspirational quotes, cards and poems, favorite and natural objects, and sacred-mystical symbols and artifacts that resonate love, partnership and romance to you.

Keep in mind visual reminders of couples and pairs.

Once you have gathered your soulmate manifesting ingredients, assemble and bless them. Chose a piece of material to serve as an altar cloth and drape the fabric over a flat surface to create a consecrated space. Pick colors, patterns and textures that resonate with your intention. Place your objects ‘intentionally’. When you are finished, close your eyes and tune-in to your intention. Do a feelingization exercise to anchor your soulmate intention.

Remember that this process does not have to be done in one day. It can be a living altar that you tend to on a daily basis or weekly basis – adding to or removing objects as you like.

You can learn more about the art of shrine and altar crafting in the book by Shawne Mitchell: “Creating Home Sanctuaries with Feng Shui, Sacred Spaces, Altars and Shrines.” This book will easily guide you through a seven-stage process for building personal retreats, altar and shrines within your home.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Is Your Pet One of Your Soulmates?

My definition of a soulmate is: someone you can completely be yourself with. Someone with whom you share unconditional love and when you look into their eyes you have the experience of being “home.”

If you accept this definition, you can begin to acknowledge ALL the soulmates already in your life. It may be your kids, parents, siblings, friends, and co-workers AND it can also be your pets.

Not every pet is a soulmate, just as not every friend or relative feels like a soulmate, but when you have one, you know it. There is a special heart connection that is undeniable.

One of my feline soulmates, our beautiful heart chakra on paws, Sheba, left us this morning from stomach cancer. Sheba arrived in our back yard 9 years ago and adopted us. She was a BIG SPIRIT, a sweet indoor/outdoor explorer who lived in my office. She was my brilliant muse and companion. She had a passion for cashmere sweaters to sleep on and Brian spoiled her every day by providing a buffet of different tasty delights for her to eat. For a skinny cat she had a huge appetite. We are so grateful she chose us as her family and we knew she loved us as much as we loved her.

Take some time today to make a list of all the soulmates you already have in your life and think about ways to let them know how important they are to you.

One of the fastest ways to become magnetic to a romantic soulmate is to begin to appreciate all the love you already have in your life. Start sharing your love.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

The 3 steps to getting ANY guy to commit to you (+ a present for you!)

This year something big is happening. 

My friend Matthew Hussey, the star of NBC’s new show Ready For Love is quickly becoming famous in America.

If you haven’t heard of him yet, you soon will.

Eva Longoria read his brand new book and called him “a genius who has cracked the code on men and relationships.”

He’s blowing up.

Luckily for us, I knew him BEFORE he got big ; )

He created a system to get women a date with the guy they want within 30 days, and then keep him! It gives you the behind the scenes secrets to how men think, and how to have your ideal guy chasing you for a relationship.

It’s a fool-proof guide for transforming the state of your love life.

The great news for us is that he’s put his famous advice in his brand new book ‘Get The Guy’, available on Amazon now.

EXCITING NEWS FOR YOU…

As a present for my followers, I have a free chapter from his book for you to read.

In this free chapter, you’ll learn:

– Why he thinks he’s not ready to commit
– Why men say they can’t commit and then marry the next woman they meet
– The 3 tips to get ANY man to commit (even if right now he’s unsure)

This free chapter is a genuine MUST read.

There’s no catch, just enjoy this chapter from the book. If you want the rest, feel free to grab a copy of your own!